If they choose a good career I don’t see the issue there has to be a work-life balance in everyone and anyone life irregardless of gender. Sleeping around that part I guess that’s someone’s personal preference is a woman has slept with 3-4 men before she slept with me then so be it but I’d be more uncomfortable if she said a high number like 9-12 men. Even then even though it doesn’t seem like a lot in our heads it is. So be it.
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It's true in some cases. I was a person who got married young and started a family. I've definitely encountered women in their 30's who seem desperate to get married and have kids.
You just need to find the perfect schmuck for you to marry. Yes I know it will probably take some time. If it is meant to be some day, you will know it!🙏😇
Women can and do sleep around and it is simply fine as long as she is honest and safe. No double standards please!!
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I don't think there's anything wrong with a career be it guy or girl so long as it doesn't consume you. You need to find that balance. But I do agree too many women ruin their life by sleeping around. If a woman has slept with a dozen guys before me why would I believe I was ever anything more than just #13 to her?
No, but once family is started, neither parent should be absent for so long from the house so as not to have any time for the kids. As for the sleeping around part, it is what it is.
This isn't as black and white as it seems as its all about who the people are.
Example a super hard working male lawer may also want to be partnered up with a hard working career orientated female. Then again the same person may just want a house wife to raise children. On the number of sexual encounters. Again it matters to some people and not to others.
Myself. I want a career driven partner and couldnt care if theyve been with 5 or 500 people.
If me focusing too much on my career is ruining my chances of being a wife, I'll happily stay single. And not as many women sleep around as people think
Sad how many men are simps. But then again this is why i have two girlfriends to go to bed with at night and most of these guys only have two hands to play with in bed.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 wow. An actual wife? Do you want an award? doesn't seem that special if dudes like me hit it first and walked away. But glad you're happy for now.
That's because the idea of marriage has been constantly shoved down our throats since the day we were born. The media, family and even the toys we grow up to grooms us to believe that life without marriage and kids is not worth living. I even thought I wanted to get married but it was never because I wanted to but I "had" to. Give it a few years, especially with the rising of childfree people, more a more women are choosing the single fun life.
@poof_22 you might think that but all the glad to be single women, once they get with a man who would make a good father they change their mind in about 5 minutes. I hookup a lot with girls who say they dont want kids and pretty much all of them change their mind if i keep seeing them. Like my girlfriend was 18 when we started dating and she wanted a career and never to have any kids at all. Then after about 2 months of dating she quit her job, moved in to be a homemaker and keeps telling me how bad she wants to start having kids. Smh. I've seen this happen a lot. My friends with benefits before her she said ik this is just fun and i know i told you that but actually would you want to get me pregnant or get married id be interested in doing either with you. And i got like 5 more examples that happened to me so i think girls might not know what they want tbh.
Again, social conditioning since birth. Women still believe in this idea of this loyal ideal man that will treat them forever like the queen that they are and that simply doesn't exist. I remember reading this article where it mentioned that single women are happier and less depressed longterm than married women and it makes sense, relationships and childbearing are exhausting and miserable.
@poof_22 yes but you think the social conditioning is like a soviet sleeper cell mind control word. Like they hate marriage then a guy is good to them and then bam they are obsessed with marriage? That doesn't really seem believable nor does anything im aware of condition a girl for marriage yet tells them to hide it at the same time. Do you have an example of that?
If they want kids then marriage is like a safety patch. It's assumed that the guy wants to be serious with her and be loyal and people like stability. And yeah, our world is pretty patriarchal and little girls are constantly brainwashed and groomed to believe that being a old single cat lady is a fate worse than death while men are encouraged to be free spirited and sexually adventurous even when they are saggy and old. You'll be surprised how much social conditioning can implement deep seeded ideals that are hard to get rid off, one example is religion.
@poof_22 but isn't it mostly women doing that? Most single old cat ladies either explicitly state they made mistakes or other women see them and decide that they aren't as happy as if they had had a family. Men only play a small role in this because for every man who pushes one way many others are telling girls to not settle down and just sleep around. Just look on this site if you need examples.
