Okay guys, here’s the scoop. The chances are really high that if she’s ignoring you, by avoiding you, offering no response to your advances, and other actions that indicate she wants no contact, it’s not because she secretly wants to date you. Instead, it’s likely – sorry to hurt your feelings – that she’s ignoring you because she’s not interested in you as a romantic partner.
The ignoring signs:
- No response. You speak to her in person, and she acts like she doesn’t hear you. You speak louder and get the same response. Texting her cell gets no response either.
- Avoidance. She avoids you, it seems, as you’re never in the same places together, even when you know she’s supposed to be showing up.
- No contact. She has told you she wants no contact with you, and now she’s following through with that by using the no response and avoidance techniques.
So, if any of the above points apply, please take note that she’s just not interested in you. Why might that be, though, you ask? Check through this list of scenarios to see if any of them fit the bill:
1. She Feels Offended
While you may not have meant to offend her, it happened. Perhaps you were talking to her face to face and checked out a woman that walked by. She may feel that was rude and turned off of you. Of course, she hasn’t given you the opportunity to defend yourself – I understand that, and she may well do too, in time.
2. A Mutual Friend Issue
Do you have mutual friends with her? If so, it’s possible that one of them told her something negative about you. Whether it’s true or not, she may have reservations about being around you or responding to your latest text messages because of what she’s heard. An example is that she heard you broke up with your last few girlfriends because it got too serious for you to handle. In that case, she doesn’t want to get her heart broken and so decides not to pursue anything with you. That’s why she’s ignoring you.
3. Lack of Attraction
Unfortunately, she just may not be attracted to you. It happens to all of us at some point. That’s not to say you’re unattractive. No, but physical chemistry is usually important in a relationship and without it, well, she just may not be interested. Hence, she avoids you so you won’t flirt with her.
She doesn’t want to get her heart broken.
4. She Likes Guys With an Edge
Perhaps this particular woman likes men with an edge; she might like tattoos on guys or men that ride motorbikes, for example. If you’re the so-called “nice guy” then she may honestly not even notice you. She may look instead for the rebels in the group. In this case, it’s best to stay true to who you are, rather than changing to suit her. There are plenty of women who are looking for a kind man, so just be patient until you find her.
5. She Already has a Boyfriend
Are you 100% sure that she is single? If she avoids you, she just may be acting faithful to her partner. Ask your friends if they are able to confirm her relationship status, just to be sure whether that is the issue.
If none of these scenarios seem to fit and you can’t put the issue to rest, you can try to confront her as to why she is ignoring you. While she may offer no response and continue to avoid or have no contact with you, it’s possible she will provide an answer. If she is honest with you, be prepared that it may not be what you hope to hear. You may get emotionally hurt. In this case, it is probably best simply to move on.
Remember that we are all not suited for one another, and there may be someone that is a better fit for you as a girlfriend just around the corner.