Why Guys Have The Idea Of "Badboys" All Wrong

[TheGreatValerie]

It seems that guys (usually after the sting of rejection and having to watch the girl they like adoring a total douchebag) have a strong dislike for bad boys. The main reason being that they are obviously imperfect but even through their loud and clear flaws, they get away with it. They still get the girl, they still seem cool and in their life, no matter how much weed they smoke and how much sex they have, they never meet the consequences.

And you good boys, you're just sitting at the edge of your seats waiting for them to get their comeuppance because you feel like "then it will be my turn." You think, if someone can manage to call them on their shit, they will look at you and realize how...how much better you are than them.

Am I right? I mean, all good guys have such wonderful qualities. I won't sit here and say good boys have bad personalities or that they actually don't deserve to get loved, but good boys you have to realize that just because you have basically better qualities as men, you lack the biggest thing that nature has proven time and time again to attract women....dominance.

Any man that passively sits around waiting for someone to see the good in them will likely wait forever. But its not the actual controlling of the woman that attracts us. No, women don't like being told what to do...but we love to follow the leader. Bad boys have the qualities of a leader. Their confidence is what really sets them up on the totem pole. A man with confidence fears nothing. He isn't afraid to be himself, and women love that.

Women love real men, genuine men, because we know that their dominance is not game. They aren't pretending to be the person they are, unlike many good boys. Good boys will refrain from calling a female out of her name, they will try to protect their reputation for fear of disapproval and they will stop at every obstacle instead of using their abilities as a person to get over them, such as being friendzoned. Being friendzoned is basically a red light. Whereas a good boy will stop and wait for the red light to turn green,a bad boy is just going to go. He's going to hunt what he wants, and he's going to get it.

Good boys, don't be offended. I'm in no way saying that you aren't a good quality man. But you have great qualities that women wish the bad boys had instead. What you need to do is not become a bad boy, but become a real man. A free man who doesn't fear being told no and more than anything, considers himself a leader that others will follow, not an entitled follower who no one seems to notice.

[Anonymous]

Typical woman, "If a man is a total asshole and treats people like shit he is "real" but, if a man is altruistic and thinks of anyone but himself, he is being fake." Same load of crap women always come up with in a different package.

WOMEN GET IT THROUGH YOUR THICK HEADS! There are men out there who actually care about others. That is them being themselves! Quit pretending that the "badboys", who by the way, are the ones lying, manipulating, using, and cheating on you, you know, being "fake", are the only ones being "real". They are the ones who are pretending, to get sex from you, then dump your dumbass.

[xcwizit]

Amen!

[ArtDent]

Women are intrinsically self serving and self centered. Therefore they project that narcissism onto men.

The men they are attracted to are narcissistic, therefore they extrapolate that character flaw onto all men.

[circlebill]

Excellent truth sir!

[Anonymous]

That guy in the first picture isn't a bad boy… he's a vain gay man with a bouffant hair do and plucked eye brows. For fuck's sake.

[TayTay21]

LOL seriously. I'm like, what guy aside from an A&F model would walks around with such poofter hair?

[hellionthesage]

No, the issue is women don't understand confidence. The "bad boy" or asshole is not confident, in fact quite the opposite he is lacking in confidence so he becomes detached and overcompensates for his insecurities, he essentially is a fake. Women don't understand that (and to be honest a lot of guys don't either). The issue is that women operate on emotion and are encouraged to do so so these women go after this asshole because he is "confident" only to have the guys insecurites drive her away causing her to be upset that her boyfriend/friends with benefits is an asshole (which he was all along). Now it is true that nice guys should be more assertive (not all of them need be but some) however this is also because of women claiming they want a nice guy, basicly these men are being told to be one way by women the world over, but then those same women go after the exact opposite causing much frustration and eventually bitterness in them. they then become an asshole which imeediatley attracts women who then can't handle him being an asshole and complain they want a nice guy starting the process over again. And I would say yes, women do want to be controled, its why they go after dominant men, its why rape fantasy is the number one sexual fantasy among women and why women will go after guys who generally treat them poorly. The problem is women are no more likely to reflect on themselves as these men and as such continue to make the same mistakes these men make ie conflating confidence with dominance/being an asshole.

