Why is it easier for me to get along with boys rather than girls?

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I always get along with guys fast. It seems so easy. It takes a lot of courage for me to talk to a girl. It's confusing me and stressing me out. Why is this? Is this normal?

existing_not_living · Accepted Answer

Lol, I am the exact same way. I went to a college last year, then I decided to switch to my community one this year. I made friends with guys so fast and I don't even have one girl friend that I could hang out with outside of class. I'm close with a lot of the guys in my major, but all the girls have a group chat and hang out with each other and don't include me at all. I was literally just told a couple days ago that it looked like I was flirting with all the guys in my major and then asked if it was just my personality. The idea of flirting never even crossed my mind. I would be the same way with girls if they didn't outcast me from the start.

I do have two best girl friends who are like sisters to me, but I also met them years ago when we were in elementary school. Now, I can't seem to make a girl friend no matter how hard I try. My best friend (who's a guy) from high school (and still is) is the only friend I have that I still talk to because every girl I was friends with didn't think I was good enough or worth it to be around.

I'm not saying that all girls are like this. They aren't. Not all girls are catty. But you can bet your ass that a majority of them are. Guys are too. I've had some horrible guy friends who made it their mission to stir up drama with me, but that's small compared to the drama I've had with girls. Your day will come. One day you'll find a group of girls who will love and cherish you and will make you feel so welcome. It may not feel like that now, but don't give up on it!

Jay_Lauren · Accepted Answer

I can relate kind of. I can get along with both easily, but I generally prefer dudes to girls when it comes to friendships.

With dudes, it's just simpler I think. Dudes are less bitchy drama-y. Dudes are also less moody. I think that's what it comes down to. Like with females, one day they will be all over you, and the next they will be like leave me tf alone.

Don't get it wrong tho, I have like two really good female friends. But I find that dudes are the funner to talk to most of time. It's less stressful. It's funny, bc when I was younger I used to suck with dudes.

It's weird, bc all girls complain about this. Like why are girls so mean to each other. And yet we are the ones doing it to each other.

I feel like I'm an easier girl to talk to tho. I'm not really dramatic or moody, neither is my best female friend, and that's why we get along so well I think. She's then only female friend I have who I know I won't lose do to something stupid like unecceasry drama. Whereas with some of my other female friends... I can see them starting something uneccesary and then me just being like NOPE NOPE NOPE, and dipping. 😂😂😂

Overall, I think there are benefits to having friends of a different gender, and of the same gender.

Dali-chan · Accepted Answer

Depend on your expectations. Maybe you have some boyish manners, if you hate, shopping, gossips and girly stuff it can be for that. As a very girly girl, who love make up, and have 10+ females friends and maybe at least one male friend (my cousin 😂), I can easily classify you as a hypocrite girl who want to attract attention toward boys, and is betraying her gender to become more popular, than us. So don’t be surprised if a groupe of girls will reject you because of that. Yes, we can be very girly but not all girly girls are dramatical and bitches. Be sure that if you’re acting like that to attract some boys, you will be deceived by your behavior, because boys themselves prefer girly girls, some of them can consider you as a “bro” or as a potential friend with benefits. It’s your choice, but for me, i’m more happier when I speak about coocking, cloths, make up and other glamourous stuff. You have to get along with your gender.

Compodulator · Accepted Answer

I'm guessing it's because most guys are blunt in most situations.
"Let's go somewhere to grab a bite. Just wherever." means the guy is hungry and literally gives no fucks about where and what to eat. Probably not too happy about those trendy gluten-free/vegan places because let's be honest, kale taste horrid and gluten-free bread is just some hipster bullshit.
"Hey, let's get out somewhere today/tomorrow/next week!"
A date. The guy is offering a date. Details are to be ironed out, but he's asking you out.
With girls, you have to read signals and bullshit like that. Dare you not note the fact she chipped a quarter of an inch from her bangs, she will definitely lose her shit.

