I always get along with guys fast. It seems so easy. It takes a lot of courage for me to talk to a girl. It's confusing me and stressing me out. Why is this? Is this normal?
Why is it easier for me to get along with boys rather than girls?
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Lol, I am the exact same way. I went to a college last year, then I decided to switch to my community one this year. I made friends with guys so fast and I don't even have one girl friend that I could hang out with outside of class. I'm close with a lot of the guys in my major, but all the girls have a group chat and hang out with each other and don't include me at all. I was literally just told a couple days ago that it looked like I was flirting with all the guys in my major and then asked if it was just my personality. The idea of flirting never even crossed my mind. I would be the same way with girls if they didn't outcast me from the start.
I do have two best girl friends who are like sisters to me, but I also met them years ago when we were in elementary school. Now, I can't seem to make a girl friend no matter how hard I try. My best friend (who's a guy) from high school (and still is) is the only friend I have that I still talk to because every girl I was friends with didn't think I was good enough or worth it to be around.
I'm not saying that all girls are like this. They aren't. Not all girls are catty. But you can bet your ass that a majority of them are. Guys are too. I've had some horrible guy friends who made it their mission to stir up drama with me, but that's small compared to the drama I've had with girls. Your day will come. One day you'll find a group of girls who will love and cherish you and will make you feel so welcome. It may not feel like that now, but don't give up on it!
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I can relate kind of. I can get along with both easily, but I generally prefer dudes to girls when it comes to friendships.
With dudes, it's just simpler I think. Dudes are less bitchy drama-y. Dudes are also less moody. I think that's what it comes down to. Like with females, one day they will be all over you, and the next they will be like leave me tf alone.
Don't get it wrong tho, I have like two really good female friends. But I find that dudes are the funner to talk to most of time. It's less stressful. It's funny, bc when I was younger I used to suck with dudes.
It's weird, bc all girls complain about this. Like why are girls so mean to each other. And yet we are the ones doing it to each other.
I feel like I'm an easier girl to talk to tho. I'm not really dramatic or moody, neither is my best female friend, and that's why we get along so well I think. She's then only female friend I have who I know I won't lose do to something stupid like unecceasry drama. Whereas with some of my other female friends... I can see them starting something uneccesary and then me just being like NOPE NOPE NOPE, and dipping. 😂😂😂
Overall, I think there are benefits to having friends of a different gender, and of the same gender.
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Depend on your expectations. Maybe you have some boyish manners, if you hate, shopping, gossips and girly stuff it can be for that. As a very girly girl, who love make up, and have 10+ females friends and maybe at least one male friend (my cousin 😂), I can easily classify you as a hypocrite girl who want to attract attention toward boys, and is betraying her gender to become more popular, than us. So don’t be surprised if a groupe of girls will reject you because of that. Yes, we can be very girly but not all girly girls are dramatical and bitches. Be sure that if you’re acting like that to attract some boys, you will be deceived by your behavior, because boys themselves prefer girly girls, some of them can consider you as a “bro” or as a potential friend with benefits. It’s your choice, but for me, i’m more happier when I speak about coocking, cloths, make up and other glamourous stuff. You have to get along with your gender.
I'm guessing it's because most guys are blunt in most situations.
"Let's go somewhere to grab a bite. Just wherever." means the guy is hungry and literally gives no fucks about where and what to eat. Probably not too happy about those trendy gluten-free/vegan places because let's be honest, kale taste horrid and gluten-free bread is just some hipster bullshit.
"Hey, let's get out somewhere today/tomorrow/next week!"
A date. The guy is offering a date. Details are to be ironed out, but he's asking you out.
With girls, you have to read signals and bullshit like that. Dare you not note the fact she chipped a quarter of an inch from her bangs, she will definitely lose her shit.
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Abandonment or physical abuse inflicted by strict mothers in one’s childhood can cause Gynophobia. Often, a child on the verge of puberty might have been sexually abused by a violent woman, leading to a cycle of hatred towards all women for life.
Many tend to feel panic or anxiety attacks etc at the thought of confronting a woman. This includes symptoms like shortness of breath, rapid heart rate, sweating, dry mouth, inability to form words/sentences etc. Many tend to avoid social encounters with females and go out of their way to avoid them.
No intention to offend you in any manner but from my point of view it is #Gynephobia or #Feminophobia
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Tbh I get along with both. I don't get along with too stereotypical girls and guys though. Stereotypes like: girls make dramas, guys just care about size.
Choosing people you have faith in, to show your most honnest self that is friendship for me girls and guys. I mean you got the choice and power to chose your friends. Use it. So far living this short life I've used honesty to build friendship with both. Sometimes I used it so much people were shocked at first.
But guess what? This way I get along with both without any obstacles. -
Same. It's because men are more fun, and laid back.. woman are bitchy and only care about themselves. Men are protective, kind (not all of them, but most of them are.), and have an amazing bond with their own friends. Have you seen how bromance is? it's adorable lol...(nothing gay, just a guy caring for his friend like a brother). Men don't bitch about each other, and they don't try to compete. They accept each other for who they are. Makes you feel part of them, even if you are female. They'll be there for you through everything, and it's really nice. I love my guy friends like brothers (part from the couple I dated. They were more than brothers lol), but you get the point. They're still there for me, even after we stopped dating.
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Lol, reminds me of all the gay guys I know, they solely get along with women.
Why exactly I can't tell you, but it's probably just a combination of the fact that guys are more direct and that they like girls. I like talking to girls even if I have zero romantic interest in them.
