I’m currently working as a part time job at a computer repair man. I always had a passion about coding and programming, and this job is truly amazing, since I’m studying IT. One of the worker, is truly skilled and he teached me a lot of things. But whenever I go to talk to him there is some women that giving me a death glare. He’s very hot, at a point when a customer told him that if he looked like him he would probably choose to be an actor or a model instead of a programmer. We both truly get along, he took me out eat a lots of time because we like the same things and he teached me a lot. He’s 5 years older than me, which mean he’s 23 ans I am 18 and he treat me like his sister and I wished I had a brother like him. We both love video games and he promised me that we will try to creat a video game on summer holidays. I am truly excited with this project But whenever we talk or laugh together some women act really bad with me, at a point that one of them throwed some water on my computer the same day she called me an attention seeking slut with her friends. She always had a crush on this guy, and she even warned me to stay away from him. I told her that he doesn’t interest me but she doesn’t believe me and continue to flirt with him while bullying me with the other girls that had a crush on him. I hate conflicts so I don’t want to tell him what those girls are doing to me. And I never faced something like that because I always used to get along with girls like boys, so how can these girls understand that I’m not flirting with their crush?
Can a woman befriend a hot guy without appearing like she’s flirting?
Is this at work or in elementary school? these girls sound like they're in 6th grade! When you said he's taken you out several times, did he pay? If he did, it was most likely a date... or he probably thought it was. Is it possible these women are picking up on a subconscious behavior of yours? For example there is body language that most people do when they're talking to somebody they find attractive. Whether or not they want a friendship or something more. if he asked you out on a date, would you say yes or no? You may be giving off signals that you don't realize you're doing. If these girls start doing more things like pouring water on your computer, you may have to take it to management. That's a last resort, though. I wouldn't even tell him because it's not his responsibility to deal was that type of situation. It's your boss's. Please tell me none of these women that glare at you are your Superior at work!
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No they aren’t but it’s not easy to report someone when you are new, and these girls used to work here for years
Definitely. I have hot guy friends and I am not attracted to any of them, so it is very possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex no matter their appearance. The woman is probably just the jealous type, but you only like him in a plutonic way so you have nothing to worry about. If you are really concerned about what she might do, maybe talk to him about her and tell him about what she said to you because that’s not right for her to bully you and get away with it. She obviously cares about what he thinks of her so maybe him talking to her will force her to not bully you.
those girls are immature, they have to win him over and honestly, they won't! you will. he might categorize as sister, but bonding can still happen. There are dynamics where it feels that way, and can be confusing.
Ask them to show the ring? Else he's fair game to any girl. Tell them to up their game so they aren't so insecure.
Sure, but a lot of women are very flirty and compliment you a lot even if they don’t outright look at you like a sizzling piece of hot meat. A lot of it is in the facial expressions and normal conversations. If you’re giving us sex faces all the time it is what it is...
you’ve told them and they still don’t get it? those girls are never going to understand. eventually, they might, but it’s going to be a long road. however, you should tell him, just so he knows what’s going on, and if needs must, he can step in on your behalf.
Well the reason those women are being combative with you is because they know you are also a woman. And as such they expect you to sneakily try to get with this guy under the guise of "friend". That way, you can't be seen to be desperate by hitting on him and you two just happened to get together by chance as if out of a film.
But to answer your question, no you cannot try to be friends with this guy without him suspecting the above.
women can be friends with a hot guy but guys are incapable of being friends with ANY women. Guys only are motivated to hang out with women they think are attractive or would date. Even if they do not act on it for years.
Speaking as a guy who has been told many many times through life that he is extremely attractive; I would love it if a girl simply wanted to be my friend.
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