Why is it so difficult to find someone honest and real online?

[hela1110]

Why everyone is pretending to be someone they never can be irl? We are still real people wtf?

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If u r real don't hesitate to dm me

[This_is_my_username]

The perception is blurred because we're interacting via a screen. I think this disconnects us from the human contact that people crave online. Yes, you're a real human being but to someone else... you're a profile that types and until you see that Same person in person or via video conference the illusion still stands. Or at least I guess.. so they misbehave and act differently than their real life personalities. Also, the internet gives a sense of security and anonymity.. it gives people the chance to be whatever they want to be, unfortunately, it's not as the same as their real life personalities sometimes.

[This_is_my_username]

Woah, thanks for MHO. That was quick! =)

[hela1110]

The most reasonable comment I've gotten u deserved it

[Anonymous]

Some people online especially lie about who they are and how great they are too. It’s kind of like a fake advertisement, or that one meme what we ordered vs what we got haha. However not everyone online is like that, i certainly meet some people like that. But I was lucky enough to meet a genuine, sweet, and honest guy from a dating app we’ve been dating for almost a year now.

[Sensmind]

I do not think anybody is truly themselves on the internet - It ranges from people wanting to put the best version of themselves forward to for whatever reason people completely reinvent themselves.
Making that assumption is very liberating and you develop a fake maybe a BS detector so you have that on then you talk to a lot of people - Pick out the ones that interest you or seem less fake - Talk to them , maybe develop a few online friendships - Over time the true person usually comes true for better or worse of your continuing friendship

[exitseven]

Everyone wants to be better than they are. This is not just an online thing. Whenever you go on a first date, everyone wants to make a good impression and sometimes exaggerate. Unfortunately in social media people can lie about themselves and even post a doctored picture of themselves.

[exitseven]

Hey, you seem very nice. I am too old and too married for you.

[hela1110]

It's okay, u don't need to dm me

[exitseven]

I'm sorry- I don't want to hurt your feelings.

[hela1110]

Wtf u can't hurt my feelings anyway

[exitseven]

😎😎😎😎

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Rangers]

Because it's so easy for people to be fake. I used to be fake and it became subconscious but I've finally unfucked it by now. In a strange way, it's refreshing to hear a pretty girl actually shedding light on a legitimate issue rather than just saying that decent men don't exist or that it's super easy. The best thing I can say is this, if it feels fake, it is, if it feels real, it is as well. Bring knowledge of what they do forwards and don't let your heart or your mind take full control as too strong skepticism can insult and push away a good mate, and too much heart will conceal the obvious giveaways that they're fake as shit.

[Ditto626]

Because social media makes people feel like crap because they aren't having adventures or dating attractive people or have the nicest stuff so they think they need to have all that stuff to be wanted. Also I think the internet is dumbing out species down and is making us more self centered.

[tdm209]

It is hard to find someone honest and real in real life as well, and whenever I hear someone asked "Why is it so hard to find someone honest and real or true love, a good guy etc" kinda question. The asker is usually the fake one. I'm not talking about you tho but happened to 2 of my ex colleagues.

[The_Maphio]

Anonimity. Most people think that they can't be found out bullshitting in all possible directions and anyway, other people can't really point their fingers at anything but a username. Creating a faux reality to make yourself feel better is a prerogative of humanity. One that make us little and pathetic, though.
The internet made it even stronger.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't think it's everyone, but some people are afraid that the real them will be disliked, so they lie about themselves, which is honestly pretty dumb because eventually anyone who actually needs to be impressed will see the real you, and then that lie will be of no use now won't it?

[tattoed_soldier]

People are in mature and have a hard time getting to know themselves and be honest with themselves so instead of doing the hard work to truly know and better yourself they rather pretend to be a version of themselves they think is cool or better or whatever for use the internet as a platform to tear other people down in order to avoid their own issues

[Leavesbound]

I'm pretty honest. I'm single, 61 years old, overweight, going bald, unemployed, hairy body and I have a small penis. The lack of honesty that you encounter is due to the fact that the above stats usually don't get much positive attention.

[nawtee_me]

I don't understand it either. I guess since it is so easy to pretend online and so hard for the other person to know for sure and most people want to believe that others are honest. So I guess it makes it easy to try and get over on others. But why would anyone want to do that? They have to know the truth will come out anyway...

I am who I am, I do not pretend to be anything different. I would love to chat if you like?

[Mofunfour20]

Because good first impressions are important. Is a text message as impressive as meeting a woman in real life? We all know the answer. Could it be that your expectations are too high since people hide behind their keyboards?

[Siren777]

Get to know people irl instead of online. Build better relationships with them.
Some people don't have the confidence and have social anxiety. Like when there's an argument, so much to say online but could never say it to your face.

[melanieeeB]

Cause nearly everyone lies on the internet lol just don't date online and try to meet someone in the real world

[Levin]

I don't really think online relationships are the future. We need more tangible relationships in real life.

I kind of miss the people I used to speak online to, though.

[thebestalt]

Most people don't like themselves. While online, they can pretend to be anyone in the world and it's hard to prove otherwise. However, there are some genuine people out there but they are rare.

[Anonymous]

Some people may disagree and dont like my comment, but we people generally dont take the internet seriously. So we do here what we dont in real life.
In real life , i mean not on internet, im a good boy, no person would guess how i behave on internet.
But on internet, im really like a pervert...
In real life i keep myself for marriage so i dont do perverted stuff, but on internet i do naughty things:(
I dont support what i do, i try to change. For this, i try not to use this site or any other chat site. Because when im on here, i do it
So i should delete it if i want to focus on my life, instead of being pervert

[Danish87]

Every people have 3 sides one who actually is,
One for close one and one for public.