Being_a_good_Indian · Accepted Answer

Abandonment or physical abuse inflicted by strict mothers in one’s childhood can cause Gynophobia. Often, a child on the verge of puberty might have been sexually abused by a violent woman, leading to a cycle of hatred towards all women for life.

Many tend to feel panic or anxiety attacks etc at the thought of confronting a woman. This includes symptoms like shortness of breath, rapid heart rate, sweating, dry mouth, inability to form words/sentences etc. Many tend to avoid social encounters with females and go out of their way to avoid them.

No intention to offend you in any manner but from my point of view it is #Gynephobia or #Feminophobia

discorde · Answer

Tbh I get along with both. I don't get along with too stereotypical girls and guys though. Stereotypes like: girls make dramas, guys just care about size.
Choosing people you have faith in, to show your most honnest self that is friendship for me girls and guys. I mean you got the choice and power to chose your friends. Use it. So far living this short life I've used honesty to build friendship with both. Sometimes I used it so much people were shocked at first.
But guess what? This way I get along with both without any obstacles.

Lovi87 · Answer

Same. It's because men are more fun, and laid back.. woman are bitchy and only care about themselves. Men are protective, kind (not all of them, but most of them are.), and have an amazing bond with their own friends. Have you seen how bromance is? it's adorable lol...(nothing gay, just a guy caring for his friend like a brother). Men don't bitch about each other, and they don't try to compete. They accept each other for who they are. Makes you feel part of them, even if you are female. They'll be there for you through everything, and it's really nice. I love my guy friends like brothers (part from the couple I dated. They were more than brothers lol), but you get the point. They're still there for me, even after we stopped dating.

fal312 · Answer

Lol, reminds me of all the gay guys I know, they solely get along with women.

Why exactly I can't tell you, but it's probably just a combination of the fact that guys are more direct and that they like girls. I like talking to girls even if I have zero romantic interest in them.
Guys' conversations don't involve any bullshit and just get to the point. Easy. No drama or hidden resentment or whatever. The girls I like to talk to are just very friendly and talkative without coming off as interested, and I like that.

ManwithaConran · Answer

Men are more linear and direct. There are no mind games; when you ask him a question he doesn't hit you with deflection or cryptic responses. You don't need to analyse the vocabulary he uses or the tone or his body language - it is straight and to the point. Take asking a friend "What do you think of the comedy 'Friends'?". If I ask my sister she will break down which characters she likes, which ones she doesn't, tell you her favourite episode etc. Ask a bloke. He'll say "yeah it's okay" or "nah it's shit".

sugarchateau · Answer

It's really just depends on who you meet. People are people. Men and women can be dramatic and complex people. I think you've found personalities that just suit you and they just happen to be guys that you had the opportunity to meet.

Blah blah blah, my experiences:
I've known guy friends that were really chill and just wanted to go out and do fun stuff like talk about planets, talk about sustainability and talk about our huge future goals and just eat a lot when we hung out. While others turned out to have an opposite goal and expectations and then create drama and lies to seek revenge.

I've had great girl friends that were adventurous and super creative and we just loved doing everything together like camping, going to Disneyland, etc. I've met girls who stole my moms stuff, gave it away as gifts at my school and stopped talking to me so i wouldn't know. Or girls who I thought needed a friend and turned around and just used me for rides... lol

Logorithim · Answer

I think it's a lot more common than many people realize. My guess is that some reasons are that guys are less emotional and generally aren't potential rivals, so there is complementary cooperation instead of competition, we like the company, and we work harder to look out for you than females do. There's also some attraction/liking even between platonic friends of the opposite gender because you have positive feelings about each other of some sort.

virginbish · Answer

All the girls saying that guys don't cause much drama... honestly I think that's bull. Guys have the tendency to want to be more than just friends when u get really close, and that causes drama too. So either way, girls and guys cause drama... u just gotta pick the ones that don't

GuysConfuseMeMan · Answer

I'm like that. I don't do bullshit or drama. I have few friends period because of that. I'm just very blunt and honest, and a lot of girls don't like that because they only wanna hear what they want.

