What does it mean if your guy friend treats you differently?

[sammy252]

hey guys!..my guy friend is a little more caring and nicer to me than he is with other girls

question is: could he like me?..or is it cos I'm really shy that he treats me with a little bit more 'affection'

here are some examples:

once, we were sitting with a group of friends and eating, everyone served themselves, but I wasn't hungry so I didn't want to eat.The guy I like, sign language for me to take the food. BUt I said no,. Later, he came all the way up to where I was sitting, with food and tissues and everything in hand and gave it to me to eat. (but! as soon as he gave me the food, he left..he was kinda awkward and shy when he did this).

When we went to the fair the other day, and he got on the rides, he always asked me to hold his stuff for him, like is bag or his jumper or wallet. As if I'm his girlfriend or smth!..he never asks any of the other girls, or he doesn't leave it in a pile somewhere else (it wasn't like he was dumping the stuff on me either, or using me or anything..it was more like he trusted in me out of everyone else to keep things safe..or at least that's what I felt)

i am kind of shy, especially in groups, but he does (not always!) invite me places with his friends. But when I'm there I never speak, cos I get so shy in groups and he devotes all his attention to his friends, but he does look at me once in while, and when I start speaking, he is keen on listening to me.

if he sees me at the other end of the room, he comes all the way to where I am standing just to talk to me. I don't go up to him cos I'm too shy. He is really talkative, and talks to everyone, but in the end, when he finishes talking to everyone, he will come up to me, and strike a conversation.

I know he defo likes me as a friend, but could it be more?

I know I should be less shy around him and also when in a group and stuff, but my question really is..based on what I've described above..could he actually like me?

[ryanrhino]

Key piece of information that rises above it all for me - you're shy and he isn't.

Opposites attract for sure, and he's trying to help you feel more comfortable. I don't really have an insight into your food situation. For the holding onto your things, he trusts you more than the other girls. That is a definite compliment!

If you don't speak much, he wants to hear what you have to say. It is more likely to be awesome when there's less of it!

The question you need to answer is if you want to be with him, not if he likes you. With you even asking your question, I think the answer is that you want more from him.

You can be the one to plan when and where to tell him instead of worrying and waiting for him to tell you how he feels. It's up to you to take that chance and change your relationship with him. Do what is comfortable for you and don't stretch too much.

Simply be you, as that's what has gotten you this far in life. Don't change for anyone, not even this guy!

[sammy252]

thank you so much for your advice..really made my day! :)

btw, I must also inlclude, though this guy is really loud and confident on the outside, he has commitment and self-confidence probs that show :/

i wished him the other day on a social netowirking website for his bday, and he replied to everyone BUT me :(..do you know what that could mean?

thanks,

anon

xx

[ryanrhino]

Don't take offense or read any into his not replying back. Don't overthink it - which is common advice, but not usually followed. It seems that your being quiet has made your observant and wise. Now, use your own wisdom and calm on yourself, and all will seem right. ;D