If "Nice Guys" Exist, Do "Mean Guys" Exist Too? Why is This Paradoxical Phrase So Popular?

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There's a very common concept among the dating world known as the "nice guy." This is the guy who seems nice and friendly up front, but in the end, just wants sex, or has some ulterior motive. But I must ask, then WHY are they associated with the word "nice" at all? They have an ulterior, selfish motive it seems, so therefore, why aren't they just called "fake" or just plain asshole? Why should "nice" be associated with them at all? Doesn't that then make the word "nice" or "friendly" more toxic? Also, it applies to guys, but I NEVER hear women be called "nice." They are either nice or they're a bitch. Way more bluntly up front. And why is there such thing as "nice guys" but NO such phrase as "mean guys"? Nobody calls a guy who is mean up front, but nice on the inside a "mean guy," so why is it ok the other way around and so popular?

Ah hypocrisy. The horrid smell of it everywhere.
Ah hypocrisy. The horrid smell of it everywhere.

DO women want friendly, honest, nice guys, or not?

Perhaps, most women don't nice guys at all. Perhaps they do in fact want mean guys. The excuse we often hear is that they are at least up front and bluntly honest, more so than "nice guys," but this is hypocrisy then, as most women who seem to go for these mean guys ALSO would say they want somebody friendly and respectful. They aren't honest then about that. They are LIARS. They are HYPOCRITES. They apply a standard to others they can't apply to themselves. They obviously do NOT want somebody friendly and respectful, but they have to make excuses so they look better. And JUST for writing this, most people won't even bother with half of it before assuming I am just a bitter, angry "nice guy" myself, but I pose the question, what if I was a woman writing this? Would I get praise? Especially if I had a picture of myself before all this? This is not to say women are all to blame for this either.

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What about men though?

Men are at full fault too. They are OK with this paradox and bow before it because they want to do ANYTHING to impress women. People can call me a loser for this. Or whatever. It's meaningless to me to deal with people that are sheep. The one who stands against the crowd is ALWAYS going to be bashed. Some of the smartest people of all time were among the most bashed, ignored, bullied, etc. Look at em now though. So instead of writing stupid condescending comments like I expect from people here, maybe think about this a bit before you type. I wonder if anyone will actually even see this, or more likely, GAG will put "How do I look" BS pages before this. I challenge women here to actually understand this more than most men who will see this. But alas, I doubt it. Maybe I can be proved wrong. Call this "sexist" all ya want too. But keep lying to yourself, as I 100% but blame on men too, so that's not possible. There's good reason I don't listen to the bullshit music out there that many of these hypocrites listen to. Hell no. Hopsin is my tune for this. I will never stop posting Hopsin videos. He speaks TRUTH, but let's see who's brave enough to listen and who would rather just hear a word or two repeated 20 times with a few beats and call it good music.

If "Nice Guys" Exist, Do "Mean Guys" Exist Too? Why is This Paradoxical Phrase So Popular?
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