I am woman! I am the prize!

[Apope16]

You look different today than when you were younger. On each dating app you have filtered your face, refreshed your breasts, and retouched every photo you possibly could in the patriarchal standards that society has forced upon you. There is that feeling of vulnerability. The depression that comes from an unattainability of beauty behind magazines of women who don't exist.

But you are an order woman. You are the prize.

Age comes to us all in receding years and we think that with the father of time beauty is taken away. But what is more beauty the finding it within yourself? What is more beautiful that unlocking the power of what it means to be a woman and the power that brings?

In your teen years it is boy crazy. Everything was about getting a boy. In your 20s it was man crazy. Everything was about keeping a man. But in the span of your life where do you fit in? When do you come to realize? I am Woman. I am the prize.

The great feminist philosopher Simone de Beauvior once said, "One is not born, but rather, becomes a woman."

Perhaps in our late twenties as we rich the age of thirty we finally discover the meaning behind that. A woman has given birth to virtually every human being that has ever existed. The ones we will remember and the ones we never forget. The genius and the ordinary. We have in our generation been mothers and fathers. A generation of fathers gone, destitute, languishing in prison-running away. We saved these children. Taught them what hard work was. Gave them our spirit. Our harshness. Our nurturing and supple breasts as you were starved for life. And each time you cried in fear-we taught you that it was okay to cry.

We birthed you. We raised you. Because we are the prize.

When men go to war and face the terror it brings. In their last dying moments in the mysterious dark and light of the great abyss. Every man cries out to us seeking our warmth and forgiving grace. They shout our names in those last moments as the world ends around them. I am woman. I am the prize.

And as we grow old and come into our middle age. We unlock the beauty that is more than just a splash of titties and a bubble butt at the bar. There is a humor to the soul, a kindness in our eyes, a passion and a spirit in our touch. We have seen life. We know its youth and its age. We know its joy and its heart ache. In short, as we grow older...we know LOVE.

Tell yourself not to fear. Take down your walls that you have built up. Show to that next love (or the one you have) your adoration, your nurturing grace, and that energetic charm that you have deep inside. Realize in such vulnerability, in joy and in pain...

I AM WOMAN. I AM THE PRIZE.

[randomguy4321]

I liked the main thrust of your take, but definitely rolled my eyes at you describing beauty standards as patriarchal. The reason why men prefer younger women, physically, is because fertility in women begins to decline in a woman’s early 20s. And, the reason that we prefer women with an hourglass figure and a low waist-to-hip ratio is because a low waist-to-hip ratio is positively correlated with fertility. We are literally genetically programmed to find such women to be more attractive than others. It’s in our DNA. And, the bodies of women in magazines are not unrealistic or unattainable. If you hit the gym or exercise in general you can attain that body. If you walk around a college campus you’ll see dozens of women who could be in such magazines. It’s not the patriarchy. It’s biology. The issue is that the average modern lifestyle is far more inactive than is healthy. When men see the ideal male form portrayed as far more muscular than the average man, we don’t get all salty and complain about how it’s unrealistic or unattainable. If you hit the gym you can have that body. If you don’t care to, that’s fine, but don’t complain about the media perpetrating an unattainable ideal. No one’s self esteem should depend on being beautiful enough to be on a magazine cover. The solution is not to criticize beauty being celebrated. I get it. It sucks that not everyone is beautiful. But, nature prioritizes the propagation of the species over everyone getting some warm fuzzy feeling. Don’t blame the patriarchy for basic biology. Women have a lot more to offer than their looks, and there is far more to life than beauty. But, if you want to blame something for what is considered to be beautiful in women, blame mother nature, not the patriarchy. Aside from that the post was decent. Well written. Although, I’m not a huge fan of you framing women as being the prize. A man does not seek a woman, then win the prize (the woman). It should be two partners joining forces. There is quite enough of women behaving like a prize to be won already, if you ask me. I liked the stuff about finding yourself and the wisdom of age. But, I don't know. I find that women who talk about the power of womanhood and nurturing life and all that type of stuff generally don’t have a very high opinion of men and kind of look down on men and see themselves as better. I don't know. Correlation doesn’t equal causation, so I guess I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, but that is something I’ve noticed. All in all, I thought it was well written, and I liked some of what you wrote, though some of it made me roll my eyes. I kind of liked the vibe of it more than the actual substance of it. Anyway, thanks for sharing.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Then be ok if women prefere tall, handsome meb

[randomguy4321]

@hi_it_is_me... I’m pretty sure I covered that in my comment, but yea. I am 100% fine with that. Some years I work out and am in great shape. Some years I get lazy and my body becomes average. And it definitely impacts women’s interest in me to an extent. And, I am 100% fine with that. No reason to get salty over basic biology. And, anyone who thinks that the types of bodies that are portrayed as ideal are unattainable has never actually tried very hard (unless they have a serious medical condition). Looks aren’t everything to either gender. And, I’ve seen average guys do very well with women because they were confident, charismatic etc. Likewise, personality is a significant factor when men choose women. But, looks are still extremely important, and it’s nonsensical to get salty or blame the patriarchy over basic biology. And, again. Yes. I am 100% fine with women preferring tall, handsome, fit etc. men.

