If You Show Interest in Someone, Good Luck Keeping Them

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This is only a mytake because I dont know if there really is an answer to this, just wondering if anyone else ever thinks about this. And its only in women's behavior because I've only dated women...

so...

Seems like the only guys I know who actually keep girls around are the ones who couldn't care the least whether they actually stay around or not. I'm one who always shows too much interest and then messes everything up, at least this is what I've gathered.

I know this can go both ways, and I really didn't write this to blame women for anything. But it does seem like women talk a lot about meeting some one who likes spending time with them and not just 'hangin with the boys'. Well when I meet someone I've decided I liked, I do enjoy hanging out with them whenever I can, not because I feel obligated to, but because I WANT to. But then this messes it all up somehow, and its always my fault, of course.

And so no one says "you're probably smothering them", the most recent time this happened:

Went on a first date and then she came over one night, went great, made plans for another date, she got sick, a few days go by, tried to reschedule, didn't make solid plans but said she was open, few more days go by, sent her a text of a few sentences to tell her that I was still interested whenever she felt better because I liked her and was still open to make plans if she really was that sick, with barely any phone exchange in between that...

...then saw her at her job a few days later only for her to then text me afterward saying that she never responded last time because I seemed clingy for saying I enjoyed her enough to see her again.

(which by the way, she works at the post office on campus in the student rec building. AND her apartment complex is directly across the street from mine, so its not like we couldnt have seen each other and talked in person whenever either of us wanted to).

If You Show Interest in Someone, Good Luck Keeping Them

Anyways, whenever I'm lucky enough to be into someone who's actually into me too, I'm usually ecstatic about it, and couldn't give a fuck less how much they want to hang out, or text me whenever as long as its not something like just saying "hey" a million times in a row; at least while everything is still fresh and new.

I just don't get it. I've been told I just have bad luck with this, but thats not it. It's me. I show too much interest and that's just not cool anymore. It's sad because I don't even know how to not do this, thereby messing up a ton of opportunities without knowing if anything could've even worked out.

No wonder our parents think we're the worst generation on earth so far. Maybe I'm not the only person on the planet who thinks this is ridiculous.

If You Show Interest in Someone, Good Luck Keeping Them
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