Who do some women go out in revealing clothing and then complain when men whistle at them?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

"revealing" clothes is just normal clothes, they're not even sexual or provocative usually, only to pervs. like if you're under 24 or so, you kinda have to dress that way anyways, or else you're frumpy. like no one wears anything else than short shorts for shorts, mini skirts/short dresses if they're not wearing pants, that's kinda how it is. that's just what fashion is. if you don't dress like that you aren't dressing good.
it's so normal and desexualized anyways, that you'd have to weird to think it's really slutty or think that's why someone is dressing like that.

Who do some women go out in revealing clothing and then complain when men whistle at them?

so basically we usually dress like that for fashion (because that's just how it is) but also bc we think it's cute, we just like the clothes & the look. it's not for guys.

besides even if it is for guys for some, why would they want guys to act disrespectully or want just any guy to give us that attention (or any type of attention anyways)

like on the rare days where i will actually want to dress for that, i really just want guys to think in their head that i'm a snack, that's kinda it. i don't want guys to really come up to me, or talk to me, and i def don't want guys to act creepy or disrespectful or hurt me.
it's just kinda sort of mental thing. like a feeling myself type of thing. I think for most girl's that's pretty much why. i'm not a feminist by the way but this type of stuff make me pretty angry like it's kinda victim blaming in a way and justifying shit for no reason. it's not bc a 17 yo girl is dressing normally for completely normal reasons that some 40 yo should grope her or whatever bc her skirt was a bit above her knee.

like yea if a girl is dressed like an actual slut, like a prostitute type of thing like sheer top with boobs out, micro mini porn star skirt that show 3/4 of your ass and your pussy basically, yea they're after that. but anything short of that, probs no

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why do some people leave their house and go on a vacation and then get mad when robbers steal everything they had?
Why do some people go out in public and then get mad when a guy murders them and takes their cash?
Why do some people leave their house and go to work without a helmet on and then get mad when I bash their head in with a bat?
Why do some people carry money in their wallets when they go outside of their house and then get mad when someone robs them robs them?
Why do some men cry every oncetonce ingin a while andtand get their emotions out AND THEN get mad about someone calling them a pussy and not a real man?
Why do some people go swimming in a public pool and then get mad when I take off their swim trunks and hide them?
Why do some people grow flowers outside of their house and then get mad when I steal them?
Why do some people leave their cars out after they go into the store and get mad when someone steals it?
Why do some people just let have their long hair uncovered when they go out and get mad when I chop it off?

Some people are so weird it's like HA brooo are you stupid or something

Inexpensivefurniture · Accepted Answer

Why do some men feel what a woman is wearing gives them permission to sexually harass her? Quit putting the pressure on women to control how men act.
You might think whistling at a woman or catcalling is harmless or a compliment. Let me tell you, at a trans man who has lived as a woman, catcalling is not a compliment. It's annoying, it's rude, often it's downright scary. Because what goes through her head is not "they think I'm hot". It's "Is this guy gonna follow me? Is this guy gonna hurt me? If I ignore him that might piss him off, but if I acknowledge him it will encourage him. Can other people see us if he decided to try something? Am I safe right now?"
That might sound like an exaggeration, but it's not. I do not know a single women in my family or friend circle who doesn't have multiple stories about men following them, harassing them, trying to grab them, or worse. I can remember walking gome from school at 15 years old and a group of men started following me on the other side of the street, whistling and calling for me, asking if I swallow, other disgusting things like that. My oldest niece has had far worse experiences than that already and she's only 13.
Let's just knock it off with thw catcalling, alright guys? All it does is annoy and scare

TheLawAroundHere · Accepted Answer

Brace yourself, ladies. Just read all of this, and keep in mind that i mean absolutely no disrespect.

Women, as a whole, are some of the biggest hypocrites on this planet.

Men are visual. You pop ur tits up in defiance of gravity. You put on $50 worth of makeup every day. You let your hair fall into big soft curls. You pour yourselves into very form fitting britches.

So now this creature... the very visually stimulated, dumbed down, regressed to gross motor movement... is gonna catch a glimpse of the show. What show, you ask? The HER show.

