Need help with this introvert handsome guy?

[rubiiistone]

Hi, I meet this guy at the beginning of the semester. I think he is attractive. We have classes in common and we do work together sometime. We always say hi to each other, a few weeks ago we were alone and I tried to get to know him better but he wasn't very open. I thought he wasn't interested. Then I noticed that he didn't have many friends in class, and the only friend that he had started hanging with other ppl. He doesn't seem to make friends easily and is always texting. He's a transfer By the way. Recently, he's been staring at me a lot but when I look back he turns around. We made long eye contact too when we talk too. I still think he's not interested since he's not asking me out. He also asked for my number but he almost never texts me. It is surprising to me that a good looking guy can be shy. I am an extrovert girl so I have no idea how it works with introverts.

Thanks in advance :)

[lollipopsforyou]

Well, first of all I would recommend that you take it slow, if you are too extroverted this could kind of scare him and make him uncomfortable, but this same thing is what will help you since you won't be having trouble being the one that talks to him first and stuff. Just do it in a discrete way, talk to him and continue to saying hi and stuff whenever you have the chance, even if he doesn't seem that interested keep on talking to him as if you're only interested in being friends with him.

Let me tell you, not every person that doesn't talk to everybody is shy and anyways that doesn't necessarily have to do with the way they look. I'm going to be honest, and I'm not trying to be cocky or anything here, but I'm a very attractive girl, and like this guy you describe, I don't immediately talk to everyone at first, I first analyze them and only talk to people that seems interesting to me and if I think we have things in common and stuff, and that's because I'm a reserved person and don't waste time with people I don't like. So when people come and talk to me I pay attention to details and if I like them I will continue to talk to them but not right away, I just don't over think it and act as I feel, so this guy could just be figuring you out first, and paying attention to you. If this is the case PLEASE abstain from being shallow and superficial or this will actually be a complete turn off for him. The great side about people like this: we're honest and loyal and if we like people we show our true side to them, we just don't like vulnerability so he make sure of some things first. And if you get to knows us, you'll see how fun and 'normal' we actually are haha.

Of course I'm assuming a lot here, you know him better so act accordingly, but you have nothing to loose and if this guy is like I think he is, you won't regret it.

Act interesting around him, because he probably is, just try to have intelligent conversations with him and not expose him to everyone because reserved people don't like that.

Best of lucks to you :)

[WhitneySnow]

He’s probably super shy around girls. Try starting up a convo with him. Knowing you’re interested in him might give him the courage to ask you out (it does sound like he’s interested).

[Anonymous]

Oh, but we can be shy. Terribly shy. I'm one of those guys; I see girls giving me their green light every single day in college, but I'm not going to approach them - and that is simply because I have way too much of a negative history with girls; too much negative stimulus (they were constantly texting me, calling, trying to get me out on a date with them) and so I just 'closed shop' so to speak.

This semester I spotted an absolutely gorgeous looking girl, on the scale of one to 10 she's an 11; and she started to send me flirting signals; I just simply couldn't believe my luck. But I'm still so scarred that I'm not willing to approach her, despite I've been given huge green lights many times.

So I'll bet he probably has some bad history with girls and this totally impacts his character nowadays; personally speaking I would much prefer that girls were to do what you expect us guys to do, and take it slow; especially that last part - way too many girls wanted to snag me up almost within days after knowing me; that's not cool in my books

[Anonymous]

handsome or not, introverts won't speak unless spoken to probably because of nervousness. best way to get him to open open up is to spend more time around him. if he's attractive, he's probably been approached often but the girls that do don't stick around to actually get to know him and assume he's not interested. it takes time for them to get comfortable around people. if you are willing to look past his looks and try to figure out his interests and more about him, I'm sure he'll open up eventually, but in my opinion, I think it's too much work the girl has to do unless they're truly interested :/

[NoBull]

Wow. Based upon what you wrote, he seems conflicted in his interest in you. It's possible if you're that outgoing and he's that shy, then he might feel you're too intense for him at this time. He's not gay, right? Does he have a girlfriend (long-distance, maybe, since he transferred)?

[richardcory]

He may be shy. Try just saying hi to him. Just talk to him a little now and then, don't make it romantic initiallly

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 yeah, you're extroverted. Which is why you're too chickens*** to make a move. 🙄🙄🙄

[gedake]

You should start a random convo with him

[Anonymous]

He got the digits, that's a good sign