I cannot see any problem. I'm the same but the other sex. Being male all my close friends are female. We generally meet up on Monday afternoon at the coffee shop I will be the only guy. Out of usually 7, or,8 women...
I don't think any of those things you listed and it still bothers me a bit anyway. So I have to think that you don't have a good a grasp on what everyone feels about this (or at least guys anyway).
Damn, when you put it that way it makes it seem like I live some kind of sex god lifestyle where I call my friends over for parties and just have a big orgy lol.
But yeah, I think people who think like that just have self control problems around the opposite sex or something. I have no problem being around men or women, I'm not some dog that's just going to hump everyone's leg.
" Damn, when you put it that way it makes it seem like I live some kind of sex god lifestyle where I call my friends over for parties and just have a big orgy lol." If that was aimed at me, I wasn't being serious I was just saying how they would think from their perspective😂😂
" "But yeah, I think people who think like that just have self control problems around the opposite sex or something." My thoughts exactly. It's so immature to be like: "Oh a girl and dude can't be friends because one will be attracted to another" it's like, not really if you're a mature human who can control themselves.
" I have no problem being around men or women" Because you sir, can control yourself and think like an adult not like kids in a playground- I swear that's what it's like: "Oooh you two are friends... Jane and John sitting in a tree! K-I-S-S-I-N-G"😂😂😂
Sometimes it doesn't matter how cute or sexy the guy is, they're a friend type, not a lover type and that works out. In college I too had mostly male friends and a few female friends. As a very young kid, I bonded with the marble shooters a little more. I also had an older brother. So that is probably a factor and I was a daddy's girl. He taught me car basics, card playing, home maintenance. So I have things I like about what men do and can talk about it. I have a few very close women friends, now. I'd love to have men friends. But at this age, most of them are married and don't feel as free as they did to have women friends, or their wives don't approve or believe I'm not seeking to steal their husbands. I'm not. If I felt that way, I'd avoid their men completely. But it seems reasonable that females who like males would like males as friends: males who would be like brothers... And men would like sister friends too.
When you're an anomaly so you project and say everyone must be wrong because you're allegedly the one case that doesn't match 🙄
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Actually, I'm speaking from my own experience and other women. A number of other women, have come on this to agree with me, and share their own experiences. It's not just me- it's actually lots of other women too, a number of people just choose to project the negative stereotype.
But if the original claim is that women who have multiple male friends are sluts and many people have experienced otherwise, then it isn't true. Even if it may fit for some people, it isn't factually correct
When I see a girl with mostly male friends, I usually think that the guy friends probably are crushing on her. Almost all of us guys would get with many of our female friends if we had the chance.
My only response is well wait till it happens to you personally, then you will understand. But untill you meet the person you want to commit to you really have no basis for a comparison. When you do and he has 25 female friends, which I guarantee you (and would put cash on it) that at least half want to steal him from you, then come back and read your response again. Js
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I disagree. If he has 25 female friends which I doubt (because who has 25 friends anyway? lol just kidding) but as long as he keeps them 25 females his friends and still commits to me- I see no issue with it.
I didn't say some or most of them are going to TRY to fuck you-- I said some or most of them WANT to fuck you, assuming you're even decently physically attractive.
Just because someone is male and friends with a girl- doesn't mean he wants to fuck her. The guys I know think with their heads, not their genitals.
And actually, he's in solid relationship with his girlfriend so I think that does matter. No way would he throw that away- there's something called loyalty.
I don't want "slightly" attractive-- if she is genuinely hot/pretty, then she isn't my friend in the first place. I'm simply telling myself that she is. Guys and girls are not truly deep down "just friends," platonically, because if the girl is physically attractive to the guy, he deep down is always going to want to fuck her, and would, if the circumstances were different and he got the chance and she wanted it. Like it may not happen RIGHT THEN or whatever if the circumstances were right, but the point is that he's at least thought about it and maybe masturbated to you. This, again, is assuming that you are objectively at least decently attractive/pretty. Which, as I said, if that's the case, means you don't actually have any male friends-- you only think you do.
"Guys and girls are not truly deep down "just friends," platonically, because if the girl is physically attractive to the guy, he deep down is always going to want to fuck her" Not all of use think with our dicks, majority of us guys are completely capable of having platonic relationships. Yes even with attractive girls, no sexual thoughts at all as I simply don't see it that way. Just because someone is attractive doesn't necessarily mean I am *attracted*.