We now have to address an argument that has been around since cave dwellers walked upright.

Comment on her "insert thing here", and we are pigs.

Dont comment, and we then hear shit from our girls like "What do u mean, u didn't see her? She's gorgeous! How could u not look? you're such a liar!"

Plus!!! I almost forgot! If not one person says so much as "boo" to her, it will hurt her feelings. She put in all this effort. And nobody appreciated it.

Then you girls add on a whole new layer of dumb shit.

There are few things more fetching than a bruised ego on a beautiful angel.

HawkPerception · Answer

Honest opinion here. I'll probably get a lot of hate from women for it, but those women are definitely the ones that don't see logic.

I'm not on the side of Muslims in that all women should be covered from head to toe so that you can't see them. But if you dress more provocatively and show more skin, you should expect more attention from both sides of the respect spectrum. When you get attention, you get both people who are disrespectful and respectful towards you. You can't pick and choose only one. And there will always be both sides of the spectrum. It's not a perfect world nor will it ever be sadly so be realistic. People will always judge you based on your appearance and treat you differently for it. It's just life. We all do it, some to a much higher extent than others. If I see a girl in a beautiful dress, not showing much skin, I find it elegant and assume she's a downto earth and feminine girl. When I see a girl in jean booty shorts that show half of her butt cheeks and a thin crop top showing a lot of cleavage, I'm gonna assume she's looking to show off her body and wants that kind of attention as well as has attitude and thinks she's hot stuff. Then if there's a girl that dresses in a bunch of black clothes and wears skull designs and goth accessories, I'm gonna assume she's in a rebellious phase and wants to make a statement and be unique. And then girls do all the same things with guys. It's just human nature.

It's truly delusional to think it's wrong for guys to whistle at girls when they show a lot of skin and look good. It's fine to whistle and look. It's not fine when there's any physical contact.

RingOfFire · Answer

This is a common psychological game some women play. They want sexual attention from men (not actually sex but just sexual attention) because they feel insecure about their sexual attractiveness and undesirable. It gives them an ego boost.

So here is the psychology: She creates the self deception that she is just so hot and irresistible that guys won't leave her alone by wearing clothes that she knows will attract sexual attention. She creates the fantasy that she's so damn attractive that in spite of her effort to avoid it, men are irresistibly drawn to her sexually like a moth to a flame. She craves that kind of fantasy because she feels so unattractive. This feeds her need to counter that self image. Of course no one tells these women that you could put a pig in panties and a bra and guys would get turned on.

She LOVES the attention but puts on an act like she is offended and annoyed because that completes the game in her deluded mind. It's about "I'm so irresistible that men won't leave me alone. They ALL do this. I'm so tired of it!" It's a way of making it sound like she knows she's hot and gets that reaction all the time so she's tired of it. It's part of her self delusion that completes the fantasy.

It's sad actually. These women have psychological issues.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

I know right? This woman I know dressed her baby in this TINY pink romper, like SERIOUSLY tiny, and took her out in the pram for a walk, and so naturally these guys were coming up to the baby and winking at each other, asking how old she was, licking their lips, touching themselves, whistling, making lewd comments, and this woman had the AUDACITY to act outraged by their behaviour. What the bejesus? I mean, come on, she was asking for that baby to be harrassed and it was entirely her fault. Surely she knows men have no self-control, or has she been in a coma for the last decade? Sheesh.

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Answer

If you're attractive, some men will "whistle" at you no matter what you wear. However, when women wear revealing clothing, the purpose is to express sex appeal towards men that women want to approach them. If a woman in revealing clothes gets upset with a certain guy whistling, more likely than not, she didn't find him attractive. At worst, she was likely creeped out by the guy. Simply because a woman expresses her sex appeal to get attention from guys doesn't mean that she welcomes the attention from every guy. In addition, whistling isn't a polite or socially adept way to react to a woman you're attracted to as well, regardless of what she's wearing. Simply put, if you notice a woman that you're attracted to, approach her, compliment her, and shoot your shot. Men that have the confidence and respect are the ones that are most desirable. Men that whistle from a distance tend to be creeps and weirdos, which is enough to make any woman upset.

