Why It's Important To Not Think With Your Heart

[Stacyzee]

...instead think in logic.

You wear your heart on your sleeve,

allowing it to be thieved.

This pattern won't break,

it re-occurrs endlessly.

For a large fragment of our lives, we never fail to act on emotion.

This is what allows us to bury our bodies in the mental turmoil, some

relationships have to offer.

You become blind sighted when you think with your heart.

You're allowing your vision to become jaded.

Instead of doing what is "right" you decide to do what "feels right".

You must understand the true depths of the reality, that is facing you.

When you act on emotions from the heart, you are allowing yourself to

see only a fantasy.

A beautiful picture that looks good only to you.

If you ask the outsiders (people who are not emotionally invested), to

paint the true picture of what lies before you, you will be shocked at how differently

that photo is perceived.

Your heart won't allow you to comprehend the truth that lies,

It simply won't, it is too emotionally invested.

When you think in logic,

you are allowing yourself to really look at the situation for what it is.

Your mind is allowing you to sort out the events that have occurred.

Your mind also allows you to make decisions accordingly.

But no, not your heart.

Your heart bleeds to be loved the same way in return.

You stay with the person who has wronged you.

You put up with all of the emotional/physical abuse.

You hold open your arms for more mistreatment.

Don't say that you do not.

By accepting the person who has wronged you,

repeatedly into your life, you are telling them

their actions are okay.

Please, pull the curtains from your eyes and

allow yourself to see.

Loving someone means nothing,

when they offer you pain and hurt in return.

You have tried to make things right.

But your efforts are those that fall on deaf ears.

It isn't long before you are betrayed again.

You love this person.

Your heart is what continues to allow you to fall deeper.

Think in logic.

Think with your brain.

When you do, the best decisions of your life will be made.

[XRabbitHeartX]

"Loving someone means nothing,

when they offer you pain and hurt in return."

The truth. I really like your Take. You are good with words and offer some really good advice. I'd say this is very applicable to love. With love you must also think logically.

[Prof_Don]

I fully agree! Although emotions matter because of intuition, thinking with the brain should ALWAYS be the primary decision maker. :)

[Bliss-taylor]

Your mind and heart need to work together. It's impossible to disconnect them but it is possible your heart will cloud your judgement. Love is blind.
I've been cheated on and most people I've seen that have been cheated on didn't leave their lover. But in only one case did it work out for the good. My grandfather cheated once when they were younger and it was after he got back from being at war. It's not an excuse and many people told her to leave him but she didn't. He got help for his problem and they healed as a couple.
I had a boyfriend get heavily involved in drugs. Everyone told me to leave him. I didn't. I wanted to save him. Give him a reason to clean up. We fought a lot and I'd walk out but I always went back. My heart and head were afraid he would over dose or get arrested. I'd threaten to leave and he'd try to sober up for a couple days until he got too sick. I showed up at his place and he was unconscious. I called 911 he got help and went to rehab. When he came home he told me he cheated on me 2 times while he was high. I stayed with him. We did wined up breaking up but not for any of those reasons. We just grew apart a year after that.
My point is if I listened to people he may never have gotten clean. I wouldn't have found him he might be dead. I risked putting my heart and my future on the line because I thought with my heart first but my mind new what was best. For me I trust both vital organs. Lol

[M_A_X]

Logic is quite different from just thinking with your head. You have to follow the rules of logic. Take your emotions and run them through the fact checker of logic to see if they hold up.

[Bliss-taylor]

Word games... That is logical thinking. Out of my example, I knew that I could have gotten in trouble by association I knew he was doing a lot of bad that could have hurt me. But I played it as smart as possible in the situation I was in. Because I loved him and care what happens to him, I stayed. So you need to think with both.

[redeyemindtricks]

Nope. Wrong-o.

The more you THINK through decisions, the LESS likely you are to be happy with them.

Here's one of the pioneering studies:
whywereason.com/.../

"The more people thought, the more misleading their thoughts became. Self-analysis resulted in less self-awareness.”

Yr eyes bleeding yet?

Thinking is not conducive to happiness. Really.

Quick! Close yr eyes and imagine a philosopher or "deep" thinker.

...
...

Did you imagine a happy person? Bet not. Probably a melancholy, weight-of-the-world-on-my-shoulders type.

You get me.

The secret to happiness is almost always to think through things LESS, and to follow yr heart/gut.

I swears to ya.

[redeyemindtricks]

Also, this is true even when there's a clear, objectively correct answer.

Another study:
themindlab.co.uk/why-the-subconscious-matters/

Scroll down to the part about "Is our subconscious better at making important decisions?"
Note that they were studying things where one option was objectively THE RIGHT ANSWER... and still, the logical thinkers lost.

