Do girls look desperate if they text first? (Page 6)

Question

Personally, I am one to text a guy first instead of me waiting for him. I have no problem in being able to start a conversation, especially with a guy I like. Does this make me look desperate or too easy if I text first all the time or do guys like it when a girl has the ability to easily start a conversation? Especially if that guy tends to be more introverted than extroverted in their nature.

lilmissumshine · Answer

No it gives them the green light you're interested. but I wouldn't text right away as it looks desperate

statelessbio · Answer

No, its pretty smart because most men won't even say hi for fear of being shot down. Now boys will be on you like ugly on an ape but not a real man

Crashnoveride · Answer

She does not. It is usually a line that no one really knows when they should cross but it shows us guys that the girl actually is into him.

corkman83 · Answer

I'd say most guys would prefer the girl to text first. A guy can mgs 100 girls and maybe 1 will message back.

warwang94 · Answer

No. Nobody should look desperate for wanting to talk to someone you like. Desperate is being a horndog trying to get fucked or get attention

Mr-Kabuki · Answer

no men dont see this as desperate. other women might call you desperate but men will honestly be relieved

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Here is another dumb question. Texting first is not being desperate in general. It is more about what you say.

Ras_Mus · Answer

If the guy is into you he will be excited about the text. Im so sick of this games. Why can't two people just drop the games, all this waiting to text as if we have more than one life to live.

m162000 · Answer

No its not , love doesn't come from a text  Both partners should not worry about something like that  There are more important things that they should be concentrating on

Odst162acount2 · Answer

I prefer the woman to act first, because I don't like thinking that people don't like me, I do that to myself, I over think to much and I can't stop myself

shiril · Answer

No. But I think it's typically depends on age group. Level/amount of desperation is different at different age groups. It's about maturity and the way We handle interpersonal relationship

sonnydigital · Answer

I think it’s normal for a girl to text first but it’s better for a man to text first. It means they’re courageous. If not then it’s whatever. No biggie

DLJ2_ · Answer

No, it is actually refreshing for a girl to text me first and start the conversation and if I like her then that tells me that she might feel the same way back it’s like reassurance

PloniAlmoni · Answer

Not at all. There's nothing desperate looking or wrong about a girl texting first. As a guy, it gives me a little confidence boost when they text first.

slyver0708 · Answer

I don't think so, sometimes I like when they try to text first cuz it feels like they are into you as well, but I don't think it should be one way all the time lol

SaifStb · Answer

Guys appreciate when a girl does that, it's usually skips all the confusion, it show that girl have interest, and the guy will start showing interest too

JerseyMedic · Answer

Nothing wrong with that at all. Showing interest is good no matter who does it first.

xerosagas · Answer

If girls texted me first it would l have saved a lot of grief.

antman222 · Answer

I say why the fuck not. What's the worst that could happen? Like, really, stop overthinking little things like texts. It's unfortunately how we mostly communicate these days so why does a simple text mean more than a hello in person?

OhHeyItsKipAgain · Answer

I think we can all agree that getting a unexpected text from another person especially one you have interest in can be extreme change to the day. of course the contents of the message dictate if it's a good or bad extreme.

Angelgurl · Answer

It depends on the kind of relationship you want with him. If you just want a platonic relationship then yes that’s fine. For love/romance/respect you’re going to have to let him chase you a bit if you WANT him.

mojojojo7769 · Answer

It doesn't matter some guys just are not good at being attentive and getting back quick

allen513 · Answer

Its 2018 either side can text first doesn't make a difference

Angeleyesxx1 · Answer

I would never text the guy first, that's just me though. If i go out on a date, i wait for him to call or text me after it bc i feel like their supposed to lol.. if i don't hear from them then i guess they weren't all that interested

Jamayca · Answer

I think it depends on how fast after date will you texted (5 minutes - wrong, 5 hours - good) and what will you say ("Sleep well, my future husband" - this is the nightmare of every guy after first date)

bigazz · Answer

No definitely not. More girls should text first, guys can't read minds.