@Oram52 Alright man. Then I suppose instead I'm speaking for the overwhelming majority of guys here, not literally each and every single one on the face of the planet. You got me.
This was the comment I was looking for. This is the truth right here. And 99% of the time the girl has slept with at least one of those guys in the past at some point. Out of a big group of guy friends you can't convince me there's not at least some just waiting for something to go wrong in the relationship so they can capitalize. Most of us aren't going to bother rolling the dice on that.
@Gary888818 You're correct. Completely correct, but considering the OP's age and the replies they're giving, at this point I'm certain they're just looking for attention since they keep replying with the same nonsense answer about "Most women on this MyTake agree with me," when it has nothing to do with the women, but the men.
@Gary888818 Actually, as the person who wrote the MyTake it's a MyTake about how all these claims made by both guys and girls are not always true, I mean, just look at the responses from the women on this MyTake and you'll see my point is proved.
@SpiderManFan2002 understand that I'm not talking about you as an individual here. I am talking about general consensus and the stereotype in general. There are many men who will not want to date you for this very reason regardless of what your true character might be and for good reason that was already explained above. That is fact and cannot be changed. Feel free to do whatever you want to do but fighting to change the perception of it in guys' minds is completely futile.
@Gary888818 You said: " This mytake is not about what girls think. It's about what guys think. And this is exactly what guys think. "
So my response to that was my previous reply telling you what this MyTake is actually about.
"There are many men who will not want to date you for this very reason regardless of what your true character might be and for good reason that was already explained above" Firstly I'm not looking to date right now, so that's not a problem for me. Secondly, if he really is going to judge me by who my circle of friends is, rather than my character then he is a judgmental prick and he can get out, because I'd never have interest in someone who is such a child in the first place. Lucky escape.
"fighting to change the perception of it in guys' minds is completely futile" Actually, not all guys are immature babies and a number of guys actually do not care whoever their partner is friends with! Shocker!! :o
@Thatsamazing It does. Okay let's give you a scanerio: Let's say your girlfriend has an option to be friends with two groups of people: A) One of those groups is a group that lies, cheats each other, and backstabs each other B) And one of those groups is a group where all the people are cool chill people who will make your girlfriend happy.
@SpiderManFan2002 so if you didn't write this to try to change guys' minds or understand the thinking behind it then there's only 2 other reasons: 1) to insult 2) to get others on board to insult said group. Which means you're mad. Your mad that there's guys think this way. You say you dont care but you do. It bothers you. And above is the #1 reason why we think this way which is completely reasonable. So take that as you will. The end.
@Gary888818 I wrote this, to show that the stereotypes which some of the opinions I showed in my MyTake aren't always true. And given the responses I've gotten from the women, I think I stand correct.
"Your mad that there's guys think this way" 😂😂😂I know this might be hard for you to believe but luckily I don't base my life upon what people think. I'm not mad, I just wanted to give y'all an alternative perspective that actually- girls and dudes can be friends with each other without wanting to get into each other's knick knacks😂😂
And one thing I think you're continually failing to understand is not all guys think the way you think they do. Yes, a percentage will think the way you are thinking, and that percentage clearly isn't for me, because they're not mature or secure enough to handle that I'm friends with a certain amount of people purely because of what they have inbetween their legs. Doesn't matter, if they're honest, kind, decent😂
But there are a percentage of dudes who also don't care who a girl is friends with, and they are mature enough to know that the "friends" literally means "friends" and nothing freaky is gonna happen with the girl and her friends😂
How strong is the relationship really if a dude is going to freak out about the girl hanging with a friend who happens to have different genitals or vice versa?
No it doesn't, and your pseudo-scenarios are pretty dumb. Think what you want sis. It changes literally nothing. We're right. Whether you think we are or not doesn't really matter. Have a nice day.
Coming up in junior high & hs, I used to subconsciously think that those girls were whores or thought they were better than others bc of it. I mostly never really gaf & still don’t.
Again, OP, the responses on MyTake are a few women. That means nothing in the greater context. Not to mention many people are just lying because they won't admit to the truth.
@nailahsaquee Are you trying to claim that a few answers on a website outweigh the millions of stories of "girls with guy friends" from across the world?
