Why does my boyfriend find me less attractive after having a baby?

[Anonymous]

I just had a baby 3 weeks ago & might I add I look damn good. I'm 5lbs from my pre pregnancy weight which is 115(I'm 120). I do obv have a small stomach because my skin hasn't gone back yet & I cannot start going to the gym until my 6 week checkup. He told me today he wanted me to look like I used to before the baby & I needed to hit the gym & be bad as f*** again. I was so hurt I sat there & cried. An I being too sensitive or am I right that it was a real jerk off thing to say. After I flipped out on him he also contd to make rude & hurtful comments such as me looking at a vh Tori's secret magazine & him stating that I wasn't shopping I was looking at girls I wished I looked like. & watching TV & stating the girls are hot & sexy.I need to know if I'm being sensitive or is my anger justified?

[Anonymous]

He's an a**hole.

Allow yourself permission to feel things. You feel emotional and hurt and rightly so because he is being cruel and insensitive.you just had a baby and he's saying very hurtful negative things about your body. F*** wrong with him?

Also I wanted to add that he's mentally f***ing with you on purpose. If you're 5 pounds away from your pre pregnancy weight then that should barely be noticeable. Its not gonna make a difference in your looks. Some girls gain more than that in monthly bloating, I just don't believe he's honestly not attracted to you. Its more likely there is another motive behind those comments. Start planning your exit because this isn't a good sign...

He's lucky he's with a sensitive soul like you because for comments like that, a bitch like me would be already being comforted in the arms of another man and wouldn't care if he found out about it either

[jeshika]

He's being an insensitive jerk and you are rightfully emotional, I mean those 5 pounds isn't that much, and you just gave birth he can't honestly expect you to go can to looking like you did, not that fast, plus you still have all the hormones and stress of having a kid which would increase you sensitivity, but even with out that he is being rather cruel to say such things.

[thehighpriestess]

He is an insensitive male with superficial standards, he seems like the type of loser who watches p*rn all day and fantasizes about plain, unfeminine women.

My boyfriend accepts me for who I am. Its not that he's a man, he's just spiritually, emotionally, and mentally immature. I'm sorry he's your baby's father.

[bassman]

I don't think this has anything to do with the way you look. Its just what he's using as an excuse. My best guess is, he's uncomfortable with the thought of being a dad right now,and or he's lost interest in you all together.But, your looks are not the issue.

[TheDigitalSaint]

You're five pounds over your normal weight? That's not a big deal for a woman who just had a kid. Has he always acted like this in other areas besides your weight?

[Asker]

He's never said anything about my weight I've always been small

[TheDigitalSaint]

That shouldn't be an issue, as you're hardly obese given you just had a child. I suggest good exercise for your own benefit, but seriously, you need to look out for any other offensive behavior from your man, as you don't want a household of fighting as you're trying to raise a child.

[AliceMcKay]

He is being an insensitive a$$! Five pounds is pretty damn good for just giving birth! I honestly would never put up with that. Do not cave in, he should really apologize for his behavior.

[3336PS]

if you want to friend me. I'll tell you more

i am back to my pre baby weigh 2 babies...

and lots of issues similar to you

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is a d***. But you probably already knew that.

[Moloch]

He already told you why. It was very insensitive of him to say it though.

[alexa257]

Your boyfriend's an a**hole. 120 is tiny!