Well I would never ask out a guy, like to be my boyfriend. But I don't have a problem with asking a guy t hang out or see a movie,
I used to but not I have come to think it;s important for a girl to take some initiative if she likes a guy, even if it is just to give him a little push that its ok to ask her out
Nothing I just always think it means more and it's more special if the guy asks out the girl. that's how I always see it in movies and in books and it seems more "fairytale like" to me
Personally I like when a girl asks out a guy because it shows that she's willing to take some of the responsibility and make the guy do all the work. It also shows that she's confident and goes after what she wants, which are sexy qualities.
You are funny... You say clearly "personally, I like" and then somehow twist what you personally like into how all women should be. Trust me, you cannot handle every woman in the world...so its alright if they are not all what you want out of a partner. What you think is "hard work" and "having to do it all", other guys view as their pleasure to do for a woman. There's nothing wrong with a girl asking, but its silly to knock down a man for properly courting a woman or a woman who wants that.
Tradtion was born during a time when women had no rights and weren't even looked upon as human beings. its where those customs originate and I view it as sexist against women to continue to observe them.
Im not a hippies 60's feminist. But if you want to play that game...telling me what I don't deserve what I want out of a relationship because I'm a woman, and should change myself to make mens lives easier is sexist. How bout them apples?
Im just saying . . many of these customs that are observed in more "traditional" style relationships stem from a belief that every woman was a man's property. not a person but someone's property. if she wasnt married yet then she was the property of her father. opening doors for women started out as giving your woman PERMISSION to walk through the door, otherwise she couldn't enter or leave the room without your permission.
So...what are you saying then? If you attach these old world meanings behind the actions, then you want to be the property of a woman? Have her ask you out and hold the doors open for you..giving you permission to date her, permission to walk through doors etc? I don't attach such connotations to how I want to be treated...Im not THAT old you now...
No . . I want everything to be 50/50. I don't mind asking out the girl. I want it to be a true 100% partnership with everything being spit 50/50. all work, all financial responsibility, everything.
Thats fine..and again, rightfully so you use the word "personally" to refer to how you want a woman to be...but degrading anyone who wants or is involved in a traditional relationship that involves masculine/feminine roles, because its not what you want for yourself is a bit much.
well, is not like we are view as sluts, but yess desperately. there is alwaysthe guy that should pop the answer. it wouled be gay that I'm the one that has to ask him to marry me. No. and if the guy is shy, at least it should have the guts to ask the girl out. idk.. there are many ways a boy can ask a girl out. idk.. that's just me.
I wouldn't do it, I feel that it does make a girl look desperate on some level. I think if the guy is really that into you he will eventually ask you out. If he didn't and I had to ask him, I would feel like he's just doing it because he got asked and not because he really wants to. Obviously you wanna send signals but I'm not gonna go all out but that's just me
Actually if the girl makes the first move it doesn't make her look desperate at all. it makes her look confident and assertive, which are qualities guys want.
Why would I want to be dated out of sympathy? If you don't like me don't waste my time.
Rejection is a part of life. A girl doesn't owe you anything just because you asked her out. That's like going on a job interview and expecting to get the job just because you filled out the application. Doesn't work that way.
It goes both ways though. Lets say I was to ask out a girl, how would I know that she says yes because she likes me, or maybe as a rebound for a past relationship? Girls as do guys use each other when it comes to it. I find it very attractive if a girl is willing to ask a guy out, its hot. Then I would know that the girl actually likes me. Me personally I would love it for a girl to ask me out, but if I knew she liked me I will ask her out
2. those girls must just be under the impression you shouldnt ask a friend to do something, I mean if you're friends, you're gonna want to do something, right?, don't let the guy do the planning all the time..
girls who ask guys out, for dates, although may seem a little desperate, isn't as bad as them waiting on us to ask them out, girl knows what she wants and she's gonna go for it, ya know?
there is nothing wrong was a girl asking a guy out in fact I would love it if a girl liked me enough to do that. I would be flattered if a girl asked me out. I am a very shy guy so I have some problems of my own when it comes to making the first move, if a girl saw that and said something to me like hi or something I would be very happy. there is nothing wrong with you asking a guy out keep doing it.
I asked my (future) wife out a first time, but didn't dare to do or suggest anything. (same fear of being rejected as girls have)
A few months later, she asked me if I was interested in spending a week in Paris with her. I was and we went (in separate rooms) A week after returning we were a couple and we still are.
THANK YOU, finally a chick that gets it...lol...some guys ( ahem, clears throat) just can't work up the nerve to ask a girl out because their afraid of how she'll react.
nothing. but I guess it's just 'traditional' for guys to ask first. for me, I like a guy to ask me out rather than me having to do it. it makes sure that he likes me first. I don't like, well, I guess it's just preference
I agree with a lot of these people. If you like someone go ask them out. I've done it a number of times and it has worked out great for me. Don't want for someone. if you want it ... go get it
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Well I would never ask out a guy, like to be my boyfriend. But I don't have a problem with asking a guy t hang out or see a movie,
I used to but not I have come to think it;s important for a girl to take some initiative if she likes a guy, even if it is just to give him a little push that its ok to ask her out
Whats wrong with asking out a guy?
Nothing I just always think it means more and it's more special if the guy asks out the girl. that's how I always see it in movies and in books and it seems more "fairytale like" to me
Personally I like when a girl asks out a guy because it shows that she's willing to take some of the responsibility and make the guy do all the work. It also shows that she's confident and goes after what she wants, which are sexy qualities.
