How can I encourage the guy I like to be more emotionally mature and less reactive?

[AlexaH12]

[Nikki1989]

You won't be able to change him. Most men don't seem to grow up until they are well into their 30s, and some never mature at all.

[MrChinaski]

You can't change other people. Anybody. Ever.

If you want him to change communicate what you need. If he doesn't choose to change, decide to leave or not.

[Pterodon]

She can change herself to accept him as is but she doesn’t want to change her own flaws

[Pterodon]

So you want to change him? Why don’t you change yourself to accept him as is instead. You can’t change other people. Only yourself

[Nuclear_Warhead]

I think personal relationships are to our psychology what competitions and games are with anti doping screens and anti cheat engines. Professionally we can fake our being, but there's no way to hide your shit if you strive for love because its made completely up of honesty. If a person wears a mask his whole life (be it a mask that benefits or harms him) she absolutely can contribute to his mask slipping off, which in turn could potentially change him.

[Pterodon]

I’m sticking by what I said

[Anonymous]

Tell him directly why you want that. He'a an adult. He should be able to understand.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what youn need from him. Maybe therapy?

[NathanDavis]

you won't fix him

[LotharioENERZY]

You are 31, talk openly.