Girls, did I deserve to be kneed in the balls for slapping a girls butt?

Question

When I was in 9th grade I had a really big crush on this girl. The girl knew that I was crazy about her and she liked to flirt with me and lead me on. One day at the end of school I was at my locker and this girl came up to me and started to touch my back and butt. I turned around as she was about to leave and I slapped her butt. I guess she wasn't very happy with what I did because she kneed me in the balls. Her and her friends just stood their and laughed at me while I was on the floor.
Did I really deserve that reaction? I realize what I did wasn't right but I think she over reacted a bit.
Also just so everyone knows this happened quite awhile ago and I don't do this kind of stuff to women anymore. I have a lot of respect for women now. I was just a crazy kid back in day.
I know this is kind of a strange question but I've always wondered if other girls think I deserved what I got.

TechnoGirl · Accepted Answer

Wow! This is just crazy.
You dont deserve to get kneed in the balls just because you slapped her butt.
On top of it, she lead you on.
I think she was just playing a sick game with you, she used your crush for her against you and made you a laughing stock. I mean she touched your back and butt and you slapped hers, seems very fare to me.
But you have to understand that girls are very sensitive about their private parts including; chest, butt.. etc etc. I think it was an instict for her to react that way, but i also think she went abit overboard by kneeing you in the balls.
As for the laughing matter, it is quite a funny sight to see. From a girls point of view, you did something disrespectable and got your beating.
Besides, it was while ago. Whats the point in thinking about it now?
Its all in the past, close your eyes and forget about it. And it really doesn't seem like a pleasant memory to remember

NikiGoNN · Accepted Answer

Listen Lonely Wander.
Girls in high School, and Middle School are 90% stageing things. So from the way it happened, you were most likely set up.
I'm a girl and things like this happen to me EVERY YEAR! I should Know!
No, you seem nice so you didn't deserve that 9th grade encounter. I'm sure they were being mean especially since that girl who lead you on was involved and sense it was staged/ planned. Even now being that your an adult, you will still get women that are crazy, mean, and vicious like that in your story, so just try to discern a good woman, and a bad woman.

Maosource · Answer

Touching someone inappropriately that way actually is what inclines me to say yes. It's a bit of a grey zone to me since you say she touched you inappropriately first (assuming it wasn't unintentional), but clearly you didn't mind it judging by your response to it... So in a sense yes, but in a sense no as well... I'd say her reaction was too harsh, and also since she touched you inappropriately first I guess she had it coming? But generally stop touching other people inappropriately in public, otherwise it is sort of deserved

KaitS20 · Answer

Well, to be honest. Girls at that age are going through puberty and shit. And when that happens you can feel very awkward, self conscious and sensitive about your body. Everybody goes through this "awkward stage". I don't know what boys go through but girls can be very vicious and mean to each other and others around them because of all the changes that are happening to them.

Also boys and girls can sometimes barely communicate with each other. So sometime they can misinterpret signs. You might think she was flirting with you, but to her maybe she was just being very nice and cheery. I don't know.

Personally if I where her, I might have punched you in the face and walked away. But it all depends on the context and if I know you and such. ;) Kneeing you in the balls and then laughing at you to me seems like an over reaction, but I don't know, I wasn't there.

Sue09 · Answer

I'm not condoning what you did but to be fair she touched your ass first. If you had not wanted her to do that and slapped her in the face would that have been okay? Nope!
Benefit of the doubt the best case scenario is that she felt suddenly uncomfortable and reacted instinctively but I sincerely doubt that given the other circumstances. I acknowledge we are only hearing your side but if all happened as you say it kinda sounds like she set you up on purpose tbh and if that's the case she's a major bitch.

Besides, bottom line, any use of violence for a reason other than self defense is completely unacceptable in my opinion.

So no, you didn't deserve that

mellifluous_girl · Answer

I think she may have overreacted a bit. If she came up and started touching you and you didn't push her away, she had to expect that you enjoyed it at least a little and that you'd reciprocate.

Now, if I was this girl and things were different- say I walked over and maybe flirted but kept physical contact to a minimum, and thenyou slapped me on the butt- prepare to be kneed or bitch-slapped. Cuz I don't take that crap. However, if I had my hands all over you and provoked that kind of response, then I'd probably be shocked or annoyed but I wouldn't knee you. I'd probably just tell you if I didn't like it. As out of the ordinary or "wrong" slapping a girl on the butt is in public, I honestly think she should have expected it if she was sexually touching your butt- that's just leading you on.

