Girls, who would you prefer confident or shy guy and why?

[rahul_24]

Opinions please

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I kinda knew girls like confident guys but was curious to knew as per why. Some interesting answer especially for shy ones. Thank you GaGs :)

[Anonymous]

I hate how this poll makes it any introverted/shy guys aren't confident. All I see is extroverted guy vs introverted guy. Shy guys can be confident, but confidence in each type is different in my opinion. A "confident" guy aka the extrovert, his confidence is with talking, charming voice, I don't know Cocky, etc. A shy guy probably is more behaved and mannered, doesn't really use words as much/conversation. They don't give much care to what they look or act like. They'll probably do more expressions like smiles/winks or obvious gestures like gifts (ex: giving you flowers/chocolates. Their body language is open, walk "confidently". They can not say anything and be confident. So this question is just a bad one.

[nturaverageakh]

I think shy guys because we are literally too shy to flirt, cheat or even talk to a woman, and that puts a woman's mind at ease, dont get it twisted if your shy and she's not she's probably fucking you about too

[rahul_24]

Most don't think that way or choose not to really. Some do

[Lily_Pi]

I like shy/quiet guys who might be a little awkward or skittish. I think it's because I'm also shy so it's not as intimidating. Plus it makes me more confident that they won't stray, if they are shy and have a hard time talking to people I can't imagine they would hit on someone else. Overly confident guys give me the creeps. Especially the type who try to pick you up, all i can think is how many other girls they've tried to pick up this week. I love some bashfulness, it makes me feel special. If a guy is quiet and shy and I can get him to open up to me it makes me feel like really special to him. I love why guys!

[rahul_24]

I like that, I thought this too. I actually that's what girls should go for to avoid cheating like

[rebecca10127]

My boyfriend is a shy guy, and I love him a lot. I love how he came out of his comfort zone and how much of a good boyfriend he is and I know he is super loyal. In my opinion confident guys can get a bit to cocky and also makes me develop more trust issues. However I love confident guys as well. Either was in a relationship both people need to step out of your comfort zones at times and you get confident and comfortable around each other.

[femalefootluvr]

Awesome insight! Thank you.

[rahul_24]

That's the spirit, it's about each other

[Phonty]

I agree with you

[Shhdy]

May I ask how did you do? It's cute😌

[Anonymous]

It honestly sucks to be around 100% shy guys. They usually are total killjoys and never go for what they want in life since their anxieties hold them back.
I would prefer a happy medium, where the guys is self-confident but not overly proud and arrogant.

[ok285]

Beta male?

[rahul_24]

But would you like hello then it to come it their shell like. They could be there most beautiful person

[Opinion Owner]

If they are able to talk to you, then they are not one of the 100% shy guys that I am referring to. If he can talk to you, then he is worth getting to know.
I’ve just had encounters with guys in the past who couldn’t say how they were feeling so instead they chose to follow me around and stalk from afar. In some cases I had to get police involved.

[rahul_24]

Ohh can understand, if they just don't engage at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Right. There are some guys who aren’t exactly shy, but are more reserved about who they open up to, and I like that about them.
Just not so interested in the guys who won’t open up to anyone.

[rahul_24]

True, I get that feeling with girls too if they aren't engaging at all I feel I'm knocking at the wrong door like

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. If there doesn’t seem to be any chemistry it may not be worth all the effort trying to get to know them.

[ChronicThinker]

Confident. It's easier to work with, it's more attractive, you never have to play guessing-games, etc.

[BrittBratt2416]

I am shy myself.. confident people give me anxiety cause im not super out going either and I'm afraid they will see that.. which they will. They will just end up getting bored of me lol So I need someone who is boring too XD

[Tessi]

Being confident =/= being an extrovert.
You can be introverted but still be a confident, outgoing, fun person, don't let names people put on things limit you :)

[BrittBratt2416]

@Tessi I know.

