I myself was once a bad guy, but as I mature, I grew away from the bad guy image, but obviously, you can't leave your past behind. So now I'd consider myself a well-balanced guy.
Yeah, but given how you wrote the Take, how you basically didn't say anything positive about the Nice Guy, and how you did say it for the Bad Guy, I figured you either went for the Bad Guys when you were younger, or the Bad Guys still grab your attention more than a Nice Guy, even though in the end you prefer a well-balanced guy.
Well, the "nice guy" obviously has great traits (hence his name). But are they enough to keep most women's interest? I admit the bad guy was appealing to me when I was younger, but they didn't keep my interest for long with he crap that they did. Right now I go for the well-balanced guy. My next option would be the "nice-guy" If I could mold him into having a bit more edge then i would.
Yes, you're a lovely guy but... Kind, sweet, caring but... Friendzone most of the time. Well the girls i've been interested in have put me there, there have been some that have liked me but i've not felt the same way about them
I already know at my age that I would love to meet someone I could spend time with, that I feel comfortable opening up to, someone that I consider a friend. Even though I happen to be very attracted to them. Love shouldn't be something you settle with... :(
I dont think women want a bad boiy per se. I'm a really nice person help other, college blah blah. I have a like for rock music and extreme sports I'm a bit arrogant (or maybe a lot) work out and have a crappy job (for those men who think women like money I work in mcdonalds part time) and I can't complain about my luck with women.
I'm never short on prospects (although I have a dry spree here and there) but I typically get the girl I want (I'm really lucky)
for those guys complaining that bad boys get the girls (I used to be that guy before) advice:
be ambitious even if you dont have much right now, pursue your dream and make it known that you are pursuing it with pride.
work out hard and dedicated
do interesting stuff that you enjoy doing
stop bitching online and just ask the fucking girl out you will either get her or get a lesson both are great. 3 if a girl that you really like friendzones you just drop her completely (unles sshes a long time buddy)
Women don't know what they want and couldn't spot a decent guy when he's right in front of them which is why there are so many single Mother and bastard children in this world.
Yes, women are also responsible for starvation all over the world. Can't the ystart breast feeding all the nice mouths that need nutrients instead of being so lunatic about everything.
Sorry for my delayed response & Thanks for the compliment. Well "The Nice guy" is caring, thoughtful, usually sensitive, and sweet. He is not a risk-taker and often does not take chances in life. He is usually soft-spoken and does not have a back bone. Usually women, are able to walk all over him or take advantage of him (due to his very nice guy personalty). He has a lot of great attributes to offer but is often friend-zoned. This is what separates him the MOST from the "well balanced guy". The "Balanced guy" is those things, but is almost the same as the nice guy except he has a stronger personality. He usually does not allow himself to be walked over. He has an edge to him (he's willing to live outside of his box). He is able to spark an interest in a fair amount of women. His personality isn't so bland that he is usually not considered for dating reasons.
@IamFler "fuck that guy".. ha I wish. wait wot? Oh no yea ofcourse right? I have way bigger guns, hmu in inbox for free gun show. Altho I charge 69/hour usually
i am getting to the balanced guy lol i am a nice guy but i dont take shit from people i also take risks and is exercising my courage i have a purpose and a dream that im focused on and this past year im have been working on myself pretty hard i dont do it to get girls i just do it cuz i wanna be the best version of myself which is my purpose and i have learned that purpose always come first
I think you could even extend that to "the moment anyone places their validation on another person, they're doomed to fail." Validation should come from within, no?
The nice guy although noted that he has great personality traits he is usually perceived as boring which is why he doesn't have much luck with the ladies.
There's a reason why "nice guy finishes last" saying exists unfortunately
Yep but I find it as a good thing more than a bad... Simple because the good girls shortlist themselves.. So I'm cool finishing last I rather care about the well being of the girl I'm with and she cares about me, but the only disadvantage is it grows lonely and tiresome more often than not!
