It depends on the girl. I’m not saying this to defend anyone, but as a more introverted person, I avoid conversation when I do like someone out of fear of saying the wrong thing or getting too attached.
Once you know you do it you can work on it. I used to be horrible around my crushes, but I’m getting better. The first step is knowing about it! Everyone’s different! :)
Not being deliberately argumentative here, but your statement is the classic example of the emotional and cognitive dissonance soooo many chicks elicit.
But the fact that your *interested* at all simply means your not content with what you have currently... If another man can steal even a moment of your attention (therefore affection) then your not at ease, which 9/10 times means the RS your currently in is feigned at best, delusional at worst...
@FreshOutaIdeas well yes, I am young, can't deny that. But if I were interested in a guy, but didn't want to be in a relationship with him or otherwise, how would you prefer a girl to act if not like she's uninterested?
Please read again my first reply. In simple terms to say that you have any interest at all (and therefore a degree of affection) for a guy your not with, and then saying you don't want to be with him, is a contradiction.
If your with a guy and another gets your attention, then your current relationship isn't worth shit, and so many girls (young and older) try and fool themselves into pretending that the guy they're currently with makes them happy and fulfilled... When he obviously doesn't, as other guys would not be catching their attention.
Why did my professor made me fail the exam when there were no errors? Why does my ex says he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore when I know he still dreams of having babies with me? Why did my brother vomit the soup I cooked the other day when I’m the best cook on earth?
Maybe they are nervous we guys usually only see our side but girls get nervous just as much. She might not find herself interesting so she just listens.
She might just not have much dating experience at all
It’s called playing hard to get they do that and try to make you ask them out so thry can reject you only to improve their self esteem. Every girl does it nowadays none of them actually care about love.
To a degree women want to know if the man is serious about his intentions. Its apart of proving himself because not every man can be with that woman. Sometimes what you said can be true.
I. e. try harder./hunt more
1 no means maybe 1 maybe means yes 1 yes means she's easy 3 hard no's mean's fucking stop and move on
To me, if a girl acts like she isn't interested, believe it. Question it mo further than what you observe, and move on.
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For me I just get nervous and so it may seem like I’m acting not interested when really I’m just nervous but will be way more talkative when I get to know them better.
In today's society it's easy for women to be labeled as loose or slutty if they show too much interest, so to prevent that they feel they have to show hesitation.
Why do guys act like they're interested when they're not?😂 To get some sex, of course. So probably they're just trying to make sure what the intentions from the other side are (girls, I mean)
But like I said I though the same and then when I’m talking to one of her friends I’ll get told that she thought I was super cute, in a different scenario I will just ask for there number, get there number and it actually goes somewhere, but why even act like your not interested when you think the guy is cute?
There seems to be a lot of girls saying it's to test guys. I wonder if they are also the type to complain that guys won't take no for an answer?
Also you can't play games and wonder why you always attract a player.
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I’m a pretty introverted and shy person so I act kinda cold towards everyone but I try my best to be friendly. Then again, guys never talk to me anyway lol.
see this guy was dropping subtle, but not unnoticeable hints that he liked me... when i tried texting him, i got left on read and his responses were so bland... this is why i'm a little nervous to say or do anything more bc what if im just making a complete fool of myself
You said you feel like your making a complete fool of yourself right? Your not, you also said is answers got bland if he gets like that forget him and move on
Love this^ @jmr204 honestly as the men it is kinda our job to initiate the courtship. It's expected really that the guy will make the first move. If you don't ask her out/for her number how would she ever know? Most women can tell that you're into them. Some are a little insecure as well, like we're seeing in the comments, but notice how those particular women explain away what they're actually picking up on! Lol
And opinion owner! If a guy gets your number and his lame ass is too much of a puss to ask you out when you get in touch kick his beta male, beat around the bush, ass to the curb! Lmao <3
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If they thought you were cute but couldn't hold a convo, I'd assume they either couldn't, or, more likely, were afraid of rejection.
It depends on the girl. I’m not saying this to defend anyone, but as a more introverted person, I avoid conversation when I do like someone out of fear of saying the wrong thing or getting too attached.
damn im beginning to realize i’m the same way
Once you know you do it you can work on it. I used to be horrible around my crushes, but I’m getting better. The first step is knowing about it! Everyone’s different! :)
I used to pretend I wasn’t interested out of fear of rejection. Just rather not make myself vulnerable to that.
If I am interested in a guy, but don't want to have a relationship with him I wouldn't act interested.
Not being deliberately argumentative here, but your statement is the classic example of the emotional and cognitive dissonance soooo many chicks elicit.
But the fact that your *interested* at all simply means your not content with what you have currently... If another man can steal even a moment of your attention (therefore affection) then your not at ease, which 9/10 times means the RS your currently in is feigned at best, delusional at worst...
That said I've seen your profile age and will also say that maybe as you grow older you'll realise this.
