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She is doing it for her dopamine/endorphin fix. There are studies that link attention seeking to these. So when a woman is seeking attention I assume it is just her own sick addiction and it has nothing to do with me specifically because any guy will do and the more guys she can draw in the higher the rush.
"The higher the rush" Kind of like you're gas...😂😂. It could be an addiction OR she could be doing it because she feels lonely and Ignored. She could feel like she Isn't being treated equally by him and thus seeks attention to not feel so left out and Ignored. You can also look at it from that perspective...
I like it, i can understand why they want attention and i will happy give them it longs if they don't be mean to get it.
This means say anything bad just to get a reaction that is just sad and it will not get mine.
But just normal seeking i will be happy to have
Finally a guy that understands...😂 unlike you all the other guys in the world run the opposite direction, start avoiding her and act like she doesn't exist. Also would you give it if she wants you're time?
Of course i would. In high school my best friend was a girl and major attension seeker, making up stories to make her self seem more intresting, one day in the park i told her you don't have to tell such things i already find you intresting. Cause your you and that would never make me bored or not want you in my life. After that she cryed and gave me a hug then she started telling me real stuff about her but we kept making stories up at school about us both, cause why not hahaha. We don't talk much anymore sadley but she is happy now and is gonna have a baby soon which fucking scares me to death lol.
Well to be honest with you, I used to have a similar story. I used to have a guy friend that I would vent to and talk to a lot like routinely everyday. I used to tell him "stories" about my day, and believe it or not only 10% of the Info he knew about me and what we talked about was real. The other 90% of what I told him about my day was fake. Basically I Just kept making up "cool stories" to make him think that I'm Interesting, when in reality my life was mundane and boring. I didn't want to seem like a person that had nothing new going on with their life.
My story is kind of similar to yours with the girl you are talking about. I did exactly the same thing "Make up fake stories". Basically my life was all a complete lie for him, and I honestly do regret not being honest with him right from the start 😔. I would not recommend any girl do this Just to Impress a guy lol. Now we don't talk anymore, he's basically my ex guy friend that I knew about a year ago. And now he's bullied me saying that I've been ranting and rambling in the past about complete nonesense. And also that he doesn't give a shit about me and my rants.
He also has me blocked on Messenger, because he's annoyed at me trying to make things right again. Because he basically doesn't want to restore our friendship, he even went as far as saying that he wouldn't give a damn thing about it if I committed suicide the next day. Simply because I'm not "part of his family nor the people he cares about". Which literally hurt and scar me deep Inside. But it could possibly be very well that it's my "fake stories" that are to blame for our friendship being ruined.
But in all honesty my ex guy friend didn't tell me that I didn't have to make up all these stories, Just to try and seem Interesting. I Just kept going, because I didn't realise that he actually didn't give a damn in reality. Basically he dumped me and our friendship like it was no big deal in the end. It's sad, I know and I'm still trying to get over it 😞. So I honestly don't recommend any girl attempting to be someone she's not and making up all these fake stories, Just so a guy can be Interested in her. It honestly backfires one day, when you get exposed suddenly...
Awwww hugs!!! Very sorry for that. The problem is you did lie to him and make up stories so you cannot blame him, but if i was him i would be more understanding. But some people don't realise this. Honestly you sound great tho and i understand why you did it. If you ever want to talk about stuff or make up stories lol even tho it seems like you moved past that which is great cause i bet your intresting you can talk to me :) my friendships only end if the person hurts me, if they lie to me about storys i saw why not, at least i can understand why you do it and it's not to hurt me. So i won't just turn on you like that.
I also feel like I'm to blame for being so desperate and being someone who I clearly wasn't. I wanted to seem like I wasn't a boring person. In real life though I'm kind of shy, awkward and reserved. But I felt like if acted all shy and boring Infront of my guy friend he would Instantly lose Interest in me and would think I was boring. So that's why I acted that way. But it clearly all backfired, it turned out he was into the "Silent type" which was exactly who I was over all that acting.