Lol, I'm about to get hate for this but... the bad guy is who you have sex with, the good guy is who you have good conversations with and can trust... the balanced guy is the boyfriend. Most girls choose the balanced guy later in life.
@IronChinnyChin no one said you have to settle for the balanced guy, some girl settle for nice guy or bad boy. And then realize her infatuation has ended, plus a lot of woman marry someone they aren't really attracted to physically or sexually. I think balanced is a better choice and men marry whom they find physically attractive , and I think it ends there so, men ans women need to be more picky in marriage
@IronChinnyChin Yea, well it happens all the time But I think for women anyway looks Wil okay more of a part when choosing a life partner. and for men I think choosing more qualities that isn't physical would be beneficial.
There is no such animal. The traits that make a bad boy bad and a good man good cannot coexist in the same individual. Just stick with the bad boys that tickle your fancy and clean up your own messes.
Except the "nice guy in the picture is very good-looking and likely would have no issue "pulling" chicks no matter what his personality was like (within reason).
So, are you saying real life you have to be good looking in order to succeed with women? That's not entirely true. Good looks only gets you noticed. But if there's no substance in personality , you're not going to build much foundation with any woman
I'm just saying is that when I picture the stereotypical "nice guy" he usually doesn't have model looks and that with a guy like that, having the unsuccessful-with-woman "nice guy" personality is really doesn't matter in his case. And this is all clearly just generalization after generalization that really has no science or credibility behind any of it :)
I was thinking about putting someone more average looking for the "nice guy" but since I put attractive men for every other picture , one would conclude that I am assuming nice guys are unattractive if I posted an average or below average photo. I wanted to play fair.
You're pretty much saying women go after looks and nothing else. As a woman I can say that's not true on my part. I'd take an average looking guy with a great personality over one with hot looks who I had nothing in common with. Eye candy is only great for playing with , but what else after that?
No myTakes havs science behind them, hello the name "my"take I think people fail to realize that they are going to get the a writers views and that is all. However , based on my observations with these "roles" they've been true for the most part.
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I can tell you tend to go more for the bad guys.
I myself was once a bad guy, but as I mature, I grew away from the bad guy image, but obviously, you can't leave your past behind. So now I'd consider myself a well-balanced guy.
In my opinion, this is the type of guy a girl wants:
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Actually, i stated I love myself a well-balanced man, that's what is most appealing of all to me.
Yeah, but given how you wrote the Take, how you basically didn't say anything positive about the Nice Guy, and how you did say it for the Bad Guy, I figured you either went for the Bad Guys when you were younger, or the Bad Guys still grab your attention more than a Nice Guy, even though in the end you prefer a well-balanced guy.
And it's fine, I'm not saying it's wrong.
Well, the "nice guy" obviously has great traits (hence his name). But are they enough to keep most women's interest? I admit the bad guy was appealing to me when I was younger, but they didn't keep my interest for long with he crap that they did.
Right now I go for the well-balanced guy.
My next option would be the "nice-guy" If I could mold him into having a bit more edge then i would.
*the
& by stating that he is polar opposite from the bad guy, one can conclude that he's respectful to women.
@Asker what does "having more edge" mean in your opinion?
Im a nice guy, and im not changing for anyone. No one should have to pretend to be someone else, that applies to women as well as men.
You're right just be who you are. Nice guys are great but often overlooked. Has this been your experience ,
Yes, you're a lovely guy but...
Kind, sweet, caring but...
Friendzone most of the time. Well the girls i've been interested in have put me there, there have been some that have liked me but i've not felt the same way about them
I already know at my age that I would love to meet someone I could spend time with, that I feel comfortable opening up to, someone that I consider a friend. Even though I happen to be very attracted to them. Love shouldn't be something you settle with... :(
I want
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My own Johnny Cash (without the fame).
I dont think women want a bad boiy per se. I'm a really nice person help other, college blah blah. I have a like for rock music and extreme sports I'm a bit arrogant (or maybe a lot) work out and have a crappy job (for those men who think women like money I work in mcdonalds part time) and I can't complain about my luck with women.