Personally I've never met a single old cat lady who seemed happy to me. Yeah some seemed fake happy but in my opinion i never saw one who seemed genuinely happy.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 i didn't look because i believe such a study can be true. I just think most peoples experiences do not match. Like i said i never met a believably happy single old cat lady and i think many people agree. There are a few ways to explain this, such as they report it but its not true. Or it is true but people are unable to believe it for some reason. Two examples come to mind im sure there are others. I personally wouldn't bank on that study because like i said I've only seen very sad single old women so i will not encourage a woman to be like that.
Depends on your life experiences, a lot of older married women told me to focus on my career because marriage destroyed them. All I'm gonna say is that the majority of old parents in nursing homes are rarely visited by their family and usually die alone. Having a family is not a guarantee that you won't spend the remaining years and days of your life alone and deciding to create a family for that reason is pretty dumb. So telling someone that they are going to die alone is hella wack and screams of insecurity. We all die alone and if solitude already scares you, you're going to have it really rough later whether you have a family or not.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 so you're the kind of person who believed the scientists when they said the covid vaccine had ZERO chance of any side effects or risk, later they have now come out and said there are risks. When dumb me who uses my observations that ALL vaccines have risks somehow was correct from the beginning. Smh.
@bamesjond0069 I think there are personality traits that tend to appear more in career oriented women than maternally oriented women, but I don't think that correlation indicates a causative relationship.
I see what you mean. I dont think thats the issue with career women though. I think most career women still share maternal traits, they just simply aren't home enough to cook clean and be low stressed or pleasant. Thats why i think any woman with a career could never show off her wife skills where an underemployed one (that is wife material) would have a spotless home, be ready to cook numerous different meals for you and be less stressed out and pleasant seeing as she won't have a high pressure work situation or stressed over paying bills. No reason a career woman couldn't do that except the career.
I don't know I get that feeling though. I don't entirely disagree with you either, I said there is "some truth" to what the title of this question says.
Ik, I just said partner to be gender neutral. But the point stands, neither of those have anything to do with being a good wife. At least in my opinion.
No. Partner always equals gay explicitly or implicitly. Either you are specifically talking about gays OR you might as well be because you're talking about modern gender bending nonsense with the assumption the man acts like a woman or the woman acts like a man. Here you think neither sleeping around nor being obsessed with a career has anything to do with being a good partner. I agree it doesn't. This is because it doesn't in a gay relationship or a straight relationship where the man takes on feminine rolls and the female takes on male roles. But as the asker corrected you about WIFE it does matter then in a normal heterosexual relationship. If thats what you're talking about you wouldn't use a euphemism.
It's not that deep buddy, you're reading too much into what was just a habit for me. But just to be clear, neither of those affects a woman's ability to be a good wife, in my opinion.
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If they choose a good career I don’t see the issue there has to be a work-life balance in everyone and anyone life irregardless of gender. Sleeping around that part I guess that’s someone’s personal preference is a woman has slept with 3-4 men before she slept with me then so be it but I’d be more uncomfortable if she said a high number like 9-12 men. Even then even though it doesn’t seem like a lot in our heads it is. So be it.
It's true in some cases.
I was a person who got married young and started a family. I've definitely encountered women in their 30's who seem desperate to get married and have kids.
You just need to find the perfect schmuck for you to marry. Yes I know it will probably take some time. If it is meant to be some day, you will know it!🙏😇
Women can and do sleep around and it is simply fine as long as she is honest and safe. No double standards please!!
I don't think there's anything wrong with a career be it guy or girl so long as it doesn't consume you. You need to find that balance. But I do agree too many women ruin their life by sleeping around. If a woman has slept with a dozen guys before me why would I believe I was ever anything more than just #13 to her?
No, but once family is started, neither parent should be absent for so long from the house so as not to have any time for the kids.
As for the sleeping around part, it is what it is.
False. They are the ones who make the best wives for real men. It's weak men who will feel threatened.
This isn't as black and white as it seems as its all about who the people are.
Example a super hard working male lawer may also want to be partnered up with a hard working career orientated female.
