Is it normal to fantasize about revenge on a ex?

[Anonymous]

Dated a girl for 7 n half years who left me for someone else because I wouldn’t marry her at a drop of a hat. It’s been 2 n half months since then she lead me on I spent about $500 on a fast wedding she wanted but she didn’t show up. We also share kids together that were adopted because of her.. I lost lot of things dating this girl.. she suffers from mental health issues which she refuses to get help for.

Hey mental health issues used to be super bad but I help her get over almost all of them. I feel sick to my stomach I told the new guy who she’s been cheating on him with me 8 days ago zero idea if he’s still with her or not. I am still angry at her made I waste years of my life , made I lost child because of her mad I let her effect my mental health so much when I should have left her the day she was diagnosed with all her mental health illnesses like my family told me too. I still want revenge and hate that I feel this way it’s been 2 n half weeks since I last seen her in person I don’t try messaging her anymore

[JeffersonA]

Totally normal just don't do anything that can get you in trouble

From the sound of it she will do it herself and can't live without someone taking care of her.

People like that self distruct so just wait and watch cause you will most likely be getting your kids back.

I'm sorry she did that to you

[Asker]

Kids were adopted legally no way to get them back. She does work as a nursing aid at a nursing home she just I don't know. I haven’t done anything that can get me in trouble mostly agin just told the boyfriend everything and been wanting to do more with him like sleep her then call him to make things worse for her we may be working at the same job soon

[JeffersonA]

She adopted them back or you never got the adoption rights?
Either way she sounds like a side piece or just a dumb boyfriend.

You did what you should and he will see it or the same thing will happen.

Plot plan and crumple your evil plans and burn them... Yes burn them it helps.

My ex was a real piece of work too and so many evil ideas but you can't act on them. Great idea is itching powder in her make up!
That will make her look crazy at work and awful too

[Asker]

I sent her boyfriend the copy of the marriage license two sex tapes we made while she was with him , dated nudes , copy of our child birth certificate and a few text message.. in fact sent it to his family she got mad then blocked me zero idea if he’s still with her. The boyfriend changed his social media name and sent all message to friends only and make his friend list private. I think he’s somewhat of a nude his last guy broke his heart so he was very worried about dating my now ex girlfriend. No the kids were adpot by a foster family the judge wanted my ex to see a therapist she refused to do so for 3 years then give up her rights which made it look like she wanted them to be adopted … I tried fighting for them myself but it was a losing case got a pea deal that allows me to request anything I want and I can see them 3 times a year. Before my ex was diagnosed with her mental illness which was cause by her parents she wasn’t like this

[JeffersonA]

I'm sorry you did not get them! Dad need more rights!
Hopefully he dumped her but she will always be leaching off from someone.

[JeffersonA]

Thanks for mho

[Asker]

You welcome everything you said is true

[Anonymous]

nah i don't feel sorry for you bro sorry. 7 1/2 years and she broke up with you because you wouldn't marry her "at the drop of a hat". 7 1/2 year is not a "drop of a hat" it's an extremely long time.

[Asker]

I still played for the wedding and tried marrying her the day afterwards. The only reason I didn’t marry her is because we had a lot of issues that needed to be fixed first and she suffers from a lot of mental health issues as will that made us lose our kids