I'm never short on prospects (although I have a dry spree here and there) but I typically get the girl I want (I'm really lucky)
for those guys complaining that bad boys get the girls (I used to be that guy before) advice:
be ambitious even if you dont have much right now, pursue your dream and make it known that you are pursuing it with pride.
work out hard and dedicated
do interesting stuff that you enjoy doing
stop bitching online and just ask the fucking girl out you will either get her or get a lesson both are great. 3 if a girl that you really like friendzones you just drop her completely (unles sshes a long time buddy)
Women don't know what they want and couldn't spot a decent guy when he's right in front of them which is why there are so many single Mother and bastard children in this world.
Yes, women are also responsible for starvation all over the world. Can't the ystart breast feeding all the nice mouths that need nutrients instead of being so lunatic about everything.
@Sponsachtige Can I have that in English please?
Excellent Take. I am not sure whether I am the Nice Guy or the Balanced Guy. Would you discuss the difference between the two in more detail please?
Sorry for my delayed response & Thanks for the compliment.
Well "The Nice guy" is caring, thoughtful, usually sensitive, and sweet. He is not a risk-taker and often does not take chances in life. He is usually soft-spoken and does not have a back bone. Usually women, are able to walk all over him or take advantage of him (due to his very nice guy personalty). He has a lot of great attributes to offer but is often friend-zoned. This is what separates him the MOST from the "well balanced guy".
The "Balanced guy" is those things, but is almost the same as the nice guy except he has a stronger personality. He usually does not allow himself to be walked over. He has an edge to him (he's willing to live outside of his box). He is able to spark an interest in a fair amount of women. His personality isn't so bland that he is usually not considered for dating reasons.
I want that dude in first pic, holy shit bro is huge. Wonder what his penor look like..
#nohomoofcourse
Are you serious? haha
I mean Dude is huge.. js. #nohomo
You are funny haha :)
@IamFler I am jacked too just not as much,
OP do you know his name? NASA wants it..#nohomo
I wish I knew :D
@IamFler if I am the girl OP is talking about in question, I'd rather just choose first pic without even looking much. Js #nohomer
To be honest I think your shoulders are even bigger than his)
@IamFler I mean... I actually have bigger guns too, light is just hidin em a little bit.. js
Then fuck that guy we have our own star)
@IamFler "fuck that guy".. ha I wish. wait wot? Oh no yea ofcourse right? I have way bigger guns, hmu in inbox for free gun show. Altho I charge 69/hour usually
Tyler she says your shoulders are bigger LOL she wants your nuts bro.. BRB going in for the kill..
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Lmaoooo @tony72722 @IamFler how about his tall jacked athletic bod? ^
@polocrew just wrote your comment, bahaha :D
@tony72722 ) too many jacked guys for Polocrew he won't fall asleep :D
i am getting to the balanced guy lol i am a nice guy but i dont take shit from people i also take risks and is exercising my courage i have a purpose and a dream that im focused on and this past year im have been working on myself pretty hard i dont do it to get girls i just do it cuz i wanna be the best version of myself which is my purpose and i have learned that purpose always come first
I describe myself as the type that's sworn off dating or pursuing girls in their early twenties.
Since then i have two degrees, a stable job, every single benefit ranging from medical to a 401k.
Yeah life couldn't be better.
The moment anyone places their validation on the opposite gender, they're doomed to fail.
I think you could even extend that to "the moment anyone places their validation on another person, they're doomed to fail." Validation should come from within, no?
@9mfeo
True, to both remarks you made
A guy can be nice and quite exciting, as well as interestingly spontaneous I know I am.
Again nice take.👍👍
Thanks ! that sounds like the well balanced guy go me.
*to me
The nice guy although noted that he has great personality traits he is usually perceived as boring which is why he doesn't have much luck with the ladies.