Then again the same person may just want a house wife to raise children.
On the number of sexual encounters. Again it matters to some people and not to others.
Myself. I want a career driven partner and couldnt care if theyve been with 5 or 500 people.
If me focusing too much on my career is ruining my chances of being a wife, I'll happily stay single. And not as many women sleep around as people think
Absolutely true. Its almost impossible to find women worth marrying.
Sad how many men are simps. But then again this is why i have two girlfriends to go to bed with at night and most of these guys only have two hands to play with in bed.
Actually we go to bed with our actual wives.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 wow. An actual wife? Do you want an award? doesn't seem that special if dudes like me hit it first and walked away. But glad you're happy for now.
I am very happy that she was not a virgin when we meet. Virgins are boring. She also has a good career. Stay at home wives are boring.
Marrying is not beneficial for modern women either so we might throw the whole concept of marrying all together.
*we might as well throw away
@poof_22 well so you say but most women still want to get married and pester us men about it a lot
That's because the idea of marriage has been constantly shoved down our throats since the day we were born. The media, family and even the toys we grow up to grooms us to believe that life without marriage and kids is not worth living. I even thought I wanted to get married but it was never because I wanted to but I "had" to. Give it a few years, especially with the rising of childfree people, more a more women are choosing the single fun life.
@poof_22 you might think that but all the glad to be single women, once they get with a man who would make a good father they change their mind in about 5 minutes. I hookup a lot with girls who say they dont want kids and pretty much all of them change their mind if i keep seeing them. Like my girlfriend was 18 when we started dating and she wanted a career and never to have any kids at all. Then after about 2 months of dating she quit her job, moved in to be a homemaker and keeps telling me how bad she wants to start having kids. Smh. I've seen this happen a lot. My friends with benefits before her she said ik this is just fun and i know i told you that but actually would you want to get me pregnant or get married id be interested in doing either with you. And i got like 5 more examples that happened to me so i think girls might not know what they want tbh.
Again, social conditioning since birth. Women still believe in this idea of this loyal ideal man that will treat them forever like the queen that they are and that simply doesn't exist. I remember reading this article where it mentioned that single women are happier and less depressed longterm than married women and it makes sense, relationships and childbearing are exhausting and miserable.
@poof_22 yes but you think the social conditioning is like a soviet sleeper cell mind control word. Like they hate marriage then a guy is good to them and then bam they are obsessed with marriage? That doesn't really seem believable nor does anything im aware of condition a girl for marriage yet tells them to hide it at the same time. Do you have an example of that?
If they want kids then marriage is like a safety patch. It's assumed that the guy wants to be serious with her and be loyal and people like stability. And yeah, our world is pretty patriarchal and little girls are constantly brainwashed and groomed to believe that being a old single cat lady is a fate worse than death while men are encouraged to be free spirited and sexually adventurous even when they are saggy and old. You'll be surprised how much social conditioning can implement deep seeded ideals that are hard to get rid off, one example is religion.
@poof_22 but isn't it mostly women doing that? Most single old cat ladies either explicitly state they made mistakes or other women see them and decide that they aren't as happy as if they had had a family. Men only play a small role in this because for every man who pushes one way many others are telling girls to not settle down and just sleep around. Just look on this site if you need examples.
Personally I've never met a single old cat lady who seemed happy to me. Yeah some seemed fake happy but in my opinion i never saw one who seemed genuinely happy.
"Single women without children are often happier and healthier than men and married women with children, research suggests."
www.psychologytoday.com/.../why-many-single-women-without-children-are-so-happy
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 i didn't look because i believe such a study can be true. I just think most peoples experiences do not match. Like i said i never met a believably happy single old cat lady and i think many people agree. There are a few ways to explain this, such as they report it but its not true. Or it is true but people are unable to believe it for some reason. Two examples come to mind im sure there are others. I personally wouldn't bank on that study because like i said I've only seen very sad single old women so i will not encourage a woman to be like that.
