Is there anyway for my girlfriend to stop taking me for granted without talking to her about it?

[tomkin]

Girlfriend is not really appreciating me and I need her too or else she is going to get dumped by me. How can I make her appreciate me?

[bobair]

We take for granted the things we get easily, and we cherish those things we work hard to get.

Besides being clear with her about your expectations, you should also stop giving her your undivided attention - unless she's "earned" it.

If you let her walk all over you, or if you pamper her endlessly, then she's going to naturally start to take you for granted.

Instead of outright dumping her, try this: stop doing all the nice things you usually do for her, and start making her earn back your attention.

Start with something as simple as saying "no" to every single request she makes.

Her: "Hey babe, I need some milk, grab some on your way over."

You: "No. See ya soon honey."

Her: "Drop me off at work tonight please."

You: "No. I wish I could but I have plans with my buds."

Her: "Kiss my neck."

You: "No. Kiss my neck first."

Make her jump through a few hoops, like you've been doing for her, and she'll either become bratty and storm off (problem solved) or she'll becoming more attentive.

Just my two cents,

~ Robby

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[CaptainFrost]

you have to talk to her about it

communication is an essential part of a relationship.

Its kinda lazy that no one ever wants to talk directly to their partner about a problem these days and it leads to a lot of break ups.

Let her know that you have a standard of treatment that you won't compromise on. If she's taking you for granted she probably knows it herself subconsciously. She may even be testing you to see how you react when she does something.

If you let her get away with walking all over you and taking you for granted, she will start to lose respect for you and then lose attraction for you.

If you don't talk to her about it, you may be the one who ends up getting dumped, and then you will be wondering why she's the one who dumped you, when youve treated her good this whole time.

[Cluelesswithmen]

I think I agree with "Captinfrost", you gotta talk about it somehow with her if you want to stay in this relationship. If you are the one being really nice and she is the one who isn't appreicating you then, not talking about it may push you two further away... If this is the case, you kinda already sound like you've made up your mind on her (depending on how long this has been going on) Now, without knowing the whole story. If you both are bittering at each other then you are both to blame, and you both are pushing each other away (but what is the reason for this? are you/her getting bored of each other?). Communicating is healthy as long as you are not constantly repeating yourself. If she loves you she will pay a little more attention to it. it may not happen over night but you gotta start somewhere. Remember, Everyday is another day, to turn everything around. good luck to you.

[Tigerlily]

If that's what's at stake, it's not fair to expect her to read your mind. Tell her about it, otherwise when you just dump her out of the blue and she'll be wondering what the hell happened and why you won't give her another chance. She has to KNOW she's being given another chance. So do it now and avoid all the hassle.

[tex151]

Be a man and put your foot down and tell her, things are going to change around here. Do you see what happens when you let a woman do what she wants, she starts to take advantage of you, should have told her from the start how was it was going to be, and now look what happened she's gone out of control. If you let her keep this up your going to be miserable.

[AtomizerJr]

you can't get anything unless you ask about it.

but if she's not already showing you that she cares, why are you wasting your time with her?