[Reach500]

lol, your comment made me laugh. I seek out equally boring people too

[rahul_24]

Damn, wasn't expecting that. Interesting to kno

[Anonymous]

As a girl, I prefer a confident guy. Most guys, however prefer shy girls. I am kind of a shy girl, and I dated another shy guy things might get awkward... So I prefer a guy who is confident, well presented, and most of all, a great sense of humor, even if the jokes aren't funny... just enough to make me laugh. I love when guys make me laugh. :D

[rahul_24]

Awkward situation is a little time, you can tackle that situation like

[Opinion Owner]

I am actually pretty outgoing... but shy in class... if the guy is shy but hot I would date him and be ok with that... I might be able to make him come out of his shell.

[rahul_24]

Ahh then you'll be fine. Give a chance to others too, you might never know he might the best one like

[Anonymous]

I like when a guy is shy around me at the start and then once we become a pair, he gets confident and proud. xD

[rahul_24]

Haha I'm like that.

[Opinion Owner]

It's cute af xD

[rahul_24]

😆😆

[asyouwereekt]

Both are equally attractive. Unless:
-the confident guys starts doing crazy and immature sht
-the shy guy is so shy he doesn't open up or anything
then that is not attractive, but annoying

[lovelyleo]

Either really but the confident guy will quicker come talk to me. The shy guy I'd have to go to him in most cases.

[rahul_24]

So you are fine with both types

[lovelyleo]

yes I don't discriminate. I don't think one is better than the other. You just will have to use a different approach with each...

[rahul_24]

Like your style, you ain't bogged down easily.

[DrinkJavaSeeSharp]

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[rahul_24]

Lol wakanda forever

[DrinkJavaSeeSharp]

Wokandah fo Eva, MA fren!

[Anonymous]

It's easier to approach a shy guy, it's better to be approached by a confident guy :-)

[Basketball34567]

Not necessarily better, yh he'll start a conversation but maybe he says the same things to every girl, in my opinion women are safer with the shy guy.

[jwookie342]

Yes but why are they shy? If they are, it might be because they are not emotionally mature or capable. Not saying for sure, but it’s a possibility

[Basketball34567]

Yes but you got to think about other possibilities. I myself am I shy guy and I have had girls as friends but that's it just friends, like they always come to me when they need relationship advice but I never even had a girlfriend. All I can say is girls are intimidating, whenever I see a beautiful girl I freeze, it's not that I'm not emotionally mature or capable I just want to be great, I want her to think I'm awesome so I put all this pressure on myself to be great then I just end up saying nothing and be frozen. That's just me, not all confident guys will hurt you obviously but just know this if the guy isn't intimidated around you not even a little bit and talk to you so slick and charm you, like half of the time I'd say he would want sex or something sexual, because he's done it before he's used to seeing the signs that girls have when they like him

[Basketball34567]

but with a shy/ less experience guy i just think there's more spontaneousity because he's shy now but once he opens up then who knows what will happen.

[rahul_24]

Well you have put things into perspective

[Opinion Owner]

I think some could be shy because they fear rejection, and the confident ones know they stand a chance, I don't like either extremes actually I like guys who are cool and mature about their feelings. Like this one guy became a friend then declared interest, I was so comfortable with him but was attracted to another at time. The other guy was also popular and made my heart race and flutter doing and saying diff. things. That is an amazing feel to be chosen and wanted that way. And, no he wasn't chatting up other girls like that.

[Shhdy]

@Basketball34567 there is this very pretty and mysterious shy guy who is attracted to me and I feel the same towards him but don't really know how to properly communicate with him, hey, remember us girls aren't always comfortable either even if we are amazing lol

[LauraS345]

Confident guys are easy. You know right off the bat where you stand with them, and women generally don't have to "do" anything to chase after them. So, yeah, part of it's laziness. But honestly, I prefer "playful" guys if that makes sense? Guys can be confident AND dull, too.

[LemonHead31]

I feel like guys who are flirts need to be confident or at least comfortable. I’m told I’m a flirt and I’m not super confident but I’m very comfortable with holding conversations with girls

[LauraS345]

You're probably more genuine when you have convos with girls, right? Like you actually DO like that dress rather than just saying you do as a 'pick up line'. I'm not saying it's a bad thing. But a lot of guys don't think that way when they flirt. A lot of guys try to do a lot of posturing and false bravado and think that's how it's 'supposed' to be. But women sense that desperation... and that's not usually a good thing. lol.

