I don't want kids, so I don't want to be wrapped up with someone else's kids. Just not the lifestyle I want to live. I wouldn't waste my time trying to get involved with someone that had them.
Well I'm 18, so dating a single mother is one of the most ill perceived life decisions I could make. I can't take care of a kid and I can't take care of her (now) emotional and life issues.
If I was a few years older and financially stable, I wouldn't have an issue. But dating a single mother at my age is like dating an ex-convict with domestic violence charges as a woman. It's just a bad idea.
Okay that last part just threw me off. You have no idea what others go through, do you really think that these mothers choose to be single? you're moron.
i doubt it's because of sex it's mostly because we have to commit to someone who has a flaw in a sense, because you have to carry their baggage. I could say the same with women, why is it that women won't go out with an unemployed guys struggling to keep a roof over his head? because you would be committed with someone who has a flaw or baggage and you might have to help him carry it.
Getting involved with a single mother is basically almost a marriage AND an adoption, AT THE SAME TIME. Basically you skip the honeymoon phase and immediately have to raise kids. Sounds like a bother, no wonder people aren't often up for it.
Usually it's because they don't want to be a dad. Personally I respect those who are honest that they aren't ready then suck up to the kid only to realize they don't want to be a parent and break 2 hearts instead of one.
How can men say a child is baggage? Thats quite disturbing to know. How about we say every child on this earth is baggage (because its not the guys child) and lets have sex with the childs mum and call it quits.. Fucked up world..
I'm sorry I think the same way about men with children. It's soo much baggage, not just a kid or kids, but also the mother of the children. I don't bring any bagage so I can make that demand as well. I prefer not having to deal with all that comes with a child.
I don't mean to be offensive, I know single mothers who I think are awesome, but the first impression I get is that she wasn't responsible, had a kid with some random guy who didn't really care for her, and for me I'm still building my future, not time for me to be a dad
A sad fact is that marriages change over time and sometimes it just doesn't work out - you're in love and with high hopes when you get married but 10 years down the track you've grown apart or worse, your spouse has died. It's really harsh when people pass judgement on a single mother for being irresponsible when she demonstrates more responsibility every day than a person without kids does because she is raising kids.
I don't want to because I'm to old to raise kids now. I don't hate kids wanted kids. But there came a time when I realized my age and nobody starts raising kids at my age.
I know plenty of guys who date single mothers.. Some guys don't prefer to date single mothers because usually there is the stress of the father of the child/children always interfering with the relationship. It's also very common for the mother to get back with her ex and this is another stressful thing to worry about.
i haven't noticed any thing sex wise, also i dont have it in me to raise someone elses child. if iam going to have a child i want it to be mine. id feel out of place trying to discipline somebody elses child, i dont want to have to deal with that.
One of those double standards I know you are not single but men can be such hypocrites Single dads will look for a girl without kids but they won't even breathe the same air as a single mom
If that's the case then any women with a child or not that isn't a virgin would be returned merchandize. That's just messed up dude if u have had sex before guess your returned merchandise to
Everyone seems to think that this is a about teen moms, it's not, it's about single moms in general. Most single mothers already have what they need to care for their children, so they don't really you need to raise/ finical support.
Some people stress too much on certain criteria while others are more relaxed. One person might be called shallow for not wanting to date someone with a certain job, another might consider it a practical approach. I might get called shallow for not wanting anything to do with single moms but I think it's best to not touch damaged goods.
I just feel like she's off limits. And the guy might come back one day and the girl falls in love again. Smh. Too much baggage. But if I got to kno her, she'd have to be worth it. Undeniably mine.
