How do I get over how weird and creepy I use too be?

[TonyV]

I wish I knew 2 years ago what i know now. I ruined a great friendship with a girl cause of how fucking awkward i was, i know better now but ite still hard to get over.

https://youtu.be/bD9w3VCCm6Q

I feel like this video was basiclly me, just a clueless weirdo, i hate that i was ever like that, its hard to get over it and I'm worried that I have more weird traits in myself I haven't reconized yet.
Why can't anyone tell me I'm weird either? My friend was like the girl in the vid too, making jokes about the weird behavior, it's easy to recognize watching other people but I dodnt notice it when I was doing it, now I'm really second geussing everything I ever did.

I hate how weird I was, I'm worried about how weird I still am, I've grown, learned and changed but I dont know if it's enough, why can't I just be normal?

[CrazyGirl2]

I LOVE Aba and Preach! I’ve been a loyal sub for almost a year… maybe more! As for you…. I honestly don’t know what to say, I’m not exactly sure of what your question is? I mean you ask how you get over the fact that you USED TO BE weird and creepy, but in the question you eluded to the fact that you may still be that way. (At least that’s how I read it) If you even suspect that you may act like “Skippy” (or whatever his name is) then all I can say is find a friend who is at least fairly cool, and be honest, tell him that you can act weird or creepy sometimes, and you need someone to tell you when you are being weird, and most importantly… BELIEVE HIM when he says “hey, you are doing it again”! Never… EVER dismiss it when he says “dude, you are being weird” now if you are no where near as weird as “Skippy”, but are still a little creepy, then same thing! If you have a friend that you can trust to be honest with you, use them as a resource, to learn how to behave appropriately while around women! It’s SO important, especially these days! Creepy guys are a threat to my safety! When my “creep meter” went off, back when I was dating (b4 my boyfriend)… I was terrified! B/c I never knew if I reject this guy, is he going to hurt me! I had to think of ways to get him to take me home without rejecting him. So I got sick a lot, or I got cramps, or something, anything to get me out of there and safely at home without setting him off! So if you are like that, you need to stop! Learn from friends, get counseling whatever it takes. And also… really do some self reflection! If your looks are maybe a 2 or 3 (like skippy) don’t be asking out girls who are 7, 8, or god. Forbid 9 or 10! No matter what your “looks number is”, you don’t ask anyone who is more than 2 numbers higher than you! It will never work, she just will not see you as boyfriend material l.. ever! Anyway good luck, I wish you all the best!

[TonyV]

When I asked how to deal with how I was I mean it's like a big regret of mine and hard to deal with.
When I say I'm worried 8m still a little weird what I mean is there may be more I haven't reconized yet, sure I know now some of it was weird but what if I'm doing something still that I dont know?
I had a female friend, the one I was apparently being weird with, she would tell me somethings but not everything, she never told me she felt sexualized up till she stopped talking to me, acting like I was doing it on purpose and just it go holding a grudge till it was to much.
I get some of you girls are worried about safety but I wish more of you would tell us when we are weird, like I'm not against changing but if all i get are jokes like 'take it easy😂" how is that suppose to effectively let me know I'm a weirdo?
Well now I'm just super sensative to anything like that, I can trust when a girl is being jokey cause clearly the girl that was joking with me actually had a problem.
No guy friends ever say I'm weird, I really wish girls would just say when in weird, they are the ones that think it but they won't say.

Got to disagree with the numbers thing tho, that's all opinion, I see plenty of couples with where the people are in way different leagues.

Damn why is skippy a 2 tho? I know he acts real weird and I wouldn't call him handsome but a 2? lol the only 2 that comes to mind for me would be like melissa McCarthy, the overweight comedian woman.

I do appreciate you taking the time to share your opinion tho so thank you.

[TonyV]

Oh and I really like abba and preach too, I watch all their vids.

I'm kind of curious tho, sense you think everyone should stick to dating near their own league, what number rating would you give me based on my profile pic?

[CrazyGirl2]

This is my second time posting this answer (NO idea what happened, but my post isn’t here!)
Okay, maybe your male friends don’t tell you that you are weird or creepy because you have never asked them to tell you? Guys are not exactly known for sharing their feelings, quite the opposite, so it doesn’t surprise me. But maybe they don’t notice your (self-professed) weirdness, because weird people tend to not have cool friends, maybe your friends are just as weird as YOU say you are? Obviously that’s something I can’t answer! If your friends are successful with the type of woman you would want to date, then I doubt they are weird. But my advice to you was based on getting a “normal”, average friend who IS successful with women you would want to date, and seek help from him! As for “Skippy” being a 2? Yes, it’s my opinion, OBVIOUSLY it’s my opinion, that’s what the whole “number” thing is! But i am taking into account his looks and his behavior! In my opinion he’s a 2 but even if he wasn’t weird I’d give him a 3, and if he was the sweetest, kindest person ever, he’d still be a 4…MAX! As for you “getting” that some women are afraid of being harmed… TRUST ME, YOU DON’T! Until you have been raped, you couldn’t possibly understand (or get) what women go through in terms of the absolute terror, we can feel at the thought that this guy might flip-out and kill me, or worse rape me, THEN kill me! So yes, we avoid telling a guy that he is weird, because we have absolutely no idea how he may react to hearing that sort of thing! Good luck in figuring yourself out, and finding that “special someone”, made just for you!

[loves2learn]

Those 2 are funny. I have subscribed. Thank you for sharing.


As far as being like Skippy, recognizing and changing is a big step. You can’t change the past, you can control what you do in the future.

[MarkRet]

You focus on who you are now rather than what you were in the past. I did a lot of stupid geeky things in the past that I regret, but I learned from that on how to be better.

[Andres77]

Asperger's here...🙄.
At least you're aware now. That's the biggest step.
Now keep paying attention and keep working on it.
Good luck dude...

[dillpickle_mints]

I think the key is being comfortable in your weirdness (yeah, easier said than done, i know). self confidence is a very attractive trait, maybe she was picking up on your insecurity.
p. s. this does not mean you should be predatory or creepy, but confident in yourself. Focus on what you can appreciate in yourself. Are you artistically inclined? Good looking? Intelligent? Into puppetry? Whatever it is, it has to be interesting or attractive to some. Also I hope you find a friend you can trust with your awkwardness, that sounds tough

[Secret6620]

You're not weird at all. No worries! You don't need to change a thing

[TonyV]

I don't know skippy in the vid is acting pretty weird and I was just like him, I wish it didn't take me so long to become self aware of my own actions and behaviors. I geuss this how people learn and grow but now that I have it's hard to handle how I use to be.
I wish I could turn back time.

Thanks for trying to cheer me up tho, I appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I know that feeling very well, I've always hated how being socially awkward makes a guy creepy but it doesn't make a girl creepy