[Chief16]

I think its a simple matter of confidence on the side of the 'badboy' and a matter of simple jealousy on the side of the 'good guy'. Dominant is a strong word to use, lady. Bad boys have a care free attitude, while we feel bound to rules and dogma. Its refreshing to see a care free attitude. Perhaps which is why many men and women seem to fall for the 'I don't give a damn' attitude. Please do not mistake this for leadership. Leadership as always been about responsibility, not confidence. Sure yeah, charisma and confidence make you a candidate but if you can't back your talk, you ain't fit to be no leader. I think girls don't get it. Do not mistake 'bad boys' for Real Men, do not get burned and make stereotypes. After all you're the ones who make that choice. Its like that question, a wise man asked a young girl if she preferred, a sturdy stone or a flame. The girl excitedly chose the fire ignoring the traits of the stone, not knowing that the stone made the fire. Ultimately she gets burnt and returns to the wise man and asks for the stone, but the wise man says that he's already given it someone who made it her first choice. Moral of the story? Well, you know.

[KawaiiPie67]

Yep lots of bad boys/girls just put on fronts. I love ur answer.

[Chief16]

@KawaiiPie67 Well, I always give a mini review on a good MyTake.

[Bandit74]

Where is that stone vs fire story from?

[Chief16]

@Bandit74 Aesop's fables.

[Chief16]

@Bamdit74 What? Were you expecting me to say Game Of Thrones?

[Bandit74]

No, I wasn't expecting game of thrones. It just sounded familiar and I couldn't remember where I heard it before.

[Rawrzz]

No. Good boy. Stay. Staaaaay.

There's also the idea you gave, implicitly, that women only like leaders. That might be ideal, but there are different types of women as there are different types of men. Otherwise, followers would never reproduce. Human society is hierarchical. If every man was a leader, we wouldn't get anything done. If you are speaking about something else, I think you used the wrong words for the concept you wished to get across.

And how is smoking weed make a bad boy?

God I hate that word. "Dominance". I'm not looking for a puppy to take care of. I'm looking for a partner. And I'm about as dominant as they come. Pretty much. So I'm not a submissive man who is outraged that women don't desire what I have. I simply dislike the idea of dominance and submission in a relationship. I was taught it was a partnership. Not taking care of a child.

You keep saying "leader," but I don't think you understand what that word means. Along with a bunch of women who use that term.

"a : guide, conductor b (1) : a person who directs a military force or unit (2) : a person who has commanding authority or influence c (1) : the principal officer of a British political party (2) : a party member chosen to manage party activities in a legislative body (3) : such a party member presiding over the whole legislative body when the party constitutes a majority"

I'm assuming you're using it as a person who has commanding authority or influence. If I'm a leader, that means you're a follower. That means I'm in charge, and you do what I say. If I'm a good leader, I accept your input and make my own decision which you must follow. "Leader" is a bad term for your purposes, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

The bottom line is that most younger women are simply not capable of applying adult intelligence to their dating choices! In other words, most younger women wouldn't recognize a good man if she fell over him! The only real difference between the so called "Bad Boy" and "Good Boy" is the element of caring! By definition, "Bad Boys" do not care about others!

In nature, mating attraction instincts cause females to seek male displays of active strength as an indicator of good genes for procreation. The classic Hunter-Warrior-Heroes of ancient times epitomized that primitive masculine ideal! These were the STRONG men who were victorious in mortal combat with enemy warriors or dangerous beasts! Women instinctively sought such men!