I wouldn't say a guy 'need to be' confident to get a girl. Confidence get's a guy noticed. Sure. But what then? If they don't have something else going for them they can't keep a girl's attention. So he's going to strike out just as much as the guy too shy to speak. It's a bit of a mix, ideally.

[LemonHead31]

I’ve been told I’m too honest, but I typically don’t compliment as a pick up line. At parties I usually invite girls to play games or overall being friendly i guess. I kinda just act social even tho I’m typically not, more just loud. And yeah you can be attracted to confidence but it will not inherently make everything you say interesting. That would mean shy people are boring too which is not true

[LauraS345]

Heh. I get that a lot too. The 'honesty' problem.

Exactly. Confidence doesn't equal interesting; and shy guys can be quite mysterious, I agree. I don't think either one is particularly limiting to 'getting girls' on that description alone.

[LauraS345]

I think some of the overwhelming vote of "confidence" over "shyness" is less to do with the flirting styles used; and more because "confidence" is seen as an antonym to "insecure".

[Lualla]

I like confident, this is probably due to the obvious phycological alpha effect a confident man can have on a woman. Sending dominating vibes.
But also subconciously I'm drawn to a more confident person, because confident people are better communicators, are more social, and more aware of what they want, which are all things that I like to see.

[DrinkJavaSeeSharp]

Why in Mighty Bast's name, dhu yeu let yuor feelings conthrol you?

[Shar98]

This is the most thorough answer i've read so far

[Ray-san]

Shy guy, because they have cute expressions of themselves they are well behaviored than confidents dudes, Please don't critize whatever I said I know there are guys have shy and bad mannered it's my opinion about it

[rahul_24]

Haha I completely understand like. I thought girls might also prefer shy guys just for this reason

[Reach500]

I prefer shy guys who are willing to take chances and leave their comfort zone if the situation calls for it.

[rahul_24]

This I admire, as long as other half is equally committed

[Reach500]

Thanks, I'm kind of shy by nature too, but I've been trying to push myself

[juliascone]

I find confident guys hot and sexy but there’s something about shy and awkward guys that really gets me goin

[InsertCoolName]

Yay! I have a chance!

[Bandit74]

I knew confident was going to win, but I am somewhat surprised that shy got as many votes as it did.

[rahul_24]

Me not I knew shyness also had it's wait just wanted their opinions

[navyrobin]

The thing is, some guys CAN pull off the shy guy mode. When you find a guy who can pull it off, it’s sexy as fuck! Lol but I guess it’s more “manly” for him to be confident and dominant. But I love a guy who has both (who’s confident but CAN be shy around me)

[Bjorn526]

Wouldn’t you say, that why that “shy guy” is attractive is not because of that guy’s fear, but rather his distraction, in being interested in something, that is not interpreted as “conventional interest in social confidence” because of his distraction of his own interests? And this is what separates the two? And why “shy guys” won’t understand won’t makes one behavior sexy and one not?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

The cutest girls will chose shy guys in my opinion. I'm not shy nor confident and I'm not in to hot girls.

[rahul_24]

Won't say cutest it's also personality too

[Peanut127]

I'd prefer a little of both. Bashful can be cute but high ego? No thanks

[zoe2187]

A confident guy without a big ego. He needs to have a balance. If I was forced to choose I would say shy.

[kevdawg408]

Im a pretty shy guy it takes a while for me to feel comfortable around someone i like is there any suggestions on what i can do to break outta this shell and start to be more outgoing?

[rahul_24]

Best way is to start communicating with people. The more you do, nice you'll know. Need to put yourself in out of comfort zone

[lockedinchastity]

I'm kinda both, at times I am confident and times I am shy. I would say I am slightly more confident than shy. Or I would had never met my intelligent, beautiful wife

[rahul_24]

I'm like that too, used to be a lot shy now I'm but of both

[BooBooKittyToo]

I am an Aries, as well as natural born leaderr. Day in and out, i zet bars go beyond limita. If hanot ft ound a man ti stands as i falter, ve brazen should I lack strength. Laugh aa i cry, make me laugh harder when chillaxin!!!

[Truthandlove2584]

Confident! I love self assured men! its a msculine trait! and I am a sucker for masculine energy!

[PrincessPie]

Confident guy, because i'm more attracted to extroverts.

[danny2774]

What's an extrovert?

