How much does size really matter?

Question

I have always been told I am very beautiful, complexion, hair, and eyes, etc.. I guess I am an average weight, and I don't look bad, but I could look better. But it always gets to me how all the GUYS in my grade, except for one or two, are shorter and thinner than me. And the biggest guy in my grade is only 10lbs heavier than me. And taller by maybe 5-7 inches. He's like 5'10" and 160lbs, I'm like 5'4.5" and 150lbs. I makes me feel like utter crap, and I'm not very confident because of it. I know I could probably lose 15-20lbs and look great, maybe even 30, but if I could be content at this weight I'd stay. Because I'm healthy, and work out etc.. But do guys care, if I'm bigger, or the same size as them? The kids in my grade are 15-16 years old, will the guys still grow more? 
There is this guy I really like, he's sweet and perfect, but he's maybe an inch shorter than me. I know I would feel awkward if we were ever together. People have even said "You and him would be a perfect match, if only he grew a couple inches." Without even knowing I like him, but I would just be too paranoid of feeling like the man or something cause I'm too big. So, opinions? I'm sorry this turned into a little bit of a rant, but really how much does size matter?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I dont think you have anything to worry about. You're not that big. Even if you are, they'll probably care about shape more anyway. If you want to lose weight, do it. I'd say do it for "the right reasons", but you can do what you want to do, obviously.

I'm actually fat, and people tell me I'm beautiful, give me compliments, stares, etc. I think I'm very pretty as well...
But I'm still fat. And I dont mean that in a purely negative sense, in my own mind, but I understand that many many guys dont care about how pretty I am or my personality - fat is it for them, that is their deal breaker. And I'm not tall either (I'm exactly your height, but 210 lbs instead).
I've never had a bf and I'm in my 20s. I always blame it on my weight, and my preferences. (I'm mixed/black, but I prefer white guys, which makes it a bagillion times harder.)
However, when I'm honest with myself, I know that this is only one factor. I also know that I have this wall up, I'm kind of afraid of dating, whenever I can tell a guy likes me I run away, and my friends point out guys they think are obviously flirting with me, but I miss it. (Sometimes I'm oblivious.) I have pretty high self esteem, but lower body confidence, so the idea of being with someone is kind of intimidating. I dont feel like crap, but I know that it is/I am holding myself back from having a love life probably way more than my weight is. But I'm still not delusional about how a lot of guys feel about fat girls. I want to be comfortable in my own skin (in terms of sex, relationships) at any weight, that is the struggle. Thats important.

But you're a teenager, so that is a different world. Younger guys are probably even more narrow minded in terms of weight preference because they want to do whats cool, dont want their friends to judge them, want their peer approval of the woman theyre dating. older men are the same, but to a lesser degree.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well I'll tell you I'm 5'2 and about 140lbs. My boyfriend is about 6'1 and 145lbs. Although he is very skinny (only has a 26" waist!) he is pure muscle and has the most defined abs and muscles.
The thing is he doesn't care how heavy I am because he loves me. He loves everything about my body. He loves my breasts and my stomach. He loves my huge thighs and how they jiggle with my butt and whoever you get with should feel the same about you too.

With the guy you like if he's shorter than 5'4 truth is he's not going to have much choice as far as dating taller goes anyway and if he's insecure about his height than that's more of HIS problem than yours

springdragonfly · Accepted Answer

They'll grow. Give it time.
5'4" is not that tall.

I hit 5'11" when I was about 15. The boys caught up a little later.
It is just an awkward stage.

That said, when I was younger, I was totally crazy about men who were taller than me.
Now, more confident with myself, lately I am finding there is something extremely attractive about looking someone straight in the face. Like it takes equals to a whole new level.

Just relax, have fun and get to know him. Who knows. He might not be that interesting. You might stop caring about his height once you are more familiar with him, or maybe he'll have a growth spurt.

funkipunk · Accepted Answer

I'm 6' tall. To be honest, I am less attracted to a girl if she is very big. If a girl exceeds like 6'2", this somewhat freaks me out. I don't know why, but I biologically feel that I should be taller the girl.

I don't think you have to worry about how excessively big you are though. 5'4" - 5'5" is not overly tall by any stretch. Even if you grow a few more inches, you'll still look perfectly normal.

When it comes to the weight, guys are usually more attracted to healthy looking women. Don't obsess about the weight though, it doesn't sound like you're fat by any stretch of the imagination. If you want to lose a few pounds and become healthier, that would be great too.

So to answer your question, size matters to a point. Most men don't find fat or husky looking women incredibly sexy, but everybody does have their own individual attractions. And, you don't sound overly 'big', so I wouldn't worry about it.

cheesesteak7 · Accepted Answer

as the lady next to me said - it depends on the guy.  Plenty of guys, even skinny, good-looking guys, don't mind extra meat on girls/women.  As for height... well, i think more guys, at least based on what i've observed/heard, tend to avoid girls who are taller than them.  But not all guys.  I don't mind if a female is taller than me.

Anonymous · Answer

You're getting to the age where guys will start growing quite a bit, so the tables will be flipped where there are only one or two guys are shorter than you.  As far as weight goes, every guy has their own type.  I'm sure you will find a guy that likes you exactly as you are.  It sounds like you already workout which is great, but just make sure not to do anything unhealthy to drop weight.  Things will only get better going forward, I promise!

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

It depends on the guy , some guys are chub chasers but the only thing that really matters is like being comfortable with your own body and being healthy so you don't loose a limb due to diabetes or get a heart attack or something when you are old

BryanM · Answer

You just have to learn to accept yourself and be happy with your body. Forget everyone else and what they think. What matters is how you feel about yourself.