Madds1544 · Answer

I think y'all were both in wrong but her the most she shouldn't of lead u on or played u like that slapping u that wasn't right cuz it gives wrong message to u but slapping her back prob wasn't the best response cuz to b honest if a guy did that I'd do something but though not sure I knee him like she did u she shouldn't flirt like that if she couldnt take in what ur responses might of been so I say she was mainly in wrong but I think u still shouldn't of slapped her butt back could of handle it differently

jul4a · Answer

In my opinion it was not the best decision to slap her behind (if a boy did that to me when I was 15 or even at my age now I would not be happy at all really) BUT she was kind of giving you signal. She was totally leading you on as you said, she started it. I do think it's harsh she took a hit in the groin area, I don't think you deserved it,... especially since you are very respectful to women now and don't do that. Teens have raging hormones and do stupid things... I know that for a fact so you weren't thinking totally and it wasn't your total thought. She could have told you to stop instead instead of physically hitting you. But, as I said teenagers are crazy and girls can get really angry and mad in the blink of an eye by a small thing.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

Girls are a funny lot, myself included.

We will do stuff like flirt heavy with you, but if you were to flirt with us, we can get bitchy. Did you deserve getting kicked in the balls?

I don't know, to me it seems she was toying with you and when you returned the sexual flirting back, she dint like it and felt you needed to be taught a lesson to not touch her and if she wants to flirt, only she will be able to do so.

Also, since it was in front of her friends, she may have done it to show off or save face.

Had you 2 been alone, she might have kissed you and more...

You need to ask her privately why she did it.

GigEmGirl · Answer

You're questioning the motives and actions of high school freshman girls. That's your issue right there. Much have yet to shake the "mean girl" from within them, or worse, she's just beginning to become one. Rather than think too much about what girls were like then, maybe think about what a nice, caring woman she *probably* is today...

I had similar experiences with boys in junior high. Today, they're all leaders of the community. Makes the stuff that happened seem really insignificant and nothing more than the stupid actions of tween boys.

ForeverSingle28 · Answer

She Over Reacted I Get That Some Girls Dont Like When Boys Do That.(I Don't When Any Boy Do It Because It Make Me Wet 😂😂). But She Shouldn't Knee You Like That She could've Just Say Stop Or Some Thing But That Was Uncalled For. Besides She Shouldn't Lead You On Like That. You're A Guy What She Expect To Happen Tf.. When A Boy Grab My Butt I Grab Their Balls. It Turns Them On. They Think I Like Em But No You Just Made Me Wet Imma Make You Hard
. Then Later Ignore Them And Give Them Attitude Having Them Confused..😂😂😏😉

Nyxisis · Answer

No, even though you shouldn't have slapped her butt she touched you first. But very bad way to react to what she did. Now if she hadn't instigated by touching first and you randomly touched her butt, I would have done the same thing. Especially back then lol

Naturalfemalesub · Answer

Haha! I did the same thing, minus initiating the flirting. We are still friends but we were in grade school. He was always flirting with me, I may not have realized it then, but I was friendly back. One time he slapped me on the butt in a friendly manner to him probably, but the water bottle in my hand made a full circle and up into his man hood.

Teacher didn't say a word, he deserved it. We both still laugh about it to this day.

Lizzietwentyten · Answer

I think you answered the question yourself by stating that you don't do that kind of stuff anymore and that you have respect for women now. I think her reaction was that if you didn't respect her, she didn't have to respect you and she just got you back.

LindsayRB91rds · Answer

She kind of started it, you escalated it a little, and she went above and beyond. I don't think anyone deserves to get kneed in the balls unless they actually attack someone. You can do permanent damage to a guy like that.

Maybe slapping her butt was a bit too far - we don't know how hard or how playfully you did it. If it was really hard and intended to hurt than that's different than a playful smack. But in any case the knee was over the top.

Faye4ever · Answer

Well... she touched your butt, I don't see the problem except she is childish.

Are you sure it was her and not one of her friends, and you slapped the wrong girls butt?

Either way, if it's just a bunch of girls ganging up on you to exert "girl power", then it sounds like they are just a bunch of bitches.