Today, women are still instinctively drawn to male strength! Unfortunately, in civilized life, there are very few displays of genuine male strength! Due to the relative absence of other male strength displays, men who ACT LIKE A PUSHY, ARROGANT ASS will automatically be seen by female instincts as strong and attractive! As a result, today's male scum of society are automatically attractive to women BECAUSE they are men who ACT LIKE A PUSHY, ARROGANT ASS!

This is why women were historically denied the right to choose a mate in every culture around the world for thousands of years. Their mating attraction instincts cannot differentiate between good and evil! That's why most women are not capable of actual "thinking" in their love/sex choices! Women need to develop a great deal of maturity in order to override their thoughtless, foolish instincts!

The societal experiment of granting immature females the power to choose mating partners is like giving a razor to a monkey! Can we expect good results? What will our society become?

[Stephen10]

Very well said, and this is the reason women should not have the right to vote. Ever since women have been empowered, society has gone to the dogs.

[Opinion Owner]

@Stephen10 Thank you, good sir! Your comment is very harsh indeed from a political correctness standpoint! But you merely reflect the harshness of TRUE REALITY! If excess political correctness collapses the society, women will be immediately reduced to their TRUE, REAL practical value.

[Bliss-taylor]

I agree for the most part. Not every woman feels that way. Sometimes it's just lack of attraction not the fact that he's a nice guy. When I was younger I wanted someone you described. I wanted someone to take control. Actually when I dated some sweet guys my dad and brother always said he won't be capable of protecting you. Because he was skinnier and overly shy every time around them. My brother and dad are big guys, muscles and a don't fuck with me attitude. When I'd bring someone home that automatically shook their hands in a tight grip and would talk with respect but no worries, they never said anything bad until it was warranted. My husband is a mixture of both. He isn't considered a bad boy anymore. He was when he was in his teens. But he grew out of some of the things that bad boys usually intel. He's a sweet good man that has and always will take care of me and protect me, as my family is so big on. But I do agree a lot of women and especially girls like the bad boys. Someone that takes control. Dominance is sexy. But good guys can't take control once they're comfortable with you. It doesn't make them less of a "man" because they can easily do those things once they have you. But I agree with you on having confidence and a go out and get it attitude. It's a need be especially if they're not getting dates. Because, I was never a shallow person if someone wasn't attractive but they had the confidence and personality to catch my eye it would boost their appeal dramatically.

[Bliss-taylor]

But good guys *CAN* take control once they're comfortable with you. I meant.

[Mekkalyn]

Can someone tell me why this is getting downvoted? I'm sincerely confused.

[Bliss-taylor]

@Mekkalyn yeah lol me too

[Araya]

I dis/agree.

A lot of bad boys seem to be attractive which is what catches many women's interest first hand. The second of course is the confidence that they exhibit when they go after what they want.

The issue comes into play when the women foolishly allow themselves to be with these guys (sexually and more) without trying to figure out if these guys are interested in anything more than pussy sooner than is wise.

If I was a BAD looking well hung dude, I'd be able to pick women up by pretending to be interested in her, using her for sex, and then never looking at her again. A lot of stupid women fall for it, so I wouldn't feel bad (which is why a lot of players DON'T feel bad). Yes, those guys are repulsive but I also blame the woman for being so moronic. (There are PLENTY of women who try to get to know the guy and still get manipulated. It's not her fault in this case).

Those good quality men ARE real men to me. It's just that a lot of them are missing the attractive state or they're not as confident as bad boy players. I wouldn't suggest that they change who they are, but simply use what they have to their advantage.

[AleDeEurope]

I honestly don't know what to say about this, about women, after reading this.
So according to YOU, women are so incompetent that they rather have a guy that hurts her emotionally and who doesn't care about her, just because he can lead her, instead of a guy that takes care of her needs, but isn't so dominant.
I guess I had a better opinion of women than I should have.