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I cannot see any problem. I'm the same but the other sex. Being male all my close friends are female. We generally meet up on Monday afternoon at the coffee shop I will be the only guy. Out of usually 7, or,8 women...
Sounds like you are their "honorary girlfriend?"
@JamesRandiDebates yes I enjoy every minute...
Can I ask how old you are? Not to be rude, but based on the assertions you sound quite young.
I'm 17.
I can't help but feel I may have been a promoter of 1 or 2 of these reasons...
I doubt it, but part of me says so.
She hates incels tell all her male friends watch them turn on her lile a pack of wild dogs
No, not really.
She has never tried it
I have😂😂And they agree😂
I don't think any of those things you listed and it still bothers me a bit anyway.
So I have to think that you don't have a good a grasp on what everyone feels about this (or at least guys anyway).
I'm just sitting back as a bisexual laughing at all these weird dynamics straight people subject themselves to.
😂😂Lol yeah, some of these people STILL think girls and guys can't be friends without it leading to sex😂😂😂
By their logic, you must have no friends because whichever way you look at it, according to them, it'll lead to fucking😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It does most of the time. I've fucked most of my female friends and co workers.
Damn, when you put it that way it makes it seem like I live some kind of sex god lifestyle where I call my friends over for parties and just have a big orgy lol.
But yeah, I think people who think like that just have self control problems around the opposite sex or something. I have no problem being around men or women, I'm not some dog that's just going to hump everyone's leg.
" Damn, when you put it that way it makes it seem like I live some kind of sex god lifestyle where I call my friends over for parties and just have a big orgy lol."
If that was aimed at me, I wasn't being serious I was just saying how they would think from their perspective😂😂
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"But yeah, I think people who think like that just have self control problems around the opposite sex or something."
My thoughts exactly. It's so immature to be like: "Oh a girl and dude can't be friends because one will be attracted to another" it's like, not really if you're a mature human who can control themselves.
" I have no problem being around men or women"
Because you sir, can control yourself and think like an adult not like kids in a playground- I swear that's what it's like: "Oooh you two are friends... Jane and John sitting in a tree! K-I-S-S-I-N-G"😂😂😂
by the way, love the dog analogy😂😂😂
The sex god thing was in jest and poking fun at how other people must think of my life.
But you have a good head on your shoulders, good on you for not buying into this nonsense.
Now if you'll excuse me, there's this nice lady with some treats in her pocket and a really nice looking leg..
Sometimes it doesn't matter how cute or sexy the guy is, they're a friend type, not a lover type and that works out. In college I too had mostly male friends and a few female friends. As a very young kid, I bonded with the marble shooters a little more. I also had an older brother. So that is probably a factor and I was a daddy's girl. He taught me car basics, card playing, home maintenance. So I have things I like about what men do and can talk about it. I have a few very close women friends, now. I'd love to have men friends. But at this age, most of them are married and don't feel as free as they did to have women friends, or their wives don't approve or believe I'm not seeking to steal their husbands. I'm not. If I felt that way, I'd avoid their men completely. But it seems reasonable that females who like males would like males as friends: males who would be like brothers... And men would like sister friends too.
When you're an anomaly so you project and say everyone must be wrong because you're allegedly the one case that doesn't match 🙄
Actually, I'm speaking from my own experience and other women. A number of other women, have come on this to agree with me, and share their own experiences. It's not just me- it's actually lots of other women too, a number of people just choose to project the negative stereotype.
Yeah and there are a ton of other people who experienced otherwise. Guess you'll only believe what you want
@Chimken Seems that way, yeah.
But if the original claim is that women who have multiple male friends are sluts and many people have experienced otherwise, then it isn't true. Even if it may fit for some people, it isn't factually correct
@nailahsaquee What does that have to do with @Chimken response? You just said that, not them.
There is no 31st of February.
Also, yeah, people over generalize things. Females with male friends shouldn't get judged like that.
Very nice MyTake, madam SpiderManFan2002
" There is no 31st of February."
That's the whole point😂😂It's like saying "see you never", without saying "see you never"😂
And thank you :)
I have male friends but I'm not attracted to any of them an never will be. I've known them since middle school or elementary school so?
A girl with mostly male friends is definitely a slut. No way around it. It happens eventually. She uses them for confidence too.
Okay buddy, you keep telling yourself that👏🏾😂😂😂😂
Luckily the dudes I know and are friends with, think with their heads, not their genitals.