[randomguy4321]

@hi_it_is_me123 I tagged you improperly on my previous comment in this thread.

[hi_it_is_me123]

But also if you are over 30, stop annoying us. The average age gap between couple are 2-4 years. We are also not into old men. And also you can get musculous body by going to gyme while for getting a hour glass body you need to have pkastic surgery.

[randomguy4321]

I’m not over 30, I’m 27. And, it’s fine for young women to prefer men closer to their own age. I was commenting on the image that is considered ideal. Also, not all women have the same preference when it comes to age. There are definitely tons of young women into guys more than 4 years older than them. I know from experience and observation. Age is more significant in men’s desire for women because women’s fertility declines early, and they become infertile around 40, whereas many men are still fertile on their death bed. That’s why it’s common to see young women with older men, but not much of the reverse. But, it’s fine for women to prefer men around their own age. I never said that they shouldn’t. And, it’s true that a woman can’t really make her breasts bigger. Just as a man can’t make himself taller. Not every aspect of your body is changeable. But, the butt is basically just a muscle. Any woman can attain a low waist-to-hip ratio, and that is by far the most important factor in the beauty of a woman’s body.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I just hate it when 30 years old men fuck around in their 20s and then want a young woman. Go find someone your age and adoption exist too.

[randomguy4321]

Why do you hate it? If you aren’t interested in such men, then turn them away. But, if you think that everyone in your age group agrees with you, you are very mistaken. I think that everyone should go for whatever and whoever they’re into. There is so much shaming going on. Like your comment, for example. Men in their 30s often go for women in their 20s either because they find their personalities to be more appealing (less jaded etc.) or because most men find them to be more attractive. You say “adoption exists.” That isn’t the point. Natural selection and the theory of evolution makes us more attracted to fertile mates and mates likely to produce surviving offspring. Like, women don’t like muscular men because they can lift heavy things. Lol. Men don’t want young women because they’re fertile. Men want young women because they are hot. They are hot because they are fertile. Telling men that they shouldn’t go for younger women is like telling women that they shouldn’t go for physically fit men. It’s hard for women to understand, because age isn’t nearly as significant, from a biological stand point, for women when they select a mate. You seem pretty judgmental. I think people should go for whatever they are into. When I’m in my 30s I’ll probably go for women in their 20s because they are wayyy hotter. But, I plan to be in good shape, and I’m pretty charismatic, so hopefully I’ll be able to pull it off. Either way, I’m very respectful in how I approach women, so it shouldn’t be a big deal either way. And, if I come across a woman of your opinion, I’ll just keep it moving. People should go for whatever they want. If you want a tall, handsome, fit man close to your age, then go for it. But, you shouldn’t judge others for what they want or find attractive. My opinion, anyway.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I a 30 years old woman is not old and fertility bullshit is an shallow excuse. You are seriously going to reject a woman only because her age? Many do not look different when they suddenly become 30 and at least in my experience i have not seen a difference between women in their late or middle 20s and 30s

[hi_it_is_me123]

And are you really going to leave your partner if you can't get kids? By the way natural selection is caused by women. Women choose, men chase

[randomguy4321]

It’s not literally about having children. Just like how women don’t like muscular men specifically because they are able to lift heavy items. Women like muscular men because they’re hot. Men like young women with hourglass figures because they are hot. The reason that we find these things attractive is because of evolution. Men who preferred young women with hourglass figures out-reproduced other men because such women are far more fertile. The result is that men who remain (men who are alive today) find these women to be more attractive. It’s basic evolutionary biology. As for me, if I ever decided that I wanted kids, I would pick a woman in an age range that is capable of giving birth. That’s unlikely to be an issue since I find young women to be far more attractive anyway.

[randomguy4321]

Oh, and men play a role in natural selection as well. Women choose from among the men chasing them. And men choose who to chase. It may seem like you can choose any man you want because you are young and (if that’s you in your picture) hot. But, if you were older or overweight, your choices would be far more limited. Because far fewer men would chase you or find you to be desirable.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I still think everyone should not find anyone who is out of their league.