[PrincessPie]

@danny2774 out going/confident person

[danny2774]

Ahh I get you lol I'm dumb asf

[fauchelevent]

Confident. It's good for people to have confidence in themselves.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I like confident guys. I NEED a confident guy. Shy guys are not for me. I like guys that aren't afraid to voice their opinion, tell me when I'm wrong and doesn't stay to them self when meeting/hanging out with friends.

[Shhdy]

I love artistic things and also parties not the "American Pie" thing, I think cute shy guys are to die for, they tend to be caring, intelligent and once you get to know them the best lovers, they aren't necessarily always alone some have many friends... I love quietness and having conversations with them is the cherry on cake. 🤗 But I think one of both in a relationship must be a little bit more comfortable.

[MaxieS]

More confident than shy but a combination of both. I think shy isn't the word for what I prefer actually. I like confident men who are laid back. But at the same time mutable and can make me laugh.

[sadgirlhours]

Same goes for men and women we all find confidence attractive. There is nothing cute about a guy who comes in looking down slouching his shoulders and doesn’t know how to hold a conversation. Same goes for women. Confidence is key! :)

[BlackMaleYou]

I think there are way more shy people that don't act the way u mention above. A guys walks up to talk to u and seems confident doesn't mean he isn't shy. Sometimes a guy just have to act, break the ice then feel confident to continue the conversation depending on the girls reaction

[sadgirlhours]

We aren’t talking about shyness we are talking about confidence

[BlackMaleYou]

u said there is nothing cute about a guy who comes looking down with a slouthing shoulder... That represents a shy guy.
I consider myself shy and I have to get my shit together and make a move. I seem confident but im sweating inside hoping only I notice im shaking. Only I know how nervous I am. I get really tense especially if she is really hot or I really like her but I manage. It works better if I think she is already into me. All these girls think Im not shy. I am just good at pushing myself cos I always ask myself "Am I really living if I can't say how l feel?"

[Bjorn526]

It is interesting to distinguish “shyness” and “lack of confidence”

I am really not shy, (you never see me post anon, I don’t give a fuck basically, here or anywhere) but sometimes people interpret me as (1) shy and (2) snobby and both are incorrect. I just sometimes get lost in my thoughts and observation.

However, what makes “lack of confidence guys” not be able to claim this, to justify their behavior, is for me, it’s a temporary phase

[interstellar]

Okay, you keep your looking up blushing and knows how to hold a conversation guy. just rediculous😂😂

[rahul_24]

Guys also go for shy girls, they don't mind if she can't hold the conversation. They hold the conversation like :)

[TacosRAwesome]

Confident guy. Or at least confident enough to balance the interest.

[Plumandpie]

I will like confident in front of others shy in front of me.

[UniqueUsername132]

Sounds like me

[rahul_24]

So you are a leader type like

[TinaSP]

Nothing is sexier than confidence and attitude even if its an act.

[ysabelle]

For me its the confident guy than the shy type... because its not boring and fun to be with...

[monicasagi]

A confident guy who is well verse with his insecurities and is ready to work on them instead of avoiding them to drown himself in self pity.

[egykimo]

Girls like confident guys for sure.. Being shy is good for a limit that can't make guys look introvert which is not okay for girls

[valualty]

Shy usually indicate being polite and confident comes from experience. Now would you want a guy that is polite or a mn experienced guy lol

[InOmniaParatus]

This is difficult because I can go with either or to an extent.

[ShyCountryGirl]

I'm fine with shy or confident. I like the shy guy because it's cute.

[Mserable]

Confidence is very attractive. But arrogance is a turnoff.

[LadyJade007]

Confident guy of course. But shy guys are also cute

[JustCallMeLeon]

Confidence will always win mate. Unless the girl has serious confidence issues.

[CT_CD]

They want a confident guy. Girls are turned off by shy guys

[ultimega]

Quiet confidence is hot ;)

[rahul_24]

Quiet confidence? Can you explain plz?

[ultimega]

Think of it this way :
You have two guitars one electric and acoustic
The electric one is loud and lively and catches ones attention through its powerful yet striking chords.

On the other hand you have acoustic guitar, which may not be as loud but can still carry a beautiful and soothing melody through its own arrangement that alone can gain the same level of attention as the electric one.