TruthBringer · Answer

Because they enjoy the attention and validation. They dress for that, not for "themselves". How you portray yourself to the world is what you will get. Dress like a prostitute or slut and people will perceive and treat you as such. The odds of experiencing this will be significantly reduced when you wear more modest clothing. I'm yet to get to know a woman who dresses modestly complain as much as girls about getting 'unwanted' attention. But of course, depending on the envornment, there are always a bunch of pathetic losers out there to catcall women, regardless of what they wear. If I'm wearing a Rolex in a ghetto, then I'm asking to get mugged. This is no different for women and how they dress. It is our responsbility as humans to lessen the odds of getting unwanted attention.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Only potential rapists would say that. You have no right to harrass her like that because of her clothes period. I even have seen guys cat calling women with burkha. So do some guys act like an animal but also complain when they get reported to police?

Jonn123 · Answer

It really depends on how revealing the clothing is. Sometimes it's not done because of the clothing, but because of their general beauty or other factors.

I think the main issue isn't that men "compliment" these women, but rather that they do it in the mentioned way; by whistling. You could just as well go over and say "Hey you're looking good" etc. while whistling (in the way you phrased your question) implies that the girl is "cheap". And no one, literally no one wants to be considered cheap.

Pink2000 · Answer

When I wear clothes that are “revealing” it’s because I think they are cute. Like the shirt I have on in my profile pic, I think it is cute. When I bought it I thought to myself “this is a cute shirt” “I like it”. That being said, I don’t wear anything in hopes of getting attention from other men... I get enough attention just from my face alone. I think it’s all about being respectful. “There’s a difference between a guy yelling out “nice titties” and a guy saying “hey beautiful”.

jean_A · Answer

You are probably wrong. It's not the catcalling they hate. The wrong man catcall them! How dare they!

Or is this actually ment to be a serious question.. there is of course another site to it. it's true those closes are kinda related to catcalling, so one should know this will happen when you are not fat and ugly. But it's annoying when people don't let you wear what you want. My favourite clothes are a bit weird too. wouldn't like it if everybody thought (and expressed) I am the president of a bank al the time, would I?

JSmuve · Answer

A woman bitching about guys after she purposefully wears revealing clothing is just bringing to light the fact that she gets attention from guys, so that other people are aware that guys find her attractive. It's an ego boost and shows off her status. While she might publicly hate the type of attention she gets, she privately is happy to get any attention. It's the same reason some people go to an expensive restaurant and bitch about the cost of the food after they took a picture of their plate and posted it to their instagram account. They want the attention but don't want to act like they like it, so they feign outrage about something that was totally within their control.

DarkFashionBeauty · Answer

Mostly they want attention for the good reason. Yeah a man cat calling is trashy but be real, if I were dressed up sexy and going around town I'd feel confident if sexy men eyed me. It shows me I'm sexy and know it. I feel a lot of women don't want to admit the truth because of this bull shit "feminist empowerment". Just admit it ladies we love attention if its the good kind of attention.

this is coming from a woman who dresses up for attention when I wan't it. However yes women don't have to dress up to be cat called or grab attention. I just find it weird if she's walking in a tight mini skirt, heeled boots and crop top then bitches about attention she gets. Its in men's nature to look [ but thats no excuse for a man to lay hands on her and throw nasty comments ]

Attack and thumbs me down all you want, I'm speaking as a woman on this.

CupcakeKiller · Answer

Look if you didn't lie about your age range and you are still asking this you have no desire to actually learn why. It is basic manners dude. If guys don't want women to be mad about it then why whistle/harass in other ways. Aren't you just asking for it?

lucas262 · Answer

From what I understand. They say they wear it for themselves, which could be true.

They also wear it for men, or the attraction of men. Like a magnet.

But. Its for certain men. The men THEY want to notice them. If your not that guy your a creep, or perv who has to control himself and be ashamed for looking etc.

They also do it for other women.

As in competition not so much for the men but the resources that come with each man, thats why a woman who is popular with all the men in a group will be hated by the other women.

Woman understand women. That's why they hate each other.