You are funny... You say clearly "personally, I like" and then somehow twist what you personally like into how all women should be. Trust me, you cannot handle every woman in the world...so its alright if they are not all what you want out of a partner. What you think is "hard work" and "having to do it all", other guys view as their pleasure to do for a woman. There's nothing wrong with a girl asking, but its silly to knock down a man for properly courting a woman or a woman who wants that.
Tradtion was born during a time when women had no rights and weren't even looked upon as human beings. its where those customs originate and I view it as sexist against women to continue to observe them.
Im not a hippies 60's feminist. But if you want to play that game...telling me what I don't deserve what I want out of a relationship because I'm a woman, and should change myself to make mens lives easier is sexist. How bout them apples?
Im just saying . . many of these customs that are observed in more "traditional" style relationships stem from a belief that every woman was a man's property. not a person but someone's property. if she wasnt married yet then she was the property of her father. opening doors for women started out as giving your woman PERMISSION to walk through the door, otherwise she couldn't enter or leave the room without your permission.
So...what are you saying then? If you attach these old world meanings behind the actions, then you want to be the property of a woman? Have her ask you out and hold the doors open for you..giving you permission to date her, permission to walk through doors etc? I don't attach such connotations to how I want to be treated...Im not THAT old you now...
No . . I want everything to be 50/50. I don't mind asking out the girl. I want it to be a true 100% partnership with everything being spit 50/50. all work, all financial responsibility, everything.
Thats fine..and again, rightfully so you use the word "personally" to refer to how you want a woman to be...but degrading anyone who wants or is involved in a traditional relationship that involves masculine/feminine roles, because its not what you want for yourself is a bit much.
Fair enough
well, is not like we are view as sluts, but yess desperately. there is alwaysthe guy that should pop the answer. it wouled be gay that I'm the one that has to ask him to marry me. No. and if the guy is shy, at least it should have the guts to ask the girl out. idk.. there are many ways a boy can ask a girl out. idk.. that's just me.
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I wouldn't do it, I feel that it does make a girl look desperate on some level. I think if the guy is really that into you he will eventually ask you out. If he didn't and I had to ask him, I would feel like he's just doing it because he got asked and not because he really wants to. Obviously you wanna send signals but I'm not gonna go all out but that's just me
Actually if the girl makes the first move it doesn't make her look desperate at all. it makes her look confident and assertive, which are qualities guys want.
That's exactly how I feel. like if the guy doesn't ask you out he doesn't like you enough to go out with you.
So?
AT least the guy would date you out of sympathy
girls would still reject anyway
you have no idea how much it hurts!
Why would I want to be dated out of sympathy? If you don't like me don't waste my time.
Rejection is a part of life. A girl doesn't owe you anything just because you asked her out. That's like going on a job interview and expecting to get the job just because you filled out the application. Doesn't work that way.
It goes both ways though. Lets say I was to ask out a girl, how would I know that she says yes because she likes me, or maybe as a rebound for a past relationship? Girls as do guys use each other when it comes to it. I find it very attractive if a girl is willing to ask a guy out, its hot. Then I would know that the girl actually likes me. Me personally I would love it for a girl to ask me out, but if I knew she liked me I will ask her out
well, I applaud you for doing it, for one
2. those girls must just be under the impression you shouldnt ask a friend to do something, I mean if you're friends, you're gonna want to do something, right?, don't let the guy do the planning all the time..
girls who ask guys out, for dates, although may seem a little desperate, isn't as bad as them waiting on us to ask them out, girl knows what she wants and she's gonna go for it, ya know?
there is nothing wrong was a girl asking a guy out in fact I would love it if a girl liked me enough to do that. I would be flattered if a girl asked me out. I am a very shy guy so I have some problems of my own when it comes to making the first move, if a girl saw that and said something to me like hi or something I would be very happy. there is nothing wrong with you asking a guy out keep doing it.
I asked my (future) wife out a first time, but didn't dare to do or suggest anything. (same fear of being rejected as girls have)
A few months later, she asked me if I was interested in spending a week in Paris with her. I was and we went (in separate rooms) A week after returning we were a couple and we still are.
Absolutely nothing wrong with it. If he never returns the favor though, he might not be that into you.
I am fine with asking a guy out! If he won't, then I will! 'If you never try, then you'll never know' (coldplay)
I would have to agree with temptationfalls. But I see no problem in with it. In 2 out of my 3 relationships The girl asked me out.
THANK YOU, finally a chick that gets it...lol...some guys ( ahem, clears throat) just can't work up the nerve to ask a girl out because their afraid of how she'll react.
nothing. but I guess it's just 'traditional' for guys to ask first. for me, I like a guy to ask me out rather than me having to do it. it makes sure that he likes me first. I don't like, well, I guess it's just preference
I have NO PROBLEM with girls asking guys out!
It's OK
I hate tha fact that it seems like only girls ask guys out now. Girls ask guys to prom and everything at my school.
I agree with a lot of these people. If you like someone go ask them out. I've done it a number of times and it has worked out great for me. Don't want for someone. if you want it ... go get it
absolutely nothing, its a very positive thing to do since there is very little chance of denial
Not really, I've been accepted as many times as rejected.
Why would there be very little chance?
it's a new age. a women with enough confidence to ask out a guy is very sexy.
i would have thought the guy would feel undominant...
I see nothin wrong with it- most of the women I've dated have approached me first
Lucky XD
Nothing wrong just that you look needy and desperate.
Why be so impatient , put more time and he'll.
Let him do what he is suppose to do.
No the girl doesn't look needy or desperate .. she looks confident and assertive, which are good qualities