Anyone else hates bring seen when crying?

[CubsterShura]

Even though I'm very emotionally sensitive and cry quite often, especially when PMSing, I hate it when someone else sees me crying. I feel very embarrassed.

I just feel like people are gonna judge me and think I'm a crybaby, a weakling, and even worse if someone is fed up with girls crying over everything and I'm accused of being fake or asking for attention or sympathy.

I just fucking hate to be seen when crying. It doesn't feel the best, sometimes I feel incredibly lonely, but again, I'd hate being treated like a kid even more.

Overtime I've used many techniques to hide it from the public if I ever get the urge to cry. Like being completely quiet, controlling my breath, so I don't draw anyone's attention in the first place. And all that. Even when talking to my boyfriend I feel guilty when I say that I've been crying over something that upset me because I feel like it might come off as being too needy and childish.

[Massageman]

I work at a Food Pantry (almost) every Saturday morning. And every week, at least one person typically starts crying- usually a new guest- that they are able to choose somewhere between $50 and $100 worth of food each week. I get them some tissues and sit with them a minute and just have a little chat. We don't judge them as weak or a crybaby. The more we are led to BELIEVE that crying is bad by the evil one, the more of a stigma it will carry, male or female.

[seansin]

My first wife was very bipolar and when it was that time of the month me and my son just getting would take off down the street and walk for a minute but that we had some really rough days a good thing for the crying in the soothing if a good man is a good man he could go get you your favorite food your favorite dessert and get a chick flick and just sit down and make it your day

[R_ūshī]

Yeah I do. I hide it when I cry. Just like you, I don't want people to think I'm weak cause I'M NOT.

I only cry when I'm furious and can't control it... like so mad that I shake or when something has hurt me deeply. Other than that, I don't cry much.

[jenn11161986]

It does sometimes, but it only goes to show that you are a human too. It's not a sign of weakness. Who doesn't cry?

[CubsterShura]

True but I'm afraid if I get comfortable crying around somebody I might start getting annoying.

[jenn11161986]

Nope don't put it that way. From time to time that's ok. But as you said, it might get annoying if you do it always. Sometimes you can cry alone, and other times especially if it's because of the burst of your emotion and you can't help but cry, it is fine. Just don't overreact when you do it.

[jirwin7979]

ur a human being not a robot if someone calls u those names then they have no respect or they feel so bad about them selves they only get there rocks off by putting others down i dont give a crap what any one says if i cry i cry and yes iam a guy iam to old to deal with stupid scum that has nothing better to do than rip on others we all live on earth... hope this helps sorry if i came off as an ass just can't stand when anyone has to hide there feelings i used to not no more

[tooturntT]

I just get embarrassed sometimes because I hyperventilate and get hives lmao. Don’t be embarrassed for having emotions bb. That’s something everyone does and fuck anyone who puts you down for that. H8rz are our motiv8rz

[Jjpayne]

Yeah... I prefer to be alone. But with the right person I'd like to be cuddled with or hugged

[CubsterShura]

Even with the right person I don't feel like it.

[Jjpayne]

I feel you. I have not found that person yet

[DanOh2018]

Let them watch, tears are just muscles of the heart!

[CubsterShura]

But it might come off as annoying 😭

[DanOh2018]

Meh, I don't let myself be troubled by the opinions of most.

[saeyamazaki]

I do, I never cry in front of my friends cause I hate feeling weak or people seeing me in my like vulnerable moments.

[ChiTown33]

Well duh, I'm a guy. Guy's aren't supposed to cry. So if i feel myself getting weak i think of something that makes me angry and i let that roll around in my head till the weakness passes.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Like duh. That's common. Specially for guys. Crying don't suit how we appear.

[CubsterShura]

Funny thing is, I absolutely don't mind it when anyone cries in front of me. Heck, I might even take a man's cry more seriously depending on the person and situation, as guys are already less likely to cry unless for something very serious.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

We're just as emotional as women (even pmsing) but we're just better at hiding it. Due to the fact that we're not that special (The whole men are generic and women are special thing) It's just how society's brain is hardwired and we're all taught crying don't solve things as we are generally the bigger and stronger ones, expected to provide and make the world since we can't raise another person from a new born like women.

[CubsterShura]

True. Men are just as emotional as women

[GermanGuy87]

I hate being seen crying, so much so that I just don't cry anymore. Its unhealthy but its part of my life

[Ianto]

Last time I cried was December '95, when my mother died. I went for a walk on the beach to be alone, so It seems I agree.

[DakotaNorth]

Few people see me cry.

[COMMODOREII]

Yeah i hate when someone sees me crying too.

[Guardian45]

Yup. Majority of guys too.

[Plitty-Tank]

It doesn't bother me but I am sure some hate it.

[jillybeanns]

Yes I do

[WhiteShoulder]

Yeah. Same.

[GreenGold1992]

yeah