[hi_it_is_me123]

There enough hot women in their 30s

[randomguy4321]

But, who decides these leagues? You prefer men closer to your own age. That’s fine. Choose whatever man you prefer. But, as I said before, if you think that all women in your age group agree with you, you are very mistaken. Women aged 18-22 are definitely still very much attracted to/interested in me. Probably significantly more so than when I was actually 18-22. I recall when I was actually the age of the women I am most attracted to now, most of them seemed to prefer older guys. One time when I was roughly your age, I was at an event where there were a lot of women your age and met this guy in his 30s, and a lot of these women seemed to be flirting with him. I asked him (out of concern for my future) if women in that age group were still interested in him, and he said that he had noticed virtually no difference in their interest level through the years, and that most young women don’t seem to care much about age. And, based on how those women were behaving, he seemed to be right (he had a girlfriend, tho)

[randomguy4321]

Some women your age are of your opinion, but many are not. If I’m in my 30s and a woman your age is interested in me and I’m interested in her, what’s the issue? People decide who is and is not in their league. Some young women will look at me and think, “Nah, he’s too old.” But, some will think, “Look at this tall, handsome, fit sexy older man. I hope he tries to talk to me.” People decide who is or is not in their league and not everyone agrees. As for you saying there are plenty of hot women in their 30s, yea sure. There are. They just aren’t as hot as hot women in their 20s. You aren’t a heterosexual man. I don’t know exactly how to explain it to you. Young women are just far hotter. Women in their early 20s are hotter than women in their late 20s. Women in their late 20s are hotter than women in their early 30s. Age is one of the most significant metrics in female beauty (take advantage of it now. You are probably hotter now than you will ever be at any future point of your life). You can only neutrally observe aesthetics, as if looking at an art piece, but you can’t actually feel it in your blood and in your bones. Young women are just far more attractive. And, tons of young women like older men, if they have the right look and personality. People decide who is and is not in their league for themselves. I’m sure I’ll have tons of success with women in your age group in my 30s, just as many other of the more desirable men in their 30s do. You can decide what you’re into, and that’s fine. But, as long as I’m interested in a woman and she’s interested in me, I see no issue. Don’t judge other people just because their preferences don’t align with yours.

[888theGreat]

Yep, it is all about the hips , men know she is natural born baby maker. This is all true. Men whether conscious or sub consciously are drawn to these women.

[888theGreat]

@hi_it_is_me123 Women can't really understand men and why they do what they do

[888theGreat]

@hi_it_is_me123 30 , is a young man still. I would consider 30 to 39 males young.

[888theGreat]

@hi_it_is_me123 Maybe in the West, but Asian women prefer older white guys. The site I am on , Asian women think they are old at 30. I have 19 year old Asian women wanting me to marry them and I am 51, and yes I have a pic up on site.

[hi_it_is_me123]

These Asian women are gold diggers. They marry white men for green card or money.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I just think it is disgusting that some men just reject a woman only because she is too old

[DianaWest]

@randomguy4321 lol. all these old men think it is so easy to land a young, attractive woman. may be, if you are making the big bucks. but don't be surprised if you end up funding her boyfriend's college tuition and Porsche. most young attractive women go with older men only if they are filthy rich. trust me. young women tend to prefer men within their age range.

[randomguy4321]

Well, women don’t really actively pursue men, so I’m not talking about rejecting women, I’m talking about the women I choose to go for. And, isn’t appearance a factor for women too? Like, if he was really short or overweight or whatever the case, you might reject him. For men, age is right there on the list. And, yea. For men who are in their 40s or 50s, it’s likely that most young women are only or mostly interested in their money. But, I think for a guy in their 30s, If they’re really good looking, it’s possible without money being the main factor. I’m tall, and I’d say I pretty handsome and charismatic as well. And, I plan to be in really good shape. I have been in the past, I’m decent now and working on it. So, yea. I do think that some women your age would be interested in a tall, handsome, fit, charismatic man in his 30s. Not all of them, but enough. You might be right for a huge portion of women your age. But, that still leaves a huge portion of women your age where you’re wrong. I think I’ll do just fine with women in your age group in my 30s.

[eschneider]

@DianaWest rentals are less trouble

[Flower7]

I enjoyed reading your Mytake. You have very good writing skills and are very talented.

[Apope16]

I am very flattered!

[Thatsamazing]

... He does? He is?

[Flower7]

@Thatsamazing Yes. I'm a writer myself and have written a book, so can recognize creativity.

[Thatsamazing]

I am too, and so can I. Sadly, creativity alone doesn't cut it.

[888theGreat]

Name of book? Amazon. com?