And by the way thanks, for being understanding ❤. I've already pm'd you before and we've chatted before, so I'd be happy to chat more with you! 😊
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I agree with the first one. But Why do you think she would have lost respect for herself? And to be honest the sad truth is guys barely give their attention to her unless she's his girlfriend or if something is in it for him...
Well that's really self centered then. Why is Interacting with people a waste of time and useless? That's really rude and Ignorant. I don't understand why you guys do that and think that way all the time. Talking to someone is NOT a waste of time. It's a very selfish way of thinking. What if she Just wants you to spend you're precious time with her once in s while, Is lonely and has no one to talk to and wants company? What if it's an Innocent reason like that?
And of course you should be Investing time in people to make bonds grow and form. I don't know what nonesense you're on about...
Getting attention, seeking attention, is all good, as long as the guy is not trying to tell her no, and she keeps it up anyway.
Most girls would keep it up until they get it, they're more stubborn. They'll especially keep doing it if you're giving other people you're time and attention while completely Ignoring her existence.
I dont really mind. I actually kinda wish someone wanted my attention for a change, but either way it's fine. I dont see why wanting attention is seen so negatively. Nobody wants to feel lonely.
Exactly what I would've said. Literally everyone sees it as negative. I always say if someone seeks attention it's because they feel left out, lonely, excluded or Ignored...
It depends on why they are seeking attention. Is it because they want to be noticed by people just for the sake of it? That is annoying. Is it because they want one person to notice their existence for a justified reason? I guess that’s fine.
Some Just casually want you to spend time with them and talk to them. They usually seek attention because they feel Ignored and lonely. They feel like you are treating other people equally while Ignoring them.
it's annoying cause most girls seek for sexual attention while not looking for sex. just the attention. i hate that xD
Lol why do you hate that?
Obviously because sex is what I want xD I don't just want to give sexual attention without getting sex.
Wow lol so you would only give her you're attention, if she can offer you something in return? Tell me if I understood and read that correctly. And out of all things you Just wanted sex, wow Just wow...
So would you give her attention or not?
i never said that all i wanted is sex. but acting all sexy and then never giving me sex is like a guy acting all in love and then only ever just wanting sex, not love. it's betrayal. and no i wouldn't give her attention. there'll be enough thirsty boys that will, cause they don't understand that all she wants is the attention.
Well you were the one who said that you would only give her attention, if she can offer you sex in exchange. Why would she be acting "all sexy"? Lol that's weird. What if she's seeking attention for an Innocent reason Like, she has no one to talk to and feels lonely, wants you're company and wants you to spend you're precious time with her once in a while?
I don't know why a girl would want nonsexual attention from "certain guys" as the question sais. But if it's nonsexual, it depends on how I feel about her. If she's annoying to me, I won't give her attention.
Lol GIRLS ARE PEOPLE TOO. Of course they can get lonely, and want attention for reasons that aren't sexual. And also what if you think she rants, would you give her attention then?
Ummm like seeking attention in general or specifically seeking my attention?
Cause girls that just seek attention in general I can ignore. If I see it in social media I can scroll pass it.
Seems like you see attention seeking in a negative light, but I can't blame you for that because everyone does. But I was talking about random attention seeking in general, not a specific person. Though she may try to seek you're attention specifically because you're not giving her it. But Why would you Ignore her Instead, don't you think it would make it worse?
What if she Just wants you to spend you're precious time with her, wants you're company or Just wants to talk to you because she's alone? You should remember that the most loneliest people seek the most attention. Its because they don't enjoy doing it, it's because they want to be an equal to you Just like everyone else. Its not always to feel more superior than other people. The more you Ignore the the more you propel her to keep doing it. Once you start giving bits of you're time for her then she'll stop doing it. How does it make her seem needy or desperate?
