In my pre-teen years, I always hanged out with/around boys because I prefer playing boys' games. During high school & college, more girls came into my life but there were still more boys in my life. As the circle of friends got bigger after college & throughout my 30s, more women came in but the men still dominated. Since I turned 40, we're pretty much even now.
I would have lots of guys friends if I was not married but the reason why I got on so well with guys was because I was bullied by females pretty much all my life and guys can't understand why. They always defend me and show me a lot of respect. I haven't been touched by any guy other than my husband..
Racism and sexism will exist for a very and I mean every long time
It's just a dark side of a human being
People are gonna judge other people no matter what
You have even a slightest difference that sets you apart from the rest , you are either exotic or a threat. So don't bother about putting the years it's just not going to change people's mind
I always tell other guys to stay away from a girl who's friends with nothing but guys, especially if she's attractive. You get into relationship with her, she's not gonna take it seriously because she knows that she has hundreds of other men all lined up after her. Not to mention, it would cause a lot of tension and drama because a few of those guys are sure to have feelings for her. A girl with nothing but male friends is a slut, and I dont like that word, but I'm 99% sure she's screwing them.
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"You get into relationship with her, she's not gonna take it seriously because she knows that she has hundreds of other men all lined up after her"
Not really. Those dudes aren't exactly after her, they are literally just her friends.
None of my dude friends have feelings for me by the way, and I'm not "screwing" any of them.
"I'm older, wiser, smarter, and I'm telling you that im right and you're wrong" just makes you sound like an idiot. Which is a shame, because other than that you almost made a good point.
@Thatsamazing Considering how they type, they're clearly in their teens. Tony is talking with the confidence of someone with experience. Their point still stands, regardless of how much you disliked their way of putting it.
Good Take, like you said it's just prejudice and generalization. I'm a guy and always had almost exclusively female friends, and I too faced a lot of prejudice about that. Naturally now that I'm about to get married I have to distance myself a bit from those friends though.
Ok so you don't like to generalize and do exactly that by pointing out what others have said and why they are all wrong. Sorry but they are wrong as they apply to you, and you also contradicted yourself by admitting in some of the cases statements made as a generalisation do apply in some cases. Well that just means that enough of those cases apply because in enough of those cases the statement is true. Hence the reason why a generalized statement is made, everyone and I mean everyone knows that a statement in and of itself cannot and will not apply in every case as there will always be outliers but there is enough truth that the statement can apply in the greater number of cases and be true or nearly true.
It seems then your education is actually failing you, not surprising given the state of education in the west these days, another general statement.
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"Ok so you don't like to generalize and do exactly that by pointing out what others have said and why they are all wrong."
I stated why I disagreed. I don't see how that's generalising.
"Sorry but they are wrong as they apply to you" I said in the MyTake I was speaking from my perspective. Because according to some of those opinions, because I hang around with dudes, I'm an attention seeking whore, who wants to casually fuck people. So I was talking from my own perspective about how that isn't true, I'm not saying all girls are like me- I'm talking for me.
"ou also contradicted yourself by admitting in some of the cases statements made as a generalisation do apply in some cases." In SOME cases not ALL. The way some of these opinions are stated you'd think every girl who hangs out with mostly dudes is like this.
"Hence the reason why a generalized statement is made, everyone and I mean everyone knows that a statement in and of itself cannot and will not apply in every case as there will always be outliers but there is enough truth that the statement can apply in the greater number of cases and be true or nearly true."
How? When each case is different? It's not almost every, is it? It's a narrative society has created. Each person has their own complexities about them as to why they do certain things. You can't just look at a person and say "They do X because Y" the truth is unless you know them deeply, you have no clue. You don't know why people do things, so best not to generalise. ;)
The reality is that the older we become - and if we remain single - our friends tend to be that of the opposite more and more. Not that we have some sort of ‘want’ of them beyond friends or they in us, it just happens to go this way. I mean, couples tend to hand out with couples, singles hang out with singles. Older singles hang out more and more with the opposite sex. Just how it goes. Nothing sinister in any of this at all. I have more women friends than men.
