When I was young, I was appreciated by many people, even if there was the occasional bully. I had many close friends; had, being the key-word. Throughout elementary, so much friendship drama had occurred that I actually grew up lacking trust in people; especially my friends. It's my 11th year of grade school, and though I have friends, I only have one close friend. One best friend. Although we've done each other wrong or had serious conflicts, our friendship has stayed locked together for more than 10 years. It gets the point I feel like she's my sister. She's heard me cry when I've been hurt by guys, and she's been there to congratulate my achievements. I'm there for her when she wants to talk about this cute guy she knows; who is now her boyfriend. I'm also there when she has nothing else to do than to rant to me, listen to music and play video games.
But I don't want to steer away from the topic I am trying to address, which is independence. I'm very grateful that I had friendship problems when I was younger because that's how I learned to have fun on my own and love being by myself. It helped me learn to not change for people. It may seem confusing, but it's actually quite simple. My best friend likes video games, k-pop, anime, art, and dancing and singing. I like art and singing but other than that, it's like we are total opposites. I like badminton, skateboarding, baking, video-editing, art, music, journaling, etc. I would never want to change anything about me. Why? Because I'm independent. I am my own person. I have friends, but I can be just as happy hanging out by myself.
Call me a loner, but independence is important. I have this one friend that used to make me walk to the bathroom with her and just wait for her while she did her business. #AwkwardAf It's not my job to walk people everywhere; especially when I'm busy. I never understood why so many girls would do that and fear that people would see them not with their friends. Ask any guy and I'm almost certain that independent chicks are way more attractive than girls who need to be glued to their friends.
Maybe I might be biased in my thinking, who knows. But I've also had many friends and many people ditch me (even though I didn't do anything extremely wrong) because they don't know me, and think I'm uninteresting and boring. And I am to blame as well. Why? Because I don't give them a chance to know the real me I guess. I'm not a fan of being in gigantic friend groups. I don't go partying and drinking every weekend or talk about memes. I'm different. And the funny thing is, I'm okay with that. I actually love that about myself. I'll find friends who appreciate me. But more importantly, I accept, and love who I am. I have friends that just drifted away from me and started treating me like more of an outsider than as their friend. But that doesn't even matter to me anymore when I know that I didn't do anything to offend them or hurt them; I never gave them a reason to hate me.
For my readers, I just want you to remember that having friends is important. But I mean close, trustworthy friends; not people who are just there for a quick laugh. It's dictated by the quality and not quantity. But even then, you should be able to be independent and not have to rely on them to walk you to the bathroom because you don't want to be seen alone; just saying. Lol, take this MyTake as you want, but I hope my message is clear :) Thank you for your time and patience to read my MyTake - Sherry
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