So, I saw this question:
Firstly, loving the picture considering I was a huge fan of Girl Meets World and without Boy Meets World, we wouldn't have had Girl Meets World😂👌🏾💁🏾♀️🌍
Secondly the responses I saw on that question😂😂😂
For real, they got me thinking:
And then I remembered this is G@G😂😂
Before I begin, I saw a lot of people were indifferent and cool with it- so shoutout to them you know who are👉🏾😂👉🏾
And secondly, I'm gonna start firing back at those opinions but first for those of you who don't read what I write or don't know me I'll give you a little bit of background on myself:
So throughout primary school and secondary school most of my friends were girls, and I had a few friends who were dudes. But I recently started college, and at college most of friends are dudes. Now that just happened. I didn't plan it to be like that or anything, I don't sit there on planning how I'll make friends😂😂I have friends who are girls at college too, but most of my friends are dudes and I'm friends with people I'm friends with at college because they're cool people- it's that simple.
Anyways now time to respond to some of those opinions, wish me luck😂😂:
#1 Ones saying it's a "Red Flag"
Let me guess why y'all are saying that. Because she might cheat if you dare to get with her? Or some other BS reason similar to that?
Maybe she doesn't make friends with people based on their gender, but based their characteristics. Oh yeah, how dare she choose not to be friends with a certain number of people because even though they're pretty cool, they happen to be a different gender.
#2 "Desperate incels"
Well not in my case anyway. One of them is dating one of my friends and they've been pretty solid for about a year maybe a little more now, I don't know- I don't keep a calendar😂
The others don't have girlfriends and similar to me at this moment in time, I don't think they're interested in dating or relationships yet.
And trust me, if they were incels, the minute I found that out- our friendship would be over😂
#3 "Likes dick and wants options", "options for casual sex "
So yes, I'm straight. But I don't "want options" or "casual sex". I'm the type of person, who would rather wait until marriage and just, do THAT with one person who commits to me and who I am also committed to.
I think opinions like those are a way of indirectly slut-shaming.
"Oh she's friends with a bunch of guys, that means she must want to fuck them all."
No, I'm sorry not sorry, I am not really interested in any of them like that- I haven't even thought about any of them like that... I mean, come on they're friends, that would be weird af.
Just because a girl is friends with a bunch of guys, or a guy is friends with a bunch of girls- it doesn't mean the main objective of the friendship is sex.
#4 "They don't trust other women."
No, I still have friends who are girls. I wouldn't not trust somebody because they're a girl I'd not trust somebody because of their actions whether they be a dude or a girl.
I'm friends with the dudes I'm friends with, because they're cool people, and we have stuff in common- not because I don't trust other girls. And I'm friends with girls for the same reason.
So I'm not a flirt.
Dude, I don't have the effort to flirt with anyone, mainly because I don't want a relationship, but even if I did I'm not really one to walk up to some dude and start flirting with him.
#6 "It means the topics she likes are more masculine. which means it's a lot easier to get on with her as a man. since I have no self-confidence issues, I'd rather consider it a positive thing."
Topics she likes are more masculine? Well personally, I find the whole concept of "masculine" and "feminine" a little stupid. Things are things. Either gender can like them, they don't need labels. It's just a more grown up way of saying: "This is for boys, that is for girls."
But society choose to label them so here we are, and yes, in a number of instances I've seen girls who typically hang with more dudes are interested in more things which society considers to be "masculine".
Personally, given what society says is masuline and feminine- I wouldn't really consider myself to have "masculine" interests. I don't like watching or playing sports, I don't like playing rough, a number of video games (i.e. fortnite) are not for me, and I could go on. I wouldn't really consider my interests to be "masculine" or "feminine". They're just my "things" I guess.
And I don't think me being friends with dudes would make me easier to "get with" I'd just straight up say "no" to anyone who asked me out.
What I can completely agree with this person on, is they have no self confidence issues because honestly man, it looks like you don't and you're just really chill with a girl hanging with whoever she wants to hang with.
#7 "Other girls can't stand them"
Not true. I've known girls who hang around with mostly dudes, and I think they're pretty good people. I can stand them. ;)
And with me, I have friends who are girls, and I don't have no drama with anyone at college. Other girls who I'm not really friends with but I just know from my classes are pretty nice to me- I don't really think they care, which gender I hangout with more. It's the 21st century, just saying.
#8 "Doesn't get along with girls and their typical group behavior"
I get what this dude means by "typical" behaviour, but honestly, every girl I'm friends with doesn't have that "typical-ness" about them. I get along with plenty of girls, because they're nice people, just like I get along with dudes.
#9 "She wants them to want her"
No, no, no. No. I'm sorry not sorry but no. Nah. Not a chance. Haha, no. How many more ways can I say "no" lol?
What I want, is them to continue being my friends, without any awkwardness or intention to get with me. Especially the one dating my friend. If I found out he somehow liked me, I'd slap him and ask him "what about your girlfriend?"
#10 "Something is wrong with her. Why other girls don't want her?"
There is nothing wrong with me, or any girl I know who hangs out with mostly dudes.
And I'm friends with lots of other girls, they just happen to go to a different college so I don't hangout with them as often as I do with my friends at college.
I choose to hangout with who I hangout with, it's not like:
Me: *Goes to hangout with a bunch of girls*
The girls: "Ew, there is something wrong with you. We don't want you."
Me: "K, lol, bye bruhs. I'm out, see you on the 31st February.😉"
Me: *goes to hang with a bunch of guys.*
The guys: "You are normal we accept you."
That's not how it works😂😂You make friends and you happen to hangout with them sometimes, and other times, (or at least in my case) you sit in a corner and be alone because you like your alone time😂😂
#11 "You’re just an attention seeking whore with daddy issues." "She thinks it’s a personality trait."
Where do I even begin with this one? Lol. I don't have any daddy-issues because I don't wanna date yet😂😂And as for attention seeking? Yeah, if the attention is on me, them I'm out😂😂I don't like attention, it's awkward. I just wanna go about my day, peacefully. Attention isn't peaceful, it's stressful lol😂.
I don't really consider it to be a personality trait either, nor have I met any girls that do. I mean sure, sometimes I complain about it to my best friend, because I can't complain to my friends at college about certain things😂😂So really I'm complaining to her about not being able to complain😂😂
Any last words?
A lot of these opinions were just straight up generalising. And if there's one thing I cannot stand it's generalising.
And I know not all girls who hang with mostly guys will be the same as me, but I'm speaking from my perspective.
I hope you enjoyed this myTake and...
Thank you for reading :) <3
PS: This got featured, so thanks for that! But the image G@G chose to put for this😂😂It lowkey makes me cringe because- I don't know, I just don't think it suits the whole vibe of the MyTake😂😂But whatever, it is, what it is- thanks for featuring😂😂