Girls would you tell a guy you don't know that his zipper was down? Show your work. Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

I got my teeth cleaned at the dentist the other day and after the dental hygienist left to grab the dentist I realized that my zipper was down. Had been down. For the entire visit. For my entire outing. And not only was it down-- it was gaping and clearly exposing my dark blue underwear against my light grey shorts. On my journey from the car, across the parking lot, sitting in the waiting room for about 15 minutes, and laying in the dentist chair for another 25 to 30, I must have been on display to at least six or seven people. All of them, coincidentally, were women. The dental hygienist, even more embarrassingly, being a woman I also interacted with for close to half-an-hour.
Looking back, its pretty obvious that they all noticed too. The receptionist could hardly look me in the eye when she checked me in. The floral hygienist was constantly shifting her eyes away from my teeth and our conversations between her equipment swaps always seemed awkward and drawn out. Worst of all I distinctly remember hearing an iphone photo snap shortly after the hygienist had leaned my chair back.
Ladies, if you're the type to let a poor oaf continue walking around in public with his fly gaping open, how do you justify it? I get more embarrassed the more I think about it. And I can't help but think that if a man were there, he would have let me know.

[Malizard]

Sorry but I can't help but laugh. I was just searching for answers to a similar question I had yesterday and found this.

So a guy who sits next to me in my class forgot to zip his pants. His fly was gaping massively and his boxers and bulge were clearly exposed like yours. I thought about telling him as soon as I saw but couldn't muster the courage. After like 10 or 15 minutes I just decided that it'd be too embarrassing for me past that point so I let him sit like that for the 2 and a half hour class period!!! I couldn't stop smirking and I basically just stared at his crotch the whole time. I'm pretty sure the girl sitting on the other side of him took pictures (she was holding her phone suspiciously and I know she noticed. We laughed about his open fly after class so I'm pretty sure she did lol) So I took pictures too and sent them to my friends. Not that this is comforting for you or anything but your dental hygienist probably did the same thing.

Was it wrong of us? Yeah obviously but its sure as hell funny. lol your hygienist even put you in a position that further exposed your crotch AND prevented you from being able to realize your fly was down!! Dude if you're attractive and have a sizable package I bet that was a titillating experience for her. My guy was pretty hot-- that's partly why I didn't tell him. I guess, to be positive, you could take it as a compliment that none of those women said anything-- they didn't want to spoil the view! :D

[Asker]

Wow it's been awhile since I asked this but thanks for being so candid I guess. If they were ogling me and not just making fun of me then that's pretty hot actually. And so long as I'm not identifiable in her picture it doesn't really bother me that much. How does that BIll Withers song go? "If it feels this good gettin used, then baby use me up" Haha

For the record I'd still rather they tell me but minorly exploiting me for the sexual thrill is the next best thing

[Malizard]

This guy gets it. Shoutouts to @ravedave and @Meninist. If their zippers were down I totally wouldn't tell them and I'd definitely take pictures just to spite them mwhahaha 😈

[Malizard]

@Meninist *

[ravedave]

This is the kinda shithole mentality that contributes to men being laughed at when they come forward with stories of sexual abuse by women. The kinda shit that causes them to disregard and push down their own trauma. This kinda fucked up, backwards, "all men enjoy it" idea that contributes to the same "rape culture" that feminists talk about. It works both ways.

Is what you've been talked about a much lesser issue? Sure, I'm willing to admit it's not on the same scale, but it sure does ride off the same fucked up mindset that male consent is a joke, and isn't meant to be taken seriously. That women can do whatever they want and a man will always enjoy it. No. That's not how that fucking works. And I'm sorry you can't seem to get it through your thick skull, even after dozens of people attempted to drive home the point.

[ravedave]

Once again, just consider for a second that the genders are flipped. A woman is in that chair in a skirt, and it rides up, exposing her panties. And the dentist says nothing, and takes pictures of the whole thing.

Are you honestly going to tell me that you'd be perfectly fucking okay with that? Because it's not. That means you're advocating for anyone anywhere to take candid/creep shots of anyone without their consent.

[ravedave]

I genuinely hope you're never put in the same vulnerable position as the man you violated. Because then you'd be forced to face how much of a fucking creep you've been, and how fucked up the mindset you're defending really is.

[lolaseng]

if its a friend of mine i would tell him haha and laughed about it. but if not i wouldn't haha

[ravedave]

Her taking photos of you in this situation was extremely inappropriate and a serious violation of you. Imagine for a second if the genders were reversed. That's creepy and just plain wrong.

[Naklin]

I think people in public wouldn't tell you because it would imply that they were looking at your crotch

[Mynameisbobby]

Dude that happened to me once in walmart. I was in the store and these girls were laughing when I walked by. When I went to pay at the register the girl there was kinda smiling at me. She asked me if I knew that my fly was undone. I looked down my fly was wide open I never knew it. I was so embarrassed she was laughing the girl next in line laughed too she said it happens to her little brother a lot. I paid and left quickly.

[Mynameisbobby]

Thanks for MHO!!

[weirdness_overloaded]

I would straight out tell the guy that his fly is open. I'm from India and it's not probably highly acceptable here but still why embarass the poor guy like that.

[Flower-petal]

It doesn't matter to me who it is, if your fly is down, lipstick smeared, something in your teeth, I'll let you know

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I think it's only kind. My boss is terrible about it. I really tease him.

[20yearsolder]

Do you ever think that he doesn't intentionally?

[Opinion Owner]

My boss? No. He's just truly absent minded.

[20yearsolder]

Just curious, it's kind of hard to forget to zip up your pants

[Opinion Owner]

@20yearsolder Well, we work out of his house, and I frankly think he's just on auto pilot and if he were home alone, wouldn't even have pants on. He had plenty of time to make the moves on me when we were friends and I didn't work for him, so I don't think his motives are to harass or titillate me.

[CrazyRT]

Not just some random person in the street, but if I was talking to you about something then yes

[imadecentguy]

Youd just seem like a messy guy tbh

[taytayasks]

Yeah I would