And I'm not a good guy nor a bad guy, I think I'm more or less in the middle, cause I don't take shit, I'll never wait for a girl, but if I have her I will treat her how she deserves, but damn, you just insulted the female gender with this Take :/

[Prof_Don]

Um... if a girl friendzones me (as in she doesn't show interest back in me), it's #OnToTheNextOne

But I agree with your article outside of that one part I decided to nitpick. The guys who stand around waiting for "their turn", will NOT get much of anywhere in life.

Reminds me of a conversation I had with my dad when I was a freshman in college. My dad is a very blunt, no-bullshit type of guy. One day I asked him "Daddy why do u have to be so brash and blunt whenever u talk? Do u worry about turning people off?"

He said "Well son, as a man that's the better way to be."

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Wise words. 8-)

[TheBraveLion]

This ^^^ :)

[Prof_Don]

@TheBraveLion thanks for the #CoSign !

[dartmaul15]

TL:DR OP can't separate a douchebag from a genuine confident boy.

But your choice, you'll probably learn th difference eventually. Tends to be when it's a couple cocks, broken hearts, and years too late though.

Seriously. Guys can be confident, assertive, and a natural alpha leader without being a badboy. In fact, the "bad boy" is an act, it's all fake, and it's like that because it works on the foolish girls unable to see past a simple masquerade.

But guess i'm talking to a wall, given the way OP write. So i'm off.

[DBAOracle]

To me it sounded more as a "TL;DR I don't want to mean towards you good guys, but I wish all your qualities were in bad guys instead" And bro, don't even bother with her, she wants to go to bad guys? Let her, who cares? The more girls like her get liberated and just go to bad boys, the easier it is for the good guys to pick in the future. It's honestly super beneficial.

[dartmaul15]

@DBAOracle that's one way to see it. And some girls wonder why they end up hurt XD

[DBAOracle]

Well, no-one to blame but themselves. I tend to believe that women change a lot by the age of 30. If you look around GAG for questions that ask something similar to "What do you like in a guy?" You'll notice girls below 30 answering something similar to this,

"Sweet, loving, caring, loyal, faithful"... etc.

While those above 30,

"Responsible, employed, emotionally stable, kind".. etc.

Check out these 2 questions just for reference, Minus the exceptions, you'll easily notice the sequence between their answers and their ages,

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1423728-what-do-you-look-for-in-a-guy

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1599199-be-completely-honest-what-do-you-look-for-in-a-guy-you-would-like-to

Do you think the girl above 30 doesn't care about the qualities the girl below 30 has mentioned and vice versa? No, they would like a guy with all these qualities but their priorities definitely change.

Where I work, you'll find the nerdiest IT guys you have ever seen. Almost all of them felt left behind and such in their younger days. Currently, all are dating or married. You think suddenly they became confident? Hell no, they just became at the right age..

[dartmaul15]

@DBAOracle to play the devil's advocate; or they just got the washed up party girls who realized they're not hot stuff anymore, and needed to settle down?

Priorities change, we all know that. After 30, stability becomes more important. Because suddenly you want a family. You want security. Nerdy guys give that. They don't need to shake the world, they don't need to "live the life" to the limit.

Humans are strange creatures XD

[DBAOracle]

"After 30, stability becomes more important. Because suddenly you want a family. You want security. Nerdy guys give that. They don't need to shake the world, they don't need to "live the life" to the limit." Exactly!! I've answered a question about this very topic a while ago about women changing their dating preferences. But, when the nerd's market value is high, he has the choice... many unfortunately submit to their reaction of "OMG! A GIRL LIKES ME? SHE LOVES ME? OMG OMG!" and of course that works out best for women; have the most fun when you're young, have the most stability when you're old. While for the typical nerd it's, study hard when you're young, have lots of responsibilities when you're old. It is unfair but, the nerd wasn't forced into the relationship so you can't place blame. Study hard when you're young, don't get married, don't bring kids, enjoy your very decent income and spend it on whatever it is that's fun to you. Partying, random hookups.. etc. Money is powerful.