Depends on your life experiences, a lot of older married women told me to focus on my career because marriage destroyed them. All I'm gonna say is that the majority of old parents in nursing homes are rarely visited by their family and usually die alone. Having a family is not a guarantee that you won't spend the remaining years and days of your life alone and deciding to create a family for that reason is pretty dumb. So telling someone that they are going to die alone is hella wack and screams of insecurity. We all die alone and if solitude already scares you, you're going to have it really rough later whether you have a family or not.
*later on
I would trust the study more than any personal observation.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 so you're the kind of person who believed the scientists when they said the covid vaccine had ZERO chance of any side effects or risk, later they have now come out and said there are risks. When dumb me who uses my observations that ALL vaccines have risks somehow was correct from the beginning. Smh.
The scientists never said that. They always said the side effect were negligible. And they are.
True. You whore around or you take your career to the extreme then why would anyone desire to marry you?
Better stay single if that's the case.
true, the personality these women develop make the unmarryable
Yet you’re the old and bitter gut on an app for young people. Hilarious, stay lonely.
Women are ruining their chances plenty of ways. I don't think focusing on their careers is one of those ways though.
Exactly!
How so?
@bamesjond0069 I think there are personality traits that tend to appear more in career oriented women than maternally oriented women, but I don't think that correlation indicates a causative relationship.
I see what you mean. I dont think thats the issue with career women though. I think most career women still share maternal traits, they just simply aren't home enough to cook clean and be low stressed or pleasant. Thats why i think any woman with a career could never show off her wife skills where an underemployed one (that is wife material) would have a spotless home, be ready to cook numerous different meals for you and be less stressed out and pleasant seeing as she won't have a high pressure work situation or stressed over paying bills. No reason a career woman couldn't do that except the career.
Not so much the second part. But definitely the first part
Sleeping around is fine,
focusing on career is the killer
I think it’s possible to build a career and a relationship too. Usually it’s a choice when someone says they’re focusing on career.
@MzAsh of course it is. No one works 24/7. You can do both.
im sure this is the fantasy incels all tell themselves after being rejected so many times. but it just ain't true
But I think there is some truth there in the in the question posed.
@KlinkyCoder where?
I don't know I get that feeling though. I don't entirely disagree with you either, I said there is "some truth" to what the title of this question says.
Neither of those have anything to do with being a good partner.
Didn't say partner. Said a wife.
Ik, I just said partner to be gender neutral.
But the point stands, neither of those have anything to do with being a good wife. At least in my opinion.
They matter when it comes to finding a husband who will WANT to marry you.
Depends on the guy I guess. Neither of those would change my view of the woman. All that matters is what kind of a person she is.
It matters if you want kids (in my opinion)
That's cool, you have your opinion, I have mine.
Partner = gay. So if you're talking about gay relationships then you're talking about something unrelated to this topic.
Nope, I just have a habit of typing stuff gender neutral, so it's a force of habit for me.
And partner doesn't necessarily mean gay, a wife in a hetero relationship is still a partner
No. Partner always equals gay explicitly or implicitly. Either you are specifically talking about gays OR you might as well be because you're talking about modern gender bending nonsense with the assumption the man acts like a woman or the woman acts like a man. Here you think neither sleeping around nor being obsessed with a career has anything to do with being a good partner. I agree it doesn't. This is because it doesn't in a gay relationship or a straight relationship where the man takes on feminine rolls and the female takes on male roles. But as the asker corrected you about WIFE it does matter then in a normal heterosexual relationship. If thats what you're talking about you wouldn't use a euphemism.
It's not that deep buddy, you're reading too much into what was just a habit for me.
But just to be clear, neither of those affects a woman's ability to be a good wife, in my opinion.
As i said basically its not a strange coincidence you think that AND call her a partner.
Again, reading too much into it bud. But sure, whatever
Like i said, it must be a strange coincidence that only people who believe that use the word partner. Smh.
Cool
Why to be one mans while while she can be wife of multiple people.
And carrier is important for more reasons or something that earns them passive income
And too many men here are making fake pink accounts to bring us down lol
That has to be among the most retarded things I've read in a while, and I've read most of Trumps rants.
If you’ve only read them then you aren’t getting the full context.