Sami365 · Answer

Considering she touched yours first, no, you didn't deserve that. It'd be one thing if she didn't and you touched her inappropriately without her consent, but she clealrly started the touching. The fact that she and her friends laughed at it makes her sound horrible.

Did she act angry or amused after kicking you?

WaterRat · Answer

How hard did you slap her butt? You said you were a crazy kid back then... please explain so I can get a better picture why she would do such a malicious act and laugh at you. You had to be a perverted devil of some sorts, I don't think a girl would flirt and do that unless I'm missing something.

Sweetiecristina · Answer

She had no right to touch your butt in the first place, but that didn't give you the right to grab her by the butt either. If I were her I would be humiliated that a man publicly disrespected me like that. I don't agree with her kneeing you in ball though.

natured · Answer

I think she deserved that and she was asking for that, normally im the first one to say that MEN WHO TOUCH WOMEN LIKE THIS ARE DOUCHBAGS but in this case you win... if she touches why can't you? I hope you slapped her really hard :)

Marvelousadventures · Answer

I think at that age she didn't fully understand how much that actually hurts. If a guy smacked my ass I would let him know that I was pissed off, maybe curse him out if it's a stranger, but not assault him! She was wrong and getting kicked in the balls isn't funny.

Anonymous · Answer

When I read the title, I was like heeelllll to the motherf'in yes!!! but then I read the whole thing, I'm just not sure what the hell she expected? She made it seem like she wanted that. Plus she touched your butt then got mad you touched hers? I don't get it...

polarpigeon · Answer

Well normally I would get very annoyed if a guy would randomly touch my ass. I probably would get mad but I never have kicked someone in the balls, nor would I quickly do that. Anyway: since you guys had a little history together it sounds kind of mean (from her part). It also sounds like she might have hurt your feelings, since you liked her. But it is always difficult to judge a situation out of context, because I don't know the whole story.

pinkmoscato · Answer

Her reaction was technically appropriate since no one should be touched in that way without their permission. However, it seems that she set you up on purpose by touching you first, which was equally wrong. I also want to add that I really respect the fact that you take responsibility for what you did wrong even though she was equally as wrong.

Jockfulcrop · Answer

You definitely didn't deserve that. I can see if you just slapped her on the butt just because but since she slapped yours first doesn't make it right for her to do that. There is no reason why she can slap your butt and feel some type of way if you slap hers afterwards.

supernes · Answer

had you just slapped her on the butt for no reason, yeah I'd probably say a light tap would be justified. But since she grabbed you first, then no you didn't deserve it, you were dishing back the same kind of flirt. Though I dont think slapping her butt was smart either.

GinaEdwards · Answer

you did not deserve that but girls at that age girls who get slapped on the butt rarely let it slip no matter the reason and especially when her friends are watching her, even thought it is not fair at that age I would had done the same don't be borderd by this too much tho dude greetings from the u. k x

RhythmBlack · Answer

You didn't if she touched you first like that (but that shouldn't have given you the ok to slap her butt). But I doubt either one of you consented to that touching at that age.
She overreacted. Especially if you didn't allow her to touch you like that.

thesongwentonforever · Answer

She was probably showing off to her friends (which isn't right).

And thankfully you know this, but you shouldn't have touched her that way, unless she ( VERY ) clearly; and I mean, so obviously, as in telling you to, gave you her consent. Aaannnd, she shouldn't have been touching you that way, either.

BBMonarch · Answer

No, you didn't deserve it. I am all for 'don't touch unless you have been allowed to', but seeing she touched your back and more importantly your butt first.. no, she should be able to take as much as she gives in a situation like that and she deserved an elbow in the boob for kneeing you in the balls..

TheJokersPuddin · Answer

I don't think you deserved a blow to your balls. (Strangest thing I've ever said lol.)
She was touching you first and was leading you on. You did what you thought was the best thing to do, although you could've approached it differently. She, on the other hand, could've handled it better.
Don't think you're in the wrong here. It's in the past and I mean really? Kicking someone in the balls? That's a little too much.

emileew00d96 · Answer

Consent is key. Maybe she's been sexually assaulted and isn't comfortable with a guy touching her butt. You kinda deserved it. She was a tease for touching you but her friends were there you said so it was probably a dare to touch you.

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