[888theGreat]

My mom wrote a book and you can buy it on Amazon. com.

[vannefftor]

Feminism is an outdated critical theory that takes its dictionary definition out of context by overemphasizing a movement of women who have turned oppression into an identity. The concept of feminism is obvious to moet humans male and female, 9.9 times outta 10 a woman who calls herself a feminist just doesn't really like men and wants a matriarchy more than they want a balanced representative democracy. Im all for equal pay for equal work, obv long overdue. However beauty standards are pushed by an industry of makeup executives and kardashians that use marketing to bait people into changinf themselves. Mfs are beautifuothe way they are and uncle sam doesn't give af about philosophy - only your checkbooks.

[CAT80]

We are the comfort of men, as they are the comfort of us.

[kinqp123]

Lols, God bless you for this comment, we are for each other

[CAT80]

Very welcome

[Knuxx]

Thanks for your comment cause the we are superior stuff is really annoying and untrue. We need eachother point blank period.

[888theGreat]

We gave you a rib to be there with us

[Hermes-Paris]

Didn't we do this one earlier in the day with some older dood being the prize? Well I think none of us are a prize. 😎 Really now. We are all pain in the asses! And some of us are lucky enough to have someone stick around who will put up with all our crap, our moods, and our flabby butts for 40 or 50 years and not kill us. If you are one of those people you should get a prize or at least a road named after you. 👍

[hi_it_is_me123]

Love both men and women but i am afraid of ageing. I even think about commiting suicide because i do not want to hit wall

[WalkingSpear]

There is no wall. It's an illusion that keeps changing as you get older. At 21 you're not even at your best years yet. The thing they say to all those teenagers in high school to keep them from losing hope and committing suicide is still true even after that: it does get better, it gets SO much better.
Not to say you're not going to have low times, but remember that those are only temporary and that staying true to yourself is ultimately what is going to make you happiest.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I am actually 20 and look much younger than I am but I am still afraid

[Apope16]

You will age with grace and beauty. Your sex will get better because of confidence and experience.

[theChineseWASP]

Hi I’m trying to pm you but it won’t allow me even though I’m your follower? @hi_it_is_me123

[888theGreat]

When you are 20 , you think 40 is old, then when you are 40, you think 60 is old , then when you reach 60 , you will think 80 is old, they when you reach 80, you will know you are old, but still aim for 90. Only a short sighted person would think about killing themselves because they are getting older or they just can't handle reality. I would say my best years were between 32 and 36.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I mean i am 20 and look like 15. I just dont understand why a man should reject me as soon as they know my age? I know enough women who arehot in their late 20s

[888theGreat]

I am a Christian , so I don't fear things, death, Virus 19, or anything else. If I ran through a field with 10 men shooting automatic guns , I would not fear that. I figure if God needs me here , all the bullets will miss me.

[Anonymous]

in order to be attractive as a woman you only need to not be morbidly obese. for men it's not that simple. we need to be tall, rich, have a chiseled jawline, a full head of hair, cater to all her needs and whims and "take control" and responsibility for everything while at the same time not appear sexist or patriarchal, be willing to overlook all her flaws while she constantly scrutinizes ours, be willing to relinquish custody but be responsible nonetheless, put up with domestic abuse (which women are guilty of more often than men), and keep telling yourself the mantra that you're privileged and should feel guilty about everythign wrong in the world

[arabgoddess]

Yes women are superior!

[captain_voidwalker]

Yeah that's why you ladies lay all the pipe , run all the wires, and pave all the roads that keep civilization running...
Well the you ladies invented all the things like the telephone, the automobile, the airplane, and the radio that have made our civilization so great... wait no gosh darnit that was the men folk too. Well then you must plant and grow all the crops and raise all the animals that we enjoy eating... wait that's also men... come to think of it aside from birthing children what do you ladies do

[vshl869]

Women or men bone is superior

Men need women
Women need men

If you say someone is superior then it's not right

[eschneider]

@captain_voidwalker no much, they kill their babies, abuse kids more than men, suck the government tit whenever possible, divorce rape men, single moms raise 70% of the criminals in prison, fat, ugly, tats, funky hair. File over 70% of the divorces, so lack commitment. Complain abortion is about control, when obviously they can't control their vaginas. Lack any responsibility, are always the victim. Contribute almost nothing in taxes, get to vote without the draft, and never had to earn it like all the men who died for our country. If a women is even held accountable for a crime, she does less than half what a man does. Most of the women in this day and age are pretty pathetic.

[Thatsamazing]

... No you aren't, sis. Sorry.