No it’s the other way around. The girls with all guy friends are thinking with their genitals.
Well, actually, if you look at the girls in this comment section of this MyTake and then the writer of this MyTake (me) we clearly don't.
When I see a girl with mostly male friends, I usually think that the guy friends probably are crushing on her. Almost all of us guys would get with many of our female friends if we had the chance.
My only response is well wait till it happens to you personally, then you will understand. But untill you meet the person you want to commit to you really have no basis for a comparison. When you do and he has 25 female friends, which I guarantee you (and would put cash on it) that at least half want to steal him from you, then come back and read your response again. Js
I disagree. If he has 25 female friends which I doubt (because who has 25 friends anyway? lol just kidding) but as long as he keeps them 25 females his friends and still commits to me- I see no issue with it.
Big deal.
Most of my friends are female. And we haven't and won't have sex.
I like them. They like me. Sex would just screw it up.
Exactly, just because girls and guys hangout doesn't mean it will lead to sex.
It doesn't mean you want to get fucked by all of them-- it means that some or most or all of them want to fuck you.
Actually, I disagree- one of them has a girlfriend, and the others just aren't like that.
Him having a girlfriend is irrelevant. I dunno what you mean about the others-- they're male, aren't they?
I didn't say some or most of them are going to TRY to fuck you-- I said some or most of them WANT to fuck you, assuming you're even decently physically attractive.
Just because someone is male and friends with a girl- doesn't mean he wants to fuck her. The guys I know think with their heads, not their genitals.
And actually, he's in solid relationship with his girlfriend so I think that does matter. No way would he throw that away- there's something called loyalty.
Sure sis
So, if you have a female friend that is even slightly attractive, to you- does that mean you want to fuck her?
I don't want "slightly" attractive-- if she is genuinely hot/pretty, then she isn't my friend in the first place. I'm simply telling myself that she is. Guys and girls are not truly deep down "just friends," platonically, because if the girl is physically attractive to the guy, he deep down is always going to want to fuck her, and would, if the circumstances were different and he got the chance and she wanted it. Like it may not happen RIGHT THEN or whatever if the circumstances were right, but the point is that he's at least thought about it and maybe masturbated to you. This, again, is assuming that you are objectively at least decently attractive/pretty. Which, as I said, if that's the case, means you don't actually have any male friends-- you only think you do.
I'm not making this up. If you hear any guy deny this, he is either 1) lying to you, or 2) lying to himself AND you.
Or he could just have low testosterone levels, I suppose. That's always possible.
"Guys and girls are not truly deep down "just friends," platonically, because if the girl is physically attractive to the guy, he deep down is always going to want to fuck her"
Not all of use think with our dicks, majority of us guys are completely capable of having platonic relationships. Yes even with attractive girls, no sexual thoughts at all as I simply don't see it that way. Just because someone is attractive doesn't necessarily mean I am *attracted*.
@Oram52 Alright man. Then I suppose instead I'm speaking for the overwhelming majority of guys here, not literally each and every single one on the face of the planet. You got me.
@Oram52 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This was the comment I was looking for. This is the truth right here. And 99% of the time the girl has slept with at least one of those guys in the past at some point. Out of a big group of guy friends you can't convince me there's not at least some just waiting for something to go wrong in the relationship so they can capitalize. Most of us aren't going to bother rolling the dice on that.
@Gary888818 Lol okay, you keep thinking that despite this MyTake, and the responses from the majority of the women on this MyTake ;)
This mytake is not about what girls think. It's about what guys think. And this is exactly what guys think.
You won't be able to put guys at ease about it because it's not about you. It's about a big group of guys and we know how we are.
@Gary888818 You're correct. Completely correct, but considering the OP's age and the replies they're giving, at this point I'm certain they're just looking for attention since they keep replying with the same nonsense answer about "Most women on this MyTake agree with me," when it has nothing to do with the women, but the men.
@Gary888818 "This mytake is not about what girls think. It's about what guys think. And this is exactly what guys think." Correct.
@Gary888818 Actually, as the person who wrote the MyTake it's a MyTake about how all these claims made by both guys and girls are not always true, I mean, just look at the responses from the women on this MyTake and you'll see my point is proved.
Sure sis.