Social media is place where he want to explore things which he might not otherwise. So they do in other name or anonymous.

[TonyMetal___86]

I'm real and everyone knows it...
A lot of people do pretend because the net have no boundaries but i just like to be myself everywhere...

Aren't you the girl who had an online brawl with another female gag member?

[Nobodyherebutme]

I think it's because the online world itself isn't entirely honest and real. There's a lot of bullshit on the internet. A lot. So it only makes sense that this type of medium would invite pretenders and fakers.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Define "online". Dating apps? Forums like GaG? Reddit? Social media sites? Different platforms attract different types of people with different agendas.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I agree with you it's crazy that people got to be someone else just makes no sense and people should be real but I've been victim of a lot of catfish people

[Ripper_E]

That's why. Because they cannot be that person in real life. That's why keyboard warriors are who they are. They can't do that in real life so they do it over a keyboard. I'm me all the time.

[Anonymous]

For that exact reason. They can't be that person irl. Online is the only place they can be the person they want to be. So they take advantage of that. Pretend and roleplay, to an unhappy person, is preferable to harsh reality.

[slatyb]

Free dating sites are a magnet for socially inept men. Just ignore them and respond only to the ones that interest you.

[K-I-S-S]

People like think themselves as a "great" person. In reality we all have issues.

Online helps us to hide a bit, so more of our true nature will show.

[chriscdi]

i know im real but people nowadays dont want real, they want a fantasy, they want to hear what they want to hear and when you are real they would bash on you

[jshm2]

Yeah. Maybe someday we'll find out the real you... and be equally disappointed.

[Paul09]

Well most dating Apps are b. s. For most people. Especially for men. People have too many choices. People dont know what they really want. Then there's ghost profiles, or old dead profiles. Etc. Online dating sucks. We have to do it in person..

[Kaneki05]

Cause people lie to make themselves look better or more intresting happens IRL all the same.

[AlexanderAnttila]

Because you cannot tell if someone is actually honest and real, online. If you want reality then step out of virtuality.

[spartan55]

That's why it boggles my mind that girls take social SO damn seriously.

[Zaneprodigy]

bc the internet is a mask to hide behind but irl you can see who is doing it and you feel guilt.
i always act the same irl and online no matter what

[White_Widow]

Good, don't ever change that. It's rare.

[Zaneprodigy]

@White_Widow thanks

[jasco]

Because it's online, must if not everyone has a fake personal at some point in time. Of course there are real people out their but it takes time to get pass their barriers

[SuccessfulHornDog]

The real people aren't spending all of their time online pretending to be something that they are not. We're busy living in the real world

[Maissilapsi]

I'm keeping most out of online oblivious about real me. My profile pic is one of the 3 selfies I've ever taken and took it by accident as looking up a phone I bought earlier that day...

[7771999]

Well. A lot of people build up an online persona to escape their reality

[Haelaeix123]

Anonymity im afraid, gives people a frightening amount of confidence

[potatosaladthe3rd]

There's an added wall of "security" for lack of a better word. Like thick fog you can't see through. It makes their actions have a lot less consequences so they might say things online that they would never say in person

[FilmGuy93]

Maybe they are ashamed of who they really are? What's your idea of being real?

[Iron_Man]

It’s extremely hard I've gone from girl after girl after girl on this site And there’s one good one that I met but she’s just a friend

[Mcluven]

I dont think anyone is fully open and honest when they first get to know someone. Over time it happens. I think the fear of rejection does play a role in it.

[Anonymous]

It's like that in real life too. Americans love to lie. Some things make sense because they want to seem cool, but I don't know why they would lie about stuff like where they live.

[Opinion Owner]

You'd think people online would be more honest, because they'd care less what people think of them

[Havill4nd]

I guess when you're online you can be whoever you want. But I'm pretty sure I'm the same person in both places.

[Paulychicago10]

Because it's a place to go to show who they may be in real life. Maybe you just keep talking to the wrong ones?

[zohs345]

Yes it’s very difficult but once you do you have to stick with him no matter what

[Tomsta]

Blame social media for that. But real people do exist

[zagor]

People try to hide their self-perceived shortcomings.

[Anonymous]

People can be cowardly and deceptive online. However, you have to protect yourself online... which is why I post anonymously. I have even been insulted and threatened on GAG...

[fucallnighr]

I truly understand you but I'm let u know I don't play no games I don't hide shit of lie I'm a very straight up guy

[Smegskull]

I think the reverse. I think anonymity only frees people to be more real than they can be in their public life.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause nobody is real anymore everybody is fronting everybody is talking about keeping it real but they seldom do

[OddBeMe]

Uhg. And I why do I keep finding drunks in all the bars?

[msc545]

Ok, well, we didn't want to tell you - but - all of us except you are actually robots.

[pokerbot]

Are we though? A lot of people on here are delusional.

[Maspolomas]

I’m old enough to be your dad so I’m real I have three kids and dm me for the rest

[Wise4myage]

Because its easy to be dishonest and get away with that behavior online. People online can be whomever they choose to be.

[Metalman01]

a lot of people think that if it's online it's not real.
It's stupid but it's how they think

[Ironic_Method]

I'm not pretending. I'm kind of a dick offline, too.

[kkirk4442]

Being on line lends itself to being unreal.

[ohhhhhlord]

Because most people online are fake as fuck

[Nahid1707]

You’ll find some good people

[JamieLoves]

Doesn’t exist.. no one’s honest.

[JamieLoves]

It’s the nature of the beast. The anonymity of the net, seems to breed bad behavior.
I’ve found the same thing , especially in a dating site. I had hoped that the net would’ve made it easier. You won’t find many honest people, there are a few.