Maybe Im biased by my own experience. Yes, we live in 2020, yet some social ways are still prevalent even when its not a generalizable aspect. The women I know that have mostly guy friends, love to be center of attention, enjoy being the "girl" (hottie) of the group and some of them say women are too difficult to relate. Perhaps we all have different views. In my case, I have never had a man friend who's heterosexual in my whole live. The only one I remember was in my kindergarden.
Yea it's fine. But there may be a drawback. Guys may give the idea of dating u a second thought. I was really into this girl, but she was a gal pal 24/7 with every guy in the office. Which is all good! But I'd never want to try to date her, and then have to worry about her hanging out with guys all the time. U do u, and I'm sure some guys are fine with it. It's just not for me, sorry, I'd have to pass.
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Then you pass😂😂 And I'm sure the girl you were "into" will find someone who can handle the fact that she has friends of the opposite sex😂😂
Females so selfish and jealous and grudge hearted that if a woman get to much attention or likes or 1 step ahead then themselves they down you instead of joining the glory then they lose friendship with a female quick but me going to keep it half way real cause they will try you once yo out let them kno NO ITS ON TO THE NEXT FEMALE
@SpiderManFan2002 all you did was write a very insulting piece about guys who wouldn't want to date you because of this and then proceed to point to female opinions when given very rational, valid reasons for why this is the case. None that were even remotely listed in your mytake I might add. If you truly want to change someone's perspective, you could start by not being so condescending and actually try to understand why they would think that way.
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" all you did was write a very insulting piece about guys who wouldn't want to date you" Not just me, and all the other girls who have majority male friends. Tell me where I was rude and insulting. The same goes for girls who wouldn't date a guy because he has mostly female friends.
I would not blame a girl one bit for not wanting to date a guy who has all female friends and if you can't see the common sense in that this conversation is pointless. And I certainly wouldn't write a slam piece about them for thinking that way. If you read over this and dont feel that tone then I certainly dont feel like trying to argue that case either.
"I would not blame a girl one bit for not wanting to date a guy who has all female friends and if you can't see the common sense in that this conversation is pointless."
I would. It's not "common sense" it's BS. Why because he might cheat with another girl? Please.
"And I certainly wouldn't write a slam piece about them for thinking that " 😂😂😂Oh that's what you call it a slam piece😂😂
Well, I'm just speaking up for myself and the other women who are wrongly being labeled whores, wanting casual sex, something is wrong with us, etc.
Why should we be shamed by society because we choose our friends by their characteristics not their genitals?
thanks for your miles of mental gymnastics trying to justify doing whatever you want to do, stereotypical female behavior. And i, in my stereotypical male response, didn't read or pay attention to your endless blather.
I would never date a girl with a buncha guy friends.
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Great! And I'd never date a dude who's so immature he can't handle my friendship with others purely because they happen to be male! ^_^
I like hanging out with guys because they're more available so I'm kinda left with them. I just went through a break up my girl mates are looking at dates in march they are available my boy mates, on the other hand, are there that day to meet with.
A lot guys will see it as to much competition and because they don't want to compete, they try to make her seem less desirable by assuming something wrong with her or that she's been around the block and all the men around her want a taste.
I just think she’s a Tomboy at heart. Naturally girls get along with other females because they can relate to each other a lot better. But if her best friend is a guy, it’s pretty much guaranteed that she’s a tomboy at heart
I have a girl “friend” that has mostly male friends but it’s just cause she does not like all the drama girls create and she has a boyfriend and is loyal to him so i don’t see a problem
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Yeah, I see some girls that use the whole "drama" thing is a justification- and honestly, I guess it just depends on what kinda people you're surrounded with.
I mean, personally, I have had hung around with lots of girls- and still no drama arose.
Well I can’t speak for girl friend groups cause well I’m a guy but I’ve been friends with girls who are totally chill and girls who make drama out of every little thing so I say it just depends
I can't make nothing but guy friends. I sit at tables with guys and I'm always the only girl. I get along with all the guys but none of the girls want to hang with me for whatever reason. I try to talk to them but they don't want to be friends. My boyfriend friends are cool with me but he doesn't want them around me. And anyways why would I be going out with my boyfriend friends lol My friends are cool with my boyfriend too but he doesn't hang around them.
