Do you feel like people deserve an explanation of why you don’t want to be with them?

[Justneedtokno]

There I have this friend that I thought we were just friends and I’ve gotten into this inner circle of people to learn and be around. But then it turned into more where he liked me and wanted to hang out but it was just lay we were both paying for dinner like I don’t know.

I didn’t read it as he wanted to be with me until he started saying it and I was thrown off I think it made me extremely uncomfortable and I have a certain level of fear and I know about his anger so nice guy I just think he’ll be great for someone maybe me but I just didn’t feel that way.

All the people around me love him and they would say I didn’t give him a chance but I don’t understand when people say that you need to give him a chance. We did we went out I still feel uncomfortable in the romantic way he was very sweet he bought me things I just didn’t think it was for me I go back-and-forth in my mind about it because it’s like what if he is the one. Now I feel super guilty? I am slowly paying him back with birthdate money and stuff.

[Anonymous]

Good on you for paying him back. If they love him so much shouldn't they be the ones giving him a chance? It's obvious they are the ones attracted to him, otherwise you would be the one saying those things.

If he is an adult, then he should be old enough to know dropping hints isn't enough since you're not a mind reader. If someone tries to force to you like someone, then tell them to break up with their SO first so you can set them up with someone they don't have feelings for.

[ArrowheadSW]

If it looks like he wants to start dating, and you don't, you can tell him that you really aren't interested in dating or being in a relationship. That doesn't make it about "him", it just says that you aren't interested in being with a partner in that way. Just my thoughts. I'm no expert... LOL

[Justneedtokno]

I just stated that I’m emotionally immature and I’m not ready I I appreciate the way he treats me. It’s like my people like him his people like me finish at work right

[KatieB713]

If you don't like someone, you don't have to justify that... as long as you are polite and honest, of they react badly then it is on them

[Gwenhwyfar]

You don’t have to but it’s the nice thing to do. Once and only once. No arguments or trying to change my mind.

[HighlyVolatile]

I generally don't think in terms of who deserves what; I have no idea what people deserve. I mostly just think in terms of what actions would make things better for me and the people I care about. For example, if you have to deal with this guy a lot, it might help to smooth things out with him.

[Anonymous]

I think if it's someone you know, then yes you should at least have some reason, but also you shouldn't feel guilty or obligated like how you're describing with the paying back and going over it in your mind. You didn't feel the same. You can't choose how you feel. There's nothing wrong with it and you shouldn't feel badly because you didn't feel the same way.

[thatpiyush]

In your situation there's nothing to think much about if you're not comfortable in that sort of bond that's the end of the story and even if that so called circle loves him so much that doesn't mean you have to get yourself in a situation or in a bond you're not comfortable in. Paying him back and maintaining your distance is clear enough for any guy to get what is this about but even if he bothers you to say it just say it, it's not bad to care for your own comfort and mental peace.

[Andres77]

If you've already started a relationship with them, absolutely.
If they're hoping to start one and you're not interested... it's none of their business.
I wouldn't be rude about it unless they gave me cause to be though.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes and no. It depends.

Initially, I was going to say, "No. Because that would just be awkward."
However, if they really want to know, and they beg you to tell them, I think you should tell them. They deserve the truth if they really want to hear it that badly.

[Tiptoetamm]

I feel if someone wants to explain that's fine. I don't need your fake ass excuses tho. Keep that shit to yourself.

[Agape93]

Nope they're entitled to nothing from me, nor will they get anything.

[boggboss]

Its respectful and poilte to provide a reason ofc u don't have to but it dont hurt lol

[driven159]

you need to have a sit down with yourself first and clear your head to make a logical decision you have way too much stuff in it

[legalboxers]

Not really.. but you dont have to be an asshole about it either

[EaterPeter]

Depends

[Justneedtokno]

Oh? 👀👀

[EaterPeter]

Yeah depends on the person

[EaterPeter]

Mostly yes

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

What if you have already tried 1001 times

[Z1pTD]

Depends if you’re friends or not.

[In_Trance]

no I don't

[Anonymous]

wow you're a fucking jerk

[Opinion Owner]

oh but wait though you only want to be with drug dealers who carry guns and give you drugs and guys who chase after selena and rush things and chase after tons of other women as well. those are the types you like though

[Opinion Owner]

anger issues? what about the martial arts fighters you screwed around with. you are so full of shit

[Opinion Owner]

you want to talk about anger issues.. you're the one who punched one of your female employees in her face while you and her were on a plane once. and you're the one who put your fist into your bedroom headboard so lets not go there about who has anger issues. at least i'm not putting my fist in any employees faces especially while on a plane unlike you who actually did

[Opinion Owner]

anger issues? you want to talk about anger issues.. you're the one who punched your female employee in her face while you and her were on a plane so lets not go there about who has anger issues

[Justneedtokno]

Sir I I think you’re commenting on the wrong persons question. And I think you have me mixed up on someone else I’ve never done any things that you talking about

[Opinion Owner]

can you delete my comments

[Opinion Owner]

can you delete my opinion thanks

[Justneedtokno]

Can I ask why are you so angry and what happened