My sister calls me ugly with every chance she has?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone, and sorry for the long paragraph.

I’m 18 years old and my sister is 15. When we were kids, she would jokingly call me ugly or fat, just like siblings do. And I was okay with that, because she didn’t mean to harm me and it showed.

Unfortunately, ever since she entered puberty, she’s been making those comments with a serious tone. She tells me I’m ugly, worthless & that no guys will ever be interested in dating me. At first I took it as a joke, as I never thought she would transform into a person that insults others to their face. But now this whole thing’s ruining my mood. We talk on Instagram on a daily basis (I’m in college) and every single time she says something like “you’ll never pull a hot man” or “why do you like him, it’s not like he’d ever notice you”.

Let me say that I had been suffering from self esteem issues since I was 13, but with the help of friends I overcame them. I now look at the mirror and actually like what I see… But now she’s making me feel like sh*t again. I know I sound silly but it really ruins my mood.

How do I put an end to this situation? : (

[Joseph3253]

If you never talked with her about this, have a good talk on the subject, if already did this or if this didn't work, feel free to stop talking with her. We usually have a ideal of family were everyone respect and gives suport to everyone, but when things don't go like this and start to make you feel bad, then cutting the person off is a option, the same way it would be if was a friend doing this. I hope you feel better soon, i know how bad it is to feel like that.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your answer, I wish you all the best x

[DraculaTheDevour]

Let her know wassup. Face the demon head on because if you don’t it’ll only keep wearing you down. Also your sister is young she doesn’t know anything (no offense), the world is big and there's much more than where you live somebody will always want you. It’s your attitude that drives the situation next. Don’t let those words discourage you.

[MinxDoll]

She is so insecure wow, she’s just projecting her insecurities on you. She feels like crap so she wants to bring you down with her. I think what would help put an end to it is be upfront to her and rude back. Tell her “why you care so much you sound obsessed with me and my love life” and tell her she’s being a bitch and a bad sister, tell her exactly how u feel, it’s not fair to u, and don’t feel bad by saying these things, she provoked it and made u feel the same way. Hope it works out :)

[EspressoTeen234]

Nice way:

Say “I didn’t ask”

Mean Way:

Find something ugly about her personality and tease her. Add in explicit words to the amount of hate you hate her.

-13 year old

[Adam1978]

She is a insecure bully. Your inability to put her in her place is a failure as the older brother. So she will double up on it. It go away because there is no consequences for her.

[Luckycharms12]

Kick her ass

[Asker]

haha I wish I could

[Luckycharms12]

Why couldn't you