[Harmseygrace]

Men can do plenty of things that are their own too.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@arabgoddess
That is not always true. My ex who I lived with years ago refused to do any cooking and eventually ended up not helping out at home and her excuse was she was tired from working. I told her it's no excuse because I work as well. I was doing the yard work, laundry, cooking and cleaning.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@arabgoddess
Actually she moved in with me. I got tired off having to do it all and her act entitled so I kicked her out. Yes there was other reasins why I kicked her out.

[TheEagle_000]

She is probably trolling guys. If she isn't trolling then you better believe she is the first woman you see in feminist rallies shouting on top of her lungs to be equal to us. Don't fuel their inferiority complex.

[Thatsamazing]

Hey can someone do me a favor? Reply to @MysteriousDarkness ^ right up here and tell him that there's something relevant to his intellectual situation in this post, assuming he can read it: Blocking someone who disagrees with you means you're stupid. ↗

Thanks!

[Harmseygrace]

@Thatsamazing Sure. 😊

[Harmseygrace]

@MysteriousDarkness ThatsAmazing wants you to know that there's something relevant to his intellectual situation in this post, assuming you can read it. Blocking someone who disagrees with you means you're stupid. ↗

[Thatsamazing]

@Harmseygrace Not quite. Not MY intellectual situation-- his. Thank you though! Blockers are dumb.

[Harmseygrace]

@Thatsamazing Haha yeah, I realised that after. You're welcome.

[Liam_Hayden]

The prize is the one who brings more value to the relationship.

[Apope16]

What is value?

[ovixs90]

Its great you respect your self and love your self, but it sounds a bit funny how feminists all the time shout we are strong, we are better then men. Who rule the world girls. Girl power, Empower Women. Sorry but from a guys perspective honestly it doesn't look good. Just looks like some females that don't love them selfs shout to the world look at as similar like LGBT.

[HOAAH]

I don't like to think that I am anyone's prize. I like to think that I can contribute love and happiness for those who I care about. My prize and their prize is the privilege to be able to love and be loved by those whom we value.

[monkeynutts]

You should stop taking drugs, endorsing garbage ideas, and talking complete nonsense.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Look at his another take

[monkeynutts]

@hi_it_is_me123 naaaaah, I don't like any dialogue that involves gender roles, feminism, or why men and women are good or bad.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Nah. He made the exact take but the genders were reversed

[monkeynutts]

@hi_it_is_me123 yep I won't like that one either.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Read it first

[monkeynutts]

@hi_it_is_me123 sorry I'm busy, I'm at work.

[hi_it_is_me123]

What time is it there? It is 2:12 am here

[monkeynutts]

@hi_it_is_me123 10.12am

[monkeynutts]

Your in America, it's generally 8 hours behind us. It's Monday morning.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Nah. I live in austria

[monkeynutts]

@hi_it_is_me123 ok Europe. I was close.

[JyuuKaMoon787]

I wouldn't say that anyone is a prize. In the end, male or female, we're human beings. No one is superior to one another.

[Harmseygrace]

What about the women who leave their babies behind? I know you mean well, but this is terribly feminist and a bit wrong in some areas. Real men shouldn't fall for feminism.

[hi_it_is_me123]

There is another same take except the genders are reversed but you dont bitch about it. So you are a simpette

[Harmseygrace]

@hi_it_is_me123 Better than a feminist.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Then you are hypocritical.

[I-am-a-nobody]

Interesting take... could have done without the "mature" woman in her undies, but...
Why is a guy saying, "I am a woman?"

[D_Bone_Steak]

Women hate that they hit the wall... age like milk... are actually useless except for pussy.

[allenwants2]

That was a one of the most earth shaking statements I have ever read and in your words are extraordinary ability to express true feelings are well incredibally accurate and every one should share this around the world

[captain_voidwalker]

If women are the prize than this contest sucks

[hi_it_is_me123]

Woww why do male gagers get mad at that but are happy when they see the same take except the genders are reversed

[Poppykate]

@hi_it_is_me123 I agree!

[Apope16]

@Poppykate he sounds like a single man who doesn't know how to treat a woman. The elegant man a consistent supply of pussy and charm. He adores women.

[captain_voidwalker]

If I'm wrong than tell me what does a woman bring to the relationship table.

[Evil_Chuck]

You can prize yourself all you want, regardless of your age, if it makes you feel better. Don't wait around for guys like me to do it. I don't commoditize human beings.

[Thatsamazing]

Lol what the fuck is this crap

[Anonymous]

Eh... Old women... No thanks fuck that! Let some other sucker be captain save a hoe.

[hi_it_is_me123]

See his other take.

[lucas262]

No. we are the prize. Take pride in it.