@SpiderManFan2002 understand that I'm not talking about you as an individual here. I am talking about general consensus and the stereotype in general. There are many men who will not want to date you for this very reason regardless of what your true character might be and for good reason that was already explained above. That is fact and cannot be changed. Feel free to do whatever you want to do but fighting to change the perception of it in guys' minds is completely futile.
@Gary888818 You said:
" This mytake is not about what girls think. It's about what guys think. And this is exactly what guys think. "
So my response to that was my previous reply telling you what this MyTake is actually about.
"There are many men who will not want to date you for this very reason regardless of what your true character might be and for good reason that was already explained above"
Firstly I'm not looking to date right now, so that's not a problem for me.
Secondly, if he really is going to judge me by who my circle of friends is, rather than my character then he is a judgmental prick and he can get out, because I'd never have interest in someone who is such a child in the first place. Lucky escape.
"fighting to change the perception of it in guys' minds is completely futile"
Actually, not all guys are immature babies and a number of guys actually do not care whoever their partner is friends with! Shocker!! :o
I disagree with the characterization that us voicing the truth here makes us as guys "immature babies," but whatever.
@Thatsamazing It does. Okay let's give you a scanerio:
Let's say your girlfriend has an option to be friends with two groups of people:
A) One of those groups is a group that lies, cheats each other, and backstabs each other
B) And one of those groups is a group where all the people are cool chill people who will make your girlfriend happy.
Group A is all women Group B is all men.
Who would you rather she hangs out with?
@SpiderManFan2002 so if you didn't write this to try to change guys' minds or understand the thinking behind it then there's only 2 other reasons: 1) to insult 2) to get others on board to insult said group. Which means you're mad. Your mad that there's guys think this way. You say you dont care but you do. It bothers you. And above is the #1 reason why we think this way which is completely reasonable. So take that as you will. The end.
@Gary888818 I wrote this, to show that the stereotypes which some of the opinions I showed in my MyTake aren't always true. And given the responses I've gotten from the women, I think I stand correct.
"Your mad that there's guys think this way"
😂😂😂I know this might be hard for you to believe but luckily I don't base my life upon what people think. I'm not mad, I just wanted to give y'all an alternative perspective that actually- girls and dudes can be friends with each other without wanting to get into each other's knick knacks😂😂
And one thing I think you're continually failing to understand is not all guys think the way you think they do. Yes, a percentage will think the way you are thinking, and that percentage clearly isn't for me, because they're not mature or secure enough to handle that I'm friends with a certain amount of people purely because of what they have inbetween their legs. Doesn't matter, if they're honest, kind, decent😂
But there are a percentage of dudes who also don't care who a girl is friends with, and they are mature enough to know that the "friends" literally means "friends" and nothing freaky is gonna happen with the girl and her friends😂
How strong is the relationship really if a dude is going to freak out about the girl hanging with a friend who happens to have different genitals or vice versa?
No it doesn't, and your pseudo-scenarios are pretty dumb. Think what you want sis. It changes literally nothing. We're right. Whether you think we are or not doesn't really matter. Have a nice day.
Bitches hate me... why? Probably because I have a guy personality and bitches are petty.
Coming up in junior high & hs, I used to subconsciously think that those girls were whores or thought they were better than others bc of it. I mostly never really gaf & still don’t.
not too uncommon. I seen this throughout HS. and those who did have that circle, still has that same circle..
I saw it throughout my school days too- though ironically, I was in a friendship group with mostly girls and about 3 guys😂😂
I wasn't part of the clusterfuck
Its perfectly fine but once she/he is in a relationship better cut it down
Girls with mostly guy friends are the ones who get drunk easy and let everybody fuck them.
Not true, especially in my case, I don't drink and I'm a virgin who wants to wait until marriage and commit to one person.
These are not hard and fast rules, sweetheart. But they apply to the majority.
A lot of the girls I have seen respond to this MyTake actually can relate to me on my stance of friendship- it's not just me.
Again, OP, the responses on MyTake are a few women. That means nothing in the greater context. Not to mention many people are just lying because they won't admit to the truth.
The majority? You're gonna need proof/evidence before you make a claim like that.
@nailahsaquee Are you trying to claim that a few answers on a website outweigh the millions of stories of "girls with guy friends" from across the world?
If so then that's laughable.
I know few of them and all of them are in a serious relationships which last for a years and they are happy about it.