Rick2367 · Answer

No cause I've notice most guYs/men have gotten soft. Scared of being rejected

Joelski440 · Answer

Hell I love it when the girl texts first, because I apparently have no texting game. ;P

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

No. Not at all. Ur saying the first 1to text is the desperate one?

callahan92 · Answer

I don t think you look desperate for texting first. If anything I would think it's a plus especially if the person is more introverted , I'm an introverted person myself, as it takes off much of the pressure of the first impression

Peter2209 · Answer

Not at all... I highly appreciate that if you do it from your end first...

Maria317 · Answer

No if they don’t you do it don’t wait for them you go and get it.

Satisfyingjones69 · Answer

Naw to me it just lets him know that she's there and she's interested not that she easy either but some guys has different opinion than me. But when u think she wants to well yes sex u up she givev that gint

TAE311 · Answer

Nope. I think most guys would like that. It shows interest.

Solias · Answer

Absolutely not, I tend to get stuck in my head and having someone pull me up isn't a bad thing

Anonymous · Answer

it doesn't look desperate at all... unless you're texting him essays before he has a chance to reply. a woman who takes the initiative and shows she knows what she wants is sexy 👍

Goochbreaker · Answer

that's the only way a conversation will happen with me

24lonewolf · Answer

It doesn't look desperate, it shows that you're genuinely interested.

IAMTHEGOAT12 · Answer

Nah it makes it easier on the guy haha he'll thank you later

Charles86 · Answer

Not at all. I don't think it matters. I think it kind of holds people back by following old rules like the guy has to call first or the guy has to do everything first. Why shouldn't a woman be able to pursue someone she's interested in?

sami7264 · Answer

Getting first text from girl is appreciatable by guys. But don't do it all the times. If he is introvert, provide him comfort zone. And then , there should be equal participation. Otherwise, it clearly means he is not interested.

Karubin · Answer

I'm a bit more of an introverted guy. So I do enjoy if a girl chooses to message first. I don't find that it makes you look easy or desperate, just that you're actually interested in starting something.

TheCookieDealer · Answer

If I like a girl, then I love it when she does that. Makes me feel cared for

brane315 · Answer

Honestly like singledaneedmom said, it can go both ways, and I think it would depend on what you would say frist if it's straight up hi date me or love me, then yeah you would seem desperate, but if it's just small talk then your fine.

solaris1987 · Answer

NOPE who ever told you that nonsense is full of $*#*# some guys are really shy

mike5150 · Answer

No if you like someone put in the effort. You stand a better chance getting what you wanted.

CertifiedGuy · Answer

No. You will if you're texting all day long and he isn't replying, but not if just once every so often.

Zackariah12 · Answer

A girl texting first can be good. If she is just taking the initiative that's cool. But if she actually is desperate than that's not so good

drshan · Answer

Love it. Given that gender equality is such a big topic this is one of those stupidly ridiculous gender issues that I don't see the point of.

JimmyPage · Answer

Its nice to know that the person who texts you cares enough to do it first. Makes me think the other person was thinking of me

gclark2708 · Answer

No, I'd actually prefer to be texted by a girl first Bare in mind though that some guys might take advantage of you depending on who they are

DNB1994 · Answer

I would rather call a girl. It shows you actually have the guts to follow up and she’ll be really interested.  Never text. Your not 14

johnhunter15 · Answer

No, not at all. If people believe that girls and guys should be treated as equal then it applies to everything including this

jim97 · Answer

No, not at all. That's actually how my first and longest relationship began. It shows us you actually have interest in us.

monkeynutts · Answer

You should talk to people who you think you will like. If you get unwanted, negative, or unpleasant feed back, you should piss them off quickly.

Fauzillic_Bolt · Answer

Well if men text first, doesn't it make him desperate? Who cares if it makes them look that way. If they want to initiate, let them.

nate8888 · Answer

No, I like when girls take the initiative sometimes when someone texts you first its appreciative especially if it is a compliment or a salutation

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Don't do it all the time. Let him show interest in you too.

RainbowDynamite · Answer

No. And see how society is now. It's best that women start getting more involved in the courting process. And not relay on guys to do all the approaching, planning and calling.

BrianZbynski · Answer

I will tell you, speaking as an introverted guy, it would be such a huge relief if girls would text/message me first... but unfortunately, it rarely ever plays out that way. Lol.

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