What is Confidence? (Page 3)

[Kauto_Star]

Thanks for your reply to my comments. Living in a multi-cultured city. I see women daily of different ethnicities, ages, heights, hair colors & lengths. Also, attired differently. So, it's clear that women vary. My point is some women will behave forthcoming to A and mean to B. And B doesn't know why. Because women vary why don't women TELL us what it is. We not mind readers. And I don't exactly want to approach a woman to handled like dirt.

I'm send you a PM regarding fonts.

[Kauto_Star]

Finally, (about body language).

Parts one and 4 (which goes hand in hand), suggest to me that he's either skint, despondant or both.

Anyway, thanks for sharing this first class essay with us, I learnt something from this.

Now we clued up where we going wrong.

Hugs and kisses from London, UK

[Kauto_Star]

Point two, cont.

Like getting beaten up, having the police called on them, losing their jobs and many bad things for merely talking to a woman that's not into him.

Point 3. It's not about comparision against others. It's about lack of accomplishment (I said that about point one), That is cause of male depression. Also, when they are told that women like rich men with fast cars (some shallow women reject men for absence of such). That's why some men.feel that hold such attitudes

[Kauto_Star]

Point 2 (approaching women)

For most rejection is part an parcel of approaching women. And acknowledge that he won't get every woman he's attracted to.

The problem is they WAY they get rejected. Not many women say no or decline a man's offer civilly. Fewer still will offer good constructive crticism. Many respond in a rude and obnoxious manner.

Some guys have been told negative things about themselves and think he's good enough.

Also, some guys have gotten into a lot of trouble

[Kauto_Star]

An 11 out 10 article some issues.

"How to gain self confidence"

Point 1, you say (physical) excercise enhances a man's confidence. Not really. all that does is make him fitter. What really is enhances a man's confidence BIG TIME. Are RESULTS (as in winning), APTITUDE/ABILITY (being good at something) and ACCOMPLISHMENTS (things he's achieved in own right). Take a sporting event look how the winner behaves in relation to runner-up. They are both fit.

[Kauto_Star]

NOWHERE in this article she any implicit or explicit assertions. That:

- dateless men are losers

- nice guys are liars, con artists, sympathy seekers

- men feel that are nice to women do so because really deceitful predators who feel that are entitled to sex. (tsssh)

- men can read women's minds and are not honest about.

[Kauto_Star]

Anyone who attacks Ms Honey Bee about this article. Although I fully OVERSTAND your anger (powered by misinformation, lies and avariciousness) I'd say BE RESPECTFUL TO HER. She's been honest about herself. She's answered a question that perplexed many guys from a FEMALE'S PERSPECTIVE (that proved she was listening and understood a man's standpoint).

GUYS TAKE NOTE of what she's saying. This puts us on the RIGHT ROAD to getting a girlfriend or wife.

SO THANK HER for this.

[Kauto_Star]

Hi Honey Bee,

I've read your article. THANKS for an INFORMATIVE and VERITABLE answer about FEMALE attraction. What I find very disappointing very is that in main women WON'T tell you simple things like this, For example a "poor" poise could make a HUGE difference between whether or not he gets a date/girlfriend. WHY, does it take 20, 30 or 40 years to discover something that only takes 15 seconds to say.

[Vandal]

I think #3 is probably the most important of these. Self acceptance is the key. The moment I truly overcame my shyness was the same moment I genuinely stopped caring what anyone (especially women) thought of me & decided to unapologetically go my own way in life.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well, like I said in the last paragraph, these are generalizations and obviously won't apply to everyone since everyone is different. But speaking for myself and *most* girls, I can't stand cocky guys. Thanks for your feedback though:)

[serp777]

One exception to number 3: don't hold eye contact for an excessive amount of time--like more than 5 minute periods. Look down at the floor occasionally for a few seconds, but then go right back into holding eye contact

[gaginitup]

again, very well written and this should totally be published, it would interest a lot of readers and writers, and help them become more knowledgeable about what to expect from the mind of a above average girl

[WhiteSteve]

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[nattinatasha]

I feel that confidence goes hand in hand with style. I would have put this in the style category because confidence is all about the individual and not who he or she wishes to attract

[Kelly34]

I'm challenging the idea that confidence has much of an effect at all though. You are stating that women like confidence, I'm saying they aren't that bothered at all. Its perfectly valid here.

[xHoneyxBeex]

So you just make excuses for everything? That explains a lot. So typical. If you won't actively seek to make improvements in yourself and TRY then there's no point in complaining about being single.

[martyfellow]

I've found that these simple things, like maintaining good posture, are the important things to the good women, not flaunting your car or your wallet...

[molan]

"ambitious, ... career-oriented"... sound a bit like gold digging to me.

A man can be ambitious in many ways, but career-oriented is focued solely on job and money.

[beastman88]

smiling isn't cliche I think its actually an art form, and I find its contagious except to for those people that are exceedingly depressing and negative

[GoGoDancer]

Cont) And see who they pick. My guess is its gonna be the good looking one, even if the ugly guy has more confidence. And to top it females either don't confidence or very little at all to attracted a guy.