I do know 1 thing for a fact. No woman goes out unaware that some of her boob is hanging out. Don't hate on me if you disagree tell me how

guesswhoseback · Answer

Women who dress provocatively want attention. Let’s stop dodging the f*cking truth. But they also want attention from only certain people. They also do it to compete with other women.

Now I have never whistled or catcalled a woman in my life. I have stared an extra moment though and I don’t apologize for it. You can’t #metoo my mind alright? That bullshit is impossible.

Men are going to have impulses and built into our biology and hormones. That doesn’t give us an excuse to catcall or worse. But you have no right to label a man a creep because you decided to dress half naked and he looks you up for an extra second. Just quit that ridiculous expectation.

I just wish you girls could spend a day in a guy’s mind. Just see and feel how our brain’s work. I’m not talking about a scumbag’s mind either but a just an average straight guy’s mind.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i always like being whistled at and men looking at your legs... the more the better... i even like a guy with his girlfriend looking at me and getting hit... definitely boosts my confidence... i don't complain when that happens.

Anonymous · Answer

Its weird. Most (or at least too many) seem to think that they're entitled to never experience something negative from something they want to do. As if they fact that they want to do it that it must therefore occur in reality as they saw it in their mind. And where mind and reality don't match up, it must be reality's fault for not conforming to her expectations.

They'll go "just because I dress that way doesn't mean I want that attention", and the obvious response should be: Since when does reality give a fuck what you would prefer?

The_unknown_memer · Answer

Ah I see your the classic victim blamer eh?

Just cuz a woman dressed up a certain way dosen't mean you get to cat call her.

Yes I know they dress weird ( I mean what exactly is the appeal and comfort of wearing shorts that look like underwears)

BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU GET TO HARASS HER.

If men get to complain all day about women using their money , then women get to complain about how men sexualise her ( which is more serious) .

Fyi how you feel if someone blames you for attracting gold digger just because you flaunted your money?

Exactly

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because they are attention whores. They like being whistled at hollered at hit on etc and then on the back end they like to cause a fuss over it to get even more attention.

Men get cat called and stuff as well when we dress revealing but men however hardly dress revealing so we dont get gawked at much.

In the summer im fit and i wore tight trunks, im not a bikini boy eww. Lots of women hit on me, touched me without reason to think id given permission etc. Women are absolutely just as bad. An attractive men in a bathing suit makes women wild too.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its not excuse enough to get raped, but in terms of other things, if you dress a certain way, then you’re gonna get the attention you’re clearly asking for. So dont be surprised by catcalling

wingattebaby16 · Answer

We go out in revealing clothes to get ATTENTION from a specific man or men. All others that whistle at us are NOT the ones we dressed this way for.

AdithyaR · Answer

That's on the dude, if you wanna compliment her, there's respectful ways to do it without being a creep or you could simply not say anything to her.
It's pretty easy to not catcall someone.
Whistling or catcalling isn't a compliment to them, it's disrespectful.
Either just stay quiet or say something actually nice she's looking pretty or her outfit is nice.

miniD · Answer

Probably because every time I get whistled at I think it’s a code for “this is the on we’re gonna traffick boys PICK HER UP”
Honestly that’s one of my biggest fears is being kidnapped and trafficked because these men out here are terrifying 👁👁please don’t whistle at us just because you think we’re cute.. some of us just gotta go to church😭

Daedelus · Answer

Why do people wear expensive clothes and then complain when they get mugged? Women complain because men are being shitty. Just because a lot of men are shitty doesn’t magically justify their actions. Y’all go on about “what happened to chivalry” and then say victim-blaming shit like this. Disappointing.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think I've ever read so many retarded answers on this site. They want you to look and whistle, and then they want to make you look bad for doing what they wanted.

Alpha09 · Answer

Because we are reminded of how some members of the male species are so unintelligent that this is the only way they know how to get a woman's attention. It's just annoying honestly. It's like saying "I can't get laid so this is the best I can do." It's so hard to find good dick🤷

faithie_Artist · Answer

I guess the most revealing thing I wear sometimes are my pair of booty shorts. For me I want to wear them because not only is it hot as hell outside but it gives some guys attention. I have no shame in admitting that I try to look sexy every now and then. A lot of girls do act so surprised when they wear revealing clothes in public and get looked at.. like wtf do you expect?

