Why do some women say their insecurities about their bodies out loud to others?

[Anonymous]

Although to me being insecure about your body is pointless and it's all in someone's mind, but why say them out loud to people, especially to your man? Is it some sort of validation? Wanting attention? An immature thing?

On that note, saying it out loud will do nothing to improve the situation. It's better to accept who you are. If something can be helped, being overweight for example, than do something about it lol rather than pointlessly mention them out loud.

[Anonymous]

I think the context matters. Women saying to me they wish they could lose a few pounds or they wish their boobs were bigger while engaging in simple conversation isn't an issue with me at all. In fact it's nice that they trust me enough. However, while having sex I've had women say things like, "I know your struggling to get my pants off 'cause my fat thighs are in the way", or "I'm sure you wish you were with a girl that had bigger tits". That is a turnoff and not the time to feel insecure about yourself.

[Asker]

Good point and omg those last parts are huge turn offs. An ex of mine would say "Sorry I'm fat" during sex which totally killed it.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep. Confidence is hot during sex. I don't wanna hear about your ass being fat! I want you to bend over so I can smack it!

[Asker]

Lol 😂

[kyleelyn199723]

Why do I say my insecurities to my man? Because he is my man , I trust him, and yes I go to him for validation and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. It’s normal to have insecurities, and it’s also normal to discuss with your partner your insecurities. Why are you targeting women that choose to go to their man for things instead of going to men on social media?

[Asker]

It sounds like to me you use your man as a reassurance pillow to make yourself feel better

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker actually I don’t at all lol that’s what you want to think. Me and him voice each other’s insecurities to each other and we are a strong couple because we aren’t afraid to voice what’s going on in our lives, when we feel sad, when we feel bad about ourselves etc. I know , crazy thing to believe that’s there’s a middle ground on being able to voice and be vulnerable about your feelings.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker but again, I’m sure you are also the same guy that wonders why women go to social media for attention. You are a prime example of a guy of why your lady would use social media as an outlet for that.

[ладуна]

They're just interested what their boyfriend think about that like would he comfort them or be like yes that's smth you should change

[TrueConfection]

I don't think acknowledging your own flaws is necessarily an insecurity that needs validation. I can't sing, I'll freely admit it and if I'm invited to karaoke I will make sure to inform the person asking that I'm a terrible singer. I don't need anyone to agree or disagree.

[LimboOfTheDink]

"Why do women talk about their problems? It's bad enough that they HAVE problems (just don't have them. duh), but to acknowledge them? To be honest about them? To my face? C'mon now..."

Bruh

[LimboOfTheDink]

Talking can help almost anything mental. The mind is often a fickle creature, but it's not entirely above persuasion.

[kyleelyn199723]

I am sure this is the same guy that also wonders why many women use social media as a validation outlet

[Recurrence]

Saying your problems out loud is actually helpful sometimes. And hearing what other people think is sometimes helpful as well