Shy Guys And The Shy Complex (Page 6)

[friendlyguy]

I won't risk 10 rejections for 1 girl . It has to be the other way round for me - else I am happy being single . Girls should ask a shy guy because girls possess 6th sense / higher intuition levels than the male counterpart . A girl knows 90% of the times what is going in a guy's mind , so she is at a lower risk to face rejection.

[mike5150]

I have made efforts in the past to ask women out and for my efforts I have gotten called names, laughed at and assaulted by 3 guys. I am just going to wait till a girl makes the firs tmove and yes that has happend to me before (didnt end well though). I will continue to wait how long it takes and if it doesn't happen well I suppose I will just die alone.

[pavlove]

Why should guys have to do all the work that's the problem men try to PLEASE women and that's effed up. Be awesome. That is all a guy needs to worry about and shy can be awesome if you know how to use it. You want everyone to be and act the same, but you probably have your own issues for writing this article attempting to marginalize shyer-type guys. Other men need to stop giving a damn what women think. Simply by asking what you can do to be more impressive to a woman you've already lost.

[Lockjawx27]

WeaponZero is right on point. TripletTia is a complete and utter hypocrite...this is a classic example of "do as I say but not as I do"

Lol, its amusing and infuriating at the same time. On one hand, she tells guys that they need to "grow some balls"

But, when she is asked why she won't do the same, its some excuse. Pure hypocrisy. This article is filled with sexism and condescending tones...just awful.

TripletTia you truly should be ashamed of yourself, you selfish bi***

[bellybuttonlint]

Although I'm not saying some of the things in here aren't good advice, but it seems so one-sided like men have to do all the work and women just sit back. And yes, I have asked women out and vice versa. I don't consider it desperate if a girl asks a guy out. I consider it bold. But the girls I've asked out turned out to be real divas.

In the end though, if a girl likes a guy I don't see why she can't ask him out and quit falling into that "damsel in distress" stereotype.

[bellybuttonlint]

Not saying you're wrong, but I agree with some of the guys, this article has a feeling of "I understand, but too bad."

Now have I asked out? Yes, I've gotten rejected and accepted. It hurts to be rejected. This article sounds more chivalrous than anything else. I would agree with you if this was the 1940's, when women were just housewives and nothing more. But today's women are more independent and more and more women are starting to do the asking, even if you feel otherwise.

[eidahl]

Meh. Maybe it wasn't your purpose, but now I just feel like I should stop trying.. just stop trying to force myself to be someone I am likely not.. I'll just go back to being a workaholic and forget about it. .......... Uh, well, at least that's what I originally wanted to post. After reading through the comments, getting out of my brief period of stupidity, and letting your article sink in .. uhm, could I maybe message you sometime about this / for help? I feel like you just clarified

[BobMonster]

You talk like being a shy was some kind of a choice, it is not - we are shy because of barriers that are deeper inside us than some concious thought that would be removed by so banal solution. I get your point - society is not gonna change for anybody, but confidence is not something achieved so easly that one can wake up and say "I am confident from now on"; it's really hard being confident if you have experiences in live that convinced you that you are not really worth someone else's time.

[dirtmcgirt2004]

When I first read the article, I thought it was decent. A little one-sided and unfair yes, but well written.

And then I scrolled down to the comments section and wished I hadn't. Author, you need a serious ego check and the ability to accept constructive criticism. Also, you seem like an entitled bitch.

[Warlock]

"It sucks for guys, but that's how it is."!?WTF?! This screams into my sensitive ear loud and clear that you are feeding the stupid, old , wicked and rotten social stereotypes and you are fond of this situation (not only deem it acceptable). Pretty wicked on your part.This strengthens my idea of never approaching a woman a thousandfold. Pasf relationships brought me nothing but grief, pain and sorrow. So I choose to shield my feelings and I'm better of cold and immortal like the Lightbearer!

[ikarus]

***Don't let yourself miss out on love because you're afraid and 'shy'. You'll always wonder 'what if?' and life is just too short. You never know if today could be your last day, so regardless of what sex you are, take a chance.

[Enchanted_x3]

Jacksparrow55- There wouldn't be a 'shy' gender if guys would suck it up. Rejection is a part of life, you can face it at any time for any reason. If you're not willing to accept that, then I guess you can expect to live alone.

[solidranger]

How incredibly one sided. No suggestion that both sexes meet in the middle, it's all the shy guy's fault.

Women COULD make it easier on us guys, but no. You're too set in your ways, so you force us to be the ones doing all the changing.

[SetsunaYuy4]

Thanks for the advice...I've never been confident in myself and there's this girl at work I like but I never could get myself to have a conversation with her. I will work on this..Thank you very VERY MUCH!

[icepick]

This is a complete joke. Guys just have to hold out. Every girl I've had has approached me. Women just don't want to put their confidence and personality on the line that's all

[Hades]

"It sucks for guys, but that's how it is." = This article in a nutshell.

[harajukubarbie101]

OMG!! That was the best article for Males ever read.. haha.. That was great..Guys could really learn from you Mr.!

[floralchild]

I recently served (I'm a waitress) a couple where the girl was 10x more attractive than the guy, okay maybe just 5x. But he was a really delightful bubbly person. I think a lot of girls aren't too shallow, personality can REALLY win a girl over (my personal experience too). So get out there shy guys who might think you're not good enough. Personally I'd prefer the guys to make the first move because I have no balls XD But I do admire the girls who are able to make the first move.

[Enchanted_x3]

Germanotaku - I believe I listed a lot of tips on how to help guys break out of their shells and overcome their shyness. But it's whatever, you think what you want and I'll do the same.

[Enchanted_x3]

Lunchbox22 - I'm glad you took away some good advice from this article that is practical and can help you out. Best of luck with the ladies. :) Thanks for your input.