[dartmaul15]

@DBAOracle TL:DR don't fall for bitches looking for stability. People lie, be sure to know who you marry. If you weren't good enough before, why should you be now? If you didn't change a lick since then, it means you got something she wants.
It's cynical, but everrything in life is a trade.

[Anonymous]

Women haven't a clue what they want.
I used to be a good guy and meant nothing to women. Now I treat them like shit and they love it. What's awsome is that despite what women claim, they will follow their raw instincts. I can easily take advantage of this. The really funny part is women criticize men if they follow instincts instead of acting above them, but it's just fine if a woman just follows her base instincts and goes for bad boys. That's cool. Their instincts bring them to me and I fuck em and forget em. Then it's all boo hoo you are actually a bad boy who dosen't give a fuck and won't stick around to put up with my drama. Yup that's what made you drop your panties and swallow my load in the first place, you wanted a bad boy and got one... now get out so I can call the next woman.

[davidpossey]

lol you sound like a butt hurt white knight turned to a black knight

[HikerDude]

@davidpossey Nah, he's a green knight with red accents LOL. Get the fuck outta here with "black knight"

[genuinlysensitive]

I need to be more like this, the trouble is my core personality, I actually care about other people. Which is why women avoid me like the plague.

[davidpossey]

@genuinlysensitive caring is good over caring tho not so much

[genuinlysensitive]

They seem to be more subjective than most think. What I and everyone I know call caring, women call overcaring, or "doormat" or, "lets just be friends."

[brain5000]

What about nerds? They aren't afraid to be themselves, and they also brashly do whatever they want without regard for the concerns of others. What separates them from "bad boys?"

Also, saying things like "women love 'real men'" without being more specific isn't helpful. Note all of the guys here in the comments looking down their pants and saying "I'm a real man -- verified."

[LovelyComputerVirus]

I don't know I love nerds

[brain5000]

@LovelyComputerVirus Do you like them because you see in them the qualities of bad boys described in this Take, or for different reasons?

[DBAOracle]

@LovelyComputerVirus And I'm a nerd and I love you right back! :*

[LovelyComputerVirus]

@DBAOracle hahah thanks :4

[LovelyComputerVirus]

I like nerds because mostly theyre gentleman and they'll play D&D with me

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

i mean you can do what you want. everyone is entitled to live the life they want to live. with that said, when you go after these "bad boys" and get abused, cheated on, disrespected, whatever negative tag you want to put on, don't say "why are guys assholes?" or "why did he treat me bad?" or "why doesn't he act the same anymore?". while you do want to live out your fantasy of changing a "bad boy", going after sex or whatever else your prerogative may be, you could've bypassed all of that for, you know, the dudes who won't treat you like shit, hit and quit or whatever else. if you know the guy is a dick or whatever and choose to still pursue, you lose all right to complain about the consequences. i know fire is hot. i can't bitch about it hurting if i stick my hand in the fireplace. i knew what i was getting into.

[CancerianMan81]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau men don't change we do whatever we want to do bad or good

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@CancerianMan81 who you tellin? women are the ones who say shit like "i thought i could change him".

[CancerianMan81]

well i know that

[CancerianMan81]

i'm just saying

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@CancerianMan81 lol, i gotcha :D

[CancerianMan81]

you know to be honest these so call women that wants a bad boy really can't stand'em do you want to know why well I use to be these women's so called "Bad boys" and all i have ever know them to be is a bunch of shallow ass women that couldn't make up their mind

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@CancerianMan81 well, duh. i have 4 sisters so i pretty much know how stupid they can be. but for the most part, the dudes they've gone out with/married are pretty cool actually. but even the few that were dicks, i could see a mile away... and not in the literal sense.

[CancerianMan81]

me i'm done with it

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@CancerianMan81 that's good.

[Jayded1]

I don't think you understand the badboy is mostly fake. They lie and manipulate. They are not leaders, they are aggressive. There is a big difference. They usually buckle under stress. True leaders come out in high stress situation, that is usually the good guy you describe. You like the fake alpha, you are fooled.

