Guys, what goes through you're mind when a girl seeks attention?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

In my opinion I don't think it bothers me at all when I see other girls seeking attention from certain guys, or people in general seeking attention at all. I think it would kind of bother me if it was sort of like childish attention seeking, or the way a child seeks attention. I think it can bother me if it's too persistent and causes her to make to make noise. What's you're opinion?

[Passinggas]

She is doing it for her dopamine/endorphin fix. There are studies that link attention seeking to these. So when a woman is seeking attention I assume it is just her own sick addiction and it has nothing to do with me specifically because any guy will do and the more guys she can draw in the higher the rush.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

"The higher the rush" Kind of like you're gas...😂😂. It could be an addiction OR she could be doing it because she feels lonely and Ignored. She could feel like she Isn't being treated equally by him and thus seeks attention to not feel so left out and Ignored. You can also look at it from that perspective...

[Kaneki05]

I like it, i can understand why they want attention and i will happy give them it longs if they don't be mean to get it.

This means say anything bad just to get a reaction that is just sad and it will not get mine.

But just normal seeking i will be happy to have

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Finally a guy that understands...😂 unlike you all the other guys in the world run the opposite direction, start avoiding her and act like she doesn't exist. Also would you give it if she wants you're time?

[Kaneki05]

Of course i would. In high school my best friend was a girl and major attension seeker, making up stories to make her self seem more intresting, one day in the park i told her you don't have to tell such things i already find you intresting. Cause your you and that would never make me bored or not want you in my life. After that she cryed and gave me a hug then she started telling me real stuff about her but we kept making stories up at school about us both, cause why not hahaha. We don't talk much anymore sadley but she is happy now and is gonna have a baby soon which fucking scares me to death lol.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well to be honest with you, I used to have a similar story. I used to have a guy friend that I would vent to and talk to a lot like routinely everyday. I used to tell him "stories" about my day, and believe it or not only 10% of the Info he knew about me and what we talked about was real. The other 90% of what I told him about my day was fake. Basically I Just kept making up "cool stories" to make him think that I'm Interesting, when in reality my life was mundane and boring. I didn't want to seem like a person that had nothing new going on with their life.

My story is kind of similar to yours with the girl you are talking about. I did exactly the same thing "Make up fake stories". Basically my life was all a complete lie for him, and I honestly do regret not being honest with him right from the start 😔. I would not recommend any girl do this Just to Impress a guy lol. Now we don't talk anymore, he's basically my ex guy friend that I knew about a year ago. And now he's bullied me saying that I've been ranting and rambling in the past about complete nonesense. And also that he doesn't give a shit about me and my rants.

He also has me blocked on Messenger, because he's annoyed at me trying to make things right again. Because he basically doesn't want to restore our friendship, he even went as far as saying that he wouldn't give a damn thing about it if I committed suicide the next day. Simply because I'm not "part of his family nor the people he cares about". Which literally hurt and scar me deep Inside. But it could possibly be very well that it's my "fake stories" that are to blame for our friendship being ruined.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

But in all honesty my ex guy friend didn't tell me that I didn't have to make up all these stories, Just to try and seem Interesting. I Just kept going, because I didn't realise that he actually didn't give a damn in reality. Basically he dumped me and our friendship like it was no big deal in the end. It's sad, I know and I'm still trying to get over it 😞. So I honestly don't recommend any girl attempting to be someone she's not and making up all these fake stories, Just so a guy can be Interested in her. It honestly backfires one day, when you get exposed suddenly...

[Kaneki05]

Awwww hugs!!! Very sorry for that. The problem is you did lie to him and make up stories so you cannot blame him, but if i was him i would be more understanding. But some people don't realise this. Honestly you sound great tho and i understand why you did it. If you ever want to talk about stuff or make up stories lol even tho it seems like you moved past that which is great cause i bet your intresting you can talk to me :) my friendships only end if the person hurts me, if they lie to me about storys i saw why not, at least i can understand why you do it and it's not to hurt me. So i won't just turn on you like that.

[Kaneki05]

Tbh tho if the guy don't understand you and try there best to stay friends with you they ain't worth it

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

I also feel like I'm to blame for being so desperate and being someone who I clearly wasn't. I wanted to seem like I wasn't a boring person. In real life though I'm kind of shy, awkward and reserved. But I felt like if acted all shy and boring Infront of my guy friend he would Instantly lose Interest in me and would think I was boring. So that's why I acted that way. But it clearly all backfired, it turned out he was into the "Silent type" which was exactly who I was over all that acting.

And by the way thanks, for being understanding ❤. I've already pm'd you before and we've chatted before, so I'd be happy to chat more with you! 😊

[djmzes]

Simple

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

I agree with the first one. But Why do you think she would have lost respect for herself? And to be honest the sad truth is guys barely give their attention to her unless she's his girlfriend or if something is in it for him...

[djmzes]

Why a guy will give attention to someone that means nothing to him? it is loss of time and useless.

[djmzes]

Why will you invest in something that is not profitable for you?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well that's really self centered then. Why is Interacting with people a waste of time and useless? That's really rude and Ignorant. I don't understand why you guys do that and think that way all the time. Talking to someone is NOT a waste of time. It's a very selfish way of thinking. What if she Just wants you to spend you're precious time with her once in s while, Is lonely and has no one to talk to and wants company? What if it's an Innocent reason like that?

And of course you should be Investing time in people to make bonds grow and form. I don't know what nonesense you're on about...