I ignore all strangers , find attention seekers even more irritating than people in general , my reaction would be my classic eye roll and FFS expression !!
Lol 😂😂 but what if it was someone you knew. What if it's not a stranger?
It really depends on what kind of attention they are seeking
Just wanting to talk to you and have conversations with you and to for you to spare them you're time...
Stop giving these h03$ your attention for frees lad. They dont deserve it. Women are a dime a dozen. It inflates there egos and muddies the waters for those trying to get laid. Unless a chick is infront of you giving you signs she's DTF... IGNORE THEM. They got nothing to bring to your world. Make them work for it.
Lol hoes and attention seekers aren't the same thing. Hoes are way worse. Why would you not give attention for free? Attention seeking is not always negative, usually people that seek the most attention are the loneliest and most left out ones. They feel Ignored and Just want to be equal like everyone else. So they seek attention to catch up with other people. They Just want to be noticed. That's what I think... And what exactly do they need to do to work for you're attention? What do you expect them to do for you?
Well lets see in the context of modern life most modern women get offended if theyre asked to cook or clean. Unless its for their kids cause frack their man. So if cooking and cleaning is off the table than clear signs she's dtf or is a traditional woman or is a SUB are the only reason to give a modern woman the time of day. For men Modern women are a lose lose... We need to see this and act accordingly. Even then get a consent app buy one with the most features, be cheap, go to jail
Women have no problem with cooking and cleaning lol where did you get this Idea from? But honestly these days men and women both cook and clean. In the old times it was a woman's Job, but now men also do it. I'm telling you right now that girls have little to no ego. It's actually men that we always hear about that have massive egos. There's a saying "Men and their egos" and there's a reason why that saying exists. Men have egos, women don't. Women have something else somewhat similar to egos, but not quite the same as egos. Women have 'Self Esteem' and 'Self Image' mostly, and those are 2 things that are related to how she views herself and it describes her amount of confidence she has in herself.
All good. As they aren't annoying or juvenile, and are at least interesting I'll give them some of my attention.
Interesting in what way?
I look at her and say...
"whatsupdoc?"
I don't like to ignore people, I would give some of my attention by default.
Then that's nice of you to give attention without asking for nothing in return... most wouldn't.
Usually i dont think that much about other people, sometimes it just annoyes me when a girl is talking very loud probbably not aware of that just to bring my attention to her.
So it doesn't bother you?
It's all pretty annoying actually. Any sort of attention seeking. Why do you need attention? What is so important about you specifically that everyone else (who are all apparently NOT important) have to give you their time?
The way I see it is the guy gives all other people his attention but doesn't give that specific girl any, which propels her to want to seek attention and get noticed. It's because she feels Ignored and excluded from regular people by him. She then starts feeling lonely. I don't think she wants to be considered more Important than anyone else, she Just wants you to treat her equally like everyone else. Have you considered looking at it from this perspective?
I suppose in your original example that makes a bit of sense. But if I'm the guy, depending on how the girl is trying to get my attention I may actively ignore her. If she wants to talk to me, then I'm more than happy to talk. Otherwise, if someone else has my attention it's for a good reason
What if she Just wants you to spend time with her, talk to her and give her company? There's loads of reasons people seek attention, behind bad habits like this there are hidden Innocent reasons. It's usually the loneliest people that seek the most attention. They are Just alone and have no one to talk to. They are Just trying fill an Innocent void in their life. I don't believe they mean to seek attention, loads of people do it when they feel like they aren't being noticed enough. Otherwise I don't think people would get a thrill out of doing it, because trying to get someone's attention takes a lot of effort.
Most of the time from the looks of her she doesn't need it.
Why not? 😂😂
Adults don't seek attention. Children do. Some children live a lot longer before maturing.