[Tromba]

I don't know if fake is exactly the right word many are faking it but many are simply inadequate, flawed. They have the desire to be leaders and some of the traits of a leader but no male worth his salt would follow them because they lack the real competence. When a guy comes along who really has the stuff most other men don't resent him the way they do the 'bad boys'. What guys who complain about bad boys are really complaining about is how women can't seem to tell or don't seem to care about the difference.

[aggresor]

"They are not leaders, they are aggressive. "

That is such an great description of some people.

I should have said that to my last 2 bosses who are exactly what you described and they are totally useless.

[TheGreatValerie]

I was aiming more on saying that bad boys appeal partly comes from them seeming genuine. Its self explanatory, a man who does what he wants seems sincere and a man who does what he thinks you want him to do seems like he is only acting a part. And this, I said they were leaders and not followers

[CancerianMan81]

@myTake Owner you can have dominance and not have a "Fake Bad Boy Persona" cause to me their the low class scum of society you want a man that has a GOOD background I know i use to be your so called "Bad Boy" I got tired of you women and your one night stands to me ALL THAT GLITTER'S IS NOT GOLD.

[Rloco]

My main flaw in dating is that I actually care if a girl wants to date me or not. If a girl shows signs that she only wants friendship I take that at face value. That's only because I want someone who wants me back. I know who I am and like myself but that doesn't mean that others are. I've noticed that I'm not a guy girls want to date and I've accepted it. I've focused my life around doing what I enjoy and focusing on what's important. I'm not going to play stupid immature mind games or try to manipulate women back pretending to be something I'm not. I know one day when when these girls become women who want a real relationship I'll meet someone. For know I'll focus on myself watch girls make choices (some good, some bad) and if I meet someone along the way good. People are not things to be dominated I'll let stand on the side lines and let other people fight for their "dominance" while I walk away on my own path focusing on what's important with people I care about.

[TheBraveLion]

100% completely agree with you, you get so many "weak" guys just waiting and complaining like nerds like life is unfair lol. And the guys who cry over being friend zoned, that's their issue... take a grip and stand up for yourself pfft, don't whine like a pussy...

[TheGreatValerie]

Thank you. I think only guys who dont want to go and get what they want would take offence to this kind of thing. Guys who would rather wait around waiting for somebody to like them but they don't Eben like themselves. Imnot promoting bad boy behavior, i'm encouraging confidence

[TheBraveLion]

I know right! it's literally right there for the taking! IF we want something we take it, obviously it won't work in all cases but seriously confidence and assertiveness is all you need, and a clear take on what a guy wants xD The guys who will feel offended have confidence issues, even that's so easy for them to fix imao, just a change of perception and realization that life isn't about waiting lol.

[HikerDude]

What a fucking white knight.

[TheBraveLion]

@HikerDude Butt hurt nerd

[TheBraveLion]

@HikerDude Lol now you're being an idiot, simply it's agreeing with a statement you're too arrogant to realise it, being butt hurt can delude you. If you want to carry on the rant fine, just proves you're a keyboard warrior, backup your facts at least dude.

[ArtDent]

@HikerDude he's a bit like the kid who was born into a rich family but thinks he's worked for his success, isn't he?

[TheBraveLion]

@ArtDent Cheers man xDDD

[TheBraveLion]

@ArtDent That's funny though, I wish I was born into a rich family :9

[ArtDent]

Like I always say, why couldn't I have been born rich instead of good looking?

Cheers mate

[TheBraveLion]

@ArtDent Sad life doesn't grant us the option to be born both eh

Np mate

[ObscuredBeyond]

Rejection to my face, I can handle. Being daggered in the back and made to feel like I'm Jason Bourne on the run, as she then makes off with the bad boy, that makes me angry. What a world this would be if face-value rejection were what all girls did. Instead, they seem to go out of their way to plant a revenge motive in the men they reject. I simply can't understand why some women feel that need. Whom do they think benefits in the long run? And I'm not talking about simply thinking the man she chooses instead is slime. I mean, as in, wanting the whole world to see *her* for the absolute scum that *she* is. At that point, it's no longer about winning her over. That ship has sailed. It's about making sure she will never fool another man the rest of her life. About finding every other man she has made a victim, and uniting their voices until they all stand vindicated against whatever she may have done to ruin them.

