Why do women hate it when you offer a solution to their problem?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I feel like a lot of women talk to me about these problems they're going through and I try to give them some advice. Sometimes they take it and things usually turn out good for them but a vast majority of the time they get disinterested as soon as the conversation turns into figuring out how to fix the problem.

LOL like yyyy

[btbc92]

Rule of thumb for any relationship with people. Unless they asked for your advice. DO NOT GIVE UNSOLICITED ADVICE, unless you're just giving examples of what you would do differently. But a woman just wants you to listen. Period. Understand who your talking to before you speak. It's better to remind silent than to say anything. And this is coming from a naturally quiet person who rather listens than speak. But I can and will speak if I have to. I get and catch heat and I'M a woman. So what does that tell you? Some really do just want you to listen and can feel offended. And others no matter if male or female just don't care so why stress yourself if they refuse to listen? You can't make people.

[jarofawesome]

Because they are more interested in getting a sympathetic reaction than anything actually constructive and they for some ridiculous reason can't just say that.

[Spalliger]

I feel the same way as you, hahaha. I usually think "well, if there's a problem then nothing is going to make you feel better than solving it, let's try to do it"... but yes, Sometimes I feel they don't pay attention and want to keep their problem, which is weird. It also happens when you try to give some philosophical way of looking at it that would make it better (which I have done and it's quite useful).
Other users have said that those women want to vent, that's fine, but they shouldn't get salty when you try to help them.

[lightbulb27]

nobody likes solutions when it conflicts with their inner compass of beliefs, right or wrongs. Women in general may be worse because of many have stronger and more present emotions. Or you are just finding people with strong "ego's".

[DavidFox]

Before offering a solution, ask this: ‘wow that sounds rough.. would you like to tell me more or want some advice?’


Remember many times people just want to vent. If you offer a solution they feel badly.

[Hangry22]

They aren't talking to you with the hope of getting a solution. They just want to vent it all out while you listen and act like you understand them.

[Yanifah]

They're not asking for your advice. They want to vent, that's all. Don't offer solutions, just listen.

[JKingOff]

They do? I never knew that. So all those times when I was growing up the single lady living next door that always called the plumber wasn't having him fix her sink?

[ChiTown33]

Ahh the subject of "dry mouthedness" Rosie Perez explains it in this video.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/JKc334KBxzY

[Omar5881]

Women dont look for solutions they look for comfort and security

[Anonymous]

It's because some of them are not capable of thinking that far ahead.

[In_Trance]

Some people don't wanna be fixed