You should take it slow which means moving in together is pretty much a bad idea. If she isn't sure about you two working out right now you should approach this from a different angle. Start over completely. Hang out and reaquaint yourselves. Show each other that you've both changed. You aren't the only one at fault it takes two to argue and two to fight. I understand having those feelings and thinking you can just jump back in where you left off but that's a bad idea and could cause more harm than good. She has to know that she can trust you and not have anything to fear and you need to be able to express yourself and know that she won't hold the past over your head. You made amistake in losing your temper but after a few drinks tempers tend to flare. You guys have a lot of work ahead of you but she has to be willing to work with you. Until you guys know that you can work through your past issues you shouldn't make any huge decisions like moving in together even as "just friends". Be careful and don't put your heart on your sleeve. Take things slow and be open and honest. Good luck
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I have you know that reading your passage brought tears to my eyes and I wish that the guy that I am on break with right now would feel that way about me, but I don't think he does. To be honest I never know how he feels because he never expresses his emotions he doesn't open up to anybody not even me. First off staying in the same room with her but on the floor? She has to see that you love her that much that you would sleep on the floor just to be in the same room with her. In my opinion she just needs time to get over what had happened and with you two living together and always being with each other could help bring you two back together and faster. The main thing to do is show her that she can trust you but draw a line to between trust and doing everything she wants you to do, because there is a difference. But just take it slow, time will bring things back, and slowly build your relationship back up with her, yes it sucks starting over but sometimes it's worth it in the end.
Keep your distance for a bit. you can live together, and bond. get closer every 2 weeks.
you have a chance at winning her back IF she clearly told you "who knows what might happen later".. unless she wants sex.
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DO NOT live with her. It will just cause you misery in the long run. Since you will be "friends", she just wants you in her life, but not to be a part of it. You would have to get her back BEFORE you move in together. Think about this. She moves in, then starts seeing another guy, and tells you that you are just friends. She gets all the benefits. A place to stay, seeing who she wants, and you being there for her. You are already broken up. That "smile" that she is giving you is the "I am happy that you are there for me" smile, nothing more. Only live with her if you two are together, but if I were you I would just move on to other girls out there. Just because she is comfortable with you doesn't mean that she wants you back. We all are comfortable with things and people that we are used to. If she wants you back, it should happen BEFORE you both move in with each other.
your girl sounds really confused, she wants to be friends then move in with you?
yeah she still likes you
but I wouldn't make any moves on her unless she does it first.
so I would just build sexual tension with her. I mean you two where together for two years right?
make her a little envious; bring a friend of yours that is a girl to your place for a day
the two of you are not together anymore.
just living in the same place in the same room. =/
but in the end maybe... just let her go.
with time comes healing. the memories won't be so painful...
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Don't let her move back in with you. You're going to fight just like before unless you've both made major changes in your behavior. This isn't just all on you because you snapped, you two had issues for months before that, issues which likely will keep coming back. If you couldn't get along as a couple being roommates isn't going to be any different.
Another thing I thought of, although I could be way off on this, is that she just wants to use you for a place to stay for awhile longer.Let her go. That is a really bad situation. The feelings are still there and you won't be able to act on them. Then you add the normal roommate fighting stuff and that's gasoline on the fire. I wouldn't do it.
It's better if you stay somewhere else. Things won't miraculously get better just because you guys move in together.
My Opinion: Slippery slope. Do what you want, but proceed with caution.
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