I've been told I'm "dude-ish, but also very feminine" like three times by girls. I give no fucks, I don't participate in drama; therefore, most of my friends are guys.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a female friend, my only real friend. She has some girlfriends that I've met and been around a few times, she is always going on about how she thinks they are mad at her. And it's not just one time she says it, she says it multiple times in one conversation that it gets annoying to talk to her.

I find that girls love drama, like soap opera drama, just constant drama. Either they want to start something or they feel like something isn't right.

Sometiems I feel like girls always have that naggy elementary school librarian inside them. It makes them suspicious of everybody and negative around everybody except someone they like, such as a boyfriend, who can do no wrong at first, and sometiems they can't even see the problems that the guy has

Megarielle · Answer

For the most part, men are as they present themselves. From a very early age, women are cultured and conditioned to use social tactics that mess with the mind. I'm sure, knowing exactly what women are capable of, you WOULD feel more comfortable around guys.

Coconut_Man · Answer

Every girl I know has more male friends than female friends. I think it has a biological aspect to it where guys are more protective and chivalrous towards women. So guys would be more kind to you and almost see you as a sister, where as women might see you more as competition, and that's how "drama" with women begins.

Daltron · Answer

Depends on the men, it could be that both these particular men are the matured, usually neomasculine/alpha type and are calm and collected or at least just sure of themselves and confident with at least some basic leadership ability and you may also be at least minimally attracted to them even on a subconscious level which would help the first point be more potent..

themetalhead · Answer

maybe because you have at least a little bit of a boyish attitude? I do, to the point where some people have thought I was a lesbian. I get along with everyone but sometimes I relate to guys a bit easier. they don't always cause so much drama or get catty about stuff.

MsLoli · Answer

That's been the case for me, too. I always get along much better with guys or much older women (40+). I think most girls below that tend to be annoying, immature, shallow, judgmental, and overall hard to get along with. The good ones are difficult to find. Not impossible, just difficult, especially depending on where you live. I wouldn't sweat it.

Hurlyburly · Answer

The same goes for me. I guess thats because I do share more interests with the average guy than I do with the average girl.
My best friend is female though and I'm much closer to her than to any of my male friends. But well... all of her friends except for me are males aswell. Coincidence? XD

Onlythisone · Answer

I think because guys are more used to initiating conversation. Women tend to act like they aren't interested in talking generally. For me it takes a lot of effort to reinitiate conversation all the time so I only tend to stay in contact with people who come up and start talking to me... Mostly guys.

Anonymous · Answer

It's easier for you to get along with boys because boys are easier to get along with. Yeah, big generalization, but it's generally very true.

Girls are harder to read, harder to understand, more insecure, more dramatic, more "complicated", more petty, more likely to get pissed off at ridiculous things...

KevinSmiley13 · Answer

Because y'all make stuff so complicated. (E. g. a girl doesn't like another girl, but she says hello excitedly, acts friendly, and pretends to have this amazing friendship, then immediately starts to rip her apart when she leaves.) Guys might say hello just to be respectful but if we don't like a guy, we'll just ignore him or tell him and move on.

fineandpeachy · Answer

Yes it’s normal! It shouldn’t be though, sometimes I get like that around guys I really really like. So I go find guys that I don’t like, and practice on them. For example, some guy I pull up next to at a stop light or I see at the mall. I’ve definitely just kissed random strangers before

grimtigress · Answer

girls are naturally more emotional, and if you're not in the same way they are well it goes to show why you'd think shit wouldn't work out. they like to fuck with you head it seems like i fucking swear lol. everyone talks shit to a degree but girls especially so it's normal yeah

Boromir · Answer

You're not the only one, I have some female friends that state it like 'men are simple in their friendships, yes is yes, and no is no. If they're pissed off or unhappy they'll say it straight away. Men are also rarely jealous of other men. Women have this special 'no, all is OK, don't worry' face that we know is not true, but don't want to deal with it.