There's loads of adults that have also seeked attention at least once in their lifetime. It's not always children lol
I don't mind girls seeking attention. It makes me think they might like me or something
They don't always like you Just because they seek attention, they can seek attention from other people alongside you. They can like the type of attention that you give them, but not you specifically as a person. It's the mistake that guys always make, he automatically thinks the girl likes him Just because she goes after his attention.
if its a small casual and friendly way to get me to talk or hang out with you this is ok.
But you wanna do some BS crazy drama lama stuff I got to walk away.
Yeah she usually wants to talk to you. Lol but I don't know what type of kame and dramatic stuff you're talking about...😂
*Lame
Lack of internal validation and a red flag if dating.
What if it's because she feels left out and lonely? And what if she never used to seek attention before but only started doing because she felt excluded and Ignored by people around her? There's other angles and perspectives to look at it from.
Are you sure about that? If no one is already noticing her, then how else is she supposed to socialise and get people to talk to her without drawing attention to herself? It kind of makes no sense. Imagine if you are being Ignored of excluded and no one give a damn about you in a big crowd, what would you do? Draw attention right? Or you would do something to get people to notice you're presence and existence.
Attention seeking, that is a sure fire way to get me to walk the fuck away. It's childish behavior. I don't have any patience for it. This whole 'look at me thing', is a plague on our society today. Social media is a huge part of this attention seeking bullshit, and it really needs to stop. I see the results of this kind of behavior. Inflated egos, entitlement behavior, narcissism, it's just bad.
See, you're looking at it from a negative light. I was asking about real life not social media. That's a whole different story. It's usually the most saddest, loneliest, left out and Ignored people that seek the most attention. They Just want you treat them equally and not exclude them from you're sights. They're Just looking to get noticed. A bad attention seeking behaviour always has an Innocent reason behind it Instead of an ego boost. Have you ever stopped to ask a girl why she does it? She might be hesitant to tell you that feels lonely and Ignored. But that's the real case. People easily over look these kinds of situations. Don't make assumptions right of the bat. Instead of Ignoring, find out the root cause of the problem and help her to quit the attention seeking behaviour. That what I say...☺
*That's
Don't care because when I was little boy I used run behind my elder brothers like tail
Lol 😂
It's true story 😂
Well I'm sorry to hear that, sometimes life Just isn't fair...😂
Lol yes back then I thought they were cool
That explains why you did what you did then...😂
Yep and do you have elder siblings?
No, not really.
Okay
Depends on whose attention they are seeking for what.
Just wanting to be talked to and appreciated specifically by the guy she likes...
That's fine. Guys do it all the time. Its flirting. LOL!
As long as it's not harassment or stalking.
Humans are very social animals.
Yeah but loads of guys Just don't understand that. They see it as "seeking attention", but in reality the girl likes the guy and Just likes it when he's the one giving her attention. But guys for some reason start avoiding that certain girl that seeks attention, not knowing that she likes him. Or maybe he probably is aware for her Interest in him, but still avoids her. I think it's the latter to be fair. And by "Stalking" do you mean stalking him on Facebook or did you mean stalking in real life? I generally see stalking as someone showing their love and Interest. But for some reason guys complain when they find out a girl stalked him at one point in time.
Nothing wrong with wanting attention unless it's pervasive or you get all your self worth from it
I can agree with what, but some guys Just don't understand. They think there's only certain girls that seek attention but in reality everyone does it. Especially girls...
Girls just want to feel beautiful
In all honesty, who doesn't? We all want to feel wanted, It's Just human nature.
I give her the attention cause I want as much if not more than her
So you want her to reciprocate aswell?
"Some fuckboy will give her attention cause he thinks he'll get sex that way, so I don't have to bother, but sad how she's that desperate, guess I lost my respect for her now."
Why would you have lost you're respect for her? She probably feels lonely and Ignored and Just wants you to notice her like you notice everyone else besides her.
I hate attention seeking people, you get my attention if you deserve it. If you are a bad, judgmental or toxic individual, I won't give you my attention and nothing will change that.