A rude bitch is one thing. A treacherous vixen, must be punished.

[Tanuron]

Its funny, one of the few mytakes I wanted to do for a while is about badboys cause I dont think most even know what that is anymore, particularly girls. So many confuse the insecure big babies as a bad boy. But you are correct about some things, like the friendzone I always thought was pretty silly. Im not sure if it really exsist, beside people who make up these things for themselves anyway. In either case yes, you wouldn't want anyone who dosent want you anyway so its just pointless to wait around or pamper someone like a princess. And beside again, is nothing wrong with just being friends with people.

I got no probs with what i consider to be a bad boy anyway, I only got a problem with all these fake ones who even pretend to be one. And naturally the guys who play it easy. Like being mean an cruel to everyone, is like the easiest thing in the world, takes nothing, requires nothing. Which is just weak an pathetic.

[theBanksRunUs]

Don't get me wrong here, I'm not a "White Knight" they suck, but the Bad Boys are generally manipulative and arrogant men in society and all they want is sex, plus their less likely to stay with the girl thus ending up in hurting her feelings as an end result, usually they are also brought up in hostile and disturbing backgrounds and any kids he has will be influenced heavily from his actions. To some extent however the guys who feel "friendzoned" are total wimps and lack emotional confidence/stability finding it hard to move on consequently develop trust issues.

[TheGreatValerie]

That's exactly my point. Guys love to point out what is wrong with "bad boys" and what makes them better, but hate to acknowledge that they have some appeal to them. first of all, nobody is perfect. Even a guy who treats women bad and breaks the law isn't completely evil. He may be misunderstood. the reason I say that good boys aren't misunderstood is because we understand perfectly where they are coming from. Their good, so ymthey should automatically be reimbursed for that. But life doesn't work like that. Being a "bad boy"doesn't put you in one box. Its not that small of a category. People are people. They have flaws and imperfections, but the ones who can manage to be noticed get noticed, even if it means they do so with the less favorable parts of their personality. But bad boys aren't evil, and good boys aren't perfect. Both sides could learn something from each other.

[theBanksRunUs]

Yes you're right that's true, wasn't saying bad boys are evil and any girl who chooses to be with one that's fine :) sometimes in life you've also gotta take risks which is where the bad boys come in which I can see is super hot to girls where the good guys abide by the rules which sucks anyway, life is about fun and doing what you enjoy ;)

[CoolSky01]

And you are correct , Confidence is key not being an ass , i know because i dont think iam a bad boy however i have overflowing confidence sometimes and i am like "fuck it " if i want to do something i do it , if i want to say something i say it with no regards to the girls or their feelings ( i dont try being an asshole and i do have some standards ) , i stopped giving a shit a while ago and its all working , just confidence is enough just be confident and dont care what anyone thinks , if they laugh at me i laugh it off and tell them to shut up or make fun of me , i literally dont give a shit anymore.

[CoolSky01]

make fun of them * being confident to the point of insults not wokring on you ( not because you won't respont but you're so cool people actually dont know how to go about insulting you ) is when you start getting what you want , you gotta approach women otherwise it doesn't work

[HikerDude]

Smart women don't need to have everything about a guy spelled out for them in detail. They can discern for themselves without a guy having to jump up and down and shout out all of his good qualities for her to take notice. Callow and foolish girls like yourself pedestalize 'bad boys' the way ass-sniffing guys pedestalize strippers. Both are equally pathetic for chasing after dysfunction, and both eventually learn the hard way to discern the good from bad in others.