Why is it that some friends grab my butt when my boyfriend's not around?

[Anonymous]

A friend of his did it once, another friend of his did it as well on another occasion and yesterday, my own friend did it after I went for a hug. On that last occasion, we were both drunk and it was plain funny.

Should I assume that I have a nice butt or is it just what guys go for when they want to feel a girl up?

[journeyman1126]

In the age of Conan The Barbarian, tribes of lesser men congregated around bronzed, brawny man-men. Sometimes if the alpha man-man had claimed an impossibly busty she-woman as she rode a gerbil-dragon across the sky, the lesser boy-men would emulate all of his magnificent ass grabbery.

It's kind of like monkey see, monkey do. But when the man-man comes around, all the boy-man butt grabbery sneakers cower in the shadow of his mighty deltoids, biceps, and pecs. Always averting their eyes from his poorly fitted loin cloth, and never letting man-man see them checking out his female. Or that one piece of mucous that was always in his right nostril.

Usually boy-men will go for the arm-boob. Or elbow boob if they are tall and the she-male, I mean she-girl, is short. And then there is back of hand brush to butt. Or anywhere else she-girl will stop and let him almost touch that way.

Once she-girl let boy-man grab butt, everyone hopes man-man get eaten by gerbil-dragon. That thing in nostril was heinous. And how could he not have felt a breeze?

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Ahhh, the good old days, when men were men and women were confused.

But really, I've been the perpetrator and the victim. If a guy can grope you whenever it's safe, I think that women actually consider their bf's or even husbands less of a man. And Mr. Sneaky fingers becomes their naughty bad boy in waiting.

At this point your friend has the choice in the situation, doesn't he? If he steps up and proves a friend can be sexually attractive, then you don't have as much reason to be with the guy who was sexually attractive and is still mid-process in becoming a decent friend. He's stronger on the boy side, than the friend side.

And you just noticed your friend is a man.

[journeyman1126]

Thanks for the BA.

[Asker]

You're welcome!

[sfauo]

It's a mixture of a lot of things.

You probably have a nice behind, they do want to feel you up, the alcohol doesn't make them hesitate to do it, and/or it's just messing around.

To answer your question, of course they're going to do it when your boyfriend isn't around because they don't want to get in huge trouble.

[carlo]

you likely have a nice butt, but honelstly it's your duty to set the boundaries. how would you feel if your boyfriend had female friends who kept feeling him and he didn't do anything about it?

[Asker]

Well it's hard to set a boundary when they grab me from behind and I don't see them coming. They never did it again though. None of my friends normally feel me up. It was my birthday party and my boyfriend was away in another country so I think my friend just seized his luck for kicks. I don't think it's right, but I don't think it's my fault either that this has happened.

[martyfellow]

Some combination of a nice behind and a curious guy who wants to know what you really think of him, or maybe these guys are also Italians like me?

[beastman88]

weird I think if my guy friends tried grabbing my ass I think id cold **** em lmao. or a viscous man slap