Confidence isn't about being loud to get noticed but truly believing in own abilities on a individual level

Makes sense?

[rahul_24]

Being confident is yourself, like your point of view. Interesting and thanks! :)

[JubJub_Hi]

Confident guy 😻 I am already shy and insecure, why I want guy like that?

[angelgirl7]

Confident guy. I'm shy myself so I feel like I need someone confident to balance things out.

[Jimarie496]

There's nothing more attractive than a confident man

[InsertCoolName]

Fuck, looks like I'm gonna die alone.

[TheFunkyThumb]

Dont worry dude. This is a trait that is 100% able to change if you want to.

[InsertCoolName]

@TheFunkyThumb Go from introverted to extroverted? Well I guess I could either always carry liquor or survive a non-fatal head injury.

[TheFunkyThumb]

Start with one. Then do the other

[rahul_24]

Nah man girls also dig shy guys. Just it's rare so

[TheFunkyThumb]

Would you rather appeal to as wide an audience as possible or keep operating on a super niche market?

[rahul_24]

That's upto you like, whatever you prefer. I used to shy like but I'm both like

[lernulo]

I dont understand the POV of this poll.
It looks like shy men can't be confident.

[rahul_24]

Point is shy men needs to come out of their shell and hold a conversation. Show to girls they are confident and don't rely on others. Point of the poll is if girls usually like confident men or even shy is fine.

[lernulo]

I think its isn't a shy man, its a coerced man. Don Drapper from mad men is more a shy man and I think he is confident

[Loser94]

Kinda of a dumb question everyone know girls dont like shy guys. I've asked this question before dude.

[rahul_24]

Girls do like shy guys, just it's not a popular thing. It's really not of a dumb ques at all

[YangBH]

as I always say, I like everything in moderation. not too shy and not too confident.

[thatcutie]

A confident guy with a touch of shyness

[BlackMaleYou]

That doesn't exist

[BlackMaleYou]

Or rather doesn't make sense

[thatcutie]

@BlackMaleYou there are auch guys

[BlackMaleYou]

Whats a touch of shyness?

[thatcutie]

@BlackMaleYou its a phrase indicating that a confident guy must be a little shy too

[BlackMaleYou]

I think u are trying to say not too confident

[patpalbor]

A good question to post would be assholes or nice guy, almoat the same question

[rahul_24]

Nice isn't always shy like. A bit different context but can see your point

[patpalbor]

Lol Yea thats why i said almost the same

[Logan27]

Girls prefer the guy with a big wallet. Can I get an amen?

[Letschat113]

I make my own money and pay my own bills.

[rahul_24]

Not all do, some are pretty independent and confident in themselves

[Logan27]

@Letschat113 oh big hurray! No one cares. Just because you have a pussy doesn't make you special. Guys have always done that. What's up with women these days thinking their heroes for doing trivial tasks.

[DamnMan]

Girls like good looking, decent smelling, non crazy (maybe) men, not boys, men.

[rahul_24]

It's a different topic like

[Bourne96]

They prefer the confident guy so they can sit on their ass and wait to be approached

[dongholder]

I like shy guys so i can fucking dominate them in bed

[TheUglyMan]

It's not about confidence that's just a myth. It's about looks, money status and height.

[rahul_24]

Not all do thou

[Anonymous]

Confidence, is attractive, it's more masculine and draws girls in

[shervvy]

Confident because I love an alpha male

[flowery123]

Definitely confident I’ve had guys lose me in the past due to a lack of it

[Journeyman11]

You mean you left them because they were not confident enough for your taste.

[flowery123]

Absolutely not they’ve never had the balls to ask me out and a more confident man beat them to it

[Journeyman11]

So they didn't lose you, they just never got you.

[flowery123]

Yeah and they lost me by never having me

[markJunior123]

So if u re shy type re u not also to be loved please

[rahul_24]

I don't understand what your said

[markJunior123]

I mean am very shy person and talking to people is diffcult so it mean i will not get anyone to love me right?

[rahul_24]

No just it would be harder to talk. Girls like someone who is easy to get along and if you don't engage. They get turned off like soz, some do like that but it's tough to find because mostly girls like someone who talks well and is confident like