Why do nice guys bore me?

[Anonymous]

I always get asked out by nice sweet guys, we get on and I find them physically attractive but I can't fancy them, they're too sweet so I friend zone them. I just can't see them sexually. I always seem to be attracted to sexually sadistic men who don't necessarily treat me bad but always end up being quite self centered once I get to know them properly and I get hurt when they don't seem to care. I want a sweet guy but i'm never attracted to them. What's wrong with me?

[DonkeyKong1979]

Depends whether you actually mean 'nice guys' or 'boring guys'? There is a difference. There is such a thing as a guy with an edge who challenges you and isn't a pushover but still respects you and doesn't always put himself first.

Of course you aren't going to be excited by someone who follows you round like a lovesick puppy, don't feel bad about that, only normal t hat you want a little passion and excitement.

Unfortunately being with guys who turn out just to be arrogant self centred douches can be passionate and exciting to start with, so you might end up kissing a few of those frogs before tou find you prince. Better that than settling for Mr Nice Guy who bores you. Just try to learn to spot the douches early on so you can ditch them before you get too hurt.

[Asker]

Sounds Spot on

[Maik567]

So true, couldn't have put it better myself.

I always hear "nice guys" complaining how they can't get girls and girls only go for assholes. It has nothing to do with the fact that they are nice, it has to do with the fact that those guys are boring.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are basically too immature to appreciate the value of a good person who actually cares about you! As such, you are not really a true adult! This is a common problem with many younger women! You want the excitement and challenge of a man who acts like an ass! You are certainly not stupid, but your immaturity places you into a stupid mindset that makes stupid choices! Take heart! At least you know something is wrong! This fact alone shows you have the potential of becoming a truly wise woman! I hope you reach your full wisdom soon! Good luck!

[existing_not_living]

What "nice guys" don't get is that being nice isn't what's getting them nowhere with the ladies. I like nice guys too, and I have found plenty of them that like me back, but what I've noticed is that some "nice guys" lack the GUY aspect of "nice guys". I don't want a bitch, i. e. someone who will do whatever I want them to, who will wait on me hand and foot, who will let me do what I please and won't even question it. I want a guy with their own mind and someone who isn't afraid to speak up or tell me if I've done something wrong. Like I've said before, I've met plenty of "nice guys", but the ones I go for are the ones that have a mind of their own. Like some of the guys have said below, girls like a challenge. I want someone to challenge me, not do exactly what I say.

[ChaosKilledTheDinos]

I don't think it's anything wrong with you but possibly a phase or you just like a challenge.

[dartmaul15]

because you want the good guy.
The nice guy can't flirt, or treat you right in bed.

What you need to look for is the rare good boy who's weverything the nice guy is, but also knows how to treat a woman romantically and sexually (in short, bang your brains out if that's what you request)

[HikerDude]

You're like 99% of girls your age. You peer into a dark room, fascinated by the suggestion of what might lurk inside. Only after you've been thoroughly abused by the monsters inside do you decide that your fascination isn't worth its psychological cost.

[Error_204]

"What's wrong with me?", you're human.

You Need the sadism.

You Want the sweetness.

The mix is rare.

[Sigma88]

Because you, like so many other women, like a challenge. Nice guys aren't a challenge.

[TheWiseOwl]

You're emotionally damaged and are seeking out someone as equally damaged as you are, so you can engage in all manners of drama.

[BertMacklinFBI]

you're probably just in a different phase. maybe right now you just need to experience the stereotypical bad boy.

[LukasTheLovely]

Yeah. You want a sweet guy. In bed you wanna be spanked but In the street you wanna be ranked. Yea?

[matheus_mb]

I think that if you start trying hard you can feel attraction for them. Just try it.

[existing_not_living]

You shouldn't have to try to feel attraction for someone...

[matheus_mb]

Maybe I made an unhappy choice of words. I mean, she feels physically attracted and think that they're sweet. It's a start, isn't it? So, why not trying to work it and maybe she can feel something. I don't mean to ask them out.

[Asker]

I've stayed friends with a few of them. I can't force attraction. It wouldn't be fair on the guy nor me. They seem to have the same problem with other girls they like and come to me for advise. Unless a girl is extremely dominant and gets off on it, no girl wants a guy who follows them around like a lost puppy.

[Anonymous]

It's not just you. They bore everyone.

[apple24]

Because you don't ask the right questions!

[Anonymous]

A lot is wrong with you. lol

[mcdonalds1]

You want bad boys?
Come to me
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