Apope16 · Answer

Its hypocrisy. Yes cat calling isn't cool. Yes, its dumb to do. Yes, its a form of harrassment. But ladies who dress in skimpy outfits LIKE TO HATE.

These women LOVE TO COMPLAIN because the ability to complain about guys wanting them is the very emotional validation they crave.

hellohruu · Answer

I don’t complain. I mean I don’t like it when old creeps stare at my boobs and ass and imagine shit but I have to accept that, if I’m wearing a shorts and a sleeveless tee. It’s uncomfortable but yeah

Yaaten · Answer

Good question. I have no idea. It makes no sense to me, and I've been trying to figure this out for years now.
I keep thinking, "Look, if you don't want some 'pervert' ogling you, then don't dress like a cheap whore. As the old saying goes, "Don't advertise if you're not selling"".

HartleyB · Answer

Why do men only do this whistling when they have there boy friend group with them and never on there own?

Then to add to that why do they then go home after they whistle at girls and catcall on the streets and then go online and go to mgtow forums and cry about not getting laid and it is all women and feminism fault definitely nothing to do with themselves?

These are all really good questions 🤣

Virgo31 · Answer

Because the way women dress is not her giving you consent to be a creep.

purplepoppy · Answer

Do men still whistle? I thought that died out decades ago

argyle · Answer

Because making unsolicited comments and catcalling is seriously bad manners. One does not comment publicly on the way a woman, or anyone else, for that matter, dresses. When men do that, it's intimidation. In other words, guys... learn how to behave in public.

Agape93 · Answer

Because we can wear what we want. Maybe have some fucking class dude.  Why would guys want to go shirtless if they didn’t want batter clamps to be attached to their tits?

candace32 · Answer

I don't know, but I don't whistle at men when they are walking around shirtless or when I see attractive men wearing clothes that make them look good. I find them attractive too, but it doesn't mean I have to harass them.

MecheD · Answer

Well women tend to do this for self esteem reasons and don’t feel that men should have a right to make their admiration known. So they lack the concept of the “free speech “ amendment. I feel if they wear anything that they should just brush off whatever comes there way as long as it’s not physical harm.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Despite what men think, women rarely dress to attract the attention of men. They dress in competition with other women.
Is this outfit stylish compared to other women?
Do I look more attractive compared to other women?
Am I showing too much skin compared to other women?

Men still get to enjoy the view when an outfit is particularly revealing. However, most men use a catcall to express their approval and it does not go over will.

Ackpain · Answer

I just wear things that I like, like I think short skirts are cute so I wear them not because I want attention from random guys on the street

Anonymous · Answer

They wear the outfit because they think it‘s pretty and it makes them look beautiful so they feel good. Men shouldn’t whistle at women because it‘s disrespectful. Women don‘t dress to appeal to men, and even if they did, a man can compliment them but not whistle at them. Do women whistle at men when they‘re walking around with a „revealing“ shirt or topless etc? I don‘t think so.

jshm2 · Answer

The same reason you go out with your phone, then complain when you get scam calls and bullshit sales calls.

You doing something, is not for the benefit or attraction of others.

Sure if she's walking around practically naked it should be a cause for concern. But if she's not looking harmed then she's done it to keep someone happy, and it's not you.

Starrr01 · Answer

Women should be able to wear what they want without being objectified

cookielove555 · Answer

Women should be allowed to dress however they want. If she likes revealing clothes then that’s her call. Men shouldn’t be allowed to disrespect woman by whistling etc. I don’t understand your question. It’s like asking why is a girl complaining she got raped when she went out in revealing clothing. Some things are just out of order. Men thinking a certain behaviour is ok and welcome just because of the way a girl dressed is 100% out of order!!

Bandita · Answer

They dress however they want to. I could go to a nudist beach and still let them be. No need to be an asshole and objectify women. Girls dress like that because they feel good and they like to look good for themselves. Sometimes for their boyfriend or what not and still you should respect her. My ex liked to feel like a slut in her own words and that doesn't mean I could just abuse her. You really need to stop blaming women for not being able to keep your eyes/hands to yourself.

desidoll · Answer

Whistle? I know how I dress so I don’t care if I get catcalled but they don’t have the right to show me face or get upset when I don’t respond. I don’t have time for self-entitlement freaks who think they pay for my salary that I owe them a response.