I don't know what made u a single mother but u screwed up bad... ure kid comes first always and guys dont like taking the back seat for their whole lives which would be what it would be... all the same there's guys out there interested in single moms and dont mind raising some1 elses kids if the real fathers not involved... i had 2 kids with my ex neither were mine by blood... i was always connected to the baby girl cause i was there form her first week compared to the boy because he was 3 when i got in his life... i felt super guilty about it and tried to share love evenly but it just didn't work well for me... still i never gave up and when i had to go it was the boy that cried i was leaving... just being there makes u a better father than most taking an active part in their lives makes u a great father... i hope 1 day i get the chance to be a great father but im already 27 so thats looking pretty bleak :P
Like I said before, you think that these woman pick to be in the situations that they are in? I think that most of these mothers would have love to stay with the man who fathers their child, but like life goes something's just don't work out, and can't just stay somebody just because you have a child with them that will just cause more problems.
At some point we single mothers have to take the blame for their choice in partners. Women have the luxury of choice much more than men. You knew dude was a scumbag when you met him
Its true single mothers look for someone thtas looki g fir something serious. well that's me I just turn 20 I had 2 kids and when looking for a guy I see if itll be serious or not.
Not ever til the day I've become a used car as well. Dat seed isn't ma seed so i couldnt bear da jealousy of thinken about the situation of getting with a single mama. Juz.. no :/
If you feel its extra baggage why have sex with person in the first place knowing emotions can get involved? Thats just a waste of time.(the like was by accident)
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I don't want kids, so I don't want to be wrapped up with someone else's kids. Just not the lifestyle I want to live. I wouldn't waste my time trying to get involved with someone that had them.
At least your honest.
Well I'm 18, so dating a single mother is one of the most ill perceived life decisions I could make. I can't take care of a kid and I can't take care of her (now) emotional and life issues.
If I was a few years older and financially stable, I wouldn't have an issue. But dating a single mother at my age is like dating an ex-convict with domestic violence charges as a woman. It's just a bad idea.
Okay that last part just threw me off. You have no idea what others go through, do you really think that these mothers choose to be single? you're moron.
Go learn what a real convict is?
Did I ever say that single moms chose to be single moms? No. If I did please insert the exact quote.
I never said single moms are like convicts themselves, I said that dating them is a really bad idea, like dating a convict would be.
How the hell do you compare a single mother to a convict?
I'm not saying they're as bad as convicts, I'm saying they're a bad idea to date like a convict, or a selfish person, or a mean person.
i doubt it's because of sex it's mostly because we have to commit to someone who has a flaw in a sense, because you have to carry their baggage. I could say the same with women, why is it that women won't go out with an unemployed guys struggling to keep a roof over his head? because you would be committed with someone who has a flaw or baggage and you might have to help him carry it.
Getting involved with a single mother is basically almost a marriage AND an adoption, AT THE SAME TIME.
Basically you skip the honeymoon phase and immediately have to raise kids. Sounds like a bother, no wonder people aren't often up for it.
Usually it's because they don't want to be a dad. Personally I respect those who are honest that they aren't ready then suck up to the kid only to realize they don't want to be a parent and break 2 hearts instead of one.
How can men say a child is baggage? Thats quite disturbing to know. How about we say every child on this earth is baggage (because its not the guys child) and lets have sex with the childs mum and call it quits.. Fucked up world..
I'm sorry I think the same way about men with children. It's soo much baggage, not just a kid or kids, but also the mother of the children. I don't bring any bagage so I can make that demand as well. I prefer not having to deal with all that comes with a child.
it's human nature, welcome to reality love.
I don't mean to be offensive, I know single mothers who I think are awesome, but the first impression I get is that she wasn't responsible, had a kid with some random guy who didn't really care for her, and for me I'm still building my future, not time for me to be a dad
I totally understand that.
I'm talking to a single mother now, and I don't really know her yet so as it as I can't see her as more than a friend
A sad fact is that marriages change over time and sometimes it just doesn't work out - you're in love and with high hopes when you get married but 10 years down the track you've grown apart or worse, your spouse has died. It's really harsh when people pass judgement on a single mother for being irresponsible when she demonstrates more responsibility every day than a person without kids does because she is raising kids.
I don't want to because I'm to old to raise kids now. I don't hate kids wanted kids. But there came a time when I realized my age and nobody starts raising kids at my age.