There's a reason why "nice guy finishes last" saying exists unfortunately
Yep but I find it as a good thing more than a bad... Simple because the good girls shortlist themselves.. So I'm cool finishing last I rather care about the well being of the girl I'm with and she cares about me, but the only disadvantage is it grows lonely and tiresome more often than not!
Lol, I'm about to get hate for this but... the bad guy is who you have sex with, the good guy is who you have good conversations with and can trust... the balanced guy is the boyfriend. Most girls choose the balanced guy later in life.
The way you put it, I feel like I have been all three of the guys at some point in my life. Am I bi-tri Polar?
That works for most men and women, they get old and settle which is why the divorce rate is so high.
@IronChinnyChin no one said you have to settle for the balanced guy, some girl settle for nice guy or bad boy. And then realize her infatuation has ended, plus a lot of woman marry someone they aren't really attracted to physically or sexually. I think balanced is a better choice and men marry whom they find physically attractive , and I think it ends there so, men ans women need to be more picky in marriage
The whole settling thing is just wrong. People who settle for each other are cunts and should fuck off and choke on a badger's cock.
@IronChinnyChin Yea, well it happens all the time But I think for women anyway looks Wil okay more of a part when choosing a life partner. and for men I think choosing more qualities that isn't physical would be beneficial.
I don't want to settle, I want to be a bachelor forever and ever.
"The "bad guy" is very likeable in the fact that, he possesses character traits that are amazing! Some of which may allow one to be blind sighted"
>> But you haven't mentioned what those precise amazing character traits are.
"Mr. Bad guy" is usually great in bed.
>>>What makes him so great in bed, simply psychological effect that girls are with a bad boy?
by the way how does bad boy dominate/intimidate others? Simply that he is physically stronger and other guys are intimidated?
I'm the nice guy who's working on getting a balance.
Life is all about shaping and molding ourselves. We are all a work in progress.
Thanks for the support.
Well balanced for sure! Where are all of you guys hiding? Lol
There is no such animal. The traits that make a bad boy bad and a good man good cannot coexist in the same individual. Just stick with the bad boys that tickle your fancy and clean up your own messes.
Hm. I'm not well balanced. I'm not the bad guy, anymore. Not the nice guy. I guess I exist in a sort of parallel dimensional purgatory.
Ahh, you're not balanced! You're tipping over.
You're just trying to be different.
@Stacyzee Possibly. Possibly.
@skyrunner2000 How am I trying to be different?
Except the "nice guy in the picture is very good-looking and likely would have no issue "pulling" chicks no matter what his personality was like (within reason).
So, are you saying real life you have to be good looking in order to succeed with women? That's not entirely true. Good looks only gets you noticed. But if there's no substance in personality , you're not going to build much foundation with any woman
I'm just saying is that when I picture the stereotypical "nice guy" he usually doesn't have model looks and that with a guy like that, having the unsuccessful-with-woman "nice guy" personality is really doesn't matter in his case. And this is all clearly just generalization after generalization that really has no science or credibility behind any of it :)
I was thinking about putting someone more average looking for the "nice guy" but since I put attractive men for every other picture , one would conclude that I am assuming nice guys are unattractive if I posted an average or below average photo.
I wanted to play fair.
You're pretty much saying women go after looks and nothing else. As a woman I can say that's not true on my part. I'd take an average looking guy with a great personality over one with hot looks who I had nothing in common with. Eye candy is only great for playing with , but what else after that?
No myTakes havs science behind them, hello the name "my"take I think people fail to realize that they are going to get the a writers views and that is all. However , based on my observations with these "roles" they've been true for the most part.
Yeah it's all experienced and perception based.
Life in general is.
Views are subjective.
Indeed.
So basically the cliche is true.
Women want a bad boy who is good just for her and men want a good girl who is bad just for him.
That's so true 👌
I want the well balanced guy, like every other girl.
Any guy who doesn't agree with the well-balanced man and the conclusion deserves to die alone. Seriously, fuck you.
"Men, what kind of a guy would you describe yourself as?"
A guy.