Sry logical thinkers.

If you are trying to figure out how to get a plane to fly, or trying to ascertain the boiling point of water at 11 psi, or whatever, THEN logical thinking is all well and jolly. But, for personal decisions? Nope. Big fat nope.

[Stacyzee]

I'm not here to argue my view.
Views are subjective

Following your heart at times and not allowing yourself to think logically can get you into trouble. I see it all of the time in everyday life

[M_A_X]

That's only true because "stupidity is bliss". Not knowing there are problems can make you happier because you aren't worrying... but someday the shit will hit the fan, and if you weren't planning because you didn't know, you're screwed

[redeyemindtricks]

@M_A_X You didn't read the study, did you.

[MarkTwain]

To me the brain is there to understand what the heart feels, neurologically, (through the Autonomic Nervous System) biochemically (through hormones), biophysically (through pressure and sound waves), and energetically (through electromagnetic field interactions). To only makes decision all the time based on our brain would only work if we know what the outcome will be, in this world no one know the future, so by principle logic in not 100% proof either. The question is what messages does the heart sends to the brain and how the brain responds to them because these play a direct and important role in determining our perceptions, thought processes, and emotional experiences. A lot of problem with what you wrote seems to be from the other person,

[brain5000]

In my past, the painful truth of bad relationships was a tiny voice, deep in my heart, buried in all kinds of wishful thinking.

Sometimes our brains can deeply process information and produce a result that isn't easily put into words, but we feel it. I think it is important to listen to that feeling, and to process it logically as you suggest.

Don't ignore your feelings, though. Your feelings sometimes know you better than the logical self you construct.

I am not disagreeing with your Take, just saying that both feelings and logic are important. I think they best work together. Start with the feeling, try to put it into words, process it through your morals and values to get the best result.

[Anonymous]

Making a balance between brains and heart is the Best. Not use the heart all the time but also not use the logic most of the time as well.

There are moments when you have to listen to your heart, but also there are moments where you need to listen to reason.

I mean, you are not going to date someone Who treats you bad, but you are not going to date also someone whom you don't want even though he/she can give you a better style of life.

[M_A_X]

Logic doesn't mean that you cut off your emotions entirely from your decision making. But you must balance your emotions with logic. Don't just let your emotions come out, ask yourself if it's a good idea first

[bluenose1872]

You should always think with your heart. The heart knows more than the head. A good heart can't lead you wrong and a bad one can never keep you right. The heart overflows from the mouth so a person can be judged from what they say. If your hearts pure you'll never put a foot wrong in life. All roads will be flat and even and well lit and no-one will ever do you a bad turn

[Stacyzee]

Views are subjective.
I've listed concrete reasons why I feel it's better to think in logic rather than with your heart.
I've seen those that think with their heart stay in abusive relationships , stay being cheated on , used etc.
Sometimes looking at things in logic can help you see the overall photo rather than being blinded by the feelings that lie in your heart.

[bluenose1872]

You understand the feelings in your heart are your subconscious that never misses anything and is where the real you lies. It only communicates through feelings. It's your entire knowledge and fears, prejudices and preferences, everything. It misses not one little detail in your life. It's like a hard drive on a computer. The ram can only pick up pieces of information at a time to scrutinise. You're heart is your head.

[Stacyzee]

Both hold importance, I agree. However , depending on the circumstances we face sometimes it is best we ignore one (the heart) and listen to the brain (logic) to steer into a better direction. Your brain (knowledge) will not disguise the situation. It will see it for what it is.

[bluenose1872]

Are you kidding. Most women are very aware they're getting abused or wrongly treated. It's their hearts that tell them. Their brain tries to rationalise the situation and that's why they stick in there. Women have got a belief they can change people for the better am their heads keep them in situations they should've run from a long time past. It's called instinct for a reason. It's self preservation. It's all the post modern shit people fill their heads with now that keeps them second guessing themselves all the time. There was days before civilization when people had no education and everything was instinct. They knew fear and love and danger by what their hearts told them.

[Almostoverit]

I didn't realize that the heart has neural pathways that generate thought...
If you mean instant gratification vs. long term investment thought processes, then I think I get what you mean. It's not black and white. You can't say you should think this way, or that way without realizing that a large portion of your decision making process is unconscious and not directly within your control.

[serp777]

Our choice of sexual partners is never determined by logic--having sex with people is actually very illogical. It really only serves for a short term period of pleasure that carries some minor risks. And in the end if you get married and have children it will be quite expesnive.

[Jager66]

rational thought is absolutely required for a happy life but your "heart" is also just as important. The problem is that it's far to easy to over favor 1 vs. the other, it's just human nature. If you want a happy life wisdom is what is required so you can discern properly the correct course of action in your life.

