How do I get revenge on someone who used me for sex?

[Anonymous]

He invited me over and i was so happy at the time that he was even talking to me because i liked him, and I never knew we were going to hook up but he kept telling me he wanted me he loved me and i thought well this is my chance but of course he never treated with any sort of decency or respect and after he was done, he expected me to leave. He has asked me to come over many times since then, but I keep telling him that I'm busy, because I'm not sure what the best move is. thing is he told me he loves me and would change for me , all he really wanted was sex and truth is i want to make him regret it and to me sure he knows im not stupid and also he was crap in bed haha

[MrOracle]

I know you're hurt, and so you want him to hurt too, but it's clear that this guy's words are lies, and that means he doesn't really care about you. That mean, short of physical violence or something, you aren't going to be able to hurt him.

Have you ever heard the phrase "The best revenge is living well"? That is SO true. Instead if you letting your desire for revenge burn you up inside, the best revenge you can have is to cut this guy out of your life completely, and focus on making your OWN life better. Again, this guy may not care about you at all, but if he does care at all, and he realizes or finds out that you are happily living your life successfully WITHOUT HIM, that, more than anything, will burn HIM. The fact that he's so insignificant to you that you can be happy and successful without him in your life in any way will make him question his significance, and nothing else you could do could have a greater impact on him.

Plus, whether that bothers him or not, you're going to be having a better life either way. And that's what's really important.

P. S., if you want to not get used for sex, then simply make a rule for yourself: you don't have sex with any guy you aren't officially boyfriend/girlfriend with for a couple of weeks at least. Let him prove how much he really cares about you by making the relationship official and even then, waiting a bit. Any guy who isn't willing to do that doesn't really care about you, and can be dumped long before he gets into your pants.

[queenmariereigns]

The relationship word scares guys away. I have used that word before and they go running

[TheRealDonDraper]

Revenge here is stupid and a waste of energy. It seems you are dealing with an immature man who seems to still be caught up in manipulating women to get what he wants. Then again it almost seems you were doing the same thinking sex would get you more. Chalk this up to a learning experience as to 1. what guys do and 2. don't make the same mistake twice as to having sex with strings attached, you're only setting yourself up for this again. You're best move is to take what you can from this and move on, think about the long play and not petty revenge. This will lead you to being a better woman which will in turn lead you to better men.

[CommieDearest]

There's no point in you getting back at him. He already got what he wanted and nothing will change that. Just move along.

[cantsaylol]

Get a boyfriend, and cut ties with him
Let him see it

Anything beyond that may backfire and makes u look even worse

Don't admit to others u were used for sex or had sex with him for that matter, it could turn around to how easy u are or slutty u are.

Best advice? I know ure angry but best to do is move on and show him what he's missing out on, and how happy u are with someone else

[thetundrawolf]

Unless he raped you, it was consensual. Did he give you a contract?

Did he sign something, such as a marriage certificate, saying he pledged his life to you?

Unless he did, it was nothing more than empty, casual sex.

[genericname85]

you gave him what he wanted so don´t blame him. he didn´t force you so its your fault too. just forget this guy and tell him to fuck off. this revenge shit doesn´t benefit anybody!

[meatballs21]

Maybe you should just be more picky about who you put out to? It sounds like you were quite happy using sex to try and get him to be your boyfriend.

[chives]

have some self respect

[Klaatu51]

try to make his pennis useless :P

[OLPM037]

use him for sex too?

[Rachelwhutt]

If I used him for sex , is it he will come to find me and say i regret about the past lol

[Anonymous]

Move on...
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