When you ask a girl out for a date, do you actually have to say the word "date" on the question?

[Yeahhbro]

This is something that really confuses me, because girls don't know if this is just casual or an actual date if I just say "do you want to go and have lunch this Thursday?" They may think this is just like hanging out, nothing else. While if I actually tell her "Do you want to go on a date with me? How about having lunch on Thursday". But at the same time you don't to come to forward, desperate or whatever, you know how it is...and actually saying "do you want to go out on a date" seems sterile to me.

[MrEM4N]

I like to let them know it's a date. I think it gives a clear sense of direction with your intentions and as long as you aren't being a creeper it opens the door for you to be more flirtatious because they'll know you're actually trying to be flirty. Plus, even if there isn't a sexual chemistry you can still foster friendship. You just have to be able to read the situation as it plays out and react accordingly.

Also, you don't have to actually say "Do you want to go out on a date?". If I want to grab dinner with someone I'll tell them we should have dinner this Saturday at really fun Japanese steak house. Then later in the conversation you can say something like "Don't be late for our date" or "It's a date" when they agree to go out. It takes the guesswork out and you aren't asking them on a date, you're telling them its one. If the girl likes you she won't mind you calling it a date.

[Dylan1989]

When I ask a girl out I always put the word ''date'' in there so there is no confusion with what's happening. Asking the girl out without saying the word ''date'' could make it seem like it's a casual hangout and that's not what I'm after. I like the girl to know what I want and I don't want her thinking it's something else i.e. just friendship. Plus you're less likely to get friend-zoned if she accepts your invitation.

[MissAonethree]

A friend once asked me if I wanted to go see a movie with him. I said sure, then canceled with him on Facebook. That was a bad move. He said I could have canceled the date through a text. I didn't know it was a date. I thought it was just hanging out. So, I would be clear about it. But I do agree, the lesser you know about the girl the better off you may be making it just a hangout situation. When a guys asks if I want to hang out, and I like him, I always answer with "Its a date :)" Maybe you could say something like that playfully once she agrees, and watch her reaction. If she starts to look a little worried, say something to make her laugh; to lighten the mood a little. Then you will know how to act while spending time with her.

[superme000001]

That's a clever way to go about it. I'll probably start doing that.

[madmisskelly]

When you ask someone out for lunch, coffee, or dinner, its usually implied that it is a date. Coffee is a more casual of a date than is lunch, and lunch is more casual than dinner. However, dinner is the big kahuna of dates. If a guy asks me to dinner, there is no mistaking that its a date.

So just asking "would you like to grab some lunch sometime?" is enough to let her know you are interested and want to spend time with her, and its more than likely a date. Hell, if you want to hammer your point home, do stuff after lunch- walk around, get ice cream.

[iknowhoiam]

Maybe it depends on how much time you've spent together. If you've hung out a few times before, and established a friendship, you should definitely try the "date" word ;).

Otherwise it might be a good idea just to stay on the testing-field and ask her out as friends.

I don't know many girls who would turn you down because of the way you ask her out, if she's really interested she will agree :D. So don't worry about coming too forward, a lot of girls like confident boys who are not afraid to take charge :)

[acomplicatedkindness]

It's much better to say it's a date and have it sound slightly sterile and overforward than to arrange something casual and have the girl immediately think it's just a friends thing. If you're going to ask her out, go all the way, otherwise it's just confusing. I would definitely be confused.

[Fafinette]

Just say it's a date. Otherwise she might end up friendzoning you because she thought it was all "just hanging out". And you don't look desperate if you ask her for a date, why would you look desperate? It's normal to go on dates, lol.

[Anonymous]

Dont use the word date, because when you are out with her, she will know what you want, by the way you talk 2 her

[moviedude714]

i've always wondered this myself