Anyway, both had different answers. One said to be upfront with her and don't play games. It shows confidence, assertiveness and it gets to the point. The other said while it would be nice, she'd rather get to know a person than to be asked out and/or told right away a guy's feelings or intentions. So needless to say, they didn't help much haha.
So ladies (or guys, in your experience), would you prefer a guy who is interested in you, whether you barely know them or know them pretty well, to be upfront about his feelings and/or intentions or be pretty chill about it? Pros and cons of either one?
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My answer is complicated. You don't want to be overly forward otherwise you come off as a player, douche, and someone just after sex. But you also don't want to play it ice cold, so that when you do show her signs of attraction/affection, you give her a shock to the system and freak her out.
Basically, she should know you find her attractive within the first 30second of meeting her if not instantaneously, but you should treat her in a purely platonic fashion until you've painted a picture of yourself and you're not a complete stranger.
Approach her with the mindset of "yes, she's beautiful, but beauty is common. I wonder what else she has going for her" while conveying that to her by both your conversational ques and the body language you give off. Hell, you can even pose that in the form of a question by asking her... "well you're certainly beautiful, but beauty is common. What else do you have going for yourself?".
Then you slowly vamp things up while continually dropping feelers and giving her the opportunity to convey where she stands. You let her demonstrate to you how fast she wants you to escalate. You can do that through means of physical contact, which really is not an option but is mandatory, by manipulating her body. If you hold her hand does she withdraw or not; things like that. And of course you can do it through conversational means.
So to sum things up, my answer is found somewhere in the middle but with a focus on tailoring your advancements to the individual. Because lets face it, if there was one technique that worked on everyone, then things would be simple and everyone would have someone.
p.s. I'm not even sure if I'm answering your question. It's very confusing.