Lol why? Why is attention seeking seen in such a negative light? I kind of feel sad for people that seek attention, it's usually the loneliest and left out ones that seek it. They Just feel excluded and want to be noticed, it's Just the way I see it as...
Because it's annoying and you can't force me to like you or to give you attention. Trying to force me will only make me hate you more. Attention seekers are usually not the loneliest. Depressed people tend to feel the loneliest and they don't seek attention at all, quite the opposite. Attention seekers usually have issues that I don't want to deal with.
No one is forcing you to give attention. Wanting attention is not always bad, I don't know why people see it as such a negative thing. It's a very humanly thing to feel wanted and loved, otherwise we'd be Isolated completely. And that is already bad for mental health. While it's true that depressed people are lonely, it's because they choose to Isolate themselves. People that seek attention Just want to be treated as an equal because they feel Ignored and excluded. The more you Ignore, the more you'll propel them to seek attention. It's not like she chooses to seek attention, she probably deep down hates seeking attention because everyone knows how much of an effort it is. What if she Just wants you to spend some of you're precious time with her, wants you're company and Just wants to talk to you? What if she is alone and Just wants you by her side? 😕
I see what you mean and I agree to an extent, but my point is I give my attention to people who deserve it. If I think you are not worth my attention (which is usually reserved for people who annoy me or people I hate), it will just annoy me if you try to seek attention. However, like I told you, if I don't hate you already, you will probably get my attention but be direct, don't try to do these exaggerated or awkward scenes to get attention like some girls do.
I'm glad I was able to get my point across and make you understand. Of course we would be direct about it, sometimes girl are scared to be direct with a guy. But if you want us to direct about it we will be direct, as long as you don't Judge us too much.
There's loads of guys that Judge a girl if he feels like she is seeking attention. It's almost every guy that I've seen that only gives a girl attention if something is in it for him, otherwise he wouldn't care at all. They like turn it into a "Win-win" type of situation. It's like give and take kind of thing. For some reason guys think that attention comes with a price, I don't know why they think that, and do what they do...
Because attention does come with a price. Attention means you are investing yourself in that person temporarily and every healthy investment must bring roughly as much as you invested. For example, you can't realistically give attention to someone if they don't give you attention back or something else, you would feel used, that you don't matter to them, that you give but get nothing in return. Humans work like that, they never do things for free. Even the most selfless acts have personal motives because that's just how humans work.
Well don't you think that technically he IS using her in the moment? It's not about "feeling used", and she clearly doesn't matter to him if he feels like it's okay to use her. Again as I said What if she's lonely? And he's taking advantage of her loneliness by offering to give her attention In exchange for something he wants? She's still being used right? Because she never wanted attention he's Just giving it to her as an excuse to use her. I've seen this type of thing happen before...
I don't see it as using her per se, I see it as exploiting her vulnerabilities which does not feel right for me either. Using someone when it comes to attention would be for example wanting someone to give you attention or validation so you feel good about yourself while you don't care about that person. I think that's using someone for attention.
Exploiting her vulnerabilities? What does that mean in general? Is it a good thing? Again what I'm saying is what if she's not asking for attention, but the guy is Insisting that she seeks attention? While also saying she had no one to talk to? That can twist it a bit.
Exploiting one's vulnerabilities or weaknesses is a cowardly move. it's not using per se but it's probably as bad as using someone often relies on exploiting one's weaknesses.
I'm not sure if I understand what you mean. Do you mean the guy says that girl has nobody to talk to and that she is just an attention seeker?
It's cowardly? And as for the answer to you're end questions. Yes. That's exactly what I meant to ask..
In my opinion, yes, it's cowardly or at least it's a move that indicates you are not a good person. To me, it's dishonest, opportunistic and predatory to use someone's weaknesses. The only time I would justify this is if you want to make someone who hurt you pay.
