Guys who don't like PDA?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal for guys/ a guy to not like PDA. The guy I'm seeing now we have been seeing each other for almost 3 months and I'm almost certain he likes me. but the only thing is...he doesn't do PDA. that means he doesn't kiss me, hug me, or even hold my hand and I like that stuff. Today he left for winter break for 3 weeks and I asked that before he goes he give me a kiss, and he said no but he will give me a hug. I want to bring it up with him so we might be able to make a compromise over PDA but I never had time before he left and I'm not doing it by text.

so,

1) is it normal for guys to not like PDA?

2) how do I bring it up with him in order to reach a compromise?

Yes its normal

Thats not normal

Maybe/other

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

It's pretty normal. It's kinda rude too. I mean, Public Displays of Affection is bringing everyone else in on something that should be more intimate who might not want to be and it might be making guys/girls who aren't with others more depressed. Seems kinda.. rude to me. I mean, it's not a huge deal, but still a bit rude to those around you. Though, I still don't mind doing stuff with my girlfriend whenever I have one. I just don't go all super hot and heavy or making it very obvious or really in front of everyone's face, just here and there and small things.

[stewartdent]

I don't like PDA for one simple reason, it makes me uncomfortable when others engage in PDA. You can't look at them, you can't actively look away. So I am not embarrassed but I am mindful and try to avoid engaging in PDA myself.

This is comparable to walking around naked in the dressing room at the gym. I am not embarrassed by my body but I don't enjoy when other men walk around naked so I try not to engage in that conduct.

Do to others as you want done to yourself.

Maybe try to compromise on something small, such as hand holding.

[peace-love-couture]

This^

[Normguy]

Exactly, unless you're some kind of exihbitionist why do you need to so much pda. If we are walking together, eating together, or any other activity they everyone can see we are together there is no need for the the exihibitionism just to make others uncomforatable.

[Hidden_P]

It's normal but depends on the guy - some people are more comfortable with it. Generally speaking, women are more comfortable with it.

Honestly... you probably won't. Think about it, he agrees he'll do more, but he'll be uncomfortable and you'll feel like you've forced him into it.

Explain you like claiming he's 'yours' in public and you'd like to hold hands, something to show you're close. You're not asking for full on snogs. Something little like hands he's likely to do and not be too uncomfortable with it.

[lollipanda]

It really depends on the guy, honestly. Most of mine have been fine with PDA.

My most recent ex-boyfriend HATED it with a passion. He wouldn't hold my hand in public most of the time. He wouldn't kiss me with people around. He did love me and we were together for awhile, but he felt awkward about being around people.

Just ask him if there's any way he could meet you halfway. If he really likes you he'll at least talk to you about it, even if you guys don't end up reaching the compromise you'd like.

[Sue09]

I hear you sister. My man is the same. We've been together years so I'm kind of used to it but I think I'll always find it a little hurtful deep down. I've learned not to bother complaining though because he either ignores it or makes a forced gesture, both of which just make me feel worse.

I guess you just learn to accept it or you don't. Sorry I can't be more helpful

[Anonymous]

ooh. public display of affection. when I seen the poll at the right side of the screen I thought you ment PDA Portable Digital Assistant because the link didn't show your main question.

I will stick with my answer that it's normal for some guys to not like public displays of affection I'm sure they have their reasons. as for bringing it up you can simply ask him if he would mind you kissing him when hanging out with other people and if he says no than you can ask why.

note: even though I do understand most abbreviations without context they can get mixed up very easily.

[MakeLoveNotWar]

Yeah, I was like wtf lol

[Dovahbear]

It is normal for guys to not like PDA. But it mainly depends on the individual. I personally don't like PDA. Would you be comfortable in seeing someone in a grocery store participating in a snog fest? I'd feel uncomfortable. A hug or a peck on the cheek or holding hands is alright, maybe compromise on that.

[TangerineFire1]

I am a very affectionate person so I show public displays of affection all the time, hug or touch, I don't like deep throat a guy, that is for more private, behind close doors activity. Guys they are different they find it hard I believe to show affection. Not all but some do why I am not sure. I personally like it, it makes me feel good, and it makes me feel close to the guy.

[nicenthic]

I'm glad you don't deep throat a guy in public. If you did, be sure to get it on video and put it up on xtube. May as well make some money while being a whore, right.

[TangerineFire1]

Well if I am making money doing it, that would make me a whore. Which I am not thank you very much. Nice, real, nice.

[Normguy]

@nicenthic im with you

[IHateMeganFox]

Holding hands and a peck is fine. But when you start making out and grabbing each others "parts" that's when it gets too far. So yes, some guys aren't into PDA, like the guy you're seeing. I would be fine with it, but the making out part is where I would cut it off. I have never done PDA but I'm sure I would feel awkward about it at first.

[vishna]

Man..I hate pda.

He is just being so considerate. PDA creates some of the most socially awkward situations ever acted out in the history of man-kind

However a little holding hands isn't so bad :/

Just that extreme crap ...bleh ew

[nicenthic]

Most self-respecting adults know that heavy PDA is a bad idea and is just plain rude. Children, like many of the people on this site, have not seemed to grasp the concept yet.

[KellyC]

I have never heard of that because in my experience the guy would take every chance he got to put his hands on you. I like a little PDA myself but the cute kind, not the, hands all over each other trying to rape each other in public type.

[CubanRaftRider]

Depends on how ''intense'' the PDA is. If its like holding hands or a small kiss then its no biggie. I'm not a fan of seeing people making out in public.

[Gozaru]

If you are at school i get it. I'm in middle school and whenever I hug or put my arm around my girlfriend they'll be like, well... You know what I mean.

[RedSmartie]

He won't do that stuff in public, or at all? Because PDA is public display of affection. He might be very private when it comes to stuff like that. But still, it's pretty weird.

[MeridiansAAngel]

Who wants to be normal ? If that's his preference than that's just what he likes, I personally don't like PDA either, why don't you ask him about it though?

-love Sosa

[JennyBenny318]

Me and my boyfriend don't like PDA either. We do that when we're home in private. I did PDA once with a guy I dated before and people looked at us weird. So I don't do it anymore.

[Anonymous]

Some guys don't like it because they think it makes them look less manly to show affection to a girl in front of other guys. But there are also plenty who do like it. I'm sure you can reach a compromise somehow. I'm just not sure how. =/

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't it be normal? It's normal because some girls don't like it as well. It's human nature for some people not to like the same thing. Whoever thinks it's not normal, clearly you're not 'thinking' like a human.

[Anonymous]

If you're officially together and he's not giving you regular hugs, I do find that a little abnormal but not everyone shows their affections in the same ways.

[Primrose]

I wish my boyfriend was less pda. omg I have to fiend myself off him when we are together.

[TexanCowgirl]

I think it's not normal and I hate guys who don't do PDA!

[emzy-89]

some do, some dont. just like some women do and others dont

[Anonymous]

I'm not a huge fan of pda it's always struck me as showing off or something. but I'm thinking more like heavy making out. A kiss in public is fine though.

[kairon156]

I agree a simple kiss or hugging is fine but making out is a bit much in public.

[Anonymous]

I have found a lot of guys don't mind it although some do. They think its unmanly.

[Normguy]

The guys that dont mind think they have to or be single, no man likes that crap. they do it for the women just like they lie when women ask if they are getting fat.