CindyRuns · Answer

To me, it's somewhat the same... I suspect in my case, it's because I grew up with 3 brothers. I guess I know what makes guys tick !!!

I'm also a bit different from the average girl... in a male dominated career, loves sports, serious athlete, etc.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Have you had negative relationships with girls before? It happens a lot around your age and it’s because women start viewing themselves as competition as soon as puberty starts. I am sorta like you and I struggle a little bit. For me it’s they nag me about stupid things like wanting to talk about boyfriends and clothes and it seems vapid. When ever I’m friends with a girl it’s cause we have things in common like wine , or we both like to Dance , art , etc

DEthinkerEP · Answer

From the female friends I have I see it as normal. If I was honest I would say most guys are nice because sex is on their minds. A guy otherwise not a gentleman doesn't care about what makes her happy at the end of the day if she was by her self? I mean that in a way such as a cup or bowl of ice cream. In that case what's the flavor she prefers. Next, oddly enough what temperature does she have her freezer if her ice cream stays soft. Mine always seems to either melt and refreeze or I have the temp set wrong. Either way hope it helped.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys, unlike girls, will make an effort to befriend you, because either subconsciously or even overtly, they're hoping something will come from it. And you, mostly likely, like that attention and therefore will also put in more effort in your friendship. That's why it seems easier to make friends with guys.

TripleAce · Answer

Its easier cause with girls you have to give them something in return. A girl wants to be your friend because you bring something to the table

A guy wants to be your friend simply for being a female

Thats why its easy. With guys you don't have to do anything but be a girl. With girls you actually have to put in effort

Hal2002 · Answer

Most women I come into contact with, say the same thing.

A lot of women feel more comfortable with men, because we accept you as you are. Men are friends with each other, women are frenemies to other women.

vashsoltek · Answer

Yeah it's normal a lot of girls can be very caty and agressive towards each other for example being a "2 faced bitch" and not even realising it till the betral is done. Where as guys are very simple we enjoy simple things like eating sleeping having sex and hanging out we are not that hard to figure out

DNB1994 · Answer

Most guys including myself are very calm and chill. Not all guys are sexist pigs. It depends on the guy.

Guys are also charming. Some women can be incredibly annoying and immature. The same goes for guys but some guys like me are serious and mature.

Anonymous · Answer

its easier to get along with men because when they hate u they show it when they like u they show it women play passive aggressive psychological games and pretend to be nice

however the worst kind of human beings is the man who act like a woman who won't face you as a man and stab u in the back!!!

Anonymous · Answer

I like be hanging out with guys too, most of my best friends are male apart from a couple or of girls, but all other girls just bring too much unnecessary drama, guys are just simpler and more fun to hang with. I'd rather just deal with shit and move on than dwell on negativity and play games. I also grew up with brothers and no sisters so maybe that has something to do with it too.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

I get along with both. I find it annoying when girls say this. Yes, females can be catty but if you don't get along with any then the problem is probably you. Drama is not gender specific.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I prefer the company of men too. Not for romantic reasons but because I feel like men are more direct, honest, transparent, unbiased, loyal, faithful and objective.

Apoorv_2812 · Answer

Please don't stress out... one of my friend have same thing she was upset by this but you now... you just have to be yourself and go with the flow... believe me enjoy yourself this is the time and please don't give a damn to anyothers opinion... and yeah to talk to a girl you should take help of your guy friends to mix you up... and slowly you'll get along...

chrisv · Answer

It’s more common than you think. There are a lot of factors. You don’t like competition (lol)... you find it easier to associate with boys. So find it easier to talk. There’s no pressure to behave one way or another with boys... and young girls can be total bitches!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Well first , since you're a girl guys treat you nicely
and actually some times girls are sometimes complicated i guess , some may think if you're talking to her that you're hitting on her ( as if you're bi or a lesbian ) but it's totally normal as i believe nothing to worry you at all

AnnieCA · Answer

Honestly, if a girl doesn't get along with any girls than maybe she's the problem, not the other girls. Guys have even told me it's weird and it makes them think that girl night be a bitch, and tries too hard to be a guy's girl

Astoriana · Answer

Because you have been raised in a society that believes that women should be pitted against each other, and that all they do is compete for male approval and attention.