@SpiderManFan2002 That really isn't what anyone here is saying. Read more thoroughly and you might get a better perspective on why people think this way.
@MarkusCopeland Do explain it to me what perspective I am not understanding? Yet millions of guys are perfectly happy with platonic relationships with their female friends, even norm in countries like France.
@MarkusCopeland I can pull up a number of replies even to this MyTake which say or imply the friendship will lead to sex whilst indirectly and directly slut-shaming the girl.
@MarkusCopeland "imply" Imply means exactly that if two people are enjoying something why is it only girls that are being slut-shamed for doing something natural? Isn't that where the insecurity of many guys coming from? Not to mention such short-sightedness makes it difficult for men themselves.
LMFAO the daddy issue one! I got mommy issues, but that ain't why most of my friends are dudes. Bet that chick is the one that bangs dudes old enough to be her daddy.
Groups of women are drama man lol. I don’t blame you for hanging out with mostly guys. Guys tend to be more straight forward if they don’t like you or something you did.
My girlfriend when I was in HS around your age only really had guy friends. She was friends with all my friends. It was actually pretty nice. Never had to worry if she liked them.
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In my pre-teen years, I always hanged out with/around boys because I prefer playing boys' games. During high school & college, more girls came into my life but there were still more boys in my life. As the circle of friends got bigger after college & throughout my 30s, more women came in but the men still dominated. Since I turned 40, we're pretty much even now.
I would have lots of guys friends if I was not married but the reason why I got on so well with guys was because I was bullied by females pretty much all my life and guys can't understand why. They always defend me and show me a lot of respect. I haven't been touched by any guy other than my husband..
I'm a cynical person
Because the first image is just laughable
Just because it's 2020 doesn't change shit
Racism and sexism will exist for a very and I mean every long time
It's just a dark side of a human being
People are gonna judge other people no matter what
You have even a slightest difference that sets you apart from the rest , you are either exotic or a threat. So don't bother about putting the years it's just not going to change people's mind
I always tell other guys to stay away from a girl who's friends with nothing but guys, especially if she's attractive. You get into relationship with her, she's not gonna take it seriously because she knows that she has hundreds of other men all lined up after her. Not to mention, it would cause a lot of tension and drama because a few of those guys are sure to have feelings for her. A girl with nothing but male friends is a slut, and I dont like that word, but I'm 99% sure she's screwing them.
"You get into relationship with her, she's not gonna take it seriously because she knows that she has hundreds of other men all lined up after her"
Not really. Those dudes aren't exactly after her, they are literally just her friends.
None of my dude friends have feelings for me by the way, and I'm not "screwing" any of them.
But are you the ugly friend
@Chimken How do you know when you haven't seen my face?😂😂
That was a question
Im not gonna argue with you. I'm older, wiser, smarter, and I'm telling you that im right and you're wrong.
@Chimken Lol I don't know😂😂To some people I may be pretty, to some I may be ugly- beauty is subjective😂😂😂😂😂
@TonTheGuid0 Ah, the age card😂😂That's wise😂😂
"I'm older, wiser, smarter, and I'm telling you that im right and you're wrong" just makes you sound like an idiot. Which is a shame, because other than that you almost made a good point.
Girls thinking they know guys better than guys...
@Thatsamazing Well its true dawg. Im older, wiser, and smarter. If you wanna argue with me about it, lets go.
... There's nothing to argue about.
@Gary888818 **Girls sharing their experiences and breaking the stereotype certain guys create for us ;)
It's not about the girl. It's about the guys.
We can talk about society and equality all we like, but it doesn't change base instincts.
@TonyTheGuid0 is correct. This is the only correct answer here. Whether you like it or not, or choose to believe it or not, it is absolutely true, OP.
@Thatsamazing Considering how they type, they're clearly in their teens. Tony is talking with the confidence of someone with experience. Their point still stands, regardless of how much you disliked their way of putting it.
@MarkusCopeland It isn't true tho
Older doesn't equal smarter. Being wiser completely depends on experience
@nailahsaquee Of which many of us have much more than both of you, and seen the results of these types of relationships.
@MarkusCopeland "Their point still stands" ... no, it doesn't. "But I'm older and therefore right" is a logical fallacy.
Nobody gives a shit what you have to say.