[markscott]

Getting attention, seeking attention, is all good, as long as the guy is not trying to tell her no, and she keeps it up anyway.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Most girls would keep it up until they get it, they're more stubborn. They'll especially keep doing it if you're giving other people you're time and attention while completely Ignoring her existence.

[yeeeeeeeet]

I dont really mind. I actually kinda wish someone wanted my attention for a change, but either way it's fine. I dont see why wanting attention is seen so negatively. Nobody wants to feel lonely.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Exactly what I would've said. Literally everyone sees it as negative. I always say if someone seeks attention it's because they feel left out, lonely, excluded or Ignored...

[13IsALuckyNumber]

It depends on why they are seeking attention. Is it because they want to be noticed by people just for the sake of it? That is annoying. Is it because they want one person to notice their existence for a justified reason? I guess that’s fine.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Some Just casually want you to spend time with them and talk to them. They usually seek attention because they feel Ignored and lonely. They feel like you are treating other people equally while Ignoring them.

[genericname85]

it's annoying cause most girls seek for sexual attention while not looking for sex. just the attention. i hate that xD

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol why do you hate that?

[genericname85]

Obviously because sex is what I want xD I don't just want to give sexual attention without getting sex.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Wow lol so you would only give her you're attention, if she can offer you something in return? Tell me if I understood and read that correctly. And out of all things you Just wanted sex, wow Just wow...

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

So would you give her attention or not?

[genericname85]

i never said that all i wanted is sex. but acting all sexy and then never giving me sex is like a guy acting all in love and then only ever just wanting sex, not love. it's betrayal. and no i wouldn't give her attention. there'll be enough thirsty boys that will, cause they don't understand that all she wants is the attention.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well you were the one who said that you would only give her attention, if she can offer you sex in exchange. Why would she be acting "all sexy"? Lol that's weird. What if she's seeking attention for an Innocent reason Like, she has no one to talk to and feels lonely, wants you're company and wants you to spend you're precious time with her once in a while?

[genericname85]

I don't know why a girl would want nonsexual attention from "certain guys" as the question sais. But if it's nonsexual, it depends on how I feel about her. If she's annoying to me, I won't give her attention.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol GIRLS ARE PEOPLE TOO. Of course they can get lonely, and want attention for reasons that aren't sexual. And also what if you think she rants, would you give her attention then?

[hellacray]

Ummm like seeking attention in general or specifically seeking my attention?

Cause girls that just seek attention in general I can ignore. If I see it in social media I can scroll pass it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Seems like you see attention seeking in a negative light, but I can't blame you for that because everyone does. But I was talking about random attention seeking in general, not a specific person. Though she may try to seek you're attention specifically because you're not giving her it. But Why would you Ignore her Instead, don't you think it would make it worse?

[hellacray]

And it seems you like to make assumptions. Seeking attention from everyone makes her seem needy or desperate.

If she's actively only seeking my attention well then that's different.

Do you get what I'm trying to say?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

What if she Just wants you to spend you're precious time with her, wants you're company or Just wants to talk to you because she's alone? You should remember that the most loneliest people seek the most attention. Its because they don't enjoy doing it, it's because they want to be an equal to you Just like everyone else. Its not always to feel more superior than other people. The more you Ignore the the more you propel her to keep doing it. Once you start giving bits of you're time for her then she'll stop doing it. How does it make her seem needy or desperate?

[FatherJack]

I ignore all strangers , find attention seekers even more irritating than people in general , my reaction would be my classic eye roll and FFS expression !!

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol 😂😂 but what if it was someone you knew. What if it's not a stranger?

[LegitChipmmunk]

It really depends on what kind of attention they are seeking

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Just wanting to talk to you and have conversations with you and to for you to spare them you're time...

[IIGrifterSixII]

Stop giving these h03$ your attention for frees lad. They dont deserve it. Women are a dime a dozen. It inflates there egos and muddies the waters for those trying to get laid. Unless a chick is infront of you giving you signs she's DTF... IGNORE THEM. They got nothing to bring to your world. Make them work for it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol hoes and attention seekers aren't the same thing. Hoes are way worse. Why would you not give attention for free? Attention seeking is not always negative, usually people that seek the most attention are the loneliest and most left out ones. They feel Ignored and Just want to be equal like everyone else. So they seek attention to catch up with other people. They Just want to be noticed. That's what I think... And what exactly do they need to do to work for you're attention? What do you expect them to do for you?

[IIGrifterSixII]

Well lets see in the context of modern life most modern women get offended if theyre asked to cook or clean. Unless its for their kids cause frack their man. So if cooking and cleaning is off the table than clear signs she's dtf or is a traditional woman or is a SUB are the only reason to give a modern woman the time of day. For men Modern women are a lose lose... We need to see this and act accordingly. Even then get a consent app buy one with the most features, be cheap, go to jail

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Women have no problem with cooking and cleaning lol where did you get this Idea from? But honestly these days men and women both cook and clean. In the old times it was a woman's Job, but now men also do it. I'm telling you right now that girls have little to no ego. It's actually men that we always hear about that have massive egos. There's a saying "Men and their egos" and there's a reason why that saying exists. Men have egos, women don't. Women have something else somewhat similar to egos, but not quite the same as egos. Women have 'Self Esteem' and 'Self Image' mostly, and those are 2 things that are related to how she views herself and it describes her amount of confidence she has in herself.

[Arlyss]

All good. As they aren't annoying or juvenile, and are at least interesting I'll give them some of my attention.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Interesting in what way?