[Stacyzee]

When someone allows themselves to become so wrapped up in a situation that they are no longer able to see, I believe this is where logic and not thinking with the heart comes into play.

From Hindsight of course both the heart and the brain matter.

[Jager66]

I would have to agree with that. I would probably also add that some things can be predetermined with logic before the situations arises, although this won't work with everything. I also think that logic can help direct/dictate to the heart what is important in life and what isn't, at least to some degree.

[ZionOrtov]

I've never thought with my heart, I am practically a cold emotionless robot when it comes to thinking.

But you can influence my decisions as in my que of thought with emotion brought about through my experience derived from my heart but it is filtered through my brain and therefore must be subjected to objective analysis before determining a subjective stance on a composite basis.

[the_rake]

I like this take but you don't generally see things objectively until you can concede that your perspective is subjective. These ideological rationalists who so arrogantly assume their vision of the world to be so logically flawless are too often than not, blind-sighted by their own lack of perspective.

With no heart, there is no axiom. on which to draw a conclusion. No emotion, no logic.

[M_A_X]

This is also a very good post, and you've obviously put some thought into this situation.

[the_rake]

@M_A_X thanks.

ye, I came to the conclusion a long time ago that it is better to accept that humans are essentially irrational. Which is fine because empiricism is always interpreted subjectively - through heart and intuition - before it's subjected to more logical/scientific tests, etc. People should try to get logic and intuition to work together, it's the most 'rational' thing.

[M_A_X]

You are correct, sir. Without logic and being able to notice logical fallacies and fix them, nobody can ever truly be on the same page.

I'd say that most people are irrational because they don't understand that logic is basically "the rules for how to properly think without errors". Even if you still make mistakes, you're a better person for knowing these rules in my opinion

[the_rake]

We're talking past each other a little here. Sure, you want to reduce the scope for errors connecting verbal prepositions between axioms (actually this depends on memory and what we choose to remember has a strong bearing on our priorities in life, i. e. what we emotionally invest in). But the axiom itself is known through intuition, i. e. it is irrational. Hope this makes sense.

[DiegoO]

Your take haves a lot of flaws. Think about it, what can be logic for you can be illogical or wrong for someone else, which means that we can also bee making a mistake if we fallow our "logic". Like everything in life a balance is needed between the use we give to our logic and our heart. I believe both of them can't work well without each other, I also believe that one is more efficient than the other according to each circumstance.

[Stacyzee]

If you read my take im pretty sure we all can agree a abusive relationship where one person cheats is a relationship that is not ok. The view of this relationship would be the same in everyones logic. Wrong is wrong

[Stacyzee]

This is the type of relationship this article is in reference to

[DiegoO]

I read your take before. Logic is not the answer of taking a good decision, why? Because a person who would be the victim in an abusive relationship can logically think that she/he is the one and there will be no other person better than she/he. Assertiveness would be the best response.

[Stacyzee]

To think someone has hope for change because you love them ,. would be thinking with emotions.
What causes you to think they have the ability to change? Your heart.
Logically , that isn't true especially when they have been doing the same repeated actions time and time again

[DiegoO]

You should just read Eric Berne theory. Read about the existential states and you might understand what I am trying to say to you.

[Stacyzee]

I understand your view. However, views are subjective. Im not just typing these words on a screen. I've found with my own personal experience my heart at times dilutes my mindset and gets me Into trouble , even outside relationship circumstances

[CancerianMan81]

no cause what that tells me when you go by logic alone that means you care for what people tell you when you have no emotion that tells me that your a robot when you defy emotion your not only defying other people but your also defying yourself

[CancerianMan81]

nothing good can become of logic if you don't have emotions cause emotions itself is logic one cannot be without the other

[CancerianMan81]

you show me a person with no compassion and I'll show you person that has no heart

[Anonymous]

The heart wants what the heart wants!
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[Soyeah999]

Yeah, I agree with this completely. People always say, 'follow your heart', but when making important decisions you should use your brain.

[micheal727jovanie]

at the end of the day you have to think with your brain because your hearts only purpose is to pump blood.

[justagirl5]

I love it! I'm an emotional thinker so this got me thinking that I should probably think more with my head than my heart

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Amazing mytake. Hopefully I'll make the right decision.

[Mishae]

I'll give me a break here. Thinking with your heart will give you a heart attack. Think with your brain. It's called maturity it's called growing up it's called connecting the prefrontal cortex with the amygdala.

[M_A_X]

This topic makes me very proud to have championed this cause for so long. Thank you for posting it.

[Glue-Sniffer]

Absolutely true. Ask outsiders. They will always have a better pic

[EmiliaRose2355]

Nice... I was kinda needing to read something like this to be honest :)