Good Take, like you said it's just prejudice and generalization.
I'm a guy and always had almost exclusively female friends, and I too faced a lot of prejudice about that.
Naturally now that I'm about to get married I have to distance myself a bit from those friends though.
Ok so you don't like to generalize and do exactly that by pointing out what others have said and why they are all wrong. Sorry but they are wrong as they apply to you, and you also contradicted yourself by admitting in some of the cases statements made as a generalisation do apply in some cases. Well that just means that enough of those cases apply because in enough of those cases the statement is true. Hence the reason why a generalized statement is made, everyone and I mean everyone knows that a statement in and of itself cannot and will not apply in every case as there will always be outliers but there is enough truth that the statement can apply in the greater number of cases and be true or nearly true.
It seems then your education is actually failing you, not surprising given the state of education in the west these days, another general statement.
"Ok so you don't like to generalize and do exactly that by pointing out what others have said and why they are all wrong."
I stated why I disagreed. I don't see how that's generalising.
"Sorry but they are wrong as they apply to you"
I said in the MyTake I was speaking from my perspective. Because according to some of those opinions, because I hang around with dudes, I'm an attention seeking whore, who wants to casually fuck people. So I was talking from my own perspective about how that isn't true, I'm not saying all girls are like me- I'm talking for me.
"ou also contradicted yourself by admitting in some of the cases statements made as a generalisation do apply in some cases."
In SOME cases not ALL. The way some of these opinions are stated you'd think every girl who hangs out with mostly dudes is like this.
"Hence the reason why a generalized statement is made, everyone and I mean everyone knows that a statement in and of itself cannot and will not apply in every case as there will always be outliers but there is enough truth that the statement can apply in the greater number of cases and be true or nearly true."
How? When each case is different? It's not almost every, is it? It's a narrative society has created. Each person has their own complexities about them as to why they do certain things. You can't just look at a person and say "They do X because Y" the truth is unless you know them deeply, you have no clue. You don't know why people do things, so best not to generalise. ;)
Ok this is going to go nowhere so you do you whatever stick with your entitled singular viewpoint, whatever helps you sell at night
Sell at night? Sell what at night?
The reality is that the older we become - and if we remain single - our friends tend to be that of the opposite more and more. Not that we have some sort of ‘want’ of them beyond friends or they in us, it just happens to go this way. I mean, couples tend to hand out with couples, singles hang out with singles. Older singles hang out more and more with the opposite sex. Just how it goes. Nothing sinister in any of this at all. I have more women friends than men.
Interesting view on things, thank you :)
Ypu bet.
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Maybe Im biased by my own experience. Yes, we live in 2020, yet some social ways are still prevalent even when its not a generalizable aspect. The women I know that have mostly guy friends, love to be center of attention, enjoy being the "girl" (hottie) of the group and some of them say women are too difficult to relate. Perhaps we all have different views. In my case, I have never had a man friend who's heterosexual in my whole live. The only one I remember was in my kindergarden.
Yea it's fine. But there may be a drawback. Guys may give the idea of dating u a second thought. I was really into this girl, but she was a gal pal 24/7 with every guy in the office. Which is all good! But I'd never want to try to date her, and then have to worry about her hanging out with guys all the time. U do u, and I'm sure some guys are fine with it. It's just not for me, sorry, I'd have to pass.
Then you pass😂😂
And I'm sure the girl you were "into" will find someone who can handle the fact that she has friends of the opposite sex😂😂
Females so selfish and jealous and grudge hearted that if a woman get to much attention or likes or 1 step ahead then themselves they down you instead of joining the glory then they lose friendship with a female quick but me going to keep it half way real cause they will try you once yo out let them kno NO ITS ON TO THE NEXT FEMALE
@SpiderManFan2002 all you did was write a very insulting piece about guys who wouldn't want to date you because of this and then proceed to point to female opinions when given very rational, valid reasons for why this is the case. None that were even remotely listed in your mytake I might add. If you truly want to change someone's perspective, you could start by not being so condescending and actually try to understand why they would think that way.
" all you did was write a very insulting piece about guys who wouldn't want to date you"
Not just me, and all the other girls who have majority male friends. Tell me where I was rude and insulting. The same goes for girls who wouldn't date a guy because he has mostly female friends.