Well, why do you care if it's just what one guy is saying, especially if he is not telling the truth? Live your life as YOU want to live it and don't let others bring you down. Those who try to bring you down are usually people who are too afraid to deal with their own problems so they prefer to bring others down as an attempt to feel better about themselves.
In that case I don't know how she would be hurt him, for him to behave that way. But what you're saying does make sense. And yes one person's saying about me shouldn't matter at all, especially when what they've said is not true. I agree to that. And I honestly don't care what others think about me.
Well, look at bullies, they don't need a reason to start bringing others down so they can feel better about themselves. The best thing is to be yourself, to do what makes YOU happy, regardless of what others think. You only have one life and it's YOURS, don't let others ruin this only chance you have. We don't have enough time on this beautiful Earth to waste it on people who just try to bring you down.
Yes I agree to that. And people Just mock and bully for the sake of it sometimes, and other times they have a reason. It's usually Jealousy or of what that person has that they don't. I Just Ignore. I'm Just wasting my time and energy on people like that..
If its the same girl over and over usually it will be "Sh*t here we go again" after a while its the "Crying wolf" response and you just tune it out.
Maybe she feels Ignored and lonely... you can always look at it from that perspective.
I used to like it until I realized that 99% of them just want dudes to drool over them. Now it bothers me and I block them so Im not constantly horny for girls that don't really want me.
Lol you're over exaggerating a bit. I actually feel kind of sad for people that seek attention, it usually has an Innocent reason behind it. Maybe she feels left out, lonely, Ignored or excluded from other people around her. She could want you, but not it's not always the case. Most girls these days don't seek attention from a guy or even bother to unless she likes him.
What's her angle? Well ok as long as she doesn't try to change me to early. I wonder what the butt looks like without those pants on..
Lol 😂😂
I think girls like this sort of behavior. A girl likes if her man is sort of hard to please but if the man is seeker then it turns off her. True?
To be fair, all girls are like this. But guys think there's only some of us that are like this. Basically all girls have some amount of "Possesivness" in them. And yeah if it's the other way around and the guy does it then it's a turn off definetly.
Why would you want to be so rude anyway? There's no reason to be purposely treating other people like crap, and playing these sorts of silly mind games. Don't you think? I personally never take anything for granted not even people. I hold value for everything, and not all the girls are like what you describe. Women are not as complicated as you perceive them to be, it Just seems like they are.
Then how do you explain why bad guys bang the most sluts?
Before I was a nice guy and I couldn't get any pussy then I got friends with some bad boys and then I also started to treat girls like meaningless cheap whores and they, for some reason keep on coming back to me for more like bitches lol
Excuse me? But how dare you call us that. You were to refer to us in that manner then you'll find non of us around you. at least not me that is. I've had enough of guys acting like jerks, I can't be dealing with anymore of these type of silly mind games especially those which are coming from guys like you. No girl wants to be treated like that, and you think it's funny. Well you won't be laughing for very long, I can promise you that.
Being friends with "Bad guys" won't get you anywhere. Live in you're right skin, and stop trying to be someone you're not. I don't know what has made you so mentally Insecure that you find the need to do that. I don't know about other girls, but if you're gonna treat me like that I'm going to stay as far away from you as possible, I'll run. You'll never hear from me again. And soon other girls will get tired of you're games aswell, once they find out that you do it Just to get attention from them.
I really hope it was Just an example and that you are not Just backpeddaling. And what makes you think that "bad boys" are surrounded by girls? You watch too much movies. That type of scenario only happens in movies. It wouldn't happen in real life, at least not in this day and age...
As an introvert, It grinds my gears. There are other ways for her to get my attention.
What other ways are they then?
she's desperate and/or whats to make someone jealous such as a recent ex boyfriend
Lol but that can't always be the case. What if she's like that because she's feeling sad, lonely Ignored, excluded or left out? Have you thought about looking at it from that perspective?
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