I know plenty of guys who date single mothers.. Some guys don't prefer to date single mothers because usually there is the stress of the father of the child/children always interfering with the relationship. It's also very common for the mother to get back with her ex and this is another stressful thing to worry about.
i haven't noticed any thing sex wise, also i dont have it in me to raise someone elses child. if iam going to have a child i want it to be mine. id feel out of place trying to discipline somebody elses child, i dont want to have to deal with that.
same here I have the same feelings, then the thought in the back of my mind is what if she does not want to have any more children?
One of those double standards
I know you are not single but men can be such hypocrites
Single dads will look for a girl without kids but they won't even breathe the same air as a single mom
They are returned merchandise. Would you pay full price for a dress that was re-stocked with a stain on it?
Why are you referring to woman as dresses?
I'm trying to make an analogy that you could understand.
If that's the case then any women with a child or not that isn't a virgin would be returned merchandize. That's just messed up dude if u have had sex before guess your returned merchandise to
Sex is like trying the dress on in the dressing room. Having a kid is making the commitment to keep the dress but deciding you don't want it anymore.
Everyone seems to think that this is a about teen moms, it's not, it's about single moms in general. Most single mothers already have what they need to care for their children, so they don't really you need to raise/ finical support.
I never mentioned anything about the financial status or the age of single moms.
Okay so your reasoning is just for the purpose for being shallow.
If you want to call it that.
Not like it makes any other sense..
Some people stress too much on certain criteria while others are more relaxed. One person might be called shallow for not wanting to date someone with a certain job, another might consider it a practical approach. I might get called shallow for not wanting anything to do with single moms but I think it's best to not touch damaged goods.
I would advise stick with virgins. Wouldn't wanna stick your penis where another mans penis has been before, right lol.
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Damaged goods would be any woman that's not virgin.
Keep reading up until you find it. You can do it, I believe in you.
I just feel like she's off limits. And the guy might come back one day and the girl falls in love again. Smh. Too much baggage. But if I got to kno her, she'd have to be worth it. Undeniably mine.
Most guys aren't ready for a ready made family. That's a lot of responsiblities that they're not ready for so soon
I understand, it makes me feel really bad. I should maybe just wait til my children are older and more grown up to start dating again.
I don't know what made u a single mother but u screwed up bad... ure kid comes first always and guys dont like taking the back seat for their whole lives which would be what it would be... all the same there's guys out there interested in single moms and dont mind raising some1 elses kids if the real fathers not involved... i had 2 kids with my ex neither were mine by blood... i was always connected to the baby girl cause i was there form her first week compared to the boy because he was 3 when i got in his life... i felt super guilty about it and tried to share love evenly but it just didn't work well for me... still i never gave up and when i had to go it was the boy that cried i was leaving... just being there makes u a better father than most taking an active part in their lives makes u a great father... i hope 1 day i get the chance to be a great father but im already 27 so thats looking pretty bleak :P
Like I said before, you think that these woman pick to be in the situations that they are in? I think that most of these mothers would have love to stay with the man who fathers their child, but like life goes something's just don't work out, and can't just stay somebody just because you have a child with them that will just cause more problems.
At some point we single mothers have to take the blame for their choice in partners. Women have the luxury of choice much more than men. You knew dude was a scumbag when you met him
*the single mothers
The same as why most women don't date men with children. Too much baggage..
Its true single mothers look for someone thtas looki g fir something serious. well that's me I just turn 20 I had 2 kids and when looking for a guy I see if itll be serious or not.
I wouldn't but my reasons would cause hate from random people towards me so I just stick with "I won't"
Not ever til the day I've become a used car as well. Dat seed isn't ma seed so i couldnt bear da jealousy of thinken about the situation of getting with a single mama. Juz.. no :/
I don't want to have to raise another man's child/children.
I would have sex with her but that is it, I dont want all that extra baggage.
If you feel its extra baggage why have sex with person in the first place knowing emotions can get involved? Thats just a waste of time.(the like was by accident)