I would not blame a girl one bit for not wanting to date a guy who has all female friends and if you can't see the common sense in that this conversation is pointless. And I certainly wouldn't write a slam piece about them for thinking that way. If you read over this and dont feel that tone then I certainly dont feel like trying to argue that case either.
"I would not blame a girl one bit for not wanting to date a guy who has all female friends and if you can't see the common sense in that this conversation is pointless."
I would. It's not "common sense" it's BS. Why because he might cheat with another girl? Please.
"And I certainly wouldn't write a slam piece about them for thinking that "
😂😂😂Oh that's what you call it a slam piece😂😂
Well, I'm just speaking up for myself and the other women who are wrongly being labeled whores, wanting casual sex, something is wrong with us, etc.
Why should we be shamed by society because we choose our friends by their characteristics not their genitals?
You are truly lost
Okay buddy, I'll keep being friends with people for who they are not what their genitals are, and you keep thinking I'm "lost"😂😂😂
thanks for your miles of mental gymnastics trying to justify doing whatever you want to do, stereotypical female behavior. And i, in my stereotypical male response, didn't read or pay attention to your endless blather.
I would never date a girl with a buncha guy friends.
Great! And I'd never date a dude who's so immature he can't handle my friendship with others purely because they happen to be male! ^_^
I like hanging out with guys because they're more available so I'm kinda left with them. I just went through a break up my girl mates are looking at dates in march they are available my boy mates, on the other hand, are there that day to meet with.
A lot guys will see it as to much competition and because they don't want to compete, they try to make her seem less desirable by assuming something wrong with her or that she's been around the block and all the men around her want a taste.
I just think she’s a Tomboy at heart. Naturally girls get along with other females because they can relate to each other a lot better. But if her best friend is a guy, it’s pretty much guaranteed that she’s a tomboy at heart
I have a girl “friend” that has mostly male friends but it’s just cause she does not like all the drama girls create and she has a boyfriend and is loyal to him so i don’t see a problem
Yeah, I see some girls that use the whole "drama" thing is a justification- and honestly, I guess it just depends on what kinda people you're surrounded with.
I mean, personally, I have had hung around with lots of girls- and still no drama arose.
Well I can’t speak for girl friend groups cause well I’m a guy but I’ve been friends with girls who are totally chill and girls who make drama out of every little thing so I say it just depends
I can't make nothing but guy friends. I sit at tables with guys and I'm always the only girl. I get along with all the guys but none of the girls want to hang with me for whatever reason. I try to talk to them but they don't want to be friends. My boyfriend friends are cool with me but he doesn't want them around me. And anyways why would I be going out with my boyfriend friends lol My friends are cool with my boyfriend too but he doesn't hang around them.
Its same as how some guys maintain there is no way men and women can be platonic, I guess its same in return. Like all us men think with our dicks.
I know right!😂😂
The way some of these people talk, you'd think men and women can't even be in the same room as each other without it leading to THAT😂😂😂
@SpiderManFan2002 That really isn't what anyone here is saying. Read more thoroughly and you might get a better perspective on why people think this way.
@MarkusCopeland Do explain it to me what perspective I am not understanding? Yet millions of guys are perfectly happy with platonic relationships with their female friends, even norm in countries like France.
I wasn't replying to you.
@MarkusCopeland I can pull up a number of replies even to this MyTake which say or imply the friendship will lead to sex whilst indirectly and directly slut-shaming the girl.
"Imply."
@MarkusCopeland "imply"
Imply means exactly that if two people are enjoying something why is it only girls that are being slut-shamed for doing something natural? Isn't that where the insecurity of many guys coming from? Not to mention such short-sightedness makes it difficult for men themselves.
LMFAO the daddy issue one! I got mommy issues, but that ain't why most of my friends are dudes. Bet that chick is the one that bangs dudes old enough to be her daddy.
Groups of women are drama man lol. I don’t blame you for hanging out with mostly guys. Guys tend to be more straight forward if they don’t like you or something you did.
My girlfriend when I was in HS around your age only really had guy friends. She was friends with all my friends. It was actually pretty nice. Never had to worry if she liked them.