Guys' conversations don't involve any bullshit and just get to the point. Easy. No drama or hidden resentment or whatever. The girls I like to talk to are just very friendly and talkative without coming off as interested, and I like that. -
Men are more linear and direct. There are no mind games; when you ask him a question he doesn't hit you with deflection or cryptic responses. You don't need to analyse the vocabulary he uses or the tone or his body language - it is straight and to the point. Take asking a friend "What do you think of the comedy 'Friends'?". If I ask my sister she will break down which characters she likes, which ones she doesn't, tell you her favourite episode etc. Ask a bloke. He'll say "yeah it's okay" or "nah it's shit".
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It's really just depends on who you meet. People are people. Men and women can be dramatic and complex people. I think you've found personalities that just suit you and they just happen to be guys that you had the opportunity to meet.
Blah blah blah, my experiences:
I've known guy friends that were really chill and just wanted to go out and do fun stuff like talk about planets, talk about sustainability and talk about our huge future goals and just eat a lot when we hung out. While others turned out to have an opposite goal and expectations and then create drama and lies to seek revenge.
I've had great girl friends that were adventurous and super creative and we just loved doing everything together like camping, going to Disneyland, etc. I've met girls who stole my moms stuff, gave it away as gifts at my school and stopped talking to me so i wouldn't know. Or girls who I thought needed a friend and turned around and just used me for rides... lol -
I think it's a lot more common than many people realize. My guess is that some reasons are that guys are less emotional and generally aren't potential rivals, so there is complementary cooperation instead of competition, we like the company, and we work harder to look out for you than females do. There's also some attraction/liking even between platonic friends of the opposite gender because you have positive feelings about each other of some sort.
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All the girls saying that guys don't cause much drama... honestly I think that's bull. Guys have the tendency to want to be more than just friends when u get really close, and that causes drama too. So either way, girls and guys cause drama... u just gotta pick the ones that don't
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I'm like that. I don't do bullshit or drama. I have few friends period because of that. I'm just very blunt and honest, and a lot of girls don't like that because they only wanna hear what they want.
I've been told I'm "dude-ish, but also very feminine" like three times by girls. I give no fucks, I don't participate in drama; therefore, most of my friends are guys. -
I have a female friend, my only real friend. She has some girlfriends that I've met and been around a few times, she is always going on about how she thinks they are mad at her. And it's not just one time she says it, she says it multiple times in one conversation that it gets annoying to talk to her.
I find that girls love drama, like soap opera drama, just constant drama. Either they want to start something or they feel like something isn't right.
Sometiems I feel like girls always have that naggy elementary school librarian inside them. It makes them suspicious of everybody and negative around everybody except someone they like, such as a boyfriend, who can do no wrong at first, and sometiems they can't even see the problems that the guy has -
Every girl I know has more male friends than female friends. I think it has a biological aspect to it where guys are more protective and chivalrous towards women. So guys would be more kind to you and almost see you as a sister, where as women might see you more as competition, and that's how "drama" with women begins.
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Depends on the men, it could be that both these particular men are the matured, usually neomasculine/alpha type and are calm and collected or at least just sure of themselves and confident with at least some basic leadership ability and you may also be at least minimally attracted to them even on a subconscious level which would help the first point be more potent..
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maybe because you have at least a little bit of a boyish attitude? I do, to the point where some people have thought I was a lesbian. I get along with everyone but sometimes I relate to guys a bit easier. they don't always cause so much drama or get catty about stuff.
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That's been the case for me, too. I always get along much better with guys or much older women (40+). I think most girls below that tend to be annoying, immature, shallow, judgmental, and overall hard to get along with. The good ones are difficult to find. Not impossible, just difficult, especially depending on where you live. I wouldn't sweat it.
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The same goes for me. I guess thats because I do share more interests with the average guy than I do with the average girl.
My best friend is female though and I'm much closer to her than to any of my male friends. But well... all of her friends except for me are males aswell. Coincidence? XD -
I think because guys are more used to initiating conversation. Women tend to act like they aren't interested in talking generally. For me it takes a lot of effort to reinitiate conversation all the time so I only tend to stay in contact with people who come up and start talking to me... Mostly guys.
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It's easier for you to get along with boys because boys are easier to get along with. Yeah, big generalization, but it's generally very true.
Girls are harder to read, harder to understand, more insecure, more dramatic, more "complicated", more petty, more likely to get pissed off at ridiculous things... -
Because y'all make stuff so complicated. (E. g. a girl doesn't like another girl, but she says hello excitedly, acts friendly, and pretends to have this amazing friendship, then immediately starts to rip her apart when she leaves.) Guys might say hello just to be respectful but if we don't like a guy, we'll just ignore him or tell him and move on.
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For the most part, men are as they present themselves. From a very early age, women are cultured and conditioned to use social tactics that mess with the mind. I'm sure, knowing exactly what women are capable of, you WOULD feel more comfortable around guys.
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Yes it’s normal! It shouldn’t be though, sometimes I get like that around guys I really really like. So I go find guys that I don’t like, and practice on them. For example, some guy I pull up next to at a stop light or I see at the mall. I’ve definitely just kissed random strangers before
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girls are naturally more emotional, and if you're not in the same way they are well it goes to show why you'd think shit wouldn't work out. they like to fuck with you head it seems like i fucking swear lol. everyone talks shit to a degree but girls especially so it's normal yeah
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