My crush is apparently scared of me.

[Tr0ubledOne]

I've had my crush for about three years. We've barely even talked, so I don't know if I even can call it a "crush", but he's just so cute and I mean, I just can't stop smiling when I think about him and... Whatever, y'all know how it feels like to be in love!

Anyways... I've been told by my closest guy friends that ever since he found out about it he's been avoiding me because he's really not "into girls". I'm not saying that he's homosexual, but it's just that he's a little immature and only play League of Legends or whatever. So I don't really know how to approach him without him freaking out. I have his number and been thinking about texting him, but wouldn't that be, like, weird? My guy friends aren't really giving me any good advice, they're just joking and teasing with me. They took my phone today and texted him. Not sure what him/they wrote, because they deleted the conversation. I've been feeling bad about that all afternoon... Anyway, can any nice soul out there help me? I've been looking for answers for three years!

Oh, and this is my very first post on this site, so it might have been a little long, so... Sorry about that! xx

[cheeky_starfish]

It does sound like this guy and his friends are a little immature, but it is generally true that girls mature much faster than guys, so maybe they're all a little behind you in that sense! lol A good way to 'break the ice' with him and perhaps start a conversation would be to text him and apologize for whatever his friends have text him from your phone? You could say that they took your phone and text him without your knowledge or authorisation, so you are sorry for that? Of course that's genuine, but also an opportunity to chat with him, if he replies!

I would keep any conversation via text or e-mail (Facebook etc) for now, as shy guys find it much easier to chat to girls that way, as they are not face-to-face and can think about what they are saying etc. If you do get chatting with him and want to spend some time with him, perhaps ask what he likes doing and just casually say that if he wants company (say he says he likes playing computer games) then you would be happy to give him a game? Don't ask him directly to do something and put him on the spot, just make him aware that if he wants, you would like to spend some time with him?

Anyway, I hope that helps you and please feel free to ask me any further questions if you have any... :o)

[EllaDavies]

I think you should just joke around with him and hint that you just want to be friends so he feels less scared and more comfortable around you. Give him space (don't text him everyday) but still smile and talk to him. You never know, next year he might grow up and start to feel attracted to girls. Just build that friendship bond before anything more.