Women don't like men who fight nearly as much as you seem to think they do. :p No girl that I've ever dated has enjoyed violence, that's for sure. Hell, my last girlfriend and I were out on a walk and she happened to laugh at something I said and some nearby kids mimicked her laugh. I looked over to see who it was and she --knowing I was armed and apparently thinking I was going to go over there and say something-- grabbed my arm and said "Don't."
I made some joke about how I wouldn't have gone over to 'em because you can't double tap 5 people with 7 rounds, but as she didn't see the humor in it I had to explain that I was just looking. Her concern wasn't that I wouldn't stand up for her "honor," but that I would. This mentality is in line with that of most women. If a woman wants you to hurt yourself or others in an attempt to stick up for her, to fight her battles, then she's not worth your time and she'll just get you into trouble. Trouble of the sort you really don't want to find yourself in.
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I don't think I know a woman who would suddenly lose attraction if her boyfriend lost. There are very few women who actually give THAT much of a sh*t how physically competent he is. If she DOES hold him to that high and violent of a standard, she should probably take a few hits herself, and have nobody there to help HER. THEN let's see her judge him.
Most of the girls I know would rush to their boyfriend's aid, swarming him with kisses and a blanket or something. Women get the instinct to nurture something in the same way men get the instinct to protect. A wounded man is an opportunity, not a disappointment.
If he started the fight, especially without any valid reason, whether he wins or loses I might break up with him. I don't like guys who recklessly endanger themselves. It's stupid, risky, and could endanger me as well.
If he was defending himself, that's different. I'd feel scared for him, angry at the guy beating him, and do my best to take care of my boyfriend. I think I would call the cops, and try to get people to help break it up or something. I just wouldn't want him hurt. No, it doesn't affect my attraction or love for him. The other guy's a psycho idiot, and no one can defend themselves from everything/everyone.
No. That is not how women measure worth of a guys manhood and power.
That is how men measure each other.
This is the same situation, where you see women dressing up and comparing themselves to other women, while ignoring what men think. When in reality no guy wants you to be anorexic, or wear 3 layers of paint on your face.
Don't presume women think about men, the way men think about men.
My boyfriend has lost a fight pretty badly to my ex in front of me. At the end he was begging for mercy, and during the whole fight he had no chance, beacuse my ex is a black belt in karate. I have to confess that my attraction to my boyfriend is now much less strong. I just didn't expect hin to be so powerless and to be like that at the end. I feel guilty about that, but I can't help it!
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Most sober people start fights if they're confident they can win or they're confident the guy will just walk away, thus making them look good. In any case they are still in high school mentally and I don't know if many grown women find that attractive.
Either way, it's a form of bullying and it's pretty cowardly actually. By all means beat some douche bag up in self-defense but don't go around picking fights. I've seen a lot of instances where the loudest talker was the weakest fighter...he puts up a front and it backfires when he messes with the guys who keep quiet because they don't have to prove they can fight.Lose or win, he was fighting in the first place. He was so insecure about his damn manhood and ego that he has to prove himself to others by fighting. Instead of being a man and solving his issues by talking them out and giving a firm handshake, he had no self-control and tried to hit a guy instead. Even if the guy was talking sh*t, a real man wouldn't care. People talk sh*t to see if you are weak enough to give in and try to fight him.
If it was self-defense, as in the guy came after him, this is a different story.Depends how the fight arose and who provoked it. If it was over something stupid and petty, probably. If it was out of defense, I'd probably comfort him. Although fighting in any given situation doesn't solve anything. So, I would be upset, but probably get over it. It's nothing to break up over if it wasn't his fault, whether he "won" or not. That's not really important.
If my boyfriend got his ass whooped, I wouldn't think of leaving him. I would get my slab of meat or whatever and patch him up. I'd probably make some pretty horrible cooing noises and cradle his head in my lap... It would be like a super cheesy scene from a movie.
Any man can lose a fight if his opponent is superior at that moment in time. The more important issue is who started the fight, why it started, and whether it was avoidable...
"Learn more ways to preserve rather than destroy. Avoid rather than check. Check rather than hurt. Hurt rather than maim. Maim rather than kill. For all life is precious nor can any be replaced." --Master Kan, from the TV series "Kung Fu"If it were me, I wouldn't care if we won or lost a fight I would just want him to be OK, and not hurt. For some girls it's different though. Some girls think that if their boyfriend loses a fight then he's a dumbass and can't do anything. But in my personal opinion I wouldn't worry about who won or lost the fight I would worry about whether or not he got hurt. Hope this helped :)
Depends on the individual most girls would dump a guy because of the mind set you mention. Other would dump the guy because they got in the fight and even if their lover would have won they would of still dump them; because some women honestly do hate / fear violence .
If she dumped him simply because he lost a fight, then what a bloody... Its that word I don't like to use. Anyway then again there could be more to the story like he had cheated and was fighting the other guy cos he let the cat outta the bag, or that he was abusive to her but then she saw him having to actually fight for once and saw him get beat and realized how pathetic he was. It's all speculation though isn't it...
Well one of my ex bfs got his ass whooped and I was trying to shout at the guy and his girlfriend gave me a beating and my ex dumped me for butting in! You can't win but I would always stick up for my bf
With that type of sh*tty attitude, how can you even WONDER why the girl prefers them over you? Fix that. Please don't take offense to this, it's constructive criticism.
no I would be thrilled. my biggest fantasy is to nurse my boyfriend back to health when he's beaten up and helpless. oh how I long for the chance.
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Honestly, that's a stupid reason to break up with someone. I wouldn't dump my guy because he got into a fight.
really depends on why he started that fight - if it was to protect his girlfriend, no, I'll like him even more. If for any other stupid reasons, it says he has a weak self control and bad physic, neither of which is good.
Haha, reading the responses, I don't know if my words had any effect on a girl after I beat up her douche bag boyfriend. He tried to fight me in some road rage thing and when he sitting on the ground coming to, I went up to his truck where she was sitting and told her "You should brush up on your self-defense and protect your bitch of a boyfriend. I could be having my way with you right now."
It would depend what the fight was about and if it was his fault or not. If it was justified I would nurse his wounds and would show him that I would be by his side.
For me, it only depends on his attitude. If my man was acting like he was some tough badass who can wreck anybody, and then lost, I'd be unattracted (but I wouldn't be with that kind of guy anyway). Probably would wait for his wounds to heal before I hurt his sh*t ego even more by dumping him immediately lol. But if it were my current man, didn't act cocky, and did lose a fight, I would be by his side and tend to his damages, and try to help him feel the least amount of embarrassment.
Man you're still on this? I asked this question link 2 months ago. I don't think you're going to be convinced otherwise that a girl probably wouldn't leave a guy if he lost a fight
Iif he started the fight,no matter the outcome-dump him.
No, sometimes they win sometimes loose a true lady will always admire the man she loves whether he wins a fight or not, its what's in the heart and mind that matters not the muscle, that was only in prehistoric times we looked for that.
Only a bitch would do that. Girls don't like guys who fight at all, so for him to get into a bar fight was trashy. It sounds cliche but a guy who is mature enough to talk through things instead of fighting is hot. But if it was out of self defense that he got into the fight and he lost, the girl would care for him and be mad at the other guy who attacked her boyfriend.
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