BangTanSauceJK · Answer

Girls are always in a lot of drama, boys take it a little more simple. Boys are also pretty nice and friendly, like a puppy. Some girls I know can be little b*tches

Anonymous · Answer

I feel ya—I’m the same way! I feel like many girls are vindictive and manipulative and personally I can’t stand them.

AquaBoo · Answer

Because guys accept others without harsh judgment. "Innocent until proven guilty"

Wraithguy · Answer

Women especially this generation are too damn catty. Worrying about stupid shit

Pink1996 · Answer

It could depend on your interests, or the environment you're in. If you're still in high school thats understandable. You will most likely make friends with girls who are like minded souls in college or the work place.

UnaKaizen · Answer

bc guys are more accommodating atm, it will be easier to talk to women he you are older or if you are unattractive.

some guys are the easiest to get on with if they think you are pretty. then total dicks to your friends who think are not pretty.

RowenaRavenclaw · Answer

Because girls are b*tches. It’s true lol I don’t know what else to say. Guys are usually more easy going

EricaL · Answer

I think the reason why is for you to find out but you ought to know that there is nothing wrong with getting along with guys better. Lots of girls have way more guy friends and that's alright.

Immortal_God_King · Answer

Boys aren't afflicted with the mind altering state of lacking a Y-chromosome or the emotionally destabilizing and hallucinogenic effects of as much estrogen.

azzntittiz · Answer

Because you make them run a train on you and it makes you feel pretty, everyone wins. Either that or you're not pretty, so they think you're a boy too.

shamster1996 · Answer

I think that's because guys are usually more chill and easier to get along with. Girls twnd to be more judging and make assumptions, though girls are awesome, they tend to have a lot of drama around them

babylolita · Answer

It's totally normal  Some girls are full of drama and love to keep grudges so I prefer to hang out with guys sometimes because they know how to let stuff go and chill out

dsf2011 · Answer

Because all women hate each other lol. I'm not sure if that's really true or not. Probably not. But I've met many women who get along better with men.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Probably because, especially around your age, it's in most guys' best interest to be super friendly to women to up their chances of getting some pussy.

justiiceiisbliind · Answer

I think I go through something similar. I find it a lot easier to befriend girls. (But that also might because I'm gay?) Whatever the case, definitely not something to stress about.

ominiedus · Answer

Gender polarities. I may be wrong but pls read what I've to say.
I find it difficult to get along with boys than girls. Boys /men are comparativly rude. I find that hard because I've to deal with it everyday. I think that's the save problem with you.
You are rude than the average female population which makes it difficult for the girls to get along and sometimes they might call you bitch.
Boys on the other hand might find you as one among them.

DualityGreen · Answer

Girls are all drama most of the time. Guys are usually straight forward. Maybe that is it?

DragonBallz · Answer

Because girls like boys and boys like girls, should be obvious sorry for being a dick but that's literally the reason it's natural for us lot to want to talk to each other

Nilayan · Answer

Yeah it's completely normal. Maybe because guys are straightforward and you have common interests as most boys to discuss about. I have female friends who hang out with large groups of guys. Everyone is different 😄

sunrays1 · Answer

Not enough confidence being around girls maybe? Girls judge heaps more than guys ever will. It’s harder to get a girls approval then it is from a guy.

Fran1981 · Answer

I can relate to you, I get along easily with girls, boys usually just get me bored and I'm just not interested in the things they wanna talk about

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