@FreshOutaIdeas well yes, I am young, can't deny that. But if I were interested in a guy, but didn't want to be in a relationship with him or otherwise, how would you prefer a girl to act if not like she's uninterested?
Please read again my first reply. In simple terms to say that you have any interest at all (and therefore a degree of affection) for a guy your not with, and then saying you don't want to be with him, is a contradiction.
If your with a guy and another gets your attention, then your current relationship isn't worth shit, and so many girls (young and older) try and fool themselves into pretending that the guy they're currently with makes them happy and fulfilled... When he obviously doesn't, as other guys would not be catching their attention.
Why did my professor made me fail the exam when there were no errors? Why does my ex says he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore when I know he still dreams of having babies with me? Why did my brother vomit the soup I cooked the other day when I’m the best cook on earth?
Nice poem
It's a safer place to be. Any person wants that in an opening move to a closer relationship with a new person.
I try not to seem too clingy. But then I’m seen as distant, I try to not seem too distant but the I’m seen as too clingy. 🤦🏾♂️
Its because they’re shy. They don’t do it intentionally, I promise. It’s hard to talk to someone you like.
Maybe they are nervous we guys usually only see our side but girls get nervous just as much. She might not find herself interesting so she just listens.
She might just not have much dating experience at all
It’s called playing hard to get they do that and try to make you ask them out so thry can reject you only to improve their self esteem. Every girl does it nowadays none of them actually care about love.
To a degree women want to know if the man is serious about his intentions. Its apart of proving himself because not every man can be with that woman. Sometimes what you said can be true.
I. e. try harder./hunt more
1 no means maybe
1 maybe means yes
1 yes means she's easy
3 hard no's mean's fucking stop and move on
@BoomerK Meh i’m not sure I got the stamina for that tbh. Who could honestly do all that.
To me, if a girl acts like she isn't interested, believe it. Question it mo further than what you observe, and move on.
For me I just get nervous and so it may seem like I’m acting not interested when really I’m just nervous but will be way more talkative when I get to know them better.
In today's society it's easy for women to be labeled as loose or slutty if they show too much interest, so to prevent that they feel they have to show hesitation.
Some like to be chased too
Why do guys act like they're interested when they're not?😂 To get some sex, of course. So probably they're just trying to make sure what the intentions from the other side are (girls, I mean)
We don’t, usually if a girl acts like she isn’t interested, it’s because she isn’t interested. Or isn’t that interested in you.
But like I said I though the same and then when I’m talking to one of her friends I’ll get told that she thought I was super cute, in a different scenario I will just ask for there number, get there number and it actually goes somewhere, but why even act like your not interested when you think the guy is cute?
Again, says the outgoing person, not always true. I'm certainly not a girl but I know the story.
Just because a guy is cute does not mean a girl will be interested. Gotta be better than cute 👌. @ThisAndThat I’m not tho, this is facts.
There seems to be a lot of girls saying it's to test guys. I wonder if they are also the type to complain that guys won't take no for an answer?
Also you can't play games and wonder why you always attract a player.
I’m a pretty introverted and shy person so I act kinda cold towards everyone but I try my best to be friendly. Then again, guys never talk to me anyway lol.
same!! you can talk to me by the way anytime. lol
bc we're too scared of embarrassing ourselves, and also bc we don't know if the guy likes us back
We don’t know if you like us back either lol... maybe we’re scared of embarrassment as well lol
how should we show that we like you without embarrassing ourselves then?
What?
like how can we drop the hint that we like a guy without completely embarrassing ourselves in case we get rejected
Maybe carry on the conversation, or compliment the guy lol
see this guy was dropping subtle, but not unnoticeable hints that he liked me... when i tried texting him, i got left on read and his responses were so bland...
this is why i'm a little nervous to say or do anything more bc what if im just making a complete fool of myself
I don’t think you fooled yourself, if you can’t open up and ask questions yourself then clearly he is not the guy you want to go out with
wdym?
You said you feel like your making a complete fool of yourself right? Your not, you also said is answers got bland if he gets like that forget him and move on
Love this^
@jmr204 honestly as the men it is kinda our job to initiate the courtship. It's expected really that the guy will make the first move. If you don't ask her out/for her number how would she ever know? Most women can tell that you're into them. Some are a little insecure as well, like we're seeing in the comments, but notice how those particular women explain away what they're actually picking up on! Lol
And opinion owner! If a guy gets your number and his lame ass is too much of a puss to ask you out when you get in touch kick his beta male, beat around the bush, ass to the curb! Lmao <3
@tony_baloney aww tysm i think he really is just nervous tho. oh well if nothing happens i guess it wasn’t meant to be
Fear to be called slut or easy, guys don't like easy girls (in my country at least) they prefer a bit of challenge.
I’m much less likely to seriously consider a girl who does this by far. Like playing games is a deal breaker.
maybe she thinks you are playing cool? i always try to control myself or wait till i’m sure that guy interested in me