Recently I wrote a take about why I find teenage boys immature. You can check it out here if you like.
As promised, this is my female counterpart to the original take. Some of these points are similar/the same, and some of them are different.
I apologise in advance to the mature teenage girls, I know you aren’t all like this. This is based on my opinion and experiences, and if you have a different opinion, that's cool too, but there's no need to be rude about it.
But before I get into it, I want to make a few things clear. (This is mostly in response to my previous take, you can skip over this part if you’d like).
* I never said anywhere, and wasn’t intending to imply, that teenage girls are better than teenage boys, because we are just as bad as each other. It’s not a war or a competition about which sex is worse off or better than one another, because that’s a battle that will never be won.
* I also learnt that a lot of people don’t like to hear things about maturity from people under 18. I understand where you’re coming from, but this is just my perspective. This is the way I see things now, as a teenager myself, and it’s based off of my experiences.
* I never exempted myself from the take either, I can be immature and I am not afraid to admit it. And this is something I’m hoping to prove in this take, it’s not like I’m sitting here on my high horse saying that I’m the exception, because I’m not!
Okay, now that that’s out of the way, let’s get right into this.
“Knowing when to joke and when to be serious is a sign of maturity, in my opinion."*
They’re Materialistic
It's all about the clothes, the shoes, the phone, even the bloody purse (yes, Mimco has some nice stuff, but the hype is so not worth it). Do I need to say any more?
(Wanted to include a photo of Aussie banknotes, because they're much prettier to look at).
Temper Tantrums
Some of you really need to regulate and keep your emotions in check better! I've seen too many girls go on nasty, vicious rants, blinded by anger, and regret it afterwards. You also need to learn to distinguish the difference between making decisions based on character rather than emotion.
Can't Hold Strong Relationships
If you can’t be friendly or at the very least, civil/polite with each other, what makes you think girls want to be your friends? ‘Tall poppy syndrome’ seems to be extremely common among teenage girls as well, which is for those that don’t know, a culture where people are resented, attacked, cut down or criticised simply because they have been classified as better than their peers. Before you even consider worrying about dating, these girls need to get their behaviour with their own gender right.
(not to say it's just in Australia, because it isn't, but I liked this image).
Lacks Humility and Gratitude
No one likes arrogant and rude people, period.
Mind Games
Teenage girls are the experts at playing mind games. I’m talking about those games where they’ll flirt excessively with other guys just to make you jealous, ignore you, or just flat out insult you. SO MANY mind games I can't even begin to describe them all.
Believes the World Revolves Around Them
We’re teenagers, and regardless of what we say, we do sometimes tend to think the world revolves around us. It’s a common habit of thinking, yes, I get caught doing this too, but there’s no justification for acting consistently acting selfish and entitled.
Sense of Entitlement or ‘Princess Mentality’
This is so, so, so common in teenage girls, and going to a private school, I deal with this a lot.
I have one friend who complains about ‘having to learn to drive’ in her $11,000 first car, and complains that her mother doesn’t give her enough spending money, (on average, around $250/month) when she herself doesn’t have a job.
I used to act very entitled myself, (particularly around the 15 age mark), but I noticed this shift as I became more aware of it, especially when I got a job, and had a positive change in mindset towards becoming more financially independent. I try extremely hard to look on the bright side and show gratitude for what I do have, even if it doesn’t always come easily.
It’s all about Physical Attributes
*Some* teenage girls have seriously high expectations with looks, for example, I have heard the line uttered 'no abs, you’re out' many times. Oh, you’re a ‘nice guy’? Yeah, if you don’t look good that doesn’t mean shit. One thing I’ve also noticed among some of my peers is that depending on the guy, they’re willing to overlook pretty much any personality flaw/s, whether it be large or small, for an attractive or charming guy. And you know what, you can appreciate cute guys and their looks, sure (I do too), but move on, and don’t be obsessive about it, it’s shallow to like someone for their looks and looks alone.
We're all human, and we don't get everything right 100% of the time, and I don't expect you to, but the most important thing is that you're making an effort.
I am not exempting myself from all of these behaviours either, I’m writing this from my experience, and I have been caught doing many of these things before, and still struggle with some of these things.
Sorry again to the super chill teenage girls I've met on G@G, I know you're not all bad :)
*Thanks to @AleDeEurope for the quote at the beginning :)
And also thanks to @Unit1 for prompting some of the points I made in my take.
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