AutophileAngel · Answer

I literally got cat called when i went to buy snacks at 8pm wearing my pajama bottoms, a coat, ugly boots and while hair were a mess. Men just like to sexually harass and sexualise women, point blank period.

Anonymous · Answer

Double edged sword, they want the attention but get annoyed by it. When the day arrives when women and girls say stop looking sexy for all men, and actually value being in a relationship where her sexy body is for one man or guy (her boyfriend or husband). To girls and women out there, you don’t have to look sexy all the time. Have more meaning in life such as, “wow that girl there she’s friggin smart” or “see that girl over there she’s fucking tough”... Those types of things. I’m not saying going out and wanting to be pretty is bad, but there’s a difference between slutty and pretty. To me, pretty is is looking presentable even if that means track pants and a tshirt. But that’s me , not every guy or girl answering this question will agree with that.

kitty71 · Answer

It is something I also really want to ask and understand and know. But then society sasys that a man cat calling a woman does not have to be linked for the type of clothes she is wearing cause that be be disrespectful and some kind of abuse towards the woman

Texaskid1 · Answer

When women dress in revealing clothing they want attention. They only complain if the man is not the type of man , i. e. with money and or good looks or fame.

95 % of women would scream sexually harassment if the janitor takes a pass at them - but they would not do the same if it were a rich CEO or actor. All women want and need attention from men - but from the right kid of men.

Women , of course , will never admit to this.

hellacray · Answer

Attention...

That's all it is. I've seen women walk around in a short dress when it's cold and windy.

Like it's so obvious everyone else is wrapped up but this one girl is in a skimpy dress. I mean if her goal was to stand out mission accomplished.

SphynxUK · Answer

Because they didn’t dress in revealing clothing for men to leer and whistle at them. They have the clothes on because that’s what they wanted to wear that day.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Have you seen this?

Nazgol · Answer

I'm divided on this one. I dont think they should be going out in revealing clothes at least not excessively, but at the same time it doesn't mean for men to do whatever they want either, they still need to show respect and courteous and refrain from whistling. They need to "control" themselves

Anonymous · Answer

I stopped wearing revealing clothes when I realized I wasn’t getting attention from the kind of men I want 😂 it also just makes a girl look trashy. If you are pretty and dress morally than you will gain respect from men. I remember this one time I walked by a guy and he called me a slut. He didn’t even know me, I was just wearing tight/revealing clothes. Girls wear it to feel sexy and look sexy. Some wear it for attention.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Because we can wear what we want idc if a girl is naked. Leave her Alone.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Oh, because MY choice of clothing doesn’t give you the right to treat me like a piece of meat!  Believe it or not, I don’t know you, so I couldn’t possibly have dressed like this for you!

David_Kek · Answer

Because those are not the sort of men they're trying to attract. If Brad Pitt or something gave them a whistle, they wouldn't be complaining.
If someone invented clothes that changed how much they revealed their bodies based on who they found desirable, then pretty much all women would wear them instead.

Mr_longLegz · Answer

Comfy, they like it, is something that may or may not hide insecurities, because they want?

I support everyone wearing pretty much what they want. But if we are going to say good looking women shouldn't dress a certain way if they want/don't want attention, are we going to lock down men as well or just pretend there's no issue?

JustACuriousLady · Answer

You are talking like one (the clothes) fundamentally allows for the other (whistling) that's some creepy misogynist world view. I could walk outside naked if I wanted, leave me the fuck alone.

KatanaSlice · Answer

Catcalling is rude but if any women who seriously dress like that and expect men not to pay attention to you them are either very stupid or are looking for a reason to be offended. If you’re almost naked don’t be surprised if it attracts stares and shocks people catcalling is one thing but don’t be surprised it attracts attention.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For me, the bottom line is: Women need to be MODEST at all times, and men RESPECTFUL. The same is true the other way round. If all women dresses modestly and all men were respectful, and if all men were modest and all women respectful, there wouldn't even be questions asked like this one!

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