All my friends are guy? Why is that weird?

[Jaaanellie]

Ever since I was little my preference was to have a lot of male friends and I guess that’s just stuck with me. I’ve tried to have female friends in the past. When I was younger I had a few but they were so toxic. Everything seems like a competition. When I’d be in a relationship the girls would try to break it up because they’re “jealous” or some shit. When I’d get slightly more attention from dudes suddenly there’d be these coked out rumours about me that would come from them to make me look bad. It all just got really bad. The same shit would happen at literally every school I went to. So I just have trust issues I guess. My best female friend turned her back on me immediately when I started going through hardship because “drama”. I’ve also had too many experiences with close girlfriends trying to sleep with me which is hella awkward. My whole female experience is either them being jealous of my boyfriend or jealous that they’re not dating me.

Now that I have all male friends I get really horrible comments. I have a boyfriend so apparently that makes it worse. The assumption is just that I’m a hoe and haveeee to want to sleep with them or that they’re only my friends to sleep with me. I just don’t get why no one can understand plutonic friendships. I’ve even had one of male friend’s girlfriends getting shitty at me for hanging out with him even though it’s in a group. I just really don’t get it. My boyfriend actually likes that I don’t have female friends because he can’t stand most chicks. I want female friends but it’s really so hard to trust women for me now and there’s so many toxic ones.

Any opinions?

[NamerOfStars]

It's considered weird because it deviates from the expected norm; you're both straight and of opposite genders, therefore you'll either be unappealing to one another, or mutually attracted and thus unable to refrain from dating, since human will ceased to exist in 1998. Or something.

It's nonsense; sometimes a person's born (or perhaps raised, or both) with a mindset that gets along better with that of the opposite sex. There's nothing wrong with it.

[Jaaanellie]

I’m not straight but thank you haha

[NamerOfStars]

Well, there would be that caveat, yes.

[Curmudgeon]

That isn't odd at all. I have a female friend who DOES always want to be "one of the guys" and complains about how girls are all too often just like how you describe, and that guys are straightforward, even when she all too often has to tell them, "NO, you are NOT getting into my pants!"

[karaspara]

It's not weird far more common than you would think

[TheThingALing]

Vast majority of time it reads, other girls don't want to be your friend because they don't want you around their bfs as they strongly believe you'll try and move in.

[KrakenAttackin]

For men it is a major red flag for a girl to only have "guy friends".

[Jaaanellie]

Why?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Jaaanellie. Because if you only have beta male orbiters as friends, and no female friends, you are probably a player, ho, and/or damaged goods.

[Jaaanellie]

I think you’re relying to much on gender as a defining feature of a person. You’re also generalising a lot. Also don’t use the words beta and alpha. Those are incel words. Red pill culture makes me want to vomit.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Jaaanellie. Come fucking on, gender IS the basis, the core, if a person's identity. Are you this dumb?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Jaaanellie. Funny how you say I place too much emphasis on "gender" but you throw "incel" out there.

Whenever YOU use the word "incel", you are implying that all women have to offer is sex as that is all men should seek from women. Think about your bankrupt thought process.

[Jaaanellie]

Uhhhh … putting emphasis on gender is a major global problem. Just because you’re a certain gender it doesn’t mean it defines anything about you. For example there are girls who are really “girly” and fit the stereotype. There are girls who fit the stereotype but are gay. There are dikes who act more like the male stereotype and like girls. There are straight tomboys who act like stereotypical guys guys and also like guys. Then there are girls who are somewhere in between like me. The same goes for men. It really says nothing about your personality.

As for calling you an incel. Incel isn’t a gendered word at all. There are female incels who hate the sex they’re attracted to. Then there are male incels (who are almost always straight) that hate women. They way you speak seems that you are prejudiced against women by calling us “irrational” and using stereotypes as if you’ve never actually talked to a girl.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Jaaanellie. 18 and already well programmed.

Gender is the core of our identity regardless of what your gender studies lesbian professor says. You will eventually learn that the gibberish you speak is seen as just that by most of the world.

Also, "incel" is very much a gendered word as any women can get fucked inside 30 minutes if she wants.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

you think they are

but they're likely not, i guarantee you

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

also, why in the hell are you engaged, at 18? are you insane

[Jaaanellie]

What do you mean I think they are? Also I’ve been engaged since I was 16. It’s a religious thing but I’m happy.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Yikes

[Realvisionary]

Interesting all my friends are girls lol

[KrakenAttackin]

@realvisionary You mean you are sitting on a lot of friend zone benches.

[Jaaanellie]

@KrakenAttackin you can like a girl as just a friend. My friends aren’t attracted to me. I find it’s more girls that are into me.

[msc545]

No opinion here. Women are confusing.

[Jaaanellie]

How do?

[Jaaanellie]

So****

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545. Women are not "confusing", they are irrational.

[msc545]

@KrakenAttackin that too

[Jaaanellie]

@KrakenAttackin Don’t generalise. You don’t know every woman.

[msc545]

I would be willing to bet he knows